Daily Thoughts & Issues

IN THIS ISSUE:

JULY 10

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July 10 - Independence Day in the Bahamas. * The first Korean war truce talks are held between Korean and U.N. representatives. (1951). * Day Pope John Paul II acknowledged the evil of sexism and apologized for the Catholic Church's past oppression of women (1995); day to mourn the continued subordination of women by the Church. * Allied Invasion of Sicily (1943) Operation Husky, the Allied infantry attack on Italy, began on the island of Sicily and was described as "the first page in the liberation of the European Continent." *  Intern Appreciation Day. * Rainbow Warrior Sinking, operated by Greenpeace, an environmental organization. It was sunk and a photographer abroad was killed while the ship was at Auckland, New Zealand. Reportedly a bomb was attached to the underside of the ship by saboteurs. The ship had been scheduled for use in a protest against nuclear tests in the South Pacific Ocean by the French government. * Telstar, the first privately owned satellite (AT&T) and first satellite to relay live TV pictures across the Atlantic was launched (1962). * Boris Yeltson took the oath of office as the first popularly elected president in Russia's 1,000-year history. (1991). * US lifts sanctions against South Africa (1991). The sanctions had been imposed through the Comprehensive Anti-Apartheid Act of 1986, which Congress had passed to punish South Africa for policies of racial separation. * Birthdays: David Brinkley, Arthur Ashe, Roger Timothy Craig, Andre Nolan Dawson, David Norman Dinkins, Arlo Guthrie, Jerry Herman, Lawrence Pressman. James Abbott McNeill Whistler, Marcel Proust, John Calvin, John Gilbert, Frederick Hubbard Gwynne, Saul Bellow, Ron Glass.

DAILY THOUGHTS

Physically, a man entering male menopause notices a gradual decrease in muscle mass and strength and an increase in body fat. Hormonal changes can bring on symptoms ranging from broken sleep, lethargy, and depressions, to the cerebral signs of irritability, nervousness, trouble concentrating, memory lapses, and mood swings. In addition, there may be numbness and tingling, headaches, dizzy spells and even night sweats. New Passages

Many children labeled hyperactive by teachers and parents are curious gifted children who are bored. No child or adult can sit still when bored. Dr. Buff's 365 Day Parenting Calendar (Until we give them drugs to numb them out - ed)

As a tonic for our troubled world, friendship and behaving with consideration and care may seem light and even frivolous, but that could be because we have lost a sensitivity to the values of soul. Soul Mates

The best is when men let their lust take over and stop worrying about everything else - Cheryl, 24. Best of 1001 Sex Secrets Every Man & Woman Should Know

Count again: what has six legs, 13 body sections (two of them joined), and ten nostrils?  All caterpillars do. Don't be fooled by the false prolegs, which help them attach to leaves and other edibles. Their real legs resemble claws and are located near their heads. Their nostrils, on the other hand, extend down the length of their bodies. The Old Farmer's Almanac

Self-reverence, self-knowledge, self-control - these three alone lead to success. - Alfred Lord Tennyson. Achieve Your Dreams

Things to Be Happy About: The squeak of a hammock. Soulful glances. Meteor spotting. 14,000 Things to Be Happy About

Sometimes your best move is blocked by your own checkers.  Really Important Stuff My Kids Have Taught Me

Support is holding up from underneath. You support someone when you willingly step forward to strengthen, energize and help them through a challenging time. Yet the great irony is that when you support others, you are also, in fact, supporting yourself. When you withhold support from others, it is usually an indicator that you are also withholding support from yourself.  If Life is a Game, These are the Rules

One a 10-point scale, if I am at level two in a any field and desire to move to level five, I must first take the step toward level three. "A thousand-mile journey begins with the first step" and can only be taken one step at a time.  Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

Take a few minutes each evening just before bedtime to review your day. These few minutes give you a chance to slow down, unwind, enjoy the silence, and tap into any messages from the universe that might assist you as you go along. Not only will it help you stay on course for the things you want to accomplish at an inner level, but clearing away any mental, emotional, or psychic clutter will make it easier for you to get a good night's sleep. Simplify Your Life

