Daily Thoughts & Issues

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NOVEMBER 4

Days left until the next millennium 01.01.3001

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Achieve Your Dreams

November 4 - On this day in 1979, the U.S. embassy in Teheran is seized by Iranian revolutionaries who take 52 hostages. * In 1995 the Israeli Prime Minister Yitzhak Rabin, 73, is assassinated in Tel Aviv, Israel. * Day commemorating the nirvana of Vardhamana Mahavira (599 BCE), founder of the Jain faith. Jains practice harmlessness, simplicity and charity to attain enlightenment and unity with Deity. The Mystic's Wheel of the Year * King Tut Tomb Discovered (1922) One of the most important archaeological discoveries of modern times occurred at Luxor, Egypt. It was the tomb of Egypt's child-king, Tutankhamen, who became pharaoh at the age of nine and died, probably in the year 1352 BC, when he was 19. Perhaps the only ancient Egyptian royal tomb to have escaped plundering by grave robbers, it was discovered more than 3,000 years after his death by English archaeologist Howard Carter. The priceless relics yielded by King Tut's tomb were placed in Egypt's National Museum at Cairo. * Mischief Night, observed in England, Australia and New Zealand on the even of Guy Fawkes Day is occasion for bonfires and firecrackers to commemorate failure of the plot to blow up the Houses of Parliament in 1605. * Seizure of US Embassy in Teheran (1979) when about 500 Iranians seized the embassy taking some 90 hostages, of whom about 60 were Americans. They vowed to hold the hostages until the former Shah, Mohammed Reza Pahlavi (in the US for medical treatments), was returned to Iran for trial. The Shah died July 27, 1980 in an Egyptian military hospital near Cairo. The remaining 52 American hostages were released and left Teheran after 444 days of captivity. * Sweden All Saints' Day, honors the memory of deceased friends and relatives annually the Saturday following October 30. * UNESCO, the United Nations Educational, Scientific and Cultural Organization, was formed (1946). * Birthdays: Will Rogers, Martin Balsam, Robert Mapplethorpe, Markie Post, Eden Phillpotts, Art Carney, Walter Leland Cronkite, Jr., Ralph Macchio, Matthew McConaughey.

DAILY THOUGHTS

Use less makeup than you think you need. - Jamie, 30 Best of 1001 Sex Secrets Every Man & Woman Should Know

A talent is a gift from God; what you do with it is your gift to God. Dr. Buff's 365 Day Parenting Calendar

Important islands within the scientific community are departing from the traditional "time bomb model", which holds that the human body self-destructs at a certain age, and considering instead a new "spaceship model," whereby the body can be retrofitted to go father. According to neurobiologist Caleb Finch, it is totally plausible to modify aspects of human development so that some cells can replace themselves throughout life. New Passages

Accomplishment begins with action. Achieve Your Dreams

Things to Be Happy About: A $ pledge to public radio. Long hay rides. Finding patience. 14,000 Things to Be Happy About

Apologize for it before your mother notices the stain on your shirt. Really Important Stuff My Kids Have Taught Me

Only that day dawns to which we are awake. - Henry David Thoreau. If Life is a Game, These are the Rules

The glitter of the Personality Ethic is that there is some quick and easy way to achieve quality of life - personal effectiveness and rich, deep relationships with other people - without going through the natural process of work and growth that makes it possible. It's symbol without substance. It's the "get-rich-quick" scheme promising "wealth without work." And it might even appear to succeed, but the schemer remains. Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

Harvey Milk was elected to the San Francisco Board of Supervisors (1977). To mark the twentieth anniversary of this event, a huge twenty-by-thrity-foot rainbow flag was unfurled at Harvey Milk Plaza, in the heart of San Francisco's Castro district. The flag can be seen all the way at the other end of town. Gay & Lesbian Calendar

Going within to find the meaning of our lives doesn't mean avoiding the challenges our circumstances present. Rather it means finding the grace to learn how to live our lives to the fullest extent possible - whatever that is for us - and, in the acceptance, to move on to the highest level of growth we can.  Simplify Your Life

Splinter Removal. First, wash your hands and the tweezers with soap and water or rubbing alcohol. If the splinter is partially above the skin, use a tweezers to pull it out at the same angle that it went in. If the splinter is just beneath the skin, use a sterilized sewing needle to push aside the top layer of skin to expose the splinter. After removing it, wash the area again before applying an antibacterial ointment. Don't dig for the splinter if you cannot see it. Instead try soaking the area in warm water for 10 to 15 minutes once or twice to help bring the splinter to the surface. Parents Tips & Tricks

"You've got to be very careful if you don't know where you are going 'cause you might not get there." - Yogi Berra. Take time to think about where you want to go with your life. Stress Busters

For your kids: Feed friends and family adorable penguin cookies! Get a Snackwell's chocolate sandwich cookie. Use vanilla frosting to stick on Red Hot candies for eyes, orange candy slices for feet, and a candy corn for the beak! To Do Today

If you're a champion, you have to have it in your heart. - Chris Evert Win the Day!

