Daily Thoughts & Issues

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OCTOBER 15

Days left until the next millennium 01.01.3001

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October 15 - Makahki/Hawaiian New Year. Hawaiians believe the Akua - Gods and Goddesses were created by Papa/Mother Earth and Wakea/Father Sky, who themselves were created from the chaos of Po. The Mystic's Wheel of the Year * The influenza epidemic peaks. It ultimately kills 500,000 Americans in 46 states and leaves others afflicted with tuberculosis, Bright's and cardiac disease. (1918) * Crow Reservation Opened for Settlement by Presidential Proclamation (1892) . 1.8 million acres of Crow Indian reservation were opened to settlers. The government had induced the Crow to give up a portion of their land in the mountainous western area in the state of Montana, for which they received 50 cents per acre. * First Manned Flight (1783) when two Frenchmen ascended in a Montgolfier hot-air balloon at Paris, France. This was only a year after the first experiments with small paper and fabric galloons. It lasted 4 minutes and carried the passengers to a height of abut 84 feet. * The US plutonium-powered spacecraft Cassini launched (1997) and is to arrive at Saturn in July, 2004. It will orbit the planet, take pictures of its 18 known moons and dispatch a probe to Titan, the largest of these moons. * Birthdays: Mario Puzo, Friedrich Wilhelm Nietzsche, Pelham Grenville Wodehouse, Victor Banerjee, John Kenneth Galbraith, Lee Iacocca, Tito Jackson (Toriano Adaryll Jackson), James Alvin (Jim) Palmer, Arthur Meier Schlesinger, Jr.

DAILY THOUGHTS

Celebrate Spirit Day on October 15th

NBC's Kate Snow discusses the importance of Spirit Day, and explains why being different is something to be embraced, not made fun of.

Of all African American students in 1993, 66 percent attended predominantly minority schools. African American History

It's hard to enjoy fellatio when it's obvious you're in a hurry for me to reach orgasm. - Steve, 25. He's got to know how to cuddle up afterward. Getting up and leaving ruins the whole thing. - Carrie, 33 Best of 1001 Sex Secrets Every Man & Woman Should Know

If you child has reached the age when she or he doesn't want to be kissed in public, blow a kiss when the child's friends can't see. Dr. Buff's 365 Day Parenting Calendar

Each of us represents the whole human race; within each of us is the instinct for godhood and the hope for mankind, and within each of us is the original sin of laziness, the ever-present force of entropy pushing us back to childhood, to the womb and to the swamps from which we have evolved. The Road Less Traveled

Our attempts to understand Eros try to keep it in the light, while for the most part it lies in darkness. Eros invites us into darkness, because the darkness of unknowing is beneficial to the soul. Soul Mates

Things to Be Happy About: Prehistoric rock formations. Calypso music. Sun setting on colored leaves. 14,000 Things to Be Happy About

It doesn't count if your swing is going the highest if you're getting pushed. Really Important Stuff My Kids Have Taught Me

In 1980, lesbian activist Virginia Apuzzo co-authored the first lesbian and gay civil rights platform ever put forward by the Democratic Party. In 1997, she became one of eighteen assistants to President Clinton, overseeing the management of several White House agencies, including he Office of AIDS. Gay & Lesbian Calendar

Have one rule in your house regarding food:  Any food or drink leaving the kitchen has to be on a tray. It is such a simple and elegant alternative to having to wipe up spills and brush crumbs off the floors and furniture. Simplify Your Life

Tasty Halloween Faces. Create food that children will love to make and eat. Cut assorted cheese slices into circles to fit on English muffins. Toast muffin halves and immediately top with a slice of cheese. Place decorating ingredients in bowls and let children crate faces on the English muffins. Some fun decorating foods: pepperoni slices; genoa-salami slices; green and black olive slices and pieces; roasted red-pepper strips and pieces; thinly-sliced red and green peppers; ketchup and mustard in small squeeze bottles;. cheese cutouts (scraps from making cheese circles); pickle slices and relish; and sliced almonds.  Parents Tips & Tricks

Nature can be a great comforter in times of stress. Use it to soothe you. Take a hike. Watch a bird or other animal go about its daily life. Go to a park or garden and just sit and rest. Visit a zoo. Listen to a tape of nature sounds. Lie on your back and look up at the clouds. Stress Busters

Our achievements speak for themselves. What we have to keep track of are our failures, discouragements, and doubts. We tend to forget the past difficulties, the many false starts, and the painful groping. - Eric Hoffer. Win the Day!

Ausente (ahooSEHNteh) Absent. Un brindis por los amigos ausentes!  A toast to absent friends!  Living Language

TODAY'S ISSUE: HEALING

 "Oh," was all he could say - the thin plaintive sound made by a small boy who has suddenly understood that there are some ills Mommy cannot cure. - William Murray. When we were small, the touch of a loved and trusted hand had the power to take away pain. "Kiss it and make it better," we demanded when we stubbed our toes or bumped our heads and someone did. And then we encountered the pains too great to kiss away. Those of us who had plenty of loving nurture have a healing power within ourselves, enabling us to survive pain and injury. The healing power is made up of love, trust and faith: love we can feel, that envelops and softens us; that that the powerful forces in our lives are looking out for us; and faith that our place in the universe is secure and we'll come to no harm. Many of us have experiences that challenge our healing powers of faith and trust. But the knowledge that we're loved still can heal us, if we know how to tap it within ourselves. If our self-love is strong, we can surrender our mistrust. And this strength we can give our children, knowing that they too will face great challenges in their lives. Family Feelings

Hey Man: Did you make a difference yesterday? Let us know at Contact Us. I am grateful for the healing powers I received from those who love me. With them, I'm equal to any task I choose to undertake. Family Feelings Want to make a difference but you don't know where to start?

