Daily Thoughts & Issues

IN THIS ISSUE:

SEPTEMBER 9

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It's Prostate Cancer Awareness Month. Remember to visit "Today" during the week of September 19-25. It's Prostate Cancer Awareness Week and we will feature a different issue each day concerning prostate cancer.

September 9 - Independence Day in Tajikistan and North Korea. * Federal Lands Cleanup Day* * On this day in 1915, Dr. Carter G. Woodson founds the Association for the Study of Negro Life and History. African American History. * The Department of Housing and Urban Development (HUD) is created (1965). * Christian feast of St. . Joachim - Father of Blessed Maria and Grandfather of Blessed Jesus; guide of grandfathers and elderly men. Vigil for lost grandparents; night of mourning and healing. The Mystic's Wheel of the Year * Battle of Marathon: The numerically superior invading army of Persia was met and defeated on the Plain of Marathon by the Athenian army, led by Miltiaddes. (490 B.C.) More than 6,000 men died in the day's battle which drove the Persians to the sea and the mound of earth covering the dead is still visible at the site. * Birthdays: Colonel Harland David-Sanders, Leo Tolstoy, Benjamin Roy (BJ) Armstrong, Hugh Grant, Michael Keaton (Michael Douglas), Daniel Lewis (Dan) Majerle, Billy Preston, Cliff Robertson, Adam Sandler, Joseph Robert (Joe) Theisman, Otis Redding, Tom Wopat.

DAILY THOUGHTS

Illusion comes from the Latin ludere, "in play."  Let us keep the Latin in mind to help us remember that illusion can have a playful, even sporting, effect. Soul Mates

Alone in a vegetable garden or fruit orchard at night, sit still and silent. Experience all your senses: what you can see, smell, hear, taste, and touch. Recognize the oneness of all. Meditation: personal transformation. The Mystic's Wheel of the Year

Childhood fears from infancy to age one: separation, strangers, sudden noises, and objects moving toward them. Dr. Buff's 365 Day Parenting Calendar

The most important part of our culture is our particular family. The most basic culture in which we develop is the culture of our family, and our parents are its "culture leaders."  Moreover, the most significant aspect of that culture is not what our parents tell us about God and the nature of things but rather what they do - how they behave toward each other, toward our siblings, and above all, toward us. The Road Less Traveled

On the floor with a blanket and pillows everywhere is much better than in a bed - Linda, 30. I love the way her butt ripples when we do it doggie-style. - Don 28. Best of 1001 Sex Secrets Every Man & Woman Should Know

According to the results of the Grant Study of Harvard men, traits that contribute to happiness in the golden years are not the same ones that won friends and influenced people back in college: spontaneity, creative flair, and the knack of easy sociability. Instead traits important to smooth functioning as we get older are being dependable, well organized, and pragmatic. New Passages

The actual is limited, the possible immense. Achieve Your Dreams

Things to Be Happy About:  Grabbing a clean, dry towel. Good blood-test results. Good popcorn at the video store.  14,000 Things to Be Happy About

Hand on tight! Really Important Stuff My Kids Have Taught Me

Debuting in 1972, fictional gay set designer Peter Ranama is thought to be the first gay character to have a recurring role on prime-time television. Can you name the television show?  (Answer below.) Gay & Lesbian Calendar

Win/Win agreements focus on results, releasing tremendous individual human potential, creating greater synergy, and building Production Capability in the process.  Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

2 Years - Toddler Math. Much like literacy, a grounding in basic mathematical concepts such as numbers, quantity, and order takes place over a period of years. Your role in this process is to show your child, without pressuring, how numbers are relevant in their daily life, then let their curiosity take over. There are fun, informal everyday ways you can help your toddler see the link between objects and numbers. Let them help you sort laundry ("Count all the blue socks"), set the table ("How many napkins do we need?"), or gather groceries ("One, two, three potatoes").  Parents Tips & Tricks

If you've been harboring anger at some person or situation for weeks, months - or even years - you're causing yourself unnecessary emotional stress, which only hurts you more and more over time. For your own sake, learn to let go and forgive. If you are unable to do this on your own, see a counselor or spiritual adviser. Stress Busters

For your kids: Shimmy in your sleeping bag at your next sleepover!  Make an obstacle course. Line up stools and tables. Crawl under and around them in your sleeping bag. To Do Today

My great concern is not whether you have failed, but whether you are content with your failure. - Abraham Lincoln Win the Day!