El/la activista (akteeBEEStah) Activist. Living Language

TODAY'S ISSUE: SADIE HAWKINS DAY

Widely observed in the US, usually on the first Saturday in November. Tradition established in "Li'l Abner" comic strip in 1930s by cartoonist Al Capp. A popular occasion wen women and girls are encouraged to take the initiative in inviting the man or boy of their choice for a date. A similar tradition is associated with February 29 in leap years.

And, while we may think that things have changed since the 1930s, and while there are more women asking men out on a semi-regular basis, I don't think much has really changed. The simple question I have posed to many single's groups is "Men. Raise your hand if you ask women out. Everyone look around." Then, "Women. Raise your hand if you ask a man out. Look around again." "Great. Now, everyone who raised their hand, raise them again and keep them up. Look around. Now, if, in you lifetime, you have asked five or more people of the other sex out. Look around." "Keep them up if the number is more than 10." "25." "50." "100." "More than 100." "Thank-you. You may put your hands down." While there are women and men that lowered their hands by 10, the ratio shifted dramatically where there were seldom any women who still had their hand up after 5. We would then discuss the reasons. Most of the men had not experienced being asked out and those who had, the number could be counted on one hand. They were following the cultural training of having to be the pursuer. With the women, while initially they were proud to be able to raise their hand - "Of course I've asked a man out.", they found that, if and when they were rejected, it hurt. Unconsciously, they didn't want to get hurt or they slipped back into their "role". While men, if they want to be in relationship, get to experience the rejection more often than not and feel that the only other option they have is to brush it off and move forward. The "brush off" doesn't really go away, however, and in many continues to build until it becomes bitterness. Many just don't date anymore and recent survey have suggested that over a third of all men 18-35 never plan to marry. My hope is that men continue to ask women out and that Sadie Hawkin's Day also extends to 24/7/366. They women learn to deal with the rejection and men learn to accept a woman who reaches out without thinking she's into control or too powerful or someone who they can control. Let's get on truly equal ground and use our energy and spirit to pick people we want to spend time with rather than control, manipulation, seduction, tricks, games, and masks and get real. The rewards are often greater than you can imagine.

Hey Man: Did you make a difference yesterday? Let us know at Contact Us. In the development of a relationship, ask her about what it was like to grow up female. A woman's experience growing up is very different from a man's. To be committed to a women means actively seeking to understand her story. Ask her about her life and listen intently. Remember, do not try to rewrite her story. What Every Man Needs to Know Want to make a difference but you don't know where to start?

BOOK OF THE WEEK

The Next Ten Minutes: 51 Absurdly Simple Ways to Seize the Moment by Andrew Peterson. The desire to discover meaning in our lives is a powerful motivator for many people. Some turn to psychotherapy and counseling for help, some turn to spiritual teachings, and many turn to both. The book is the guide to help us discover the seeds of transformation and meaning in even the most ordinary routines. Itconsists of a collection of exercises originally created for use in the author's successful counseling practice. Rather than taking readers out of the everyday, he invites them to move more deeply into the familiar tasks of ordinary life, such as turning simple breathing, eating, physical love, or throwing out the trash into meditative exercises that can transform your day. Based on both Buddhist philosophy and proven psychology techniques, these succinct and accessible meditations also offer simple and effective methods for therapeutic counseling and personal growth. The power to seize the day is but a few simple steps away. Atria Books/Beyond Words, 2010, ISBN 1582702748

