Daily Thoughts & Issues

IN THIS ISSUE:

JULY 30

Days left until the next millennium 01.01.3001

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July 30 - Independence Day for Vanuatu. *  Father-In-Law Day. * National Parents Day*. To pay tribute to the men and women across our country whose devotion as parents strengthens our society and forms the foundation for a bright future for America. * The House Judiciary Committee votes to bring three articles of impeachment against President Nixon (1974). * Former Teamsters Union leader, James Riddle Hoffa was last seen on this date (1975) outside a restaurant in Bloomfield Township near Detroit, MI. His 13-year federal prison sentence had been commuted by former President Richard M. Nixon in 1971. On December 8, 1982, seven years and 131 days after his disappearance, an Oakland County judge declared Hoffa officially dead. * Although books bound in soft covers were first introduced in 1841, the modern paperback revolution dates to the publication of the first Penguin paperback by Sir Allen Lane at London in 1935. Penguin Number 1 was Ariel, a life of Shelley by Andre Maurois. * Birthdays: Paul Anka, Peter Bogdanovich, Edd Byrnes, James William (Bill) Cartwright, Laurence Fishburne, Henry Ford, Henry Moore, Christopher Paul (Chris) Mullin, Ken Olin, David Sanborn, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Allan Huber (Bud) Selig, Charles Dillon (Casey) Stengel, Thorstein Veblen

DAILY THOUGHTS

Before you run, check to see if the bulldog has teeth - Les Brown, motivator African American History

The gender crossover that occurs in middle age can throw husbands and wives out of synch. Fear about shifting gender characteristics can emerge on a deep emotional level. It may be another of the reasons we are so phobic about aging, because we feel ourselves changing in a Frankenstein-like way that is out of our control. New Passages

Sex is the greatest thing possible in life. You should cherish every second of your "orgasms." - Kendra 23 Best of 1001 Sex Secrets Every Man & Woman Should Know

To the soul the important thing is talk, not healing. It is much more significant to the soul to talk than it is to find some technique for repairing life. Soul Mates

The first obligation of a genuinely loving person will always be to his or marital and parental relationships. Nonetheless, there are some whose capacity to love is great enough for them to build loving relationships successfully within the family and still have energy left for additional relationships. The Road Less Traveled

Teaching children computer keyboard or typewriter skills improves their spelling abilities. Dr. Buff's 365 Day Parenting Calendar

Excellence is to do a common thing in an uncommon way - Booker T. Washington, Educator African American History

Things to Be Happy About:  Orange sour cream doughnuts. Priority mail. One-pump gas stations. 14,000 Things to Be Happy About

You'll have a lot more respect for a bird after you try making a nest. Really Important Stuff My Kids Have Taught Me

Cool Summer Food: Cucumber Pails are refreshing and fun for kids. Scrub cucumbers and cut off ends. Peel skin in a striped pattern. Cut into 1 1/2" lengths. Using a small spoon, hollow pieces almost to the bottom. Fill centers with egg or tuna salad. Fresh chives make good handles. Parents Tips & Tricks

At some time in your life, you probably had someone believe in you when you didn't believe in yourself. They scripted you. Did that make a difference in your life? What if you were a positive scripter, an affirmer, of other people? Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

Beginning around 1865 and continuing through the turn of the century, it was common for male tightrope walkers to perform while wearing female clothes. Gay & Lesbian Calendar

Serenity Prayer: God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; The courage to change the things I can; And the wisdom to know the difference. Stress Busters

When you've got something to prove, there's nothing greater than a challenge. - Terry Bradshaw  Win the Day!

Aburrido/a (ahbooRREEdoh/dah) Boring. Esa pelicula fue muy aburrida!  That movie was so boring! Living Language

TODAY'S ISSUE: DREAMS

A rock pile ceases to be a rock pile the moment a single man contemplates it, bearing within him the image of a cathedral - Antoine de Saint-Exupery. Images cost nothing and can be so enriching. Every man has some form of rock pile in his life. One has a problem within a relationship, another is burdened with the daily routine of living, someone else has a perplexing job, and another has too much time on his hands. We can open ourselves to images of what might be. Let us dream of other possibilities. We know it takes many years to build a cathedral, but each cathedral began as an image in someone's mind. What would we like to grow toward in our relationships?  What can we do within ourselves today to carry us in that direction?  Do we envision ourselves as successful in our work?  What small steps will carry us toward the visions we cherish?  Today, I am grateful for my imagination. I will be open to having faith in possibilities. Touchstones

Get in, get into the place that's your nature, whether it's running a corporation or picking daisies in the field, get in there and live to it, live to the fullness of it, become what you are, and I'll say to you, you've done more than most men. Most men...most of them don't ever do that. They'll work at a job and not know why. They'll marry a women and not know why. They'll go to their graves and not know why - E. L. Doctor. What Ed is saying is so important. He's talking about trusting ourselves, our inner core, and allowing our passion to rise and bloom. So often we're on "automatic", getting to our job, getting through our day, making it home, to start all over, to make sure we've covered our bases, paid the mortgage, made it to the back on time. Doctor wants us to dream, and allow our dreams to lead us. Like the main character in the film Fields of Dreams, get out there, mow down the corn, and put a baseball field in our backyards. Get out there and do whatever it is we're meant to do. Live our own lives, "live to the fullness."  Today I'll begin to trust my dreams, and maybe even hear them for the first time. Meditations For Men Who Do Too Much