Perfectionism. If you're still trying to maintain prekid standards long after the children have arrived, you may be dealing with one of the toughest internal stressors: perfectionism. Feeling compelled to manage the perfect house, kids, and career robs a parent of the ability to make choices and an drive anxiety levels off the charts. What to do? The hidden anxiety behind many a perfectionist is the desire to please others. While there is nothing wrong with doing this in moderation, get to the root of what pleases you and make sure you are prioritizing your responsibilities accordingly. Parents Tips & Tricks

Learn to set effective priorities. On you list of things to do, put an "A" by things that are high priority, a "B" by things that are of moderate priority, and a "C" by low-priority items. Attend to your "A" list first, before moving on to lesser priority items. Stress Busters

Play this game on your next drive with the family. Maybe just take a drive just to play this game. Search for the alphabet while on a drive. Start at A and work your way to Z. Find letters of the alphabet (in order) on signs, billboards, trucks, etc. For example, N could be from a "No Parking" sign.  To Do Today

The best thing about the future is that it comes only one day at a time. - Abraham Lincoln Win the Day!

El pariente. (pahrYEHNteh) Relative. Somos parientes lejanos. We are distant relatives. Living Language

TODAY'S ISSUE: RECOVERY

We learn more by seeing someone play good tennis than by reading a book about how to play good tennis - W. Timothy Gallwey. In our program we learn from each other. Most of us would rather have thought our problems through on our own or read about them without having to ask for help. Recovery requires us to break this old habit. We can no longer say at a meeting, "I had some problems this week, but I've worked them out now" or "I know what I have to do."  The change for us is to ask for help from other men in this program. We need to say, "What do you think about my problem?" or "Would you be willing to talk to me for a while?"  Having a sponsor is an important way of getting to know how another man applies his program to his life. We need to select a sponsor we admire, who has learned the Steps well and who truly lives them. Then we need to spend time with our sponsor outside of meetings, perhaps while drinking a cup of coffee or going for a walk. By associating with others who are diligent about recovery, we will learn more than we could any other way. Today, I will make personal contact with others in the program. Touchstones

Cheerleaders: Recovery is like a race. We are trying to get through life without becoming sidetracked. It's important to have people cheering for you as you run the race. Several people in my life have been there to cheer me on when things were rough. Each has cheered in different ways and for different reasons, but their cheers kept me on the path. I think of my high school buddies who cheered me with words. I also think of the people who believed in me through college. A special woman who believed in me sent me money to pay my seminary tuition. Today, my needs for cheering are different, and God provides cheerers in different ways. There are my wife, my young daughter, my boss, my friends. Each of us has a race to win. Each of us needs to have a support group of people who cheer us on when we are discouraged. Give me people to cheer me on as I run the race to victory. B.N. The Man Within

Remember that well-being is something other than being well-off. We falsely learn to believe that our happiness depends on how much money we have. Ask yourself if the happiest times of your life have been the times when you made the most money. Maybe your unhappiness is not about money. What Every Man Needs to Know

