Daily Thoughts & Issues

IN THIS ISSUE:

JULY 26

Days left until the next millennium 01.01.3001

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Achieve Your Dreams

July 26 - Independence Day in Liberia and Maldives. * Americans with Disabilities Act signed (1990) which went into effect two years later. It required that public facilities be made accessible to the disabled. * Day discrimination against the disabled was prohibited in public accommodations and employment (1990); day to celebrate empowerment of the disabled. The Mystic's Wheel of the Year * The US cruiser Indianapolis arrived at Tinian Island in the Marianas with a deadly cargo (1945). Aboard were the makings of the atomic bomb. On the island waited scientists prepared to complete the assembly. * During WWII (1944) the US Army ordered desegregation of its training camp facilities. Later the same year black platoons were assigned to white companies in a tentative step toward integration of the battlefield. However, it was not until after the war, (7/26/48) that President Harry Truman signed an order officially integrating the armed forces. * After harassing Union forces in Tennessee and Ohio throughout the Civil War, Confederate raider John Hunt Morgan was captured at New Lisbon, OH was imprisoned in the Ohio Penitentiary, from which he later escaped. * Apollo 15 (US) landed on moon (lunar module Falson) while another astronaut piloted command module Endeavor. Rover 1, a four-wheel vehicle, was used for further exploration. * Armed Forces unifying the War Department (Army) and the Navy. (1947) The Air Force was separated from the Army at the same time. * Birthdays: Blake Edwards, Aldous Huxley, Mick (Michael Philip) Jaggar, Dr. Carl Gustav Jung, Stanley Kubrick, Jeremy Piven, Jason Robards, George Bernard Shaw, Kevin Spacey.

DAILY THOUGHTS

Jet Lag Tips:  Avoid alcohol when flying. Wear loose clothing and try to sleep on the plane. Rest and eat when you feel the need, not according to the local clock. Expect a cumulative effect, and plan travel accordingly. The Old Farmer's Almanac

Our task in this technological era is to develop the art and craft of intimate expression: taking the time to write a letter, or to buy or make a special gift; allowing meaningful nuances to reach the soul of the other. Soul Mates Calendar

My favorite part of making love is, after we're finished, my wife gives the tip of my penis a little kiss - Scott, 35 Best of 1001 Sex Secrets Every Man & Woman Should Know

True love is not a feeling by which we are overwhelmed. It is a committed, thoughtful decision. The Road Less Traveled Calendar

Do you enjoy showing off your children's abilities?  Just remember that children love it but adolescents hate it!  Dr. Buff's 365 Day Parenting Calendar

You cannot create experience, you undergo it. - Albert Camus. Achieve Your Dreams

Things to Be Happy About:  A relaxed mind. Stick-togerther families. Undivided attention. 14,000 Things to Be Happy About

You can either keep pedaling, get off the bike, or fall over. Really Important Stuff My Kids Have Taught Me

Every person creates his or her own reality. Authorship of your life is on of your absolute rights; yet so often people deny that they have the ability to script the life they desire. They often use the excuse that they cannot do what they want to do or get what they desire in life because they lack the resources to do it. They look past the fundamental truth that it is not our external resources that determine our success or failure, but rather our own belief in ourselves and our willingness to create a life according to our highest aspirations. If Life is a Game, These are the Rules

Whether you are the president of a company or the janitor, the moment you step from independence into interdependence in any capacity, you step into a leadership role. You are in a position of influencing other people. And the habit of effective interpersonal leadership is Think Win/Win,  Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

Figure you the right foods for you. When it comes to specifics, the best way to figure out what we should be eating is to listen. This takes time and patience, and experimentation. But the more you pay attention to your body's responses, the clearer the messages will be that help you decide what the optimum foods are or you. Simplify Your Life

Alert: Crib Slats: To prevent a baby's head or body from getting caught, crib slats should be no more than 2 3/8" apart. But even if slats are safely spaced, the can loosen or fall off, creating a gap that could put a baby at risk for suffocation or strangulation. Periodically pull and twist each slat in your child's crib. If any feel loose or come off, stop using the crib and notify The Consumer Product Safety Commission at 800.638.CPSC. Parents Tips & Tricks

