Daily Thoughts & Issues

IN THIS ISSUE:

APRIL 3

Days left until the next millennium 01.01.3001

Photo of the Week
Di Zinno/Adventure Photo & Film
Achieve Your Dreams

April 3 - Coach John Thompson of Georgetown University becomes the first African American to win the NCAA basketball tournament. (1984) African American History * In retaliation against a black boycott of downtown stores, the Birmingham, AL City Commission voted not to pay the city's $45,000 share of a $100,000 county program which supplied surplus food to the needy. (1962) More than 90 percent of the recipients of aid were black. *The US Supreme Court, in an 8-1 ruling, declared that blacks could not be barred from voting in Texas Democratic primaries. (1944). * The Pony Express began when the first rider left St. Joseph, MO (1860). The following day another rider headed east from Sacramento, CA. For $5 an ounce letters were delivered within 10 days. There were 190 way stations between 10 and 15 miles apart and each rider had a "run" of between 75 and 100 miles. The Pony Express lasted less than two years, ceasing operation when the overland telegraph was completed. * Birthdays: Eddie Murphy, John Burroughs, Calvin "Baby Vet" Graham, Leslie Howard, Washington Irving, Henry Luce, Alec Baldwin, Marlon Brando, Max Frankel, Jonathan Lynn, Eddie Murphy, Wayne Newton, Michael Olowokandi, Tony Orlando (Michael Orlando Cassivitis), David Hyde Pierce, Picabo Street.

Men (15-35): Do a testicular self-exam monthly!

DAILY THOUGHTS

The unknown of total selfhood, psychological independence and unique individuality that one is free to proceed along still higher paths of spiritual growth and free to manifest love in its greatest dimensions. The Road Less Traveled

We are drawn into intimacy by possibilities rather than by realities, by the promise of things to come, and perhaps by seductions that are darker than the bright reasons to which we admit. Soul Mates

She freaks out every time she notices a new line in her face, then withholds sex from me for a week. I wish she knew how beautiful she really is. - John, 31 Best of 1001 Sex Secrets Every Man & Woman Should Know

If your job requires travel, put special pictures, notes and surprises where your children can find them while you're away. That way, you may be out of sight, but you won't be far from their thoughts. Dr. Buff's 365 Day Parenting Calendar

Conversations that Count. One of the most powerful ways we communicate core values happens when we're not even looking at each other. Think about it - the last substantial conversation with your child probably occurred while you were riding in the car, walking to school, or at bedtime. Why?  Because children absorb messages best when they're unselfconscious - in the midst of doing something else, when we're not making the talk into a big production. Family Feelings

In seventeenth-century Japan, purple headbands were worn by Kabuki actors to denote their characters' homosexuality. Gay & Lesbian Calendar

A significant number of women in the Vietnam Generation (born 1946-55) have chosen not to have children, and not necessarily because they can't. Career concerns often take precedence. But the myth of perpetual advancement in work success has its counterpart for these women in reproductive success. It's called the fantasy of fertility forever. New Passages

Look twice before you leap. - Charlotte Bronte. Achieve Your Dreams

Things to Be Happy About:  Kiawah Island, South Carolina. A steaming kettle of homemade soup. Spring bulbs busily flowering.  14,000 Things to Be Happy About

There is no good reason why clothes have to match. Really Important Stuff My Kids Have Taught Me

The key to coming to peace with your role as a perpetual student lies in surrendering to what is, rather than trying to create what you envision should be.   If resistance has been a theme throughout your life, then surrender will appear in your curriculum. If you are one of those people who always have to do things this way or who posses a strong, willful ego, then surrender will seem like defeat to you. But surrender only signifies defeat in war. In life it signifies transcendence. If Life is a Game, These are the Rules

I have found that the key to the ninety-nine is the one - particularly the one who is testing the patience and the good humor of the many. It is the love and the discipline of the one student, the one child, that communicates love for the others. It's how you treat the one that reveals how you regard the ninety-nine, because everyone is ultimately a one.  Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

Make sure all frequently used household items have a resting place and that all the family members know where things belong: the scissors go in the top drawer of the desk; the broom hangs on the hook in the closet; and so forth.  Simplify Your Life (Editor:  Be sure they know what to do with cleaning materials, since they are poison to young children.)