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MENSTUFF COLUMNS BY AUTHOR

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  • Peter Alsop - Song of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/alsop/archive.html
  • Reid Baer - A Man Overboard - Interview of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/overboard/archive.html
  • Reid Baer - Poetry - poetry read on YouTube - www.menstuff.org/columns/baer/archive.html
  • Molly Barrow - Shrink About This - www.menstuff.org/columns/barrow/archive.html
  • Peter Baylies - At Home Dads - on at-home-dad issues that impact fathers who stay at home to raise their kids - www.menstuff.org/columns/baylies/archive.html
  • Tom Blake - Middle-Age Relationships - from an expert on dating after 50. www.menstuff.org/columns/blake/archive.html
  • Mark Brandenburg - Great Fathers - on fathering issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/greatfathers/archive.html
  • Ted Braude - BoysWork - a columnist in the The Detroit Free Press "Body and Mind" section www.menstuff.org/columns/braude/archive.html
  • Armin Brott - A Father's Guide - hosts "Positive Parenting" on radio www.menstuff.org/columns/brott/archive.html
  • Dan Bulf - Get Real - weekly pod cast on men's issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/bulf/archive.html
  • Ken Byers - Transition - on men's life transitions - www.menstuff.org/columns/byers/archive.html
  • Sandra L. Caron - Sex Talk - college students get answers to their questions - www.menstuff.org/columns/sextalk/archive.html
  • Neil Chethik - Relationships - www.menstuff.org/columns/chethik/archive.html
  • Otto & Susie Collins - Susie and Otto - relationship issues discussed - www.menstuff.org/columns/susie&otto/archive.html
  • David Copeland - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Forrest Craver - Spirituality & Social Change - www.menstuff.org/columns/craver/archive.html
  • Layne & Paul Cutright - Powerful Partnerships - relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/cutright/archive.html
  • Ron DesMarais - Cavemen in the Kitchen - great recipes for men - www.menstuff.org/columns/desmarais/archive.html
  • Jed Diamond - Irritable Male Syndrome - www.menstuff.org/columns/diamond/archive.html
  • Doc Love - Women Don't Lie, Man Don't Listen - answers to relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/doclov/archive.html
  • Barry Durdant-Hollamby - Creating Change - creating change in your life - www.menstuff.org/columns/durdant/archive.html
  • Irv Engel - The Real Deal - www.menstuff.org/columns/engel/archive.html
  • Nancy Fagan - Expert Dating Advice - with Nancy Fagan - www.menstuf.org/columns/fagan/archive.html
  • Warren Farrell - Men's Issues: Facts and Perspectives www.menstuff.org/columns/farrell/archive.html
  • Leonard Felder - Wake Up or Break Up - www.menstuff.org/columns/felder/archive.html
  • Marty Friedman - Strong Men, Strong Marriage - www.menstuff.org/columns/friedman/archive.html
  • Kim Garretson - Mansgland - using humor to encourage prostate exams - www.menstuff.org/columns/mansgland/archive.html
  • Lion Goodman - How to get Women to Love You - www.menstuff.org/columns/goodman/archive.html
  • Liz Halliday - In a Man's World - www.menstuff.org/columns/halliday/archive.html
  • Rick Hanson - Your Wise Brain - www.menstuff.org/columns/hanson/archive.html
  • Tim Hartnett - Daddyman Speaks - being a father www.menstuff.org/columns/daddyman/archive.html
  • John Hershey - Blood, Phlegm & Bile: Parenting with Humor - He writes a syndicated biweekly humor column about parenting and family life. www.menstuff.org/columns/hershey/archive.html
  • Gary Hoeber - Psychotherapy as Soul Work, www.menstuff.org/columns/hoeber/archive.html
  • Patrick Houser - Fathers Make a World of Difference, www.menstuff.org/columns/houser/archive.html
  • Paul Joannides - The Guide to Getting It On - on sex - www.menstuff.org/columns/getiton/archive.html
  • Jack Kahn - NOMAS Boston - www.menstuff.org/columns/kahn/archive.html
  • Patrick Kennedy - Seniors - www.menstuff.org/columns/kennedy/archive.html
  • Joe Kort - Gaydar - to increase understanding between gay and het men - www.menstuff.org/columns/kort/archive.html
  • David Kundtz - David Kundtz - presents seminars, workshops, retreats, and conference presentations in the areas of men's emotional health, stress management, and spirituality. www.menstuff.org/columns/kundtz/archive.html
  • Bruce Linton - Dr. Dad - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/drdad/archive.html
  • Ron Louis - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Tom Matlack - Tom Matlack - Good Men Project - www.menstuff.org/columns/matlack/archive.html
  • Wendy McElroy - Wendy McElroy on Feminism, www.menstuff.org/columns/mcelroy/archive.html
  • Robert N. Minor - Minor Details - on GBT sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/minordetails/archive.html
  • Robert L. Moore - Man & Mythology - www.menstuff.org/columns/moore/archive.html
  • Dennis W. Neder - Being a Man - general questions about men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/neder/archive.html
  • Marty Nemko - Worklife - general questions about men and work - www.menstuff.org/columns/nemko/archive.html
  • Eli Newberger - Eli Newberger - general information on men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/newberger/archive.html
  • Linda Nielsen - Embracing the Father - working with the father/daughter relationship. www.menstuff.org/columns/nielsen/archive.html
  • Kathy Noll - Bullies and Youth Violence - working with schools, teachers and parents to end school violence - www.menstuff.org/columns/noll/archive.html
  • Mark Phillips - Stay-at-Home-Dads - helping men maintain that which makes us men, instead of becoming hairy Mom-substitutes - www.menstuff.org/columns/phillips/archive.html
  • Carey Roberts - Socialism & Feminism - is a social commentator on political correctness. www.menstuff.org/columns/roberts/archive.html
  • Perry Rose - Dating, Relationship, Sex
  • Glenn Sacks - His Side - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/sacks/archive.html
  • Trudy Schuett - Domestic Violence - serving the under-represented www.menstuff.org/columns/schuett/archive.html
  • Carl J. Schutt - Circumcision - social commentator on circumcision - www.menstuff.org/columns/schutt/archive.html
  • Hugo Schwyzer - A Pro-feminist's Response - www.menstuff.org/columns/schwyzer/archive.html
  • Michael Shaffran - Men's Issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/shaffran/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • George Simons - Bellicose Veins - is a US specialist in intercultural and gender communication who hangs out in Mandelieu - la Napoule, France, as well as in Santa Cruz, CA. www.menstuff.org/columns/simons/archive.html
  • Andy Smith - Hard Hat Brotherhood - www.menstuff.org/columns/hardhat/archive.html
  • David B. Smith - Fighting Father Dave - www.menstuff.org/columns/smith/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • Reena Sommer - Custody - is an internationally recognized relationship and divorce consultant. www.menstuff.org/columns/sommer/archive.html
  • R. Don Steele - Don Steele - relationship questions answered -
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  • David Steinberg - Comes Naturally - on sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/steinberg/archive.html
  • Mary Lou St Lucas - A Mother's Love - www.menstuf.org/columns/stlucas/archive.html
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  • Dr.Williams - Sex Health - on sexual health - Dr. Williams, www.menstuff.org/columns/sexhealth/archive.html
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  • Numbers - www.menstuff.org/columns/numbers/archive.html
  • Questions - www.menstuff.org/columns/q&a/archive.html
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  • Words Can Heal - helping children grow up healthy - www.menstuff.org/columns/wordscanheal/archive.html
  • Wuzup?! - National or international events happening this month - www.menstuff.org/columns/whassup/archive.html

