Daily Thoughts & Issues

IN THIS ISSUE:

SEPTEMBER 11

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It's Prostate Cancer Awareness Month. Remember to visit "Today" during the week of September 19-25. It's Prostate Cancer Awareness Week and we will feature a different issue each day concerning prostate cancer.

September 11 - World Trade Center and Pentagon bombings, 2001. Find events for today at Global Exchange www.unitedforpeace.org * New Year's Day in Ethiopia. * Battle of Brandywine. The largest engagement of the American Revolution, between the Continental Army led by General George Washington and British troops led by General William Howe. General Howe was marching to take Philadelphia when Washington chose to try and stop the British advance at the Brandywine River near Chadds Ford, PA. The American forces were defeated and the British went on to take Philadelphia. They spent the winter in the city while Washington's troops suffered at their encampment at Valley Forge, PA. (1777.) * Food Stamps Authorized for low income Americans (1959) by Congress. * Dr. Salvador Allende, the first freely elected Marxist President of Chili, dies in a military coup. (1973) His widow blames the CIA. * Mars Global Surveyor (1997) goes into orbit around Mars. It is designed to compile global maps of Mars by taking high resolution photos. This mission inaugurated a new series of Mars expeditions in which NASA will launch pairs of orbiters and landers every 26 months into the next decade. * Birthdays: David Herbert Lawrence, Ferdinand Edralin Marcos, William S Porter (O. Henry), Henry Connick Jr., Brian De Palma, William Xavier Kienzle, Thomas Wade Landry.

DAILY THOUGHTS

Save that Foliage:  If you can't bear to let the autumn leaves go by, try preserving them by standing the branches in a mixture of 8 ounces glycerin to quarts water. Let them soak up as much as they will, then they'll remain glossy and colorful. The Old Farmer's Almanac

The soul enjoys the playful side of life because play elevates the otherwise heavy literalness of day-to-ay existence to the realm of the imagination. Soul Mates

The U.S. Army's forbidden to accept blacks and mulattos. The year, 1820. African American History

Childhood fears from ages four to six: the dark and other natural events - like storms, thunder, lightning and tornadoes. Dr. Buff's 365 Day Parenting Calendar

It is the separateness of the partners that enriches the union. Great marriages cannot be constructed by individuals who are terrified by their basic aloneness, as so commonly is the case, and seek a merging in marriage,. Genuine love not only respects the individuality of the other but actually seeks to cultivate it, even at the risk of separation or loss. The Road Less Traveled

The best involved handcuffs and a lot of begging from my boyfriend not to let his friends in the room - Robin, 23. The whole male body is very sensitive to light touches and caresses. - Larry, 31 Best of 1001 Sex Secrets Every Man & Woman Should Know

The quickest way to learn is to interrupt your everyday, predictable existence. Put yourself on the line. Introduce a new task or adventure of the heart, and in that one domain give up some control. The intrinsic reward for putting oneself back into the wobbly-kneed state of a learner is the return of a sense of playfulness and curiosity and the sharp edge of uncertainty. New Passages

In difficult situations when hope seems feeble, the boldest plans are safest. - Livy Achieve Your Dreams

Things to Be Happy About: Driving to the mountains. A century-old lighthouse. Four-wale cotton corduroys. 14,000 Things to Be Happy About

The school bus is never running late the same day you are. Really Important Stuff My Kids Have Taught Me

Morality is conforming to the established standards of right and wrong that have been set by the society in which you live. But ethical codes are not universal. There is no one set of guidelines that works for everyone around the world, since what we may consider morally wrong in one culture might be acceptable in another. If Life is a Game, These are the Rules

Could synergy create a new script for the next generation - one that is more geared to service and contribution, and is less protective, less adversarial, less selfish; one that is more open, more trusting, more giving, and is less defensive and political; one that is more loving, more caring, and is less possessive and judgmental? Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

It's amazing how quickly memberships in organizations - and the accompanying obligations and guilts - can pile up. Resign; or if you can't bring yourself to resign, just let your memberships quietly lapse. You'll find you've reclaimed a significant chuck of your free time. Simplify Your Life

More Ways Families Can Be More Resilient:  Two of the foremost authorities in the field of resiliency - Steven J. Wolin and Joan Patterson - have pinpointed qualities that contribute to a family's ability to get through a crisis. Learn to balance the ongoing stressful situation with your family's other needs. Make your own decisions. Be open to the help and advice of others, but recognize that ultimately you are in control of your choices. Keep communication lines open, even when it means hearing things from your family that you'd rather not. Be committed to your family as a unit. Your crisis may be focused on one member, but it's the strength you have together that will pull you through.  Parents Tips & Tricks

Thigh Stretch. Support your body with your right hand on a wall and, with your left leg bent at the knee, grab your left angle with your left hand and pull upward, keeping stomach muscles pulled in and back straight. Stretch the other leg the same way. Repeat several times, alternating legs. Stress Busters

Simmer cinnamon cider. Pour 1 quart of cider into a pot. With a parent's help, heat the cider on a stove until it starts to boil. Slice 1 orange into wedges and add to the cider. Stir in 2 cinnamon sticks. Let the cider simmer. Your nose will know when it's ready. To Do Today

Management works in the system; leadership works on the system. - Stephen R. Covey  Win the Day!

