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English Teachers -Contest
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Only Dumb Parents Don't Wear Helmets
New Booster Seat Law for Kids 4-6 and 40-60 lbs
Unwanted Calls During that Talk With Your Kid
Bidis Banned in Illinois
NFL for Kids
Flag Football for Girls, Too
The Miracle of a Brother's Song
MA Call for a Boycott of All Simon & Schuster Products
Recall - Burger King Pokémon Ball
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Halloween Safety Tips
Taking Your Kids Out of the U.S. (New rules)
Languages - Over 100 different ones
Fathers & Daughters
Fathers & Sons
Toy Purchasing, Toy Safety, and Holiday Decoration Safety
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Movie Ratings for Kids
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English Teachers - Contest
The Know Fear bumper sticker or T-shirt is a very important topic for this age group because they are the ones buying and wearing No Fear clothing. The way we talk about it is that it is better to Know Fear, than make a dumb mistake, which could be deadly. It is a foolish thing to ignore a natural warning from your body. And, you could use the idea of the Samurai that is included on the page with the bumper sticker. You could go as far as getting local homicide, drinking, inhaling, suicide, and pregnancy numbers of preteens in your county or state as background. (See the National Statistics.) The ratio of male to female deaths are can be accessed here and show how "No Fear" plays out in life for young men.
A good English lesson is to hold up the Know Fear sticker and ask
everyone to write 25 words on what it means. Then, someone who you
know knows the difference between "Know" and "No" reads theirs. Then,
without reading others, especially those that didn't see the
difference, talk about Knowing Fear. Then present the idea about the
contest and the prize. It's a very interesting thing to get preteens
and teens thinking about.
Football for Girls, Too
Coaches and Parents - find out everything you need to know to
start, operate or coach an NFL Flag league.
Only Dumb Parents
Don't Wear Helmets
Seat Law for Kids 4-6 and 40-60 lbs
Calls During that Talk With Your Kid
Well, the Oregon Legislature enacted the No Call Law in 1999 which
gives residential phone customers the opportunity to get on the "No
Call List" and get off telemarketers' lists. Companies that call
homes on the No Call List are subject to fines up to $25,000. To
date, the Oregon Attorney General has fined more than 70 companies
more than $200,000 (about $3,000 each) for violating the No Call Law.
Oregon residential phone customers may subscribe or receive
additional information about the list by calling 877.700.6633 or
By paying a $6.50 non-refundable registration fee, you can place a
residential telephone number on the Oregon "No Call" List for a
period of one year. This registration fee must be paid for each
telephone number you wish to have included on the List. You will be
notified when it is time to renew your registration; the renewal fee
is $3 per year. Registration forms are available in Spanish and
English. By law, you cannot register a business phone number on the
list. While the List is updated weekly, it is published for
telemarketers on a quarterly basis (first day of January, April,
July, and October). Sign up now. And, let us know if your state has a
similar system and we will add it to the
The Miracle of a Brother's Song
The days inched by. The little girl got worse. The pediatrician
had to tell the parents, "There is very little hope. Be prepared for
the worst." Karen and her husband contacted a local cemetery about a
burial plot. They had fixed up a special room in their house for
their new baby but now they found themselves having to plan for a
funeral. Michael, however, kept begging his parents to let him see
his sister. "I want to sing to her," he kept saying. Week two in
intensive care looked as if a funeral would come before the week was
over. Michael kept nagging about singing to his sister, but kids are
never allowed in Intensive Care. Karen made up her mind, though. She
would take Michael whether they liked it or not! If he didn't see his
sister right then, he may never see her alive. She dressed him in an
oversized scrub suit and marched him into ICU. He looked like a
walking laundry basket. But the head nurse recognized him as a child
and bellowed, "Get that kid out of here now! No children are
allowed." Karen, and the usually mild-mannered lady glared steel-eyes
right into the head nurse's face, her lips a firm line. "He is not
leaving until he sings to his sister!" Karen towed Michael to his
sister's bedside. He gazed at the tiny infant losing the battle to
live. After a moment, he began to sing. In the pure-hearted voice of
a 3-year-old, Michael sang: "You are my sunshine, my only sunshine,
you make me happy when skies are gray---" instantly the baby girl
seemed to respond. The pulse rate began to calm down and become
steady. "Keep on singing, Michael," encouraged Karen with tears in
her eyes. "You never know, dear, how much I love you, Please don't
take my sunshine away." As Michael sang to his sister, the baby's
ragged, strained breathing became as smooth as a kitten's purr. "Keep
on singing, sweetheart!!!" "The other night, dear, as I lay sleeping,
I dreamed I held you in my arms..." Michael's little sister began to
relax as rest, healing rest, seemed to sweep over her. "Keep on
singing, Michael." Tears had now conquered the face of the bossy head
nurse. Karen glowed. "You are my sunshine, my only Sunshine. Please
don't, take my sunshine away..." The next, day...the very next
day...the little girl was well enough to go home! Woman's Day
Magazine called it "The Miracle of a Brother's Song." The medical
staff just called it a miracle. Karen called it a miracle of God's
love! Never give up on the people you love. Love is so incredibly
powerful! (Editor: When I was 1 1/2 years old, my father
snuck me in to the isolation ward for a last visit with my mother who
was dying of Lukemia. It couldn't save her, but it's sure made a
life-long impression on me.)
