Daily Thoughts & Issues IN THIS ISSUE: JUNE 30 Daily Thoughts Book of the Day Book of the Week Photo of the Week Today's Issue: Responsibility. See the list of the issues for International Men's Month. Tomorrow's Issue: Familes Menstuff columns by Author Awareness events this month Upcoming Men's Events Days left until the next millennium 01.01.3001 Photo of the Week Achieve Your Dreams June 30 - International Men's Month. * Leap Second Adjustment Time to adjust clocks to coordinate atomic and astronomical time. Determined by the Central Bureau of the International Earth Rotation Service, Paris France. NOW Founded. * Charles Blondin's conquest of Niagara Falls (1859) * Siberia Explosion (1908). The seismic shock, firestorm, ensuing "black rain" and the illumination that was reportedly visible for hundreds of miles led to speculation that a meteorite was the cause. Said to have been the most powerful explosion in history. * Last Hurray for British Hong Kong (1997) recognizing China's sovereignty and the official transfer of power. * Independence Day for the Congo * Democratic Republic, previously known as Zaire. * The 26th Amendment, lowering the voting age from 21 to 18, is ratified in 1971. * Birthdays: William Atherton, Rupert Graves, David Alan Grier, Buddy Rich, Mitchell James (Mitch) Richmond, Michael Gerard (Mike) Tyson. Today is the final day in this month long series celebrating International Men's Month. If you would like to see the calendar of issues that we addressed this month and the Book's of each Day, click here. We will continue each day during the month of July to present information on another one of our several hundred men's issues. See the list of 31 issues for July. Receive these Daily Thoughts & Issues at home by subscribing at mailto:menstuff-subscribe@topica.com What a great way to start the day! Want more details? Spread the word and let everyone in your address book know. DAILY THOUGHTS God didn't give us more than we can handle, just more than we can control - anonymous. Not only does love for oneself provide the motive for major changes; it also is the basis for the courage to risk them. The Road Less Traveled Sweep Away Sand. My daughter is 2 1/2 and loves to play in the sand at the beach or in the sandbox. But getting the sand off her skin takes long baths and lots of scrubbing. The solution:  Baby powder, applied liberally. The powder absorbs the moisture in the sand and it brushes right off. Family Feelings Summertime is a great time for children and adults to take naps. Dr. Buff's 365 Day Parenting Calendar Don't assume I'm ignoring you. Instead, how about some more obvious signals that you want me to do something?   Best of 1001 Sex Secrets Every Man & Woman Should Know Seen within the context of friendship, a marriage can be freed to discover its own unique nature outside of society's fixed preconceptions Soul Mates Wherever your challenges lead you, there is something to learn there. Achieve Your Dreams Things to Be Happy About:  Honey butter melting on toast. A clap of thunder. Ripe yellow corn. 14,000 Things to Be Happy About Crawling still gets your there. Really Important Stuff My Kids Have Taught Me The first time you meet someone, in the first moment you form an impression in your mind of that person. You decide within the first four minutes what you like and don't like. These decisions are based on the detail that your senses tell you. Such as the person's eye color or cologne scent, or on past experiences stored in your memory bank that you associate with this person. Your reactions to other people are really just barometers for how you perceive yourself.  If Life is a Game, These are the Rules When you can present your own ideas clearly, specifically, visually, and , most importantly, contextually - in the context of a deep understanding of another person's paradigms and concerns - you significantly increase the credibility of your ideas. Seven Habits of Highly Effective People Traveling simplified. Make sure each piece of clothing you take can be worn with every other piece.  Simplify Your Life If your work is a continual source of unrelenting stress, consider changing jobs, either within the same company or to a different company. If the kind of work you're going isn't satisfying, consider changing your career. Take your time, tough, to check out alternatives rather than quitting impulsively - or you may just increase your stress. Stress Busters Show your kids how to develop a bookmark!  