La proyeccion (prohyehkSYOHN) Screening. Me dormi durante la proyeccion. I fell asleep during the screening. Living Language

TODAY'S ISSUE: SERVICE

For whom shall we build a throne of soft cushions? For our own vanity's sake, thinking that we are better than others?  No, for the pleasure of others, and not for our vanity. - Hazrat Inayat Khan. It is so easy to get caught up in my worries, my goals, my desires, so that the world begins to seem full of pressure and turmoil. From all sides I hear, "you need this car, that job, this trip, that house," and on and on, ad infinitum. The pressure to need, to gather up more and more "stuff", to be self-involved, can be very real. The more "things" I acquire, the more I want. Yet, just as the wise ones have repeatedly explained, nothing outside me brings lasting satisfaction. Right now is the time to break this cycle of self-centeredness, o move from "I need" to "I offer," to serve humanity rather than focusing on what I can get for myself. I can do this by creating kindness and beauty around me. I can smile at a salesclerk, spend time with a child, lend a hand to someone in need. The opportunities to spread goodwill are boundless. All I "need" is to be willing to serve; then I will find that blessings and miracles naturally flow into my life in great abundance. The secret, and the joy, of this kind of wealth is to serve without thought of reward. A Quiet Strength: Meditations on the Masculine Soul

Hey Man: Did you make a difference yesterday? Let us know at Contact Us. As I walk through the world today, I will be aware of the opportunities given to me to create beauty and kindness. A Quiet Strength: Meditations on the Masculine Soul Want to make a difference but you don't know where to start?

BOOK OF THE WEEK

 

Let Go Now: Embracing detachment. Set boundaries and make your life your own by Karen Casey. Do you ever feel like you give other people too much power over what you think and feel? Does how your mate/child/employer treats you make or break your day? Do you find yourself feeling immobilized by other people's expectations and demands? Maybe the people in your life have been telling you to back off and let them be who they are, or you're just a little too invested in what your loved ones do and say, as if it somehow reflects on you. These are the classic indicators of codependence. And what the best-selling author shows us within the pages of this book is that the only solution to codependence is to embrace detachment. Through these meditations you will become keenly attuned to the difference between influence and control, a distinction that will help you determine which behaviors trap you and which ones set you free. This seeming paradox - embracing "bringing near us} detachment (separation) - holds the key to our inner peace and that of those around us as well. Conari Press, www.redwheelweiser.com, 2010 ISBN 978-1-57324-466-4