BOOK OF THE WEEK

Storms of my Grandchildren: The truth about the coking climate catastrophe and our last chance to save humanity, James Hansen. The author, the nation's leading scientist on climate issues, speaks out for the first time with the full truth about global warming: The planet is hurtling even more rapidly than previously acknowledged to a climatic point of no return. Although the threat of human-caused climate change is now widely recognized, politicians have failed to connect policy with the science, responding instead with ineffectual remedies distracted by special interests., He shows why President Obama's solution, cap-and-trade, which Al Gore has signed on to, won't work; why we must phase out all coal; and why 350 parts per million of carbon dioxide in the atmosphere is a goal we musth achieve if our children and grandchildren are to avoid global meltdown and the horrific storms of the book's title. This urgent manifesto bucks conventional wisdom (including the Kyoto Protocol) and is sure to stir controversy, but he - whose climate predictions have come to pass again and again, beginning the the 1980s when he first warned Congress about global warming - is the single most credible voice on the subject worldwide. He paints a devastating, all-too-realistic picture of what will happen in the near future, mere years and decades from now, if we follow the course we're on. But he is also an optimist, showing that there is still time to do what we need to save the planet. Urgent, strong action is needed, and this book will be key in setting the agenda going forward to create a groundswell, a tipping point, to save humanity - and our grandchildren - from a dire fate more imminent than we had supposed. Bloomsbury, www.bloomsburyusa.com, 2009, ISBN 978-1-60819-200-7

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AWARENESS EVENTS THIS MONTH

October is Adopt-a-Shelter Dog; Alternate History; Auto Battery Safety; Campaign for Healthier Babies; Celiac Sprue Awareness; Child Health; Computer Learning; Diversity Awareness; Dryer Vent Safety Awareness; Energy Management is a Family Affair-Improve Your Home; Family History; Family Sexuality Education, Fantasy; Gay and Lesbian History; Health Literacy; International Fired Up; Listen to Your Inner Critic; Lupus Awareness; National AIDS Awareness; National Animal Safety and Protection; *National Breast Cancer Awareness; National Car Care; National Crime Prevention; National Depression Education and Awareness; *National Disability Employment Awareness; *National Domestic Violence Awareness; National Family Health, National Family Sexuality Education; National "Gain the Inside Advantage"; National Home Inspection; National Orthodontic Health; National Pharmacy; National Physical Therapy; National Pizza; National Popcorn Poppin'; National Roller Skating; National Skin Care Awareness; National Spinal Health; National Toilet Tank Repair; Pediatric Cancer Awareness; Rett Syndrome Awareness; Sarcastics Awareness; Substance Abuse Prevention; Talk About Prescriptions; Unmasking Halloween Dangers; Vegetarian Awareness Month.

9/15-10/15: Hispanic Heritage Month. 10/1-7: Mental Illness Awareness; *Minority Enterprise Development; National Health Care Food Oct 8-14: *Fire Prevention; Home Based Business; National Adult Immunization Awareness; *National School Lunch, National Walk to School Week. 10/9-13: Pet Peeve, Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Week. 10/10-16: Wildlife Week. 10/14-20: Ally, Pharmacy Week. 10/15-21: Getting the World to Beat a Path to Your Door; *National Character Counts; Teen Read Week. 10/16-22: National Health Education Week. 10/22-28: National Massage Therapy Awareness, National Save Yur Back Week. 10/23-31: Red Ribbon 10/25-31: Peace, Friendship & Goodwill Week. 10/1: World Vegetarian Day. 10/2: World Habitat Day, 10/3: Techies Day. 10/4: Toot Your Flute Day. 10/8 Global Learn Day; National Children's Day. 10/9: Indigenous Persons Day; *Leif Erikson Day, Yom Kippur, Canadian Thanksgiving Day. 10/11: Coming Out; Teddy Bear to Work Day; 10/12: Oktoberfest. 10/13: Blame Someone Else; Scream, Train Your Brain Day, Friday the 13th. 10/14: Sukkot. Be Bald and Be Free Day. 10/15: Spirit Day; National Grouch; *White Cane Safety Day. 10/16: Dictionary;  Boss' Day, Intl. Librarians World Food Day. 10/17: Black Poetry, International Eradication of Poverty Day. 10/18: Canadian Persons;  Boost your Brain Day. 10/19: Evaluate Your Life Day 10/21: Sweetest Day. 10/22: Mother-In-Law; National Scientific Literacy Day. 10/23: National Mole Day. 10/24: United Nations Day. Black Thursday. 10/25: Cartoonists Against Crime Day. 10/26: Horseless Carriage; Mule, Intersex Awareness Day 10/27: Frankenstein Friday, Navy Day, Ugly Pickup Contest. 10/28: Make a Difference; Wild Foods Day; Day of Meditation. 10/29: Daylight Savings Times Ends. 10/31: Halloween; National Magic; *National Unicef Day. 11/2 is Election Day. Vote Absentee Ballot.

* Means a Presidential Proclamation has been made.

Domestic Violence Prevention Month - See Issues. Also, see books on anger, violence-general, violence-domestic, violence-rape, violence-sexual, women's violence, sexual harassment plus Q&A Slide Guide on Gangs and Safe Dating in Merchandise and Alternatives to Violence programs. - resources for male and female perpetrators and male and female victims. Got some information to add, send it to mailto:violence@menstuff.org

* Means a Presidential Proclamation has been made.

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