Imitar (eemeeTAHR) To mimic, to imitate. Tortura a los profesores imitandolos. He tortures the teachers by mimicking them. Living Language

Answer: Corner Bar.

TODAY'S ISSUE: ALONENESS

For every fine, well-adjusted and smoothly functioning American, there are two who never had the chance to discover themselves. It may well be because they have never been alone with themselves. - Marya Mannes. Facing ourselves: That is what we're most afraid of. Terrified of. We'll run from anything that gives the vaguest reflection of who and what we are. We are busy not discovering who we are. That is exactly what we do not want to know, and exactly why we immerse ourselves in our work. We keep ourselves hidden in order to avoid pain. We must learn to be alone with ourselves, to feel the pain and the gain of self-revelation. It takes great courage to be alone, and not fill up our lives with annihilating busyness. I will be mindful of that today. Meditations For Men Who Do Too Much

Thoreau became acquainted with the night, with the sorrow of the woods and the melancholy of the snow; he found depths and learned to trust them; he lived alone and like the company. - Robert Bly A man needs to go off alone. He must. There is no other way to learn and to do certain things that a man must learn and do. All the books, partners, and helpers cannot take a man to the place where solitary exploration can lead him. All the love in the world cannot substitute for a man going off by himself. In such a solitary place we can learn more about masculine mystery. Thoreau knew this in the nineteenth century, as did Francis of Assisi in the thirteenth. Other men can act as guides. Elders in particular, and children, can help a man tremendously, especially if they do not seek to entangle him. Ultimately, though, each man's journey is his own. The best help is that which sets a man free, rather than that which binds him. Being alone, especially in the night, can also change our habitual perspectives on things and can allow new insights to emerge. A Quiet Strength: Meditations on the Masculine Soul

Hey Man: Did you make a difference yesterday? Let us know at Contact Us. Today I will imagine myself alone away from people. As I do, what knowledge moves toward me?  What do I learn?  Is there something now that I must do? A Quiet Strength: Meditations on the Masculine Soul Want to make a difference but you don't know where to start?

BOOK OF THE WEEK

 

Let Go Now: Embracing detachment. Set boundaries and make your life your own by Karen Casey. Do you ever feel like you give other people too much power over what you think and feel? Does how your mate/child/employer treats you make or break your day? Do you find yourself feeling immobilized by other people's expectations and demands? Maybe the people in your life have been telling you to back off and let them be who they are, or you're just a little too invested in what your loved ones do and say, as if it somehow reflects on you. These are the classic indicators of codependence. And what the best-selling author shows us within the pages of this book is that the only solution to codependence is to embrace detachment. Through these meditations you will become keenly attuned to the difference between influence and control, a distinction that will help you determine which behaviors trap you and which ones set you free. This seeming paradox - embracing "bringing near us} detachment (separation) - holds the key to our inner peace and that of those around us as well. Conari Press, www.redwheelweiser.com, 2010 ISBN 978-1-57324-466-4