The idea for these T-shirt decals all started at the major wrestling championship in Southern California. There were lots of "No-fear" T-shirts and caps around. The air-brusher was busy putting "No Fear" on the back of event T-shirts along with cartoon bulldogs with fangs and puffed out muscles and other such images. Many of the end users were thin, small muscled boys getting ready to "be tough". Well, I decided to have my own T-shirt designed and wear it at the event (No Fear, No Tears, Die Numb). I had a number of parents and young wrestlers thank me for reminding them about the value and importance of fear - how ignoring it or pushing it out of the way can create unnecessary dangers. How the great Samurai know fear and don't hide form it but bring it out in front, put it on the end of their sword, and cut with it. This design is an improvement on the original air-brushed design. From there, I designed a second one to change the emphasis from "No Fear" to "Know Fear". You can down-load the individual design for the back of a T-shirt or a whole sheet of smaller logos that you can print-out, cut up into individual iron-ons to put on the front of a T-shirt where a breast pocket would go and give the others to friends to do the same.
Here's your chance to get involved by making your own T-shirt, then wear it and feel your own feelings. And, encourage others to feel theirs. When the opportunity presents itself, talk about the importance of feelings, especially fear. Remember the words of Hannah Arendt, "Fear is an emotion indispensable for survival." All feelings are good - fear, pain, sadness, joy and anger. It's the behaviors that we use to demonstrate the feelings that need to be looked out. For instance, anger is a feeling. Violence is not a feeling. It is a behavior. There are many other ways anger can be expressed that are healthy yet non-violent. So, it is the behaviors we need to work with. Think about it! And, make your T-shirt today!
Fear" bumper sticker. Fear helps us prevent stupid
mistakes and injuries. So, order one of these FREE bumper
stickers. Put it on your car. And, when the opportunity presents
itself, take about fear - how ignoring it or pushing it out of the
way can create unnecessary dangers. How the great Samurai know fear
and don't hide from it but bring it out in front, put it on the end
of their sword, and cut with it. Feel your own feelings. And
encourage others to feel theirs. All feelings are good - fear, pain,
sadness, joy and anger. It's the behaviors that we need to work with.
Send a SASE for your FREE 6 3/4 x 3" "Know Fear" bumper
sticker. The National Men's Resource Center, PO Box 800, San
Anselmo, CA 94979. (Also, see how to make your own Know Fear
T-shirt - see"T-Shirts" below.)
A Call for a Boycott
of all Simon & Schuster Products
From making fun of anorexia to objectifying girls to assuming that boys just want titillation from computer games, Panty Raider is a disgrace.
DADs executive director Joe Kelly added that the game is also offensive to fathers of sons. "We don't see the humor or fun in glorifying what Panty Raider calls 'hormone driven anger' in boys, especially after tragedies like the Columbine shootings. We are offended when our sons are repeatedly subjected to the destructive stereotypes of boys objectifying females, placing titillation above all else, and using violence or its threat to get their way."
Where does it stop? S&S Interacative is also
the proud distributors of Last Call which teaches kids how to
mix drinks and get all their friends drunk. Some fun, eh?
Action You Can Take
Thanks to Joe Kelly of Dads and Daughters for the heads-up on this. You can read the full letter Dads and Daughters wrote to Simon & Schuster Interactive at www.dadsanddaughters.org/praidletter.htm E-mail firstname.lastname@example.org, click here or call 1-888-824-DADS (Homepage).