I appeal to parents: Never, never say, "Hurry up," to a child. Vladimir Nabokov. Children, who are learning so much about the world so fast, need time to daydream. Daydreams let the systematic parts of the brain rest, and give exercise to the visionary ones. Inside every adult is a child with the same needs. Too often, adults hustle children along as though they were slightly defective machines that need constant cleaning, feeding and reprimanding in order to function. If we've been treated this way, we may have learned to be ashamed of our daydreaming selves. We hide them, and soon they retreat far beyond our conscious power to enjoy them. The power to dream and to imagine is precious; it can enrich our lives and widen our possibilities. We want to nourish it, not stifle it, in our children and in ourselves. We needn't be afraid that the dreamers will forget to brush their teeth, to flush, or to get up on time. Those who have had ample time for dreaming have well-nourished spirits; they will be generous and considerate with others as well as with themselves. Schedules are for convenience, so that I will have enough time to do everything I want to do - including daydreaming. Family Feelings

Retrieving Dreams. Imagination is more important than knowledge - Albert Einstein. If we believe that our dream life is at least as important as our waking life, what wonders might occur?  Intuition is as real and dependable as anything that can be scientifically observed. We know from experience that we become what we imagine. We don't just burst forth as we are, full-blown, without a clue. We may not be able to prove or quantify this knowledge, but we do possess it. Men can make dreaming, hunches, and musings important again if we try. After all, we were pretty good at it when we were children. We haven't lost the ability to wonder; we've just let it get rusty. Daily, we used to dream ourselves into giants, kings, unheard-of creatures, magicians, rock stars, astronauts. We always intuitively knew where the treasure was buried and exactly what steps we had to take to retrieve it. We have this knowledge still, if we will use it. Today I'll take time to dream. I'll sail into waters filled with pirates and piranhas - intellect, logic and reason. I'll retrieve my dreams and present them as a gift to myself in the waking world. A Quiet Strength: Meditations on the Masculine Soul

Hey Man: Did you make a difference yesterday? Let us know at Contact Us. Act on your dreams. Now. What Every Man Needs to Know Want to make a difference but you don't know where to start?

BOOK OF THE WEEK

How to Be the One by Roy Sheppard. For men and women who take relationships seriously. Which of these qualities are the most important to you? Do you want someone who is kind, considerate, committed, honest, reliable, loving, compassionate, happy, interesting, optimistic, GSOH, intelligent and physically attractive? How many of these same qualities do you possess? Why would anyone choose to stop their own search once they've met you? Especially in today's online world where almost everyone is now only a click away from being the "ex" in "n-ex-t". In this book, you will learn how to improve your Emotional Fitness by strengthening your Emotional Core: the four qualities that provide you with the emotional stability, depth, and strength to make you as irresistible to a partner as they are to you. Adopt and absorb life-changing wisdom, insights and practical ideas to improve your current relationship or prepare yourself for The One you have yet to meet. www.RoySpeaks.com, 2010 Centre www.BeTheOneBook.com, ISBN 978-1901534139

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  • Robert N. Minor - Minor Details - on GBT sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/minordetails/archive.html
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  • Carey Roberts - Socialism & Feminism - is a social commentator on political correctness. www.menstuff.org/columns/roberts/archive.html
  • Perry Rose - Dating, Relationship, Sex
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  • Judith Sherven - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
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  • David B. Smith - Fighting Father Dave - www.menstuff.org/columns/smith/archive.html
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AWARENESS EVENTS THIS MONTH

July is Freedom Month. If you enjoy the benefits this country has to offer, you might check out what kind of men it took to found this country. The Fourth of July has more to it than beer, picnics, and baseball games. Read this! July is Anti-Boredom; National Mobility; Purposeful Parenting: Recreation and Parks; The month of the Muslim new year; Hemochromatosis Screening Awareness; National Foreign Language Month.

June 27 - July 4: Special Recreation Week. June 25-July 1: Deaf-Blindness Awareness Week. June 27 - July 4: Special Recreation Week. Jul 1-8 Music for Life; July 3-Aug 15: Air Conditioning Appreciation Days. Jul 4-10 - Freedom Week. July 8:-14: National Laundry Workers; National Therapeutic Recreation: Take Charge of Change Week. Jul 9-15 - Nude Recreation. July 15-21: *Captive Nations; Legal Revolution; National Plan to Promote Your Business Week. Jul 1 UN Day of Cooperation; International Joke; National Financial Freedom; National Recreation and Parks; National Purposeful Parenting, Jul 2 - I Forgot; Ducktona 500 Day; July 3: Compliment Your Mirror: Stay Out of the Sun Day. Jul 4 - Independence Day (U.S.); American Redneck; Fear from Fear of Speaking ; Independence-from-Meat Day; Sidewalk Egg Frying; Jul 5 - National Family Day, July 7: Father-Daughter Take a Walk Together; International UN Day of Cooperation. July 9: Don't Step on a Bee Day. July 10: Intern Appreciation Day. July 13: Skeptics' Day. July 14: Cow Apprecaition Day. July 15: National Ice Cream; Saint Swithin's Day. July 16: International Town Criers; Naitonal Get Out of the Doghouse Day. July 17: Wrong Way Corrigan Day. Jul 20 - Ugly Truck; Riot Act anniversary. July 21: Rat-Catchers Day. Jul 22 - Ice Cream Cone Day. July 23: Hot Enough For Ya Day. July 24: Cousins; Health and Happiness with Hypnosis Day. Jul 27 - *National Korean War Veterans Armistice; Take Your Houseplants for a Walk Day. July 29: *Parents' Day. Jul 30 - Father-In-Law Day, National Parent's Day.

* Means a Presidential Proclamation has been made.

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