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  • Peter Alsop - Song of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/alsop/archive.html
  • Reid Baer - A Man Overboard - Interview of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/overboard/archive.html
  • Reid Baer - Poetry - poetry read on YouTube - www.menstuff.org/columns/baer/archive.html
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  • Peter Baylies - At Home Dads - on at-home-dad issues that impact fathers who stay at home to raise their kids - www.menstuff.org/columns/baylies/archive.html
  • Tom Blake - Middle-Age Relationships - from an expert on dating after 50. www.menstuff.org/columns/blake/archive.html
  • Mark Brandenburg - Great Fathers - on fathering issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/greatfathers/archive.html
  • Ted Braude - BoysWork - a columnist in the The Detroit Free Press "Body and Mind" section www.menstuff.org/columns/braude/archive.html
  • Armin Brott - A Father's Guide - hosts "Positive Parenting" on radio www.menstuff.org/columns/brott/archive.html
  • Dan Bulf - Get Real - weekly pod cast on men's issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/bulf/archive.html
  • Ken Byers - Transition - on men's life transitions - www.menstuff.org/columns/byers/archive.html
  • Sandra L. Caron - Sex Talk - college students get answers to their questions - www.menstuff.org/columns/sextalk/archive.html
  • Neil Chethik - Relationships - www.menstuff.org/columns/chethik/archive.html
  • Otto & Susie Collins - Susie and Otto - relationship issues discussed - www.menstuff.org/columns/susie&otto/archive.html
  • David Copeland - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Forrest Craver - Spirituality & Social Change - www.menstuff.org/columns/craver/archive.html
  • Layne & Paul Cutright - Powerful Partnerships - relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/cutright/archive.html
  • Ron DesMarais - Cavemen in the Kitchen - great recipes for men - www.menstuff.org/columns/desmarais/archive.html
  • Jed Diamond - Irritable Male Syndrome - www.menstuff.org/columns/diamond/archive.html
  • Doc Love - Women Don't Lie, Man Don't Listen - answers to relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/doclov/archive.html
  • Barry Durdant-Hollamby - Creating Change - creating change in your life - www.menstuff.org/columns/durdant/archive.html
  • Irv Engel - The Real Deal - www.menstuff.org/columns/engel/archive.html
  • Nancy Fagan - Expert Dating Advice - with Nancy Fagan - www.menstuf.org/columns/fagan/archive.html
  • Warren Farrell - Men's Issues: Facts and Perspectives www.menstuff.org/columns/farrell/archive.html
  • Leonard Felder - Wake Up or Break Up - www.menstuff.org/columns/felder/archive.html
  • Marty Friedman - Strong Men, Strong Marriage - www.menstuff.org/columns/friedman/archive.html
  • Kim Garretson - Mansgland - using humor to encourage prostate exams - www.menstuff.org/columns/mansgland/archive.html
  • Lion Goodman - How to get Women to Love You - www.menstuff.org/columns/goodman/archive.html
  • Liz Halliday - In a Man's World - www.menstuff.org/columns/halliday/archive.html
  • Rick Hanson - Your Wise Brain - www.menstuff.org/columns/hanson/archive.html
  • Tim Hartnett - Daddyman Speaks - being a father www.menstuff.org/columns/daddyman/archive.html
  • John Hershey - Blood, Phlegm & Bile: Parenting with Humor - He writes a syndicated biweekly humor column about parenting and family life. www.menstuff.org/columns/hershey/archive.html
  • Gary Hoeber - Psychotherapy as Soul Work, www.menstuff.org/columns/hoeber/archive.html
  • Patrick Houser - Fathers Make a World of Difference, www.menstuff.org/columns/houser/archive.html
  • Paul Joannides - The Guide to Getting It On - on sex - www.menstuff.org/columns/getiton/archive.html
  • Jack Kahn - NOMAS Boston - www.menstuff.org/columns/kahn/archive.html
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  • Joe Kort - Gaydar - to increase understanding between gay and het men - www.menstuff.org/columns/kort/archive.html
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  • Ron Louis - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Tom Matlack - Tom Matlack - Good Men Project - www.menstuff.org/columns/matlack/archive.html
  • Wendy McElroy - Wendy McElroy on Feminism, www.menstuff.org/columns/mcelroy/archive.html
  • Robert N. Minor - Minor Details - on GBT sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/minordetails/archive.html
  • Robert L. Moore - Man & Mythology - www.menstuff.org/columns/moore/archive.html
  • Dennis W. Neder - Being a Man - general questions about men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/neder/archive.html
  • Marty Nemko - Worklife - general questions about men and work - www.menstuff.org/columns/nemko/archive.html
  • Eli Newberger - Eli Newberger - general information on men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/newberger/archive.html
  • Linda Nielsen - Embracing the Father - working with the father/daughter relationship. www.menstuff.org/columns/nielsen/archive.html
  • Kathy Noll - Bullies and Youth Violence - working with schools, teachers and parents to end school violence - www.menstuff.org/columns/noll/archive.html
  • Mark Phillips - Stay-at-Home-Dads - helping men maintain that which makes us men, instead of becoming hairy Mom-substitutes - www.menstuff.org/columns/phillips/archive.html
  • Carey Roberts - Socialism & Feminism - is a social commentator on political correctness. www.menstuff.org/columns/roberts/archive.html
  • Perry Rose - Dating, Relationship, Sex
  • Glenn Sacks - His Side - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/sacks/archive.html
  • Trudy Schuett - Domestic Violence - serving the under-represented www.menstuff.org/columns/schuett/archive.html
  • Carl J. Schutt - Circumcision - social commentator on circumcision - www.menstuff.org/columns/schutt/archive.html
  • Hugo Schwyzer - A Pro-feminist's Response - www.menstuff.org/columns/schwyzer/archive.html
  • Michael Shaffran - Men's Issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/shaffran/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • George Simons - Bellicose Veins - is a US specialist in intercultural and gender communication who hangs out in Mandelieu - la Napoule, France, as well as in Santa Cruz, CA. www.menstuff.org/columns/simons/archive.html
  • Andy Smith - Hard Hat Brotherhood - www.menstuff.org/columns/hardhat/archive.html
  • David B. Smith - Fighting Father Dave - www.menstuff.org/columns/smith/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • Reena Sommer - Custody - is an internationally recognized relationship and divorce consultant. www.menstuff.org/columns/sommer/archive.html
  • R. Don Steele - Don Steele - relationship questions answered -
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  • David Steinberg - Comes Naturally - on sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/steinberg/archive.html
  • Mary Lou St Lucas - A Mother's Love - www.menstuf.org/columns/stlucas/archive.html
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  • Stuart Wilde - Spirituality - www.menstuff.org/columns/wilde/archive.html
  • Dr.Williams - Sex Health - on sexual health - Dr. Williams, www.menstuff.org/columns/sexhealth/archive.html
  • KC Wilson - On Gender Politics is a social commentator and author. www.menstuff.org/columns/wilson/archive.html