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tomorrow's women, Kathleen Odean. Buy
"Know Fear" Bumper Sticker
I made my life's mission statement into a three color bumper sticker with writing that looks like it was done with a crayon. It's to remind everyone of the tenderness and daintiness of a child and their right to live in a totally safe world - safe from any kind of perpetration by anyone, moms, dads, siblings, teachers, clergy, anyone. $3 each. Quantity discounts available.
CA, Berkeley, Feb 3-6, Thu nite parents, Sat & Sun AM kids, Sun afternoon demo for adults. Kidpower Weekend Family Workshop 6-14
CA, Palo Alto Feb 13, Sun, 12:30-2:30 pm Kidpower Parent-Child Workshop for Children ages 4-7
CA, Berkeley Feb 13, Sun 12 to 5:30p Teenpower Full Force Workshop for Daughters
CA, Santa Cruz Feb 27, Sun 12 to 4 pm, Kidpower Introductory Full Force Parent-Child Workshop Ages 5-14.
CA, Palo Alto Mar 9-12, Thu nite parents, Sat & Sun AM kids, Sun afternoon demo for adults. Kidpower Weekend Family Workshop.
CA, Palo Alto Mar 26, Sun, 12 to 5:30p Teenpower Full Force Workshop for Daughters
CA. Berkeley, Apr 2, Sun 12 to 5:30p, Teenpower Full Force Workshop for Sons
MA Amherst, Apr 5, 5-8 pm, Youth Film Series (14-21): Beautiful Thing
CA, Santa Cruz, Apr 9, Sun, 10 am - 12 noon, Kidpower Parent-Child Workshop for Children ages 4-7
US Apr 14-15, Fri-Sat, 11th National Youth Services Day(s).
US Apr 27, Thu Take Your Daughter(s) To Work Day.
MA May 2, 5-8 pm, Youth Film Series (14-21): Girls Town, Amherst
WA, Camp Melacoma Skamania, May 4-6, Thu-Sat, Multicultural Youth Retreat, Michael Meade
CA, Santa Cruz, May 6, Sun, 1 to 5:30p, Teenpower Full Force Workshop for Daughters
CA Berkeley, May 18-21, Kidpower Weekend Family Workshop, 6-14
CA, Los Angeles, May 19, Fri, The Genius of Youth, The Wisdom of Elders, Michael Meade
MA, Amherst, Jun 6, 5-8 pm, Youth Film Series (14-21): HATE
CA, Big Sur, Jun 16-18, Fri-Sun, Daughters and Fathers/Fathers and Daughters: Changing the Story.
US Jun 19, Mon (any day this week) - International Take Your Kids to Work Week
CA Palo Alto, Jun 22-25, Kidpower Weekend Family Workshop, 6-14
US Jun 23, Fri, National Career Day for Our Sons
MA Rowe, Jun 24-Jul 8 Rowe Transitions Camp (6th & 7th grades)
WA, Bethell, Sun-Sat, Jun 25-Jul 1, Sun-Sat, Apprentice Journey (Boys and Girls ages 9-11)
WA, Bethell, Sun-Sun, Jun 25-Jul 16, Sun-Sun, Coming of Age for Girls who have graduated 6th or 7th grade
MA, Lenox, Jun 29-Jul 2 Thu-Sun, Circus Yoga for Kids, Gabriella Bengis, Erin Maile O'Keefe, and Kevin O'Keefe.
CA Jun 30-Jul 2, Experiencing Esalen: For Kids Lia Thompson-Clark, Big Sur
CA Jul 2-7, Experiencing Esalen: For Kids Lia Thompson-Clark, Big Sur
MA, Lenix. Jul 2-7, Sun-Fri, The Children's Program. (Ages 5-12)
BC, Mason's Landing, Jul 2-8, Sun-Sat, Sun, Stars and Cedar: An outdoor adventure for young teens 11-14, Hugh Prichard & Christine Hollmann.
MA, Lenox, Jul 2-8, Sun-Sat, Communication and Self-Esteem for Young Adults. (Coed 15-19).
MA Rowe, Jul 2-8 Rowe Young People's Camp (9-11)
WA, Bethel, Jul 2-23, Sun-Sun, Coming of Age for Boys (who have graduated from the 6th and 7th grade)
MA, Lenox, Jul 7-9, Fri-Sun, The Children's Program. (Ages 5-12)
CA Santa Cruz Co., Jul 8, Kidpower Parent-Child Workshop for Children 4-7
MA, Lenox, Jul 9-15, Sun-Sat, Coming of Age for Boys (12-16).