Wendy Carlos, born in 1939 as Walter Carlos, is best known for her contribution to electronic music, including her involvement in the creation of the Moog synthesizer, her 1968 recording of Switched-On Bach, and her film score for the 1971 movie, A Clockwork Orange. Gay & Lesbian Calendar

Drink plenty of fluids while exercising to avoid the physical stress of dehydration. Stress Busters

For your kids:  Question things, like why the sky is blue. Then make p stories to answer your questions. For example: Long ago, blueberries could fly. One day, they flew into the sky and got stuck in clouds. The sky has been blue ever since!  To Do Today

To being to think with purpose is to enter the ranks of those strong ones who only recognize failure as one of the pathways to attainment. - James Allen Win the Day! 

La puesta del sol (PWEHstah dehl SOHL)  Sunset. La pareja vio la puesta del sol desde su habitacion. The couple watched the sunset from their room. Living Language

TODAY'S ISSUE: DISABILITY

I'm a Tab

Many years ago, there was a gathering called The California Men's Gathering (CMG) where as many as 400+ people would gather a couple times a year over a three-day weekend to connect, have workshops on issues, both personal and political, and have fun together. (It began over 20 years ago.) One weekend was for men and children, the other was open to everyone. Both weekends presented interesting challenges, men working on their issues in a safe environment from judgment and criticism, and one where we were exposed to, in most cases, positive feedback when our work was observed by women. It came out a visit several men had made to one of the early national conferences on Men & Masculinity. Within the CMG, a more political group formed: The California Anti-Sexist Men's Political Caucus (CAMP Caucus). This group would sponsor most of the "the personal is political" kinds of workshops and also plan and do more political activities throughout the year. Demonstrations against sexism at the Miss California Pageant, demonstrations against men's violence against women, and formed a number of Men's Alternatives to Violence programs around the state, confronting racist attitudes and behaviors - one of its attendee's produced the films Stolen Ground, The Color of Fear, and Walking Each Other Home - The Color of Fear II dealing with racial discrimination, and many other issues. At one gathering, we were all given a sticker "I'm a TAB" and were asked to wear it proudly throughout the weekend. Because, those that had one of the stickers were very special people. They had unique attributes and abilities that allowed them to do things that many others couldn't. But, that it would only be a matter of time when things would change for most of them. So, we wore the stickers, and wondered what the organizers were talking about.

Well, the last day of the gathering finally came and we all gathered in the main hall at Camp Swig in Saratoga. Several hundred of us, of many races, sexes (we've learned there are 23 different sexes), religions, and abilities. On stage were several of our members. A man who went on to create and perform in an incredible show called "I'm a Dancer". He was wheelchair reliant and spoke by typing his conversation on a voice computer. Another was blind with a seeing eye dog. They hadn't been wearing the stickers, but NOONE noticed all weekend. They asked us to put on the bandanas that had been sitting under our seats, not on our arms, but over our eyes. And then they talked about how the world that we take for granted was a very different world for them. Not only from a relational standpoint, but from a physical one as well. The difficulty in finding bathrooms and doorways and ramps and sidewalks that can allow them to function on their own in this world. And, they asked that we do what we can when we have the ability, to change things for the better. On a purely selfish note, how would I want the world to be if I were disabled? For, it is said that 80% of us will end up disabled in some form before they die. "I'm a TAB" now, but chances are, I won't be forever. I've got special abilities now, but chances are I won't have them forever. What's a TAB? Temporarily Able Bodied. Think about it!