Take an old negative. Punch a hole in one end and thread a piece of yarn or string through the hole. Knot the string. Now us it to mark your place! To Do Today Remember, today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday. - Dale Carnegie Win the Day! Licenciado/a (leesehnSYAHdoh/dah) Graduated (from college). Mi amiga esta licenciada en matematicas. My friend graduated with a degree in mathematics. Living Language TODAY'S ISSUE: RESPONSIBILITY Uncommon Sense (An adaptation of Veronica Shoffstall's "Comes the Dawn" by Gordon Clay)  It's taken a while to learn the subtle difference Between holding a hand and chaining a soul. I've learned that love doesn't mean leaning And company doesn't mean security. I've learned that kisses aren't contracts And presents aren't promises. And I've begun to accept my defeats With the gentleness of a man, not the grief of a child. I've learned to build all my roads on today Because tomorrow's ground is too uncertain for plans. It's taken a while to learn That even sunshine burns if I get too much. So, I plant my own garden and decorate my own soul Instead of waiting for someone to bring me flowers. And I've learned that I really can endure... And that I really am strong... And that I'm already good enough... And I'm worthy of love... And I learn and learn and learn... To speak a true word is to transform the world...Consequently, no one can say a true word alone - nor can one say it for another - Paulo Freire Before we can speak, those who care for us speak for us. In families where individual growth is nurtured, adults encourage children to develop their own voices, to speak their minds and to say what they want and don't want: long hair or oatmeal, soccer or ballet lessons or tattoos. When our desires become larger than our personal lives - when the concern is with social justice, rather than with raisins in the oatmeal - then we join our voices with others who have the same concerns. If we've learned respect for differences in our families, we carry this over into our social lives. I will say "I" rather than "we", unless I have explicit permission from those whose names I invoke, whose desires I speak to. When I want to use my energies to help transform the world, I need to find my allies. In whatever group I join, I will remember that love for my fellows includes respect for their voices. If I'm chosen to speak for others, I'll do everything in my power to merit their trust, and I'll be fully responsible to myself when I agree to let another speak for me. Whether I'm alone or in a group, I won't confuse my desires - or my voice - with others. Family Feelings Some things to consider from our web site at www/menstuff.org 1. Make the World Safe for Children - http://www.menstuff.org/issues/byissue/children.html#safe 2. How to get your bookstore to setup a Men's Section - http://www.menstuff.org/books/menssection.html 3. Starting a Men's Group -http://www.menstuff.org/books/mensgroupsphobia.html 4. What Have You Done for You Lately? - http://www.menstuff.org/pov/povs/doneyoulately.html 5. Network with allies - http://www.menstuff.org/resources/resourcefiles/variousallies.html 6. Where to Write - http://www.menstuff.org/resources/resourcefiles/write.html Other resources:  Books, Resources - men's groups, resources - allies, pier lead, therapist lead, men's centers/counseling, international contacts, national, religious, retreats, write, men's movement, And Men's Events, getting involved. See also Bumper Stickers-http://www.menstuff.org/merchandise/merchindex.html#bumperstickers Hey Man: Did you make a difference yesterday? Let us know at Contact Us Know what you do to put off other men. We all know how to defend ourselves from other men. The challenge is to learn to take off our masks and to put down our swords and shields in the presence of men. Learn the art of apology. We learn that apology is an admission of error, yet we learn that making errors is terrible. Learn to apologize fully without adding a "but". Don't expect an apology in return. In your daily calendar or journal, record activities that are nurturing: exercise, meditation, napping, calling a friend, or whatever you consider self-caring. Recognize your right (and responsibility) to feel good about yourself. And, remember: women are allies, not the enemy. Media reports, (and some authors) would lead us to believe we are embroiled in a war between the sexes. Yet, women's needs and men's needs are quite the same: to love and be loved, to be respected, to have the opportunity to be productive and not to be dominated. Together we may be able to move closer to these goals. What Every Man