AWARENESS EVENTS THIS MONTH

July is Freedom Month. If you enjoy the benefits this country has to offer, you might check out what kind of men it took to found this country. The Fourth of July has more to it than beer, picnics, and baseball games. Read this! July is Anti-Boredom; National Mobility; Purposeful Parenting: Recreation and Parks; The month of the Muslim new year; Hemochromatosis Screening Awareness; National Foreign Language Month.

June 27 - July 4: Special Recreation Week. June 25-July 1: Deaf-Blindness Awareness Week. June 27 - July 4: Special Recreation Week. Jul 1-8 Music for Life; July 3-Aug 15: Air Conditioning Appreciation Days. Jul 4-10 - Freedom Week. July 8:-14: National Laundry Workers; National Therapeutic Recreation: Take Charge of Change Week. Jul 9-15 - Nude Recreation. July 15-21: *Captive Nations; Legal Revolution; National Plan to Promote Your Business Week. Jul 1 UN Day of Cooperation; International Joke; National Financial Freedom; National Recreation and Parks; National Purposeful Parenting, Jul 2 - I Forgot; Ducktona 500 Day; July 3: Compliment Your Mirror: Stay Out of the Sun Day. Jul 4 - Independence Day (U.S.); American Redneck; Fear from Fear of Speaking ; Independence-from-Meat Day; Sidewalk Egg Frying; Jul 5 - National Family Day, July 7: Father-Daughter Take a Walk Together; International UN Day of Cooperation. July 9: Don't Step on a Bee Day. July 10: Intern Appreciation Day. July 13: Skeptics' Day. July 14: Cow Apprecaition Day. July 15: National Ice Cream; Saint Swithin's Day. July 16: International Town Criers; Naitonal Get Out of the Doghouse Day. July 17: Wrong Way Corrigan Day. Jul 20 - Ugly Truck; Riot Act anniversary. July 21: Rat-Catchers Day. Jul 22 - Ice Cream Cone Day. July 23: Hot Enough For Ya Day. July 24: Cousins; Health and Happiness with Hypnosis Day. Jul 27 - *National Korean War Veterans Armistice; Take Your Houseplants for a Walk Day. July 29: *Parents' Day. Jul 30 - Father-In-Law Day, National Parent's Day.

* Means a Presidential Proclamation has been made.

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