Schedule time regularly to take a walk, participate in a sport, read a favorite book, whatever. To remove any possible guilt you might feel, remind yourself that you need to do it to reenergize yourself and maintain a sense of balance. If you ignore yourself, you'll have less you can give to others. Stress Busters

Teach your kids to baby-sit now and then to be kind. Take care of a neighbor's kids to give the parents a break. Make a fort, play games, or go exploring (with a parent's permission). They'll see playing with kids can be fun, and the parents will be grateful! To Do Today

 If a man constantly aspires is he not elevated? - Henry David Thoreau. Win the Day! 

Por Fin (pohr FEEN)  Finally. Por fin, un momento para mi!  Finally a minute to myself! Living Language

TODAY'S ISSUE: TESTICULAR CANCER - WHAT THE DOCTOR LOOKS FOR

If you suspect a lump or change in appearance of your testicles, your doctor will conduct a physical examination to rule out any other conditions or infections that can cause similar symptoms. If necessary, he or she will organize an ultrasound scan to take a closer look at your testicles.

If cancer is suspected, you will be referred to a urologist (a specialist in the urinary system) and usually an oncologist (a specialist in cancer treatment). The specialist will determine whether or not you have testicular cancer by taking a tissue sample (biopsy) from the affected testicle. If cancer is present, the specialist will be able to determine the type from this biopsy.

Other tests will be performed to see if, and how far, the cancer has spread. These investigations may include:

  • Ultrasound or CT scan (a scan that combines the use of X-rays and a computer to give a clear image) of the abdomen
  • Chest X-ray
  • Blood tests

The extent of the cancer is described in stages:

Stage I – cancer is limited to the testicle

Stage II – cancer has spread to the lymph nodes in the abdomen

Stage III – cancer has spread to other parts of the body such as the lungs LOTS MORE

Hey Man: Did you make a difference yesterday? Let us know at Contact Us. Today, I will practice a welcoming attitude toward everyone I meet. Touchstones Want to make a difference but you don't know where to start?

BOOK OF THE WEEK

 Joy, Melanie, Why We Love Dogs, Eat Pigs, and Wear Cows: The belief system that enables us to eat some animals and not others. This groundbreaking work explores the psychology of carnism. Our willingness to eat animals - and only some animals at that - says the author, is enabled only through blocking out what we know - about their capacity for consciousness and their ability to feel pain; about the inhumane husbandry practiced all over the world simply to satisfy our taste for foods we don;'t need in our diet; about the health risks involved in eating flesh of any king; and on and on. In other words, we continue to eat meat and fish only out of a seemingly intransigent denial. Sure to spark conversation, controversy and debate, this book challenges readers not only to own up to the choices they make each and every time they consume animal-based foods but moreover to change the way they think about food forever. Conari Press, www.redwheelweiser.com, 2009 ISBN 978-1-57324-461-9