Disability Issues, Resources

Hey Man: Did you make a difference yesterday? Let us know at Contact Us. I will walk in the world today being hyper sensitive to the limits the world would present to me if I weren't able bodied. I will note those areas where I might be able to make a difference, and actively find at least one thing that I could change. In the world I have control over and in the outside world. I will consider speaking out at City Hall, asking for a review of policies and at the Chamber of Commerce or Junior Chamber of Commerce, talk with others about things we might change as a group, or simply pick up a bottle or can or wade of paper on the sidewalk that someone without my abilities might not see. What will you do to make this world more accessible now for when you get older? Want to make a difference but you don't know where to start? Volunteer some time,

BOOK OF THE WEEK

How to Be the One by Roy Sheppard. For men and women who take relationships seriously. Which of these qualities are the most important to you? Do you want someone who is kind, considerate, committed, honest, reliable, loving, compassionate, happy, interesting, optimistic, GSOH, intelligent and physically attractive? How many of these same qualities do you possess? Why would anyone choose to stop their own search once they've met you? Especially in today's online world where almost everyone is now only a click away from being the "ex" in "n-ex-t". In this book, you will learn how to improve your Emotional Fitness by strengthening your Emotional Core: the four qualities that provide you with the emotional stability, depth, and strength to make you as irresistible to a partner as they are to you. Adopt and absorb life-changing wisdom, insights and practical ideas to improve your current relationship or prepare yourself for The One you have yet to meet. www.RoySpeaks.com, 2010 Centre www.BeTheOneBook.com, ISBN 978-1901534139

SPECIAL URLs

 