Needs to Know . Want to make a difference but you don't know where to start? BOOK OF THE DAY Put Your Money Where Your Heart Is: Investment strategies for lifetime wealth, Natalie Pace BOOK OF THE WEEK Mr. Mean: Saving your relationshipo from the irritable male syndrome, Jed Diamond. Studies show that 50% of first marriages, 67% of second marriages, and 74% of third marriages end in divorce. As a marriage and family counselor who specializes in helping men and the women who love them, I’ve found that the hidden destroyer of good relationships is a phenomenon called “The Irritable Male Syndrome (IMS).” This book was written for the millions of women and men who want to understand how they can rescue their relationship, help their spouse, and save themselves. Vox Novus, 2010. ISBN 978-0-9842600-1-0   MENSTUFF COLUMNS BY AUTHOR The Advice Diva - The Advice Diva - relationship and sexuality issues discussed - www.menstuff.org/columns/advicediva/archive.html Peter Alsop - Song of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/alsop/archive.html Reid Baer - A Man Overboard - Interview of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/overboard/archive.html Reid Baer - Poetry - poetry read on YouTube - www.menstuff.org/columns/baer/archive.html Molly Barrow - Shrink About This - www.menstuff.org/columns/barrow/archive.html Peter Baylies - At Home Dads - on at-home-dad issues that impact fathers who stay at home to raise their kids - www.menstuff.org/columns/baylies/archive.html Tom Blake - Middle-Age Relationships - from an expert on dating after 50. www.menstuff.org/columns/blake/archive.html Mark Brandenburg - Great Fathers - on fathering issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/greatfathers/archive.html Ted Braude - BoysWork - a columnist in the The Detroit Free Press "Body and Mind" section www.menstuff.org/columns/braude/archive.html Armin Brott - A Father's Guide - hosts "Positive Parenting" on radio www.menstuff.org/columns/brott/archive.html Dan Bulf - Get Real - weekly pod cast on men's issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/bulf/archive.html Ken Byers - Transition - on men's life transitions - www.menstuff.org/columns/byers/archive.html Sandra L. Caron - Sex Talk - college students get answers to their questions - www.menstuff.org/columns/sextalk/archive.html Neil Chethik - Relationships - www.menstuff.org/columns/chethik/archive.html Otto & Susie Collins - Susie and Otto - relationship issues discussed - www.menstuff.org/columns/susie&otto/archive.html David Copeland - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html Forrest Craver - Spirituality & Social Change - www.menstuff.org/columns/craver/archive.html Layne & Paul Cutright - Powerful Partnerships - relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/cutright/archive.html Ron DesMarais - Cavemen in the Kitchen - great recipes for men - www.menstuff.org/columns/desmarais/archive.html Jed Diamond - Irritable Male Syndrome - www.menstuff.org/columns/diamond/archive.html Doc Love - Women Don't Lie, Man Don't Listen - answers to relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/doclov/archive.html Barry Durdant-Hollamby - Creating Change - creating change in your life - www.menstuff.org/columns/durdant/archive.html Irv Engel - The Real Deal - www.menstuff.org/columns/engel/archive.html Nancy Fagan - Expert Dating Advice - with Nancy Fagan - www.menstuf.org/columns/fagan/archive.html Warren Farrell - Men's Issues: Facts and Perspectives www.menstuff.org/columns/farrell/archive.html Leonard Felder - Wake Up or Break Up - www.menstuff.org/columns/felder/archive.html Marty Friedman - Strong Men, Strong Marriage - www.menstuff.org/columns/friedman/archive.html Kim Garretson - Mansgland - using humor to encourage prostate exams - www.menstuff.org/columns/mansgland/archive.html Lion Goodman - How to get Women to Love You - www.menstuff.org/columns/goodman/archive.html Liz Halliday - In a Man's World - www.menstuff.org/columns/halliday/archive.html Rick Hanson - Your Wise Brain - www.menstuff.org/columns/hanson/archive.html Tim Hartnett - Daddyman Speaks - being a father www.menstuff.org/columns/daddyman/archive.html John Hershey - Blood, Phlegm & Bile: Parenting with Humor - He writes a syndicated biweekly humor column about parenting and family life. www.menstuff.org/columns/hershey/archive.html Gary Hoeber - Psychotherapy as Soul Work, www.menstuff.org/columns/hoeber/archive.html Patrick Houser - Fathers Make a World of Difference, www.menstuff.org/columns/houser/archive.html Paul Joannides - The