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  • Wuzup?! - National or international events happening this month - www.menstuff.org/columns/whassup/archive.html

AWARENESS EVENTS THIS MONTH

September is Baby Safety Awareness, Children's Eye Health & Safety, Children's Good Manners, Christmas Seal, Cholesterol Education, Fall Hat, Gay Square Dance, Library Card Sign-up, Little League, Organic Harvest, Pediculosis Prevention, Piano, Pleasure Your Mate, Project Aware, Prosperity Creation, School Success, Sea Cadet, Self Awareness, Self-Improvement, Shameless Promotion, and Sickle Cell Month.

9/15-10/15: Hispanic Heritage Month. 8/29-9/4: National Sobriety Checkpoint Week, Mothers Against Drunk Driving, www.madd.org; 9/1-7: Childhood Injury Prevention; Self-University Week. 9/4-10: Full Employment Week, Mental Health Workers Week.. 9/5-9: Play Days. 9/9-16: National Five-A-Day Week. 9/10-16: National Suicide Prevention; Substitute Teacher Appreciation; National Brainstorming and Mind Mapping; Invisible Chronic Illness Awareness Week: 9/14-20 Dementia Awareness Week (Australia) 9/17-23: *Constitution; Balance Awareness; Love a Mensch; Farm Safety and Health; Historically Black Colleges and Universities; Rehabilitation Awareness; Single's Week. 9/19-25 - Prostate Cancer Awareness Week; 9/23-30: Banned Books, Religious Freedom Week. 9/23-29 - Deaf Awareness, National Dog Week; 9/23-24: Family Health & Fitness. 9/10: Swap Ideas Day. 9/17 *Citizenship Day. 9/19: International Day of Peace. 9/22: National Centenarians, Proposal Day. 9/23: Kiwanis Kids', *National Hunting & Fishing, Smash Out Suicide Day, 9/24: *Gold Star Mother's, National Good Neighbor, World Heart Day. 9/27: Ancestor Appreciation Day. 9/28: Cabrillo Day

* Means a Presidential Proclamation has been made.

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