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MENSTUFF COLUMNS BY AUTHOR

  • The Advice Diva - The Advice Diva - relationship and sexuality issues discussed - www.menstuff.org/columns/advicediva/archive.html
  • Peter Alsop - Song of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/alsop/archive.html
  • Reid Baer - A Man Overboard - Interview of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/overboard/archive.html
  • Reid Baer - Poetry - poetry read on YouTube - www.menstuff.org/columns/baer/archive.html
  • Molly Barrow - Shrink About This - www.menstuff.org/columns/barrow/archive.html
  • Peter Baylies - At Home Dads - on at-home-dad issues that impact fathers who stay at home to raise their kids - www.menstuff.org/columns/baylies/archive.html
  • Tom Blake - Middle-Age Relationships - from an expert on dating after 50. www.menstuff.org/columns/blake/archive.html
  • Mark Brandenburg - Great Fathers - on fathering issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/greatfathers/archive.html
  • Ted Braude - BoysWork - a columnist in the The Detroit Free Press "Body and Mind" section www.menstuff.org/columns/braude/archive.html
  • Armin Brott - A Father's Guide - hosts "Positive Parenting" on radio www.menstuff.org/columns/brott/archive.html
  • Dan Bulf - Get Real - weekly pod cast on men's issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/bulf/archive.html
  • Ken Byers - Transition - on men's life transitions - www.menstuff.org/columns/byers/archive.html
  • Sandra L. Caron - Sex Talk - college students get answers to their questions - www.menstuff.org/columns/sextalk/archive.html
  • Neil Chethik - Relationships - www.menstuff.org/columns/chethik/archive.html
  • Otto & Susie Collins - Susie and Otto - relationship issues discussed - www.menstuff.org/columns/susie&otto/archive.html
  • David Copeland - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Forrest Craver - Spirituality & Social Change - www.menstuff.org/columns/craver/archive.html
  • Layne & Paul Cutright - Powerful Partnerships - relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/cutright/archive.html
  • Ron DesMarais - Cavemen in the Kitchen - great recipes for men - www.menstuff.org/columns/desmarais/archive.html
  • Jed Diamond - Irritable Male Syndrome - www.menstuff.org/columns/diamond/archive.html
  • Doc Love - Women Don't Lie, Man Don't Listen - answers to relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/doclov/archive.html
  • Barry Durdant-Hollamby - Creating Change - creating change in your life - www.menstuff.org/columns/durdant/archive.html
  • Irv Engel - The Real Deal - www.menstuff.org/columns/engel/archive.html
  • Nancy Fagan - Expert Dating Advice - with Nancy Fagan - www.menstuf.org/columns/fagan/archive.html
  • Warren Farrell - Men's Issues: Facts and Perspectives www.menstuff.org/columns/farrell/archive.html
  • Leonard Felder - Wake Up or Break Up - www.menstuff.org/columns/felder/archive.html
  • Marty Friedman - Strong Men, Strong Marriage - www.menstuff.org/columns/friedman/archive.html
  • Kim Garretson - Mansgland - using humor to encourage prostate exams - www.menstuff.org/columns/mansgland/archive.html
  • Lion Goodman - How to get Women to Love You - www.menstuff.org/columns/goodman/archive.html
  • Liz Halliday - In a Man's World - www.menstuff.org/columns/halliday/archive.html
  • Rick Hanson - Your Wise Brain - www.menstuff.org/columns/hanson/archive.html
  • Tim Hartnett - Daddyman Speaks - being a father www.menstuff.org/columns/daddyman/archive.html
  • John Hershey - Blood, Phlegm & Bile: Parenting with Humor - He writes a syndicated biweekly humor column about parenting and family life. www.menstuff.org/columns/hershey/archive.html
  • Gary Hoeber - Psychotherapy as Soul Work, www.menstuff.org/columns/hoeber/archive.html
  • Patrick Houser - Fathers Make a World of Difference, www.menstuff.org/columns/houser/archive.html
  • Paul Joannides - The Guide to Getting It On - on sex - www.menstuff.org/columns/getiton/archive.html
  • Jack Kahn - NOMAS Boston - www.menstuff.org/columns/kahn/archive.html
  • Patrick Kennedy - Seniors - www.menstuff.org/columns/kennedy/archive.html
  • Joe Kort - Gaydar - to increase understanding between gay and het men - www.menstuff.org/columns/kort/archive.html
  • David Kundtz - David Kundtz - presents seminars, workshops, retreats, and conference presentations in the areas of men's emotional health, stress management, and spirituality. www.menstuff.org/columns/kundtz/archive.html
  • Bruce Linton - Dr. Dad - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/drdad/archive.html
  • Ron Louis - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Tom Matlack - Tom Matlack - Good Men Project - www.menstuff.org/columns/matlack/archive.html
  • Wendy McElroy - Wendy McElroy on Feminism, www.menstuff.org/columns/mcelroy/archive.html
  • Robert N. Minor - Minor Details - on GBT sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/minordetails/archive.html
  • Robert L. Moore - Man & Mythology - www.menstuff.org/columns/moore/archive.html
  • Dennis W. Neder - Being a Man - general questions about men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/neder/archive.html
  • Marty Nemko - Worklife - general questions about men and work - www.menstuff.org/columns/nemko/archive.html
  • Eli Newberger - Eli Newberger - general information on men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/newberger/archive.html
  • Linda Nielsen - Embracing the Father - working with the father/daughter relationship. www.menstuff.org/columns/nielsen/archive.html
  • Kathy Noll - Bullies and Youth Violence - working with schools, teachers and parents to end school violence - www.menstuff.org/columns/noll/archive.html
  • Mark Phillips - Stay-at-Home-Dads - helping men maintain that which makes us men, instead of becoming hairy Mom-substitutes - www.menstuff.org/columns/phillips/archive.html
  • Carey Roberts - Socialism & Feminism - is a social commentator on political correctness. www.menstuff.org/columns/roberts/archive.html
  • Perry Rose - Dating, Relationship, Sex
  • Glenn Sacks - His Side - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/sacks/archive.html
  • Trudy Schuett - Domestic Violence - serving the under-represented www.menstuff.org/columns/schuett/archive.html
  • Carl J. Schutt - Circumcision - social commentator on circumcision - www.menstuff.org/columns/schutt/archive.html
  • Hugo Schwyzer - A Pro-feminist's Response - www.menstuff.org/columns/schwyzer/archive.html
  • Michael Shaffran - Men's Issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/shaffran/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • George Simons - Bellicose Veins - is a US specialist in intercultural and gender communication who hangs out in Mandelieu - la Napoule, France, as well as in Santa Cruz, CA. www.menstuff.org/columns/simons/archive.html
  • Andy Smith - Hard Hat Brotherhood - www.menstuff.org/columns/hardhat/archive.html
  • David B. Smith - Fighting Father Dave - www.menstuff.org/columns/smith/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • Reena Sommer - Custody - is an internationally recognized relationship and divorce consultant. www.menstuff.org/columns/sommer/archive.html
  • R. Don Steele - Don Steele - relationship questions answered -
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  • David Steinberg - Comes Naturally - on sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/steinberg/archive.html
  • Mary Lou St Lucas - A Mother's Love - www.menstuf.org/columns/stlucas/archive.html
  • Surprise - Surprise Author - From a new columnist every month - www.menstuff.org/columns/surprise/archive.html
  • Steven Svoboda - Fatherhood, Activism and the Law www.menstuff.org/columns/svoboda/archive.html
  • Michael Taylor - A New Conversation with Men - www.menstuff.org/columns/taylor/archive.html
  • Bruce Van Horn - Yoga for Men - issues around the health benefits of yoga for men - www.menstuff.org/yoga/archive.html
  • Michael Webb - Secrets of Blissful Relationships - on relationship - www.menstuff.org/columns/bliss/archive.html
  • Stuart Wilde - Spirituality - www.menstuff.org/columns/wilde/archive.html
  • Dr.Williams - Sex Health - on sexual health - Dr. Williams, www.menstuff.org/columns/sexhealth/archive.html
  • KC Wilson - On Gender Politics is a social commentator and author. www.menstuff.org/columns/wilson/archive.html