MA Rowe, Jul 9-29, Rowe Junior High Camp
WA, Bethell, Jul 9-30, Sun-Sun, Wilderness Quest 2000 Young Men and Women who have graduated from 10th, 11th, or 12th grade.
NY, Rhinebeck, Jul 10-14, Mon-Fri, Family Week
NY, Rhinebeck, Jul 10-14, Mon-Fri, Earth Wisdom (teens 14-19)
MA, Lenox, Jul 14-16, Fri-Sun, Yoga Teens for Girls (ages 14-17), Marsha Wenig.
MA, Lenox, Jul 14-15, Fri-Sun, The Children's Program. (5-12)
BC, Mason's Landing. Jul 14-19, Fri-Wed, Family Nature Retreat, Dayna Davis & Hugh Prichard.
CA Palo Alto, Jul 16, Teenpower Full Force Workshop for Daughters
CA, Mendocino, Jul 16-20, Sun-Fri, The Spirit of Practice: A retreat for young and older men, Michael Meade, John Tarrant, Luis Rodriguez, Malidoma Some and others.
MA Rowe, Jul 20-29, Rowe Vision Quest: A wilderness passage for young adults (17-21)
MA, Lenox, Jul 21-23, Fri-Sun, The Children's Program. (Ages 5-12)
CA Berkeley, Jul 22, Kidpower Parent-Child Workshop for Children 4-7
MA, Lenox, Jul 23-29, Sat-Sun, Adventures in Nature (Boys 9-11)
Northern Ontario Jul 23-29, Temagami Wilderness Canoe Trip: Parents & Children, Michael Madden and Judy Burnett.
WA, Bethell, Jul 26-Aug 16, Wed-Wed, The Solo Crossing Co-ed program for graduates of the 8th and 9th grades.
MA, Lenox, Jul 28-30, Fri-Sun, The Children's Program. (5-12)
MA, Lenox, Jul 29-Aug 4, Sat-Fri, Coming of Age Passages for Girls (14-16)
CA Scotts Valley, Jul 30, Kidpower Parent-Child Workshop for Children 4-7
Northern Ontario, Jul 30-Aug 5, Sun-Sat, Temagami Wilderness Canoe Trip: Fathers & Daughters, Michael Madden and Judy Burnett.
MA Rowe, Jul 30-Aug 19 Rowe Senior High Camp
CA, Graton, Aug 2, 9, 16 & 23, Teen Conflict Resolution
MALenox, Aug 3-6, Thu-Sun, Circus Yoga for Kids, Gabriella Bengis, Erin Maile O'Keefe, and Kevin O'Keefe.
MA, Lenox, Aug 6-12, Sun-Sat, Gateways to Coming of Age for Girls (11-13)
NY Rhinebeck, Aug 7-11, Fri-Sun, Family Week 2, Omega
NY Rhinebeck, Aug 7-11, Fri-Sun, Little Forest People, (For kids ages 6-10), Rangers Woody Watson, Michael Madden, and the Ranger Staff. Omega
NY Rhinebeck, Aug 7-11, Fri-Sun, Questor's Guild, (For kids ages 8-12) Sam Chupp. Omega
MA, Lenox, Aug 11-13, Fri-Sun, The Children's Program. (5-12)
Northern Ontario, Aug 13-19,Sun-Wed, Temagami Wilderness Canoe Trip: Fathers & Sons, Michael Madden and Kevin Madden.
MA Rowe, Aug 13-20, Rowe Adventure Camp: A Challenge for Teenagers
MA, Lenox, Aug 18-20, Fri-Sun, The Children's Program. (5-12)
BC, Mason's Landing, Aug 19-25, Sat-Fri, The Power of Hope: A retreat for teens (14-18), Charlie Murphy, Peggy Taylor & Friends.
MA, Lenox, Aug 25-27, Fri-Sun, The Children's Program. (5-12)
CA Felton, Sep 23, Kidpower Parent-Child Workshop for Children 4-7
Programs from 1999/2000
Maiden's Journey (Girls/Women), Wisconsin
Young Warrior Initiation (boys 15-16) Illinois
Youth Vision Quest & Training (14-21), Big Pine, CA