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  • Reid Baer - A Man Overboard - Interview of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/overboard/archive.html
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  • Ted Braude - BoysWork - a columnist in the The Detroit Free Press "Body and Mind" section www.menstuff.org/columns/braude/archive.html
  • Armin Brott - A Father's Guide - hosts "Positive Parenting" on radio www.menstuff.org/columns/brott/archive.html
  • Dan Bulf - Get Real - weekly pod cast on men's issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/bulf/archive.html
  • Ken Byers - Transition - on men's life transitions - www.menstuff.org/columns/byers/archive.html
  • Sandra L. Caron - Sex Talk - college students get answers to their questions - www.menstuff.org/columns/sextalk/archive.html
  • Neil Chethik - Relationships - www.menstuff.org/columns/chethik/archive.html
  • Otto & Susie Collins - Susie and Otto - relationship issues discussed - www.menstuff.org/columns/susie&otto/archive.html
  • David Copeland - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Forrest Craver - Spirituality & Social Change - www.menstuff.org/columns/craver/archive.html
  • Layne & Paul Cutright - Powerful Partnerships - relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/cutright/archive.html
  • Ron DesMarais - Cavemen in the Kitchen - great recipes for men - www.menstuff.org/columns/desmarais/archive.html
  • Jed Diamond - Irritable Male Syndrome - www.menstuff.org/columns/diamond/archive.html
  • Doc Love - Women Don't Lie, Man Don't Listen - answers to relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/doclov/archive.html
  • Barry Durdant-Hollamby - Creating Change - creating change in your life - www.menstuff.org/columns/durdant/archive.html
  • Irv Engel - The Real Deal - www.menstuff.org/columns/engel/archive.html
  • Nancy Fagan - Expert Dating Advice - with Nancy Fagan - www.menstuf.org/columns/fagan/archive.html
  • Warren Farrell - Men's Issues: Facts and Perspectives www.menstuff.org/columns/farrell/archive.html
  • Leonard Felder - Wake Up or Break Up - www.menstuff.org/columns/felder/archive.html
  • Marty Friedman - Strong Men, Strong Marriage - www.menstuff.org/columns/friedman/archive.html
  • Kim Garretson - Mansgland - using humor to encourage prostate exams - www.menstuff.org/columns/mansgland/archive.html
  • Lion Goodman - How to get Women to Love You - www.menstuff.org/columns/goodman/archive.html
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  • Tim Hartnett - Daddyman Speaks - being a father www.menstuff.org/columns/daddyman/archive.html
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  • Paul Joannides - The Guide to Getting It On - on sex - www.menstuff.org/columns/getiton/archive.html
  • Jack Kahn - NOMAS Boston - www.menstuff.org/columns/kahn/archive.html
  • Patrick Kennedy - Seniors - www.menstuff.org/columns/kennedy/archive.html
  • Joe Kort - Gaydar - to increase understanding between gay and het men - www.menstuff.org/columns/kort/archive.html
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  • Bruce Linton - Dr. Dad - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/drdad/archive.html
  • Ron Louis - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Wendy McElroy - Wendy McElroy on Feminism, www.menstuff.org/columns/mcelroy/archive.html
  • Robert N. Minor - Minor Details - on GBT sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/minordetails/archive.html
  • Robert L. Moore - Man & Mythology - www.menstuff.org/columns/moore/archive.html
  • Dennis W. Neder - Being a Man - general questions about men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/neder/archive.html
  • Marty Nemko - Worklife - general questions about men and work - www.menstuff.org/columns/nemko/archive.html
  • Eli Newberger - Eli Newberger - general information on men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/newberger/archive.html
  • Linda Nielsen - Embracing the Father - working with the father/daughter relationship. www.menstuff.org/columns/nielsen/archive.html
  • Kathy Noll - Bullies and Youth Violence - working with schools, teachers and parents to end school violence - www.menstuff.org/columns/noll/archive.html
  • Mark Phillips - Stay-at-Home-Dads - helping men maintain that which makes us men, instead of becoming hairy Mom-substitutes - www.menstuff.org/columns/phillips/archive.html
  • Carey Roberts - Socialism & Feminism - is a social commentator on political correctness. www.menstuff.org/columns/roberts/archive.html
  • Perry Rose - Dating, Relationship, Sex
  • Glenn Sacks - His Side - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/sacks/archive.html
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  • Carl J. Schutt - Circumcision - social commentator on circumcision - www.menstuff.org/columns/schutt/archive.html
  • Hugo Schwyzer - A Pro-feminist's Response - www.menstuff.org/columns/schwyzer/archive.html
  • Michael Shaffran - Men's Issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/shaffran/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • George Simons - Bellicose Veins - is a US specialist in intercultural and gender communication who hangs out in Mandelieu - la Napoule, France, as well as in Santa Cruz, CA. www.menstuff.org/columns/simons/archive.html
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  • David B. Smith - Fighting Father Dave - www.menstuff.org/columns/smith/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
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AWARENESS EVENTS THIS MONTH

April is Alcohol Awareness; Animal Cruelty Prevention; California Earthquake Preparedness; *Cancer Control, Community Spirit; Couple Appreciation; *Child Abuse Prevention; Holy Humor; Home Improvement Safety; International Amateur Radio; International Customer Loyalty; International Daffynitions; International Legacy; International Twit Award; International Work Life Enrichment; Keep American Beautiful; Mathematics Education; Month of the Young Child; National Autism Awareness; National Humor; National Knuckles Down; National Lawn and Garden; National Poetry Month, National Self-Publishing; National Sexually Transmitted Diseases Education and Awareness; National Youth Sports Safety; Occupational Therapy; Prevent Injuries America; School Library Media; Spring Ahead for Life; Stress Awareness (breathe); World Habitat Awareness; Zam! Zoo and Aquarium Month. And, depending on the school system, it's also Spring Break.