Guide to Getting It On - on sex - www.menstuff.org/columns/getiton/archive.html Jack Kahn - NOMAS Boston - www.menstuff.org/columns/kahn/archive.html Patrick Kennedy - Seniors - www.menstuff.org/columns/kennedy/archive.html Joe Kort - Gaydar - to increase understanding between gay and het men - www.menstuff.org/columns/kort/archive.html David Kundtz - David Kundtz - presents seminars, workshops, retreats, and conference presentations in the areas of men's emotional health, stress management, and spirituality. www.menstuff.org/columns/kundtz/archive.html Bruce Linton - Dr. Dad - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/drdad/archive.html Ron Louis - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html Tom Matlack - Tom Matlack - Good Men Project - www.menstuff.org/columns/matlack/archive.html Wendy McElroy - Wendy McElroy on Feminism, www.menstuff.org/columns/mcelroy/archive.html Robert N. Minor - Minor Details - on GBT sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/minordetails/archive.html Robert L. Moore - Man & Mythology - www.menstuff.org/columns/moore/archive.html Dennis W. Neder - Being a Man - general questions about men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/neder/archive.html Marty Nemko - Worklife - general questions about men and work - www.menstuff.org/columns/nemko/archive.html Eli Newberger - Eli Newberger - general information on men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/newberger/archive.html Linda Nielsen - Embracing the Father - working with the father/daughter relationship. www.menstuff.org/columns/nielsen/archive.html Kathy Noll - Bullies and Youth Violence - working with schools, teachers and parents to end school violence - www.menstuff.org/columns/noll/archive.html Mark Phillips - Stay-at-Home-Dads - helping men maintain that which makes us men, instead of becoming hairy Mom-substitutes - www.menstuff.org/columns/phillips/archive.html Carey Roberts - Socialism & Feminism - is a social commentator on political correctness. www.menstuff.org/columns/roberts/archive.html Perry Rose - Dating, Relationship, Sex Glenn Sacks - His Side - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/sacks/archive.html Trudy Schuett - Domestic Violence - serving the under-represented www.menstuff.org/columns/schuett/archive.html Carl J. Schutt - Circumcision - social commentator on circumcision - www.menstuff.org/columns/schutt/archive.html Hugo Schwyzer - A Pro-feminist's Response - www.menstuff.org/columns/schwyzer/archive.html Michael Shaffran - Men's Issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/shaffran/archive.html Judith Sherven - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html Judith Sherven - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html George Simons - Bellicose Veins - is a US specialist in intercultural and gender communication who hangs out in Mandelieu - la Napoule, France, as well as in Santa Cruz, CA. www.menstuff.org/columns/simons/archive.html Andy Smith - Hard Hat Brotherhood - www.menstuff.org/columns/hardhat/archive.html David B. Smith - Fighting Father Dave - www.menstuff.org/columns/smith/archive.html Jim Sniechowski - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html Jim Sniechowski - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html Reena Sommer - Custody - is an internationally recognized relationship and divorce consultant. www.menstuff.org/columns/sommer/archive.html R. Don Steele - Don Steele - relationship questions answered - www.menstuff.org/columns/steele/archive.html David Steinberg - Comes Naturally - on sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/steinberg/archive.html Mary Lou St Lucas - A Mother's Love - www.menstuf.org/columns/stlucas/archive.html Surprise - Surprise Author - From a new columnist every month - www.menstuff.org/columns/surprise/archive.html Steven Svoboda - Fatherhood, Activism and the Law www.menstuff.org/columns/svoboda/archive.html Michael Taylor - A New Conversation with Men - www.menstuff.org/columns/taylor/archive.html Bruce Van Horn - Yoga for Men - issues around the health benefits of yoga for men - www.menstuff.org/yoga/archive.html Michael Webb - Secrets of Blissful Relationships - on relationship - www.menstuff.org/columns/bliss/archive.html Stuart Wilde - Spirituality - www.menstuff.org/columns/wilde/archive.html Dr.Williams - Sex Health - on sexual health - Dr. Williams, www.menstuff.org/columns/sexhealth/archive.html KC Wilson - On Gender Politics is a social commentator and author. www.menstuff.org/columns/wilson/archive.html Plus