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  • Health Tips - on general health - www.menstuff.org/columns/healthtips/archive.html
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  • Numbers - www.menstuff.org/columns/numbers/archive.html
  • Questions - www.menstuff.org/columns/q&a/archive.html
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  • Words Can Heal - helping children grow up healthy - www.menstuff.org/columns/wordscanheal/archive.html
  • Wuzup?! - National or international events happening this month - www.menstuff.org/columns/whassup/archive.html

AWARENESS EVENTS THIS MONTH

September is Baby Safety Awareness, Children's Eye Health & Safety, Children's Good Manners, Christmas Seal, Cholesterol Education, Fall Hat, Gay Square Dance, Library Card Sign-up, Little League, Organic Harvest, Pediculosis Prevention, Piano, Pleasure Your Mate, Project Aware, Prosperity Creation, School Success, Sea Cadet, Self Awareness, Self-Improvement, Shameless Promotion, and Sickle Cell Month.

9/15-10/15: Hispanic Heritage Month. 8/29-9/4: National Sobriety Checkpoint Week, Mothers Against Drunk Driving, www.madd.org; 9/1-7: Childhood Injury Prevention; Self-University Week. 9/4-10: Full Employment Week, Mental Health Workers Week.. 9/5-9: Play Days. 9/9-16: National Five-A-Day Week. 9/10-16: National Suicide Prevention; Substitute Teacher Appreciation; National Brainstorming and Mind Mapping; Invisible Chronic Illness Awareness Week: 9/14-20 Dementia Awareness Week (Australia) 9/17-23: *Constitution; Balance Awareness; Love a Mensch; Farm Safety and Health; Historically Black Colleges and Universities; Rehabilitation Awareness; Single's Week. 9/19-25 - Prostate Cancer Awareness Week; 9/23-30: Banned Books, Religious Freedom Week. 9/23-29 - Deaf Awareness, National Dog Week; 9/23-24: Family Health & Fitness. 9/10: Swap Ideas Day. 9/17 *Citizenship Day. 9/19: International Day of Peace. 9/22: National Centenarians, Proposal Day. 9/23: Kiwanis Kids', *National Hunting & Fishing, Smash Out Suicide Day, 9/24: *Gold Star Mother's, National Good Neighbor, World Heart Day. 9/27: Ancestor Appreciation Day. 9/28: Cabrillo Day

* Means a Presidential Proclamation has been made.

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