Daily Thoughts & Issues

IN THIS ISSUE:

JULY 21

Days left until the next millennium 01.01.3001

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Achieve Your Dreams

July 21 - Independence Day in Belgium. * Secular Humanism Day - Day to celebrate all positive life-affirming secular humanist, rationalist and scientific belief systems. The Mystic's Wheel of the Year * Loren MacIver's famous portrait of Emmett Kelly as Wearie Willie the Clown appears on the cover of Life magazine (1947). * First reported killing of a human by a robot occurred at Jackson, MI (1984). A robot turned and caught a 34-year-old worker between it and a safety bar, crushing him. * Birthday of Ernest Hemingway. "Never mistake motion for action". Lance Guest, Edward Herrmann, Norman Jewison, Don Knotts, Jon Lovitz, Marshall McLuhan, Matt Mulhern, Isacc Stern, Cat Stevens (Stephen Demetri Georgiou, chosen Muslim name is Yusuf Islam), Billy Taylor, Garry Trudeau, Robin Williams.

DAILY THOUGHTS

Richard Evans was Spain's first African American matador. African American History

It turns me on when she pulls my hand up under her blouse - Wade, 28. I get really turned on when my boyfriend bites the meat of my palm - Lois, 32. Best of 1001 Sex Secrets Every Man & Woman Should Know

The real relief for men in making the passage into the second half of adult life is that they no longer have to keep proving themselves as young studs. Thanks to nature, the man who is patient enough to take his place in the cycle of generations assumes the role of the Great Father, becoming a "father" to his community and a grandfather to his family. New Passages

In all things, the supreme excellence is simplicity. - Henry Wadsworth Longfellow. Achieve Your Dreams

Things to Be Happy About:  Spiced maple cocktail ribs. Stock tips that are tips. Something done without a deadline 14,000 Things to Be Happy About

You'll have a lot more respect for a bird after you try making a next. Really Important Stuff My Kids Have Taught Me

The foundation of successful partnering is respect. If Life is a Game, These are the Rules

Once you have a sense of mission, you have the essence of your own proactivity. You have the vision and the values which direct your life. You have the basic direction from which you set your long- and short-term goals. You have the power of a written constitution based on correct principles, against which every decision concerning the most effective use of your time, your talents, and your energies can be effectively measured.  Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

No More Pinched Fingers. Now that my twin boys are able to close doors, I need a way to keep them from pinching their fingers. So I put a folded towel over the top of our doors near the hinges. It's inexpensive and temporary; we do this in hotel rooms, too, to keep the kids from locking themselves in the bathroom. Parents Tips & Tricks

If you love to eat and tend to go overboard when ordering food in a restaurant, here is one solution to business lunches: don't do them. This may put a crimp in your business style, but t will do wonders for your waistline and your budget. Simplify Your Life (Editor: And the IRS just doesn't give write-offs like it used to.)

The word "transvestism" was thought to have been developed by Magnus Hirschfeld from the Latin roots for "cross" and "dressing."  Hirschfeld, himself at times cross-dressing, was a pioneer social reformer who as early as 1896 advocated for the acceptance of same-sex love. Gay & Lesbian Calendar

To help facilitate body adjustment to a different time zone due to air travel, expose yourself to sunlight or other bright full-spectrum light during the day you arrive and consider using a sleep mask when you go to bed to block out sleep-disturbing light. Eat meals at normal times for the new time zone and take a hot bath or shower prior to going to bed. Melatonin supplements can help speed up adjustments as well. Generally, adaptation is faster with westward travel than with eastward. Stress Busters

 For your kid's next slumber party get a beach ball and a water proof marker. At the end of the slumber party, each kid signs the beach ball. They write all about the good times they had together. Then your kid gets to keep it as a reminder of "Their" party. To Do Today

I don't think of myself as a poor, deprived ghetto girl who made good. I think of myself as somebody who from an early age knew I was responsible for myself, and I had to make good. - Oprah Winfrey. Win the Day!