MENSTUFF COLUMNS BY AUTHOR

  • The Advice Diva - The Advice Diva - relationship and sexuality issues discussed - www.menstuff.org/columns/advicediva/archive.html
  • Peter Alsop - Song of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/alsop/archive.html
  • Reid Baer - A Man Overboard - Interview of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/overboard/archive.html
  • Reid Baer - Poetry - poetry read on YouTube - www.menstuff.org/columns/baer/archive.html
  • Molly Barrow - Shrink About This - www.menstuff.org/columns/barrow/archive.html
  • Peter Baylies - At Home Dads - on at-home-dad issues that impact fathers who stay at home to raise their kids - www.menstuff.org/columns/baylies/archive.html
  • Tom Blake - Middle-Age Relationships - from an expert on dating after 50. www.menstuff.org/columns/blake/archive.html
  • Mark Brandenburg - Great Fathers - on fathering issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/greatfathers/archive.html
  • Ted Braude - BoysWork - a columnist in the The Detroit Free Press "Body and Mind" section www.menstuff.org/columns/braude/archive.html
  • Armin Brott - A Father's Guide - hosts "Positive Parenting" on radio www.menstuff.org/columns/brott/archive.html
  • Dan Bulf - Get Real - weekly pod cast on men's issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/bulf/archive.html
  • Ken Byers - Transition - on men's life transitions - www.menstuff.org/columns/byers/archive.html
  • Sandra L. Caron - Sex Talk - college students get answers to their questions - www.menstuff.org/columns/sextalk/archive.html
  • Neil Chethik - Relationships - www.menstuff.org/columns/chethik/archive.html
  • Otto & Susie Collins - Susie and Otto - relationship issues discussed - www.menstuff.org/columns/susie&otto/archive.html
  • David Copeland - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Forrest Craver - Spirituality & Social Change - www.menstuff.org/columns/craver/archive.html
  • Layne & Paul Cutright - Powerful Partnerships - relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/cutright/archive.html
  • Ron DesMarais - Cavemen in the Kitchen - great recipes for men - www.menstuff.org/columns/desmarais/archive.html
  • Jed Diamond - Irritable Male Syndrome - www.menstuff.org/columns/diamond/archive.html
  • Doc Love - Women Don't Lie, Man Don't Listen - answers to relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/doclov/archive.html
  • Barry Durdant-Hollamby - Creating Change - creating change in your life - www.menstuff.org/columns/durdant/archive.html
  • Irv Engel - The Real Deal - www.menstuff.org/columns/engel/archive.html
  • Nancy Fagan - Expert Dating Advice - with Nancy Fagan - www.menstuf.org/columns/fagan/archive.html
  • Warren Farrell - Men's Issues: Facts and Perspectives www.menstuff.org/columns/farrell/archive.html
  • Leonard Felder - Wake Up or Break Up - www.menstuff.org/columns/felder/archive.html
  • Marty Friedman - Strong Men, Strong Marriage - www.menstuff.org/columns/friedman/archive.html
  • Kim Garretson - Mansgland - using humor to encourage prostate exams - www.menstuff.org/columns/mansgland/archive.html
  • Lion Goodman - How to get Women to Love You - www.menstuff.org/columns/goodman/archive.html
  • Liz Halliday - In a Man's World - www.menstuff.org/columns/halliday/archive.html
  • Rick Hanson - Your Wise Brain - www.menstuff.org/columns/hanson/archive.html
  • Tim Hartnett - Daddyman Speaks - being a father www.menstuff.org/columns/daddyman/archive.html
  • John Hershey - Blood, Phlegm & Bile: Parenting with Humor - He writes a syndicated biweekly humor column about parenting and family life. www.menstuff.org/columns/hershey/archive.html
  • Gary Hoeber - Psychotherapy as Soul Work, www.menstuff.org/columns/hoeber/archive.html
  • Patrick Houser - Fathers Make a World of Difference, www.menstuff.org/columns/houser/archive.html
  • Paul Joannides - The Guide to Getting It On - on sex - www.menstuff.org/columns/getiton/archive.html
  • Jack Kahn - NOMAS Boston - www.menstuff.org/columns/kahn/archive.html
  • Patrick Kennedy - Seniors - www.menstuff.org/columns/kennedy/archive.html
  • Joe Kort - Gaydar - to increase understanding between gay and het men - www.menstuff.org/columns/kort/archive.html
  • David Kundtz - David Kundtz - presents seminars, workshops, retreats, and conference presentations in the areas of men's emotional health, stress management, and spirituality. www.menstuff.org/columns/kundtz/archive.html
  • Bruce Linton - Dr. Dad - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/drdad/archive.html
  • Ron Louis - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Tom Matlack - Tom Matlack - Good Men Project - www.menstuff.org/columns/matlack/archive.html
  • Wendy McElroy - Wendy McElroy on Feminism, www.menstuff.org/columns/mcelroy/archive.html
  • Robert N. Minor - Minor Details - on GBT sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/minordetails/archive.html
  • Robert L. Moore - Man & Mythology - www.menstuff.org/columns/moore/archive.html
  • Dennis W. Neder - Being a Man - general questions about men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/neder/archive.html
  • Marty Nemko - Worklife - general questions about men and work - www.menstuff.org/columns/nemko/archive.html
  • Eli Newberger - Eli Newberger - general information on men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/newberger/archive.html
  • Linda Nielsen - Embracing the Father - working with the father/daughter relationship. www.menstuff.org/columns/nielsen/archive.html
  • Kathy Noll - Bullies and Youth Violence - working with schools, teachers and parents to end school violence - www.menstuff.org/columns/noll/archive.html
  • Mark Phillips - Stay-at-Home-Dads - helping men maintain that which makes us men, instead of becoming hairy Mom-substitutes - www.menstuff.org/columns/phillips/archive.html
  • Carey Roberts - Socialism & Feminism - is a social commentator on political correctness. www.menstuff.org/columns/roberts/archive.html
  • Perry Rose - Dating, Relationship, Sex
  • Glenn Sacks - His Side - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/sacks/archive.html
  • Trudy Schuett - Domestic Violence - serving the under-represented www.menstuff.org/columns/schuett/archive.html
  • Carl J. Schutt - Circumcision - social commentator on circumcision - www.menstuff.org/columns/schutt/archive.html
  • Hugo Schwyzer - A Pro-feminist's Response - www.menstuff.org/columns/schwyzer/archive.html
  • Michael Shaffran - Men's Issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/shaffran/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • George Simons - Bellicose Veins - is a US specialist in intercultural and gender communication who hangs out in Mandelieu - la Napoule, France, as well as in Santa Cruz, CA. www.menstuff.org/columns/simons/archive.html
  • Andy Smith - Hard Hat Brotherhood - www.menstuff.org/columns/hardhat/archive.html
  • David B. Smith - Fighting Father Dave - www.menstuff.org/columns/smith/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • Reena Sommer - Custody - is an internationally recognized relationship and divorce consultant. www.menstuff.org/columns/sommer/archive.html
  • R. Don Steele - Don Steele - relationship questions answered -
    www.menstuff.org/columns/steele/archive.html
  • David Steinberg - Comes Naturally - on sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/steinberg/archive.html
  • Mary Lou St Lucas - A Mother's Love - www.menstuf.org/columns/stlucas/archive.html
  • Surprise - Surprise Author - From a new columnist every month - www.menstuff.org/columns/surprise/archive.html
  • Steven Svoboda - Fatherhood, Activism and the Law www.menstuff.org/columns/svoboda/archive.html
  • Michael Taylor - A New Conversation with Men - www.menstuff.org/columns/taylor/archive.html
  • Bruce Van Horn - Yoga for Men - issues around the health benefits of yoga for men - www.menstuff.org/yoga/archive.html
  • Michael Webb - Secrets of Blissful Relationships - on relationship - www.menstuff.org/columns/bliss/archive.html
  • Stuart Wilde - Spirituality - www.menstuff.org/columns/wilde/archive.html
  • Dr.Williams - Sex Health - on sexual health - Dr. Williams, www.menstuff.org/columns/sexhealth/archive.html
  • KC Wilson - On Gender Politics is a social commentator and author. www.menstuff.org/columns/wilson/archive.html

