Daily Thoughts & Issues

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OCTOBER 6

Days left until the next millennium 01.01.3001

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October 6 - Egyptian President and Nobel Peace Prize recipient Anwar al-Sadat is fatally shot by a band of commandos while reviewing a military parade in Cairo (1981). At least eight other people were reported killed in the attack. * Chung Yeung festival relates to the old story of the Han Dynasty, when a soothsayer advised a man to take his family to a high place on the ninth day of the ninth moon for 24 hours in order to avoid disaster. The man obeyed and found, on returning home, that all living things had died a sudden death in his absence. Part of the celebration is climbing to high places. (Hong Kong). * Yom Kippur War (1973). A surprise attack by Egypt and Syria pushed Israeli forces several miles behind the 1967 cease-fire lines. Israel was caught off guard, partly because the attack came on the holiest Jewish religious day. After 18 days of fighting, hostilities were halted by the UN Oct 25. Israel partially recovered from the initial setback but failed to regain all the land lost in the fighting.* Birthdays: George Westinghouse, Thor Neyerdahl, Ruben Angel Sierra, Fred Travalena.

DAILY THOUGHTS

Passionate kisses mean more than exotic positions. Best of 1001 Sex Secrets Every Man & Woman Should Know

The rule of positive discipline:  Before punishment is administered, every child should be given a way to undo whatever damage led to the need for discipline. A youngster must be allowed to replace the broken object, seek forgiveness, or repair another's hurt feelings. Dr. Buff's 365 Day Parenting Calendar

The emerging science involving the immune system strongly implicates our feelings as culprits in rendering us susceptible to diseases such as cancer and heart attack. Our thoughts and feelings do not cause these illnesses, and changing our thoughts and feelings cannot alone cure or prevent them. But with the right corrective psychological work, the immune system can be brought up to the fighting strength of a crack Praetorian Guard. New Passages

Rain:  A coming storm your shooting corns presage, And aches will throb, your hollow tooth will rage. Sauntering in coffee house is Dulman seen: He damns the climate and complains of spleen. Jonathan Swift, 1667-1745) The Old Farmer's Almanac

In debating the wisdom of a proposed course of action, human beings routinely fail to obtain God's side of the issue. They fail to consult or listen to the God within them, the knowledge of rightness that inherently resides within the minds of al mankind. We make this failure because we are lazy. The Road Less Traveled

Every human being is intended to have a character of his own; to be what no other is, and to do what no other can do. - William Channing. Achieve Your Dreams

Things to Be Happy About:  Bachelor pads. Gorgeous autumn afternoons. The philosophy of Socrates.  14,000 Things to Be Happy About

Explore. Really Important Stuff My Kids Have Taught Me

In the state of grace you trust in yourself and the universe. You can celebrate other people's blessings, knowing that their gifts are right and appropriate for them and that the universe has your gift right around the corner. If Life is a Game, These are the Rules

British painter Duncan Grant often used his male lovers as models for the figures he drew. When commissioned in 1959 by Lincoln Cathedral to paint a mural, his lover Paul Roche, a former Roman Catholic priest, was used as the model for Christ the Good Shepherd. Unhappy with the homoerotic image of the mural, cathedral officials used the room where the mural was painted as a storeroom for many years. Gay & Lesbian Calendar

The law of the harvest also operates in long-term human relationships. In a social or academic system, you may make favorable first impressions through charm; you may win through intimidation. But secondary personality traits alone have no permanent worth in long-term relationships. If there isn't deep integrity and fundamental character strength, true motives will eventually surface and human relationships will fail. Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

Monitor your buying patterns. See how long you can live without whatever it is you currently think you can't live without. Making a game out of this gives an extra boost to your determination not to acquire more clutter. Simplify Your Life