Health Tips - on general health - www.menstuff.org/columns/healthtips/archive.html Independent Means - resources for raising financially fit kids - www.menstuff.org/columns/independentmeans/archive.html Numbers - www.menstuff.org/columns/numbers/archive.html Questions - www.menstuff.org/columns/q&a/archive.html Surprise - from a new columnist every month - www.menstuff.org/columns/surprise/archive.html Words Can Heal - helping children grow up healthy - www.menstuff.org/columns/wordscanheal/archive.html Wuzup?! - National or international events happening this month - www.menstuff.org/columns/whassup/archive.html AWARENESS EVENTS THIS MONTH June is Adopt-A-Shelter Cat; Cancer from the Sun; Children's Awareness; Entrepreneurs "Do It Yourself" Marketing; Fireworks Safety; *Gay & Lesbian Pride Coming Out Month - Time to celebrate all forms of love and family; International Men's; International People Skills; National Bless-a-Child; National Burglary Prevention; National Rivers; National Safety; National Scleroderma Awareness; Rebuild Your Life; Student Safety; Vision Research and National Headache Awareness Month. Jun 1-30 is International Men's Month - See List of Men's Issues & Book of the Day. Each day at "Today" on our home page, we will be presenting information on a different men's issue. The issue changes each day at midnight, so check in to learn more about "Men's Issues" and men's lives. We will also have a Book of the Day concerning that issue. This might be the perfect time to sign up for our free newsletter which will bring all of this to you each morning. Spread the word and let everyone in your address book know. May 14-Jun 18: National Family Month. Week of June 1-7: International Volunteers; Stepparents Week. June 2-9: National Homeownership Week. June 2-10: National Fishing Week. June 3-9: Black Single Parents, National Hug Holiday, *Small Business Week. June 7-14: Nurses Assistants Day and Week. June 10-16: *National Flag Week. June 11-17:  Meet a Mate, *National Little League Baseball; National Men's Health Week in the U.S. and Canada. June 13-20: National Hermit Week. June 17-23: National Forgiveness; Universal Father's Week. June 17-24: Amateur Radio Week. June 18-22:  Take Your Pet to Work Week. June 24-30: Carpenter Any Awareness; Helen Keller Deaf-Blindness Awareness Week. June 27 - July 4: Special Recreation Week. June 1: National New Year's Resolution Recommitment; Stand for Children Day that encourages individuals to improve children's lives. www.stand.org. June 1-2 Donut; Partner's Day - Day to give thanks to your spouse/partner for precious love shared. June 2: Mindfulness; National Trails Day; June 3: Children's Awareness, June 4: United Nationals International Day of Innocent Children Victims of Aggression. June 5: Alternative Officing, National Family, United Nations World Environment Day - Day to mourn the harm done to the earth (past and present), make reparation and celebrate its beauty. June 9: Take a Kid Fishing Weekend. June 10: Abused Women and Children's Awareness Day; Alcoholics Anonymous founded. Children's Sunday. June 11:  Race Unity Day. June 14: *Flag Day,  Family History; Sustainable Development Day - Day the world's nations committed to sustainable development (1992). June 15: Magna Carta Day. June 16: *Father's Day, Family Awareness, United Nations World Day to Combat Desertification and Drought, Join Hands Day. June 19: National Splurge; Still Need to Do; World Sauntering Day. June 20:  World Juggling; Toad Hollow Day of Thank You. June 21:  Baby Boomers Recognition Day. June 23: Let It Go Day. June 24: Celebration of the Senses; America's Kids Day. June 26: UN International Day in Support of Victims of Torture; United Nations International Day Against Drug Abuse and Illicit Trafficking; National Columnist's Day. June 27: National HIV Testing; Special Recreation for Disabled, Decide to Be Married Day. June 28: Stonewall Riots - (1969), day to mourn victims of homophobia (past and present), make peace, and celebrate lesbian and gay empowerment. June 29: Peter & Paul Day. June 30: Descendants Day.  *    *    * Men are so competitive that we even "out-die" women in all 15 of the major causes of death in the U.S. Most of these deaths are preventable with a positive change in life-style, eating habits, and/or general health care. Let's not strive so hard to hold on to this record. See what you can change now to live a healthier life. Contact Us | Disclaimer | Privacy Statement Menstuff® Directory Menstuff® is a registered trademark of Gordon Clay ©1996-2023, Gordon Clay