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  • Jack Kahn - NOMAS Boston - www.menstuff.org/columns/kahn/archive.html
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  • Joe Kort - Gaydar - to increase understanding between gay and het men - www.menstuff.org/columns/kort/archive.html
  • David Kundtz - David Kundtz - presents seminars, workshops, retreats, and conference presentations in the areas of men's emotional health, stress management, and spirituality. www.menstuff.org/columns/kundtz/archive.html
  • Bruce Linton - Dr. Dad - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/drdad/archive.html
  • Ron Louis - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Tom Matlack - Tom Matlack - Good Men Project - www.menstuff.org/columns/matlack/archive.html
  • Wendy McElroy - Wendy McElroy on Feminism, www.menstuff.org/columns/mcelroy/archive.html
  • Robert N. Minor - Minor Details - on GBT sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/minordetails/archive.html
  • Robert L. Moore - Man & Mythology - www.menstuff.org/columns/moore/archive.html
  • Dennis W. Neder - Being a Man - general questions about men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/neder/archive.html
  • Marty Nemko - Worklife - general questions about men and work - www.menstuff.org/columns/nemko/archive.html
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  • Linda Nielsen - Embracing the Father - working with the father/daughter relationship. www.menstuff.org/columns/nielsen/archive.html
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  • Mark Phillips - Stay-at-Home-Dads - helping men maintain that which makes us men, instead of becoming hairy Mom-substitutes - www.menstuff.org/columns/phillips/archive.html
  • Carey Roberts - Socialism & Feminism - is a social commentator on political correctness. www.menstuff.org/columns/roberts/archive.html
  • Perry Rose - Dating, Relationship, Sex
  • Glenn Sacks - His Side - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/sacks/archive.html
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  • Carl J. Schutt - Circumcision - social commentator on circumcision - www.menstuff.org/columns/schutt/archive.html
  • Hugo Schwyzer - A Pro-feminist's Response - www.menstuff.org/columns/schwyzer/archive.html
  • Michael Shaffran - Men's Issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/shaffran/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • George Simons - Bellicose Veins - is a US specialist in intercultural and gender communication who hangs out in Mandelieu - la Napoule, France, as well as in Santa Cruz, CA. www.menstuff.org/columns/simons/archive.html
  • Andy Smith - Hard Hat Brotherhood - www.menstuff.org/columns/hardhat/archive.html
  • David B. Smith - Fighting Father Dave - www.menstuff.org/columns/smith/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
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  • R. Don Steele - Don Steele - relationship questions answered -
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  • David Steinberg - Comes Naturally - on sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/steinberg/archive.html
  • Mary Lou St Lucas - A Mother's Love - www.menstuf.org/columns/stlucas/archive.html
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AWARENESS EVENTS THIS MONTH

November is International Impotency Awareness Month. We provide background information on this new drug and alternatives to Viagra. Impotency, Viagra and other solutions as well as Books on the subject. National Diabetes Awareness, Lung Cancer Awareness, Native American Heritage, Aviation History, Diabetic Eye Disease, Dummies for Tummies, Epilepsy Awareness, International Drum, *National Adoption, National Alzheimer's Disease, National American Indian Heritage, National Family Caregivers, National Child Safety and Protection, National Life Writing; National Marrow Awareness; National Sleep Comfort; Orphan Disease; Peanut Butter Lovers; Vegan Awareness Month

11/1-12/13:  Merlin's Snug Hugs for Kids, 11/27-12/26: Ramadan. 11/1/00-01/01/01: Tie One on the Safety; 11/4-12/4: Jewish Book Month. 11/26-12/25: Operation Blessing International's 30 Days of Holiday Hope. 11/27-12/26: Ramadan. 11/1-7: Vegan Awareness; World Communication. 11/5-11: Pursuit of Happiness, National Chemistry Week. 11/6-10: Kids' Goals Education Week 11/6-12: Random Acts of Kindness; Shallow Persons Awareness Week 11/8-14: Pursuit of Happiness Week. 11/9-13: Goodwill Annual Used Book Sale. 11/12-18: *American Education; National Geography Awareness, Operating Room Nurse Week. 11/13-19: National Children's Book Week. 11/17-19: National Donor Sabbath. 11/17-23: *National Farm-City Week. 18 -25 November 2000: International Herpes Awareness Week. 11/18 -25 International Herpes Awareness Week 11/19-25:  *National Family; National Family Caregivers; National Game and Puzzle Week. 11/19-26: Bible Week. 11/1-2: Day of the Dead. 11/1 is All Saints Day, National Authors; National Family Literacy. 11/2: US Elecetion Day - Vote Absentee Ballot. All Soul's Day; National Men Make Dinner; 11/3: Culture Day. 11/3-5: Great American Warm-Up; 11/4: Sadie Hawkins; Sweden All Saints. 11/5: Guy Fawkes Day. 11/6: Halfway Point of Autumn. 11/8: Punsters; Abet and Aid Punsters; Cook Something Bold and Pungent; National Young Reader's Day. 11/10: USMC Birthday, Veterans Day (Observed); Lung Cancer Awareness; 11/11: Veterans Day; Remembrance Day; Vox Populi Day. Cook Something Bold Day. 11/12: America Recycles Day. 11/13: World Kindness Day. 11/14: Children's Day (India); National American Teddy Bear; National Community Education Day. 11/15: Gypsy Condemnation Order Anniversary, Shichi-Go-San (Japan); National Educational Support Personnel Day. 11/16: *Great American Smokeout; World Harvest, International Day for Tolerance; 11/17: World Peace Day. 11/19: World's Men's, Have a Bad Day; 11/20: Universal Children's; UN African Industrialization Day. 11/21: UN World Television; World Hello Day. 11/22: National Stop the Violence Day. 11/23: *Thanksgiving Day (US) 11/24: Sinkie Day; Buy Nothing; "What Do You Love about America Day; 11/25: You're Welcomgiving Day. 11/29: UN International Day of Solidarity with the Palestinian People. 11/30: Computer Security; Stay Home Because You're Well Day.

* Means a Presidential Proclamation has been made.

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