Child-Size Ice Pack. I keep a salad dressing packet (from a fast-food restaurant) in the freezer to put on my child's bumps and bruises. It doesn't freeze completely, so it's easy to hold and flexible. Plus, it's the perfect size for their little hands. Soy sauce packets work well also. (And a large bag of frozen peas is great for adults. - Editor) Parents Tips & Tricks

Reframe painful or difficult experiences as opportunities for growth and look for some good to come from them. Remember, a priceless pearl begins as an irritation to an oyster. Stress Busters

Great kids project. Glue buttons to barrettes to match outfits. You get extra buttons inside shirts and sweaters? Cut the buttons out and have your kids glue them to a barrette. You can glue buttons to hats or shoes, too! To Do Today

Every moment of your life is infinitely creative and the universe is endlessly bountiful. Just put forth a clear enough request, and everything your heart desires must come to you. - Shakti Gawain.  Win the Day!

Nadar (nahDAHR) To swim. Nadan en la abundancia. They're living in the lap of luxury. (Lit. They're swimming in abundance.) Living Language

TODAY'S ISSUE: SEXUAL HARASSMENT

There's been a lot written about this subject, since the Thomas/Hill hearings. I'm clear that part of sexual harassment (through probably not legally), is making suggestive comments to women on the street, pinching, patting or otherwise touching a woman I don't know. But, what about touching a woman colleague on the shoulder or arm, in conversation (I often do it with male colleagues)? Or a comment that I really like her outfit without expecting or wanting a response? I do it with men I don't know when I liked a suit or shirt or tie. When is it appreciation and when is it sexual harassment? What if my female colleague starts dating the boss and because of this, gets a promotion when I'm more qualified? What about flirting?

In all of the press I have read since the hearings, I have yet to see one article that let's me, as a man, know what sexual harassment is. And I truly believe that most men would not sexually harass a woman if they realized they were doing it. And, when told that what they were doing was being received as sexual harassment, would stop. Unfortunately, I haven't been able to find much information on sexual harassment out of the workplace, so apply workplace laws, to be safe.

I started with a book, published in 1981, called Sexual Harassment on the Job, How to avoid the working woman's nightmare by Contance Backhouse & Leah Cohen and went through Friedman, Boumil, Taylor's Sexual Harassment, published in 1992. (See bibliography.) Also, check with your company, which has its own guidelines or contact the District Equal Employment Commission - there's one in every state - for the Federal guidelines.) Here's what I learned. Use these, not as law, but as guidelines, since it varies by city and the judges personal bias, as was clear in the Senate hearings.

What Sexual Harassment is: Simply stated, "Sexual Harassment is any unwelcome sexual advances, requests for sexual favors, and other verbal or physical conduct of a sexual nature."

This is typically experienced in the context of a relationship of power or authority. The victims are subjected to verbal comments of a sexual nature, unconsented touching, and requests for sexual favors. The perpetrator is in a superior position at work and is able to threaten the victims' job. a promotion or some employment benefit. A single incident is usually not enough to "make a case* unless it is a violent one, but repeated acts may be. Even the usual male/female pursuit may cross the boundary to reach the level of harassment. The alleged victim must indicate displeasure in definite terms and if the perpetrator continues, that constitutes sexual harassment.

What Sexual Harassment Isn't: It's not flirtatiousness, hormones or sexual desire" says Working Woman magazine. 'Most harassers share a common goal - intimidation."

However, the legal standard constituting sexual harassment is in a state of flux. The courts, faced with this issue, are beginning to give greater attention to the alleged victim's point-of-view. It's clear, however. that a single incident of sexual advance or even a request for a sexual favor is not harassment unless it is backed by a work-related threat. I revert to terms in baseball. If I get three strikes, I'm out. If she is interested, then it's up to her to make the next, "clear pitch". Otherwise, the game is over.

What are you willing to do about the part you play in sexual harassment to (1) Insure that you never sexually harass another person, under any circumstance? (2) Intervene when you see colleagues participating in sexual harassment? and (3) Intervene when you see sexual harassment happening