Plus

  • Health Tips - on general health - www.menstuff.org/columns/healthtips/archive.html
  • Independent Means - resources for raising financially fit kids - www.menstuff.org/columns/independentmeans/archive.html
  • Numbers - www.menstuff.org/columns/numbers/archive.html
  • Questions - www.menstuff.org/columns/q&a/archive.html
  • Surprise - from a new columnist every month - www.menstuff.org/columns/surprise/archive.html
  • Words Can Heal - helping children grow up healthy - www.menstuff.org/columns/wordscanheal/archive.html
  • Wuzup?! - National or international events happening this month - www.menstuff.org/columns/whassup/archive.html

AWARENESS EVENTS THIS MONTH

July is Freedom Month. If you enjoy the benefits this country has to offer, you might check out what kind of men it took to found this country. The Fourth of July has more to it than beer, picnics, and baseball games. Read this! July is Anti-Boredom; National Mobility; Purposeful Parenting: Recreation and Parks; The month of the Muslim new year; Hemochromatosis Screening Awareness; National Foreign Language Month.

June 27 - July 4: Special Recreation Week. June 25-July 1: Deaf-Blindness Awareness Week. June 27 - July 4: Special Recreation Week. Jul 1-8 Music for Life; July 3-Aug 15: Air Conditioning Appreciation Days. Jul 4-10 - Freedom Week. July 8:-14: National Laundry Workers; National Therapeutic Recreation: Take Charge of Change Week. Jul 9-15 - Nude Recreation. July 15-21: *Captive Nations; Legal Revolution; National Plan to Promote Your Business Week. Jul 1 UN Day of Cooperation; International Joke; National Financial Freedom; National Recreation and Parks; National Purposeful Parenting, Jul 2 - I Forgot; Ducktona 500 Day; July 3: Compliment Your Mirror: Stay Out of the Sun Day. Jul 4 - Independence Day (U.S.); American Redneck; Fear from Fear of Speaking ; Independence-from-Meat Day; Sidewalk Egg Frying; Jul 5 - National Family Day, July 7: Father-Daughter Take a Walk Together; International UN Day of Cooperation. July 9: Don't Step on a Bee Day. July 10: Intern Appreciation Day. July 13: Skeptics' Day. July 14: Cow Apprecaition Day. July 15: National Ice Cream; Saint Swithin's Day. July 16: International Town Criers; Naitonal Get Out of the Doghouse Day. July 17: Wrong Way Corrigan Day. Jul 20 - Ugly Truck; Riot Act anniversary. July 21: Rat-Catchers Day. Jul 22 - Ice Cream Cone Day. July 23: Hot Enough For Ya Day. July 24: Cousins; Health and Happiness with Hypnosis Day. Jul 27 - *National Korean War Veterans Armistice; Take Your Houseplants for a Walk Day. July 29: *Parents' Day. Jul 30 - Father-In-Law Day, National Parent's Day.

* Means a Presidential Proclamation has been made.

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