Mar 13-Apr 15: Deaf History Month. Mar 25-Apr 4: Muharram. Mar 26-Apr 2: Navaratri/Gangaur. And Apr 1-7 Testicular Cancer Awareness Week - Get a Grip!, Genital Integrity Awareness Week, Washington, D.C.; Golden Rule; Dumb; International Building Safety; National Blue Ribbon; National Library; National Medical Patient Advocacy; National Occupational Therapy; National Pecan; National Pet First Aid Awareness; National Poetry; Passion; Week of the Young Child Week. Apr 2-6: Strolf-Stretch Week. Apr 2-8: National Public Health Week. Apr 4-10: Hate Week. Apr 6-8: Alcohol-Free Weekend. Apr 8-14: National Garden; National Week of the Ocean; Network Marketing Professionals; *Pan American; Holy Week. Apr 12-18: National Minority Cancer Awareness Week. Apr 15-21: Grange; National Infant Immunization; *National Organ and Tissue Donor Awareness; Reading is Fun Week. Apr 16-20: Consumer Awareness; Egg Salad; Explore Your Career Options; Family Laughing Through Stories; *National Crime Victims Rights; *National Organ and Tissue Donor Awareness; National Organize Your Files; Young People's Poetry Week. Apr 17-23: National Park Week. Apr 21-22: Just Pray No: Worldwide Weekend Prayer. Apr 21-23: Earth Day Weekend. Apr 21-May 2: Festival of Ridvan. Apr 22-28: Administration Professionals; National Karaoke; *National Volunteer; Sky Awareness Week. Apr 22-29: *Jewish Heritage Week. Apr 23-29: Astronomy; National Playground Safety; National TV  Turnoff; National YMCA Week. Apr 29-May 5: *National Science and Technology Week.

Apr 1: April Fools'; Check Your Batteries; Lupus Alert; National Repot Your Plant; Sorry Charlie Day; Testicular Cancer - What is it?, Apr 2: International Children's Book; Reconciliation Day, Testicular Cancer - Symptoms. Apr 3 - Testicular Cancer - What the doctors look for . Apr 4: Thank You, School Librarian; Victims of Violence Holy; Testicular Cancer - Prevention, Apr 5 - National Alcohol Screening; *National Equal Pay; National Fun at Work; National Tomb-Sweeping (Taiwan); Tartan Day; Testicular Cancer - Treatment, Apr 6 - Testicular Cancer - Prognosis, Apr 7 -National Hug Your Newsman; UN World Health Day. Testicular Cancer - Automatic monthly reminder, self-exam and other resources. Apr 8: International Feng Shui Awareness Day. Apr 9: *National Former Prisoner of War Recognition; Winston Churchill Day. Apr 10: National Siblings; Salvation Army Founder's Day. Apr 11:  Barbershop Quarter Day. Apr 12: Vote Lawyers Out of Office Day. Apr 13: Blame Someone Else; National D.A.R.E. Day, Apr 14: International Moment of Laughter; *Pan American; Remembrance Day. Apr 15: National Coin Day. Apr 17: Blah Blah Blah; National Stress Awareness; National Positive Alternatives for Living; Verrazanoo Day. Apr 18: Pet Owners Independence; Third World Day. Apr 19: John Parker Day. Apr 20: Holocaust; National Youth Service Day. Apr 21: Earth Environmental Angels; Kindergarten; San Jacinto Day. Apr 22: Earth Day Anniversary; Girl Scout Leader Day. Apr 25: Administrative Professionals, Parental Alienation and Hostile Aggressive Parenting Awareness Day. Apr 26: Day of Silence; Hug an Australian: National Playground Safety; Richter Scale; Take Our Daughters to Work Day. Apr 27: Hug a Prom Sponsor; National Arbor National Child Care Professionals; National Hairball Awareness Day, Apr 28: Astronomy; Kiss Your Mate; National Sense of Smell; Native American Heritage Day. Apr 29: Mother, Father Deaf; National Puppetry Day. Apr 30: International Dare of Live; International Walk; National Honesty; Spank Out Day USA.

In all of this, don't let Child Abuse Prevention get lost. Check out our extensive sections of issues: Abuse, Circumcision, Gangs, Hazing, Incest/Molestation, Ritual Abuse, Sexual Abuse, Sexual Harassment, Suicide, TV violence, Violence, Domestic Violence, Women's Violence and Prisons. and Books - Abuse of Boys, Child Abuse, Abuse - MPD, Ritual Abuse, Sexual Abuse, Circumcision, Anger, Forgiveness, Violence, Domestic Violence, Sexual Violence, Sexual Harassment, and Women's Violence.

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