El trigo (TREEgoh) Wheat. El encargado no parece trigo limpio. The manager seems like a shady character. (Lit. The manager does not look like clean wheat.) Living Language

TODAY'S ISSUE: SPIRITUALITY

Spiritual Progress. Spiritual progress comes from changing one's point of view - Pir Vilayat Inayat Khan. For so long, men have been taught to compete fiercely in everything. At times we may even find ourselves approaching our spiritual life as a race. We become compulsive about meditation and prayer. We judge ourselves, and compare our apparent progress to that of others: "This man prays more than I do; that fellow is a better meditator than I am."  And so on. Our minds can sometimes take such competition very seriously. True spiritual progress is only measured by what is happening within us, not by what others do. That competitive, hurried point of view we learned must be changed. When we see other men as spiritual travelers, when we realize we share the same road, then the pressure to be "spiritually faster and better" leaves us. If we persist in adjusting our vision this way, it will go a long way toward freeing us from judgment of ourselves and others. Today I can change my point of view by becoming more tolerant of myself and my fellow seekers. A Quiet Strength: Meditations on the Masculine Soul

The most important function of art and science is to awaken the cosmic religious feeling and keep it alive - Albert Einstein. There is no need to be concerned about a conflict between science and the spiritual life. People have turned to the spiritual in many ways since the beginning of humanity. Some are tribal and primitive, some very emotional, some focused on ideas and philosophy, some centered on tradition. Perhaps in the very center of our humanness is a spiritual compass. When we disown that orientation, do we lose some of our humanness?  This program did not invent the spiritual outlook. It only tells us recovery will come through awakening of the spiritual within us. We are on an exploration. We give ourselves over to it and only discover where our awakening will lead as it unfolds. The Steps tell us to engage with the God of our understanding, to develop a relationship of trust, total openness and humility, and to improve the contact. As the center of our humanness restored, we come alive and our daily tasks take on new meaning. May I be awakened again to that cosmic feeling we all inherit. Touchstones

In the nineteenth century the problem was that God is dead. In the twentieth century the problem is that man is dead - Erich Fromm. We constantly search for leaders, for answers, for relief from what can be long, difficult times. Work addicts do not tend to their spiritual needs. The very immersion of one in one's work denies deep spiritual exchange. Work covers up the wound, but it doesn't heal it. Fromm's message is frightening. We have become a mass of men without direction, a group of work addicts who do not know how to trust our hearts or tap into our spiritual nature. I want to be open to my spiritual side. I will be open to it, I will take time for it to define itself for me. Meditations For Men Who Do Too Much

Hey Man: Did you make a difference yesterday? Let us know at Contact Us. Find a task you can devote your life to. What Every Man Needs to Know Want to make a difference but you don't know where to start?

BOOK OF THE WEEK

The 40-Year-Old Version: Humoirs of a divorced dad by Joel Schwartzberg. In a very funny and endearing collection of personal essays, award-winning and nationally-published writer shares stories of his ever-evolving, self-defining dadhood. This is a great book for any parent, particularly dads trying to sharpen their role and looking for insight through hysterical, heartbreaking, and heroic example. The essays are short and sharp, and many have been previously published in major newspapers and magazines. www.bookfordad.com, Wyatt-MacKenzie Publishing, www.WyMacPublishing.com 2009, ISBN 978-1-932279-98-6

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MENSTUFF COLUMNS BY AUTHOR

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  • Peter Alsop - Song of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/alsop/archive.html
  • Reid Baer - A Man Overboard - Interview of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/overboard/archive.html
  • Reid Baer - Poetry - poetry read on YouTube - www.menstuff.org/columns/baer/archive.html
  • Molly Barrow - Shrink About This - www.menstuff.org/columns/barrow/archive.html
  • Peter Baylies - At Home Dads - on at-home-dad issues that impact fathers who stay at home to raise their kids - www.menstuff.org/columns/baylies/archive.html
  • Tom Blake - Middle-Age Relationships - from an expert on dating after 50. www.menstuff.org/columns/blake/archive.html
  • Mark Brandenburg - Great Fathers - on fathering issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/greatfathers/archive.html
  • Ted Braude - BoysWork - a columnist in the The Detroit Free Press "Body and Mind" section www.menstuff.org/columns/braude/archive.html
  • Armin Brott - A Father's Guide - hosts "Positive Parenting" on radio www.menstuff.org/columns/brott/archive.html
  • Dan Bulf - Get Real - weekly pod cast on men's issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/bulf/archive.html
  • Ken Byers - Transition - on men's life transitions - www.menstuff.org/columns/byers/archive.html
  • Sandra L. Caron - Sex Talk - college students get answers to their questions - www.menstuff.org/columns/sextalk/archive.html
  • Neil Chethik - Relationships - www.menstuff.org/columns/chethik/archive.html
  • Otto & Susie Collins - Susie and Otto - relationship issues discussed - www.menstuff.org/columns/susie&otto/archive.html
  • David Copeland - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Forrest Craver - Spirituality & Social Change - www.menstuff.org/columns/craver/archive.html
  • Layne & Paul Cutright - Powerful Partnerships - relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/cutright/archive.html
  • Ron DesMarais - Cavemen in the Kitchen - great recipes for men - www.menstuff.org/columns/desmarais/archive.html
  • Jed Diamond - Irritable Male Syndrome - www.menstuff.org/columns/diamond/archive.html
  • Doc Love - Women Don't Lie, Man Don't Listen - answers to relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/doclov/archive.html
  • Barry Durdant-Hollamby - Creating Change - creating change in your life - www.menstuff.org/columns/durdant/archive.html
  • Irv Engel - The Real Deal - www.menstuff.org/columns/engel/archive.html
  • Nancy Fagan - Expert Dating Advice - with Nancy Fagan - www.menstuf.org/columns/fagan/archive.html
  • Warren Farrell - Men's Issues: Facts and Perspectives www.menstuff.org/columns/farrell/archive.html
  • Leonard Felder - Wake Up or Break Up - www.menstuff.org/columns/felder/archive.html
  • Marty Friedman - Strong Men, Strong Marriage - www.menstuff.org/columns/friedman/archive.html
  • Kim Garretson - Mansgland - using humor to encourage prostate exams - www.menstuff.org/columns/mansgland/archive.html
  • Lion Goodman - How to get Women to Love You - www.menstuff.org/columns/goodman/archive.html
  • Liz Halliday - In a Man's World - www.menstuff.org/columns/halliday/archive.html
  • Rick Hanson - Your Wise Brain - www.menstuff.org/columns/hanson/archive.html
  • Tim Hartnett - Daddyman Speaks - being a father www.menstuff.org/columns/daddyman/archive.html
  • John Hershey - Blood, Phlegm & Bile: Parenting with Humor - He writes a syndicated biweekly humor column about parenting and family life. www.menstuff.org/columns/hershey/archive.html
  • Gary Hoeber - Psychotherapy as Soul Work, www.menstuff.org/columns/hoeber/archive.html
  • Patrick Houser - Fathers Make a World of Difference, www.menstuff.org/columns/houser/archive.html
  • Paul Joannides - The Guide to Getting It On - on sex - www.menstuff.org/columns/getiton/archive.html
  • Jack Kahn - NOMAS Boston - www.menstuff.org/columns/kahn/archive.html
  • Patrick Kennedy - Seniors - www.menstuff.org/columns/kennedy/archive.html
  • Joe Kort - Gaydar - to increase understanding between gay and het men - www.menstuff.org/columns/kort/archive.html
  • David Kundtz - David Kundtz - presents seminars, workshops, retreats, and conference presentations in the areas of men's emotional health, stress management, and spirituality. www.menstuff.org/columns/kundtz/archive.html
  • Bruce Linton - Dr. Dad - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/drdad/archive.html
  • Ron Louis - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Tom Matlack - Tom Matlack - Good Men Project - www.menstuff.org/columns/matlack/archive.html
  • Wendy McElroy - Wendy McElroy on Feminism, www.menstuff.org/columns/mcelroy/archive.html
  • Robert N. Minor - Minor Details - on GBT sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/minordetails/archive.html
  • Robert L. Moore - Man & Mythology - www.menstuff.org/columns/moore/archive.html
  • Dennis W. Neder - Being a Man - general questions about men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/neder/archive.html
  • Marty Nemko - Worklife - general questions about men and work - www.menstuff.org/columns/nemko/archive.html
  • Eli Newberger - Eli Newberger - general information on men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/newberger/archive.html
  • Linda Nielsen - Embracing the Father - working with the father/daughter relationship. www.menstuff.org/columns/nielsen/archive.html
  • Kathy Noll - Bullies and Youth Violence - working with schools, teachers and parents to end school violence - www.menstuff.org/columns/noll/archive.html
  • Mark Phillips - Stay-at-Home-Dads - helping men maintain that which makes us men, instead of becoming hairy Mom-substitutes - www.menstuff.org/columns/phillips/archive.html
  • Carey Roberts - Socialism & Feminism - is a social commentator on political correctness. www.menstuff.org/columns/roberts/archive.html
  • Perry Rose - Dating, Relationship, Sex
  • Glenn Sacks - His Side - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/sacks/archive.html
  • Trudy Schuett - Domestic Violence - serving the under-represented www.menstuff.org/columns/schuett/archive.html
  • Carl J. Schutt - Circumcision - social commentator on circumcision - www.menstuff.org/columns/schutt/archive.html
  • Hugo Schwyzer - A Pro-feminist's Response - www.menstuff.org/columns/schwyzer/archive.html
  • Michael Shaffran - Men's Issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/shaffran/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • George Simons - Bellicose Veins - is a US specialist in intercultural and gender communication who hangs out in Mandelieu - la Napoule, France, as well as in Santa Cruz, CA. www.menstuff.org/columns/simons/archive.html
  • Andy Smith - Hard Hat Brotherhood - www.menstuff.org/columns/hardhat/archive.html
  • David B. Smith - Fighting Father Dave - www.menstuff.org/columns/smith/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • Reena Sommer - Custody - is an internationally recognized relationship and divorce consultant. www.menstuff.org/columns/sommer/archive.html
  • R. Don Steele - Don Steele - relationship questions answered -
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  • David Steinberg - Comes Naturally - on sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/steinberg/archive.html
  • Mary Lou St Lucas - A Mother's Love - www.menstuf.org/columns/stlucas/archive.html
  • Surprise - Surprise Author - From a new columnist every month - www.menstuff.org/columns/surprise/archive.html
  • Steven Svoboda - Fatherhood, Activism and the Law www.menstuff.org/columns/svoboda/archive.html
  • Michael Taylor - A New Conversation with Men - www.menstuff.org/columns/taylor/archive.html
  • Bruce Van Horn - Yoga for Men - issues around the health benefits of yoga for men - www.menstuff.org/yoga/archive.html
  • Michael Webb - Secrets of Blissful Relationships - on relationship - www.menstuff.org/columns/bliss/archive.html
  • Stuart Wilde - Spirituality - www.menstuff.org/columns/wilde/archive.html
  • Dr.Williams - Sex Health - on sexual health - Dr. Williams, www.menstuff.org/columns/sexhealth/archive.html
  • KC Wilson - On Gender Politics is a social commentator and author. www.menstuff.org/columns/wilson/archive.html

