Daily Thoughts & Issues

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OCTOBER 4

Days left until the next millennium 01.01.3001

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Achieve Your Dreams

October 4 - Independence Day for Lesotho. * Singer Janis Joplin, 27, dies of a drug overdose (1970.) * The Island of Corsica became the first French territory in Europe freed from Nazi control (1943) when Free French troops entered the city of Bastia, thereby completing the retaking of the island, the culmination of a French uprising that had begun on the island on September 19th. * Gregorian Calendar Adjustment Anniversary (1582) when Pope Gregory XIII issued a bulletin that decreed that the day following Thursday, Oct 4, 1582 should be Friday, Oct. 15, 1582, thus correcting the Julian Calendar, then 10 days out of date relative to the seasons. This reform was effective in most Catholic countries, though the Julian Calendar continued in use in Britain and the American colonies until 1752, in Japan until 1873,in China until 1912, in Russian until 1918, in Greece until 1923, and in Turkey until 1925. * Luna 3 (USSR) was the first satellite to photograph moon's distant side. It was launched in 1959. * Sputnik (1957) was the first successful man-made earth satellite. It weighted 184 lbs and was fired into orbit from the USSR's Tyuratam launch site. It transmitted radio signals for 21 days and decayed January 4, 1958. * Yeltsin Shells White House (1993) In a violent spectacle, the Russian military loyal to President Boris Yeltsin shelled the Russian White House, the symbol of Russian independence from communist rule. The parliament building had been seized by Yeltsin opponents. * Birthdays: Frederic Remington, Damon Runyan, Saint Francis of Assisi, Edward Stratemeyer, Armond Assante, Clifton Davis, Charlton Heston, Jan (Murry Janofsky) Murray, Alvin Toffler. And a *SPECIAL BIRTHDAY to John Lee.

Make and practice a fire escape plan for your family!
Especially at night when everyone is in bed! 
Be sure your children know what to do if the fire has cut off the escape from the bedroom into the hall! Hint: Teach them how and when to use a fire extinguisher and have one in every bedroom!

DAILY THOUGHTS

I love it when he taps on my clitoris with his fingertip like droplets of water - Kim, 25 Best of 1001 Sex Secrets Every Man & Woman Should Know

Let nothing which is disgraceful to be spoken of, or to be seen, approach this place where a child is - Juvenal. Dr. Buff's 365 Day Parenting Calendar

The relationship between physical health and mental health is greatest in later life. New Passages

Indian Proverb:  Charity done in secret, eager courtesy to the visitor of his house, silence after doing kindness, and public mention after receiving it. Modesty in fortune, conversation without the spice of insolence. Who taught good men this rule of life, hard as a sword's edge to tread? The Old Farmer's Almanac

First we have to find our way into the presence of love; then we will be able to decide what to do. Soul Mates

What you think of yourself is much more important that what others think of you. - Seneca. Achieve Your Dreams

Things to Be Happy About:  Books of knowledge. I Ching predictions. Trying vegetarian recipes. 14,000 Things to Be Happy About

Some weeks you really need Saturday on a Wednesday. Really Important Stuff My Kids Have Taught Me

It makes no difference whether your messages show up in ridiculous-sounding mandates or in more direct forms. A recurring message to take your dog to the park is no less important or valid than a message to leave your job at a big corporation and start your own shop. Perhaps the first message is a result of your sensing that you need to be in the outdoors more often for the sake of your health, which is just as important as where you earn your living. All messages, silly or not, are powerful truth guides that provide you with direct access to your inner knowing. If Life is a Game, These are the Rules

Principles apply at all times in all places. They surface in the form of values, ideas, norms, and teachings hat uplift, ennoble, fulfill, empower, and inspire people. The lesson of history is: To the degree people and civilizations have operated in harmony with correct principles, they have prospered.  Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

Moving simplified: Use the large wardrobe boxes from your clothes, and load them directly from the closet in the old place into the closets in the new place. If you've simplified your wardrobe, you'll have less to pack.  Simplify Your Life