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  • Numbers - www.menstuff.org/columns/numbers/archive.html
  • Questions - www.menstuff.org/columns/q&a/archive.html
  • Surprise - from a new columnist every month - www.menstuff.org/columns/surprise/archive.html
  • Words Can Heal - helping children grow up healthy - www.menstuff.org/columns/wordscanheal/archive.html
  • Wuzup?! - National or international events happening this month - www.menstuff.org/columns/whassup/archive.html

AWARENESS EVENTS THIS MONTH

July is Freedom Month. If you enjoy the benefits this country has to offer, you might check out what kind of men it took to found this country. The Fourth of July has more to it than beer, picnics, and baseball games. Read this! July is Anti-Boredom; National Mobility; Purposeful Parenting: Recreation and Parks; The month of the Muslim new year; Hemochromatosis Screening Awareness; National Foreign Language Month.

June 27 - July 4: Special Recreation Week. June 25-July 1: Deaf-Blindness Awareness Week. June 27 - July 4: Special Recreation Week. Jul 1-8 Music for Life; July 3-Aug 15: Air Conditioning Appreciation Days. Jul 4-10 - Freedom Week. July 8:-14: National Laundry Workers; National Therapeutic Recreation: Take Charge of Change Week. Jul 9-15 - Nude Recreation. July 15-21: *Captive Nations; Legal Revolution; National Plan to Promote Your Business Week. Jul 1 UN Day of Cooperation; International Joke; National Financial Freedom; National Recreation and Parks; National Purposeful Parenting, Jul 2 - I Forgot; Ducktona 500 Day; July 3: Compliment Your Mirror: Stay Out of the Sun Day. Jul 4 - Independence Day (U.S.); American Redneck; Fear from Fear of Speaking ; Independence-from-Meat Day; Sidewalk Egg Frying; Jul 5 - National Family Day, July 7: Father-Daughter Take a Walk Together; International UN Day of Cooperation. July 9: Don't Step on a Bee Day. July 10: Intern Appreciation Day. July 13: Skeptics' Day. July 14: Cow Apprecaition Day. July 15: National Ice Cream; Saint Swithin's Day. July 16: International Town Criers; Naitonal Get Out of the Doghouse Day. July 17: Wrong Way Corrigan Day. Jul 20 - Ugly Truck; Riot Act anniversary. July 21: Rat-Catchers Day. Jul 22 - Ice Cream Cone Day. July 23: Hot Enough For Ya Day. July 24: Cousins; Health and Happiness with Hypnosis Day. Jul 27 - *National Korean War Veterans Armistice; Take Your Houseplants for a Walk Day. July 29: *Parents' Day. Jul 30 - Father-In-Law Day, National Parent's Day.

* Means a Presidential Proclamation has been made.

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