How to Guard Against SIDS. To reduce your baby's risk of sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS), put them to sleep on their back, not side or stomach, advises the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP). Even though a baby's SIDS risk greatly decreases once she can turn over on her own, the Academy advises that parents always put a baby to sleep on their back until they reach age 1. Give your baby "tummy time" when they're awake and someone is watching. Parents Tips & Tricks

Visiting the dentist can be a stressful experience. While in the chair, imagine as vividly as possible one of your favorite peaceful places (sights, sounds, scents) and go there in your mind. Or take an audio headset and play your favorite music or a relaxation tape. Stress Busters

For your kids. Pin favorite pins in crazy places. Wear a pin on sneakers, put one on socks, stick one on the back pocket of jeans - look for new places.  To Do Today

Courage and perseverance have a magical talisman, before which difficulties disappear and obstacles vanish into air. - John Quincy Adams.  Win the Day!

El sueldo (SWEHLdoh) Salary. Gana flor de sueldo. She gets a hugh salary. (Lit. She earns a flower of a salary.)  Living Language

to John Lee (10/4/51) is a world-renowned expert on relationships. He is the best-selling author of The Flying Boy: Healing the Wounded Man. He has also published books on recovery and anger. He is a therapist, poet, teacher and humorist. theflyingboy@aol.com

TODAY'S ISSUE: IT'S NOT MY PROBLEM

"Number 47 said to number three
You're the cutest jailbird I ever did see.
I sure would be delighted with your company.
Come on and do the Jailhouse Rock with me."

 "Sleepers", about what happened inside a "home for boys", read institutional lockup, is a very telling story. It's interesting that the situation has received so little press. For the situation it presents is not that uncommon.

It is estimated that a man is raped every three seconds of every day in America. And this is just in the prison population.

Unwelcome sex for incarcerated males is a horror that is nothing like the cheerful title song Elvis sang. Although some of the long-term same-sex couplings that exist inside the country's correctional facilities may be as viable as any outside, violent rape is the much more standard reality. The victims are more likely to be young, small, nonviolent, first offenders, middle-class, not 'streetwise', not gang affiliated, not part of the dominant ethnic group in that jail, without major fighting experience, and held in big-city jails. The more of these factors apply, the more likely the victimization. And, in many of these cases, correctional officers use prison rape - or the mere threat - as a management tool. Many guards, like many other law-and-order hardliners, consider rape a prisoner's just desserts even though sexual assault is nothing less than torture. Rape, which no judge has ever declared a fit penalty for a crime, is inflicted daily on prisoners whose sole offense may have been an inability to make bail.

The rape of prisoners is a widespread phenomenon, which tends to be a repetitive problem for its victims, a deadly risk in the age of AIDS, a devastating experience whose psychological and physical consequences are known and described as Rape Trauma Syndrome. The problem of prison rape needs to be seen in the contexts both of violence and of sexuality. It is a practice which is ingrained in the culture of confinement, both among prisoners and prison officials. The injuries occasioned by prisoner rape are predictable and preventable using appropriate strategies.

Little has changed since Rev. Louis Dwight first investigated sexual abuse in American prisons in 1824, visiting "most of the prisons ... between Massachusetts and Georgia" and finding "melancholy testimony to establish one general fact. Boys are prostituted to the lust of old convicts." He pleaded "Nature and humanity cry aloud for redemption from this dreadful degradation." One hundred seventy years later, they still cry. The rape Of males has long been a taboo subject, barricaded with Popular misconceptions, and the phenomenon of Prisoner rape (the term "homosexual rape" as the prison context is extremely misleading and should be avoided) is little discussed outside penological circles, nor is it understood despite its great importance in prison life.

Few aspects of incarceration are more horrifying than the prospect of sexual exploitation and forcible rape within jail and prison walls. It is a subject to which society reacts with a combination of fear, disgust, and denial. We don't want to believe that our criminal justice system tolerates such a cruel and unusual form of punishment. However, this is a brutal reality faced daily by inmates in crowded prisons and jails throughout the country. The issue of coerced sex will not simply go away. It is a fact of life for those behind bars.

No detailed survey of sexual assault in juvenile facilities has been published, but there is a general consensus that victimization rates (and the level of violence generally) are higher there than in adult institutions, and are usually against fourteen or fifteen year olds.

Once an inmate is raped, he is marked as a victim for repeated sexual assaults for the remainder of his imprisonment. Generally, those who are turned out (raped) and made into slaves remain slaves and never can get out of that. It's a "no-win" situation and the primary reason that prevents inmate victims from reporting the offense. Unless the victim is immediately removed from general population and remains in isolation or segregated for the remainder of his confinement, he will promptly become "marked" by the other prisoners as a "punk" and then subjected to repeated sexual aggression, virtually on a daily (or nightly) basis. (Close your eyes for a moment and imagine what that might be like for you if you were to ever spend a night in jail ... having a little too much to drink after a party, etc. (One in four men will spend the night in jail during his lifetime.) Segregation or "protective custody" is unpleasant and is not necessarily safe. Assaults against prisoners in "protective custody" are well documented.

If a rape victim does not commit suicide, he finds little alternative to continual gang-rape but to "hook up" (form a relationship) with a strong or feared prisoner (his "Man'), who uses him sexually in exchange for protecting him from other prisoners. Bonding between two homosexuals is not allowed within the prison culture. A homosexual or "kid" is expected to hook up with a "man" This is the unwritten law, and it is enforced.

The spread of HIV into prison populations has turned rape from a source of psychological and emotional devastation into a life-and-death issue with resulting illnesses that create havoc for the prisoner and new difficulties for systems all over the country. And, since prisoner rape is usually perpetrated by multiple rapists, and anal rape commonly involves tearing of the rectal lining and bleeding, thus affording easy transmission of the virus, it follows that prisoner rape is now a deadly threat to all victims. This has important consequences for rape victims which may not immediately be apparent to those on the outside. Anal rape carries a very high risk of infection while oral sex carries little or none. Thus the target of sexual assault, faced with a hopeless situation, may save his life by compromising and "cooperating" with his assailant. This may well appear "consensual" to institutional authorities, resulting in disciplinary charges against the victim, but in actuality there is no free choice in the face of such a threat.

The Stop Prisoner Rape people are convinced that most sexual assaults in confinement are preventable and that administrative actions and policies can and do make a significant difference for very little financial consideration:

1. Realistic orientation programs to warn new prisoners (the tapes and manual offered below).
2. Institution-wide staff training on rape issues.
3. Mandatory reporting to top prison officials of sexual assaults which become known to guards and other staff and prosecutorial-referral policies in cases where victims will testify.
4. Classification of all prisoners by rape risk factors and known histories and appropriate placement, both within an institution and among a jurisdiction's facilities.
5. Sympathetic treatment of rape victims, including trained counseling and serious consideration of housing change requests.
6. Establishment of protocols for rape intervention and investigation and for medical and psychiatric follow-up such as the one in force at the San Francisco county jail.
7. Reduction of prisoner idleness.

There are other projects like real protective custody, staff discrimination against homosexuals and stigmatization of rape victims, and ignoring the problem (which is as big a problem inside the prison as with the readers of this article). Consider taking some action now before you "just happen to have to spend the night in jail."

More Prison Issues, Books, Resources

Hey Man: Did you make a difference yesterday? Let us know at Contact Us. You can handle the things you worry about. Our monumental worries are often small potatoes in the larger scheme of life. Get in the habit of asking, "What is the worst that could happen?" Then ask the follow-up, "What is the best?" If the worst does happen, could I handle it? What Every Man Needs to Know Want to make a difference but you don't know where to start?

Domestic Violence Prevention Month - See Issues. Also, see books on anger, violence-general, violence-domestic, violence-rape, violence-sexual, women's violence, sexual harassment plus Q&A Slide Guide on Gangs in Merchandise and Alternatives to Violence programs. - resources for male and female perpetrators and male and female victims. Got some information to add, send it to mailto: Contact Us.

 

BOOK OF THE WEEK

2010 State of the World: Transforming cultures from consumerism to sustainability, The Worldwatch Institute. Like a tsunami, consumerism has engulfed human cultures and Earth's ecosystems. Left unaddressed, we risk global disaster. But if we channel this wave, intentionally transforming our cultures to center on sustainability, we will not only prevent catastrophe but may user in an era of sustainability - one that allows all people to thrice while protecting, even restoring, Earth. In this year's report, 50+ renowned researchers and practitioners describe how we can harness the world's leading institutions - education, the media, business, governments, traditions and social movements - to reorient cultures toward sustainability. W. W. Norton, www.worldwatch.org, 2010, ISBN 978-0-393-33726-6

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AWARENESS EVENTS THIS MONTH

October is Adopt-a-Shelter Dog; Alternate History; Auto Battery Safety; Campaign for Healthier Babies; Celiac Sprue Awareness; Child Health; Computer Learning; Diversity Awareness; Dryer Vent Safety Awareness; Energy Management is a Family Affair-Improve Your Home; Family History; Family Sexuality Education, Fantasy; Gay and Lesbian History; Health Literacy; International Fired Up; Listen to Your Inner Critic; Lupus Awareness; National AIDS Awareness; National Animal Safety and Protection; *National Breast Cancer Awareness; National Car Care; National Crime Prevention; National Depression Education and Awareness; *National Disability Employment Awareness; *National Domestic Violence Awareness; National Family Health, National Family Sexuality Education; National "Gain the Inside Advantage"; National Home Inspection; National Orthodontic Health; National Pharmacy; National Physical Therapy; National Pizza; National Popcorn Poppin'; National Roller Skating; National Skin Care Awareness; National Spinal Health; National Toilet Tank Repair; Pediatric Cancer Awareness; Rett Syndrome Awareness; Sarcastics Awareness; Substance Abuse Prevention; Talk About Prescriptions; Unmasking Halloween Dangers; Vegetarian Awareness Month.

9/15-10/15: Hispanic Heritage Month. 10/1-7: Mental Illness Awareness; *Minority Enterprise Development; National Health Care Food Oct 8-14: *Fire Prevention; Home Based Business; National Adult Immunization Awareness; *National School Lunch, National Walk to School Week. 10/9-13: Pet Peeve, Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Week. 10/10-16: Wildlife Week. 10/14-20: Ally, Pharmacy Week. 10/15-21: Getting the World to Beat a Path to Your Door; *National Character Counts; Teen Read Week. 10/16-22: National Health Education Week. 10/22-28: National Massage Therapy Awareness, National Save Yur Back Week. 10/23-31: Red Ribbon 10/25-31: Peace, Friendship & Goodwill Week. 10/1: World Vegetarian Day. 10/2: World Habitat Day, 10/3: Techies Day. 10/4: Toot Your Flute Day. 10/8 Global Learn Day; National Children's Day. 10/9: Indigenous Persons Day; *Leif Erikson Day, Yom Kippur, Canadian Thanksgiving Day. 10/11: Coming Out; Teddy Bear to Work Day; 10/12: Oktoberfest. 10/13: Blame Someone Else; Scream, Train Your Brain Day, Friday the 13th. 10/14: Sukkot. Be Bald and Be Free Day. 10/15: National Grouch; *White Cane Safety Day. 10/16: Dictionary;  Boss' Day, Intl. Librarians World Food Day. 10/17: Black Poetry, International Eradication of Poverty Day. 10/18: Canadian Persons;  Boost your Brain Day. 10/19: Evaluate Your Life Day 10/21: Sweetest Day. 10/22: Mother-In-Law; National Scientific Literacy Day. 10/23: National Mole Day. 10/24: United Nations Day. Black Thursday. 10/25: Cartoonists Against Crime Day. 10/26: Horseless Carriage; Mule, Intersex Awareness Day 10/27: Frankenstein Friday, Navy Day, Ugly Pickup Contest. 10/28: Make a Difference; Wild Foods Day; Day of Meditation. 10/29: Daylight Savings Times Ends. 10/31: Halloween; National Magic; *National Unicef Day. 11/2 is Election Day. Vote Absentee Ballot.

* Means a Presidential Proclamation has been made.

Domestic Violence Prevention Month - See Issues. Also, see books on anger, violence-general, violence-domestic, violence-rape, violence-sexual, women's violence, sexual harassment plus Q&A Slide Guide on Gangs and Safe Dating in Merchandise and Alternatives to Violence programs. - resources for male and female perpetrators and male and female victims. Got some information to add, send it to mailto:violence@menstuff.org

* Means a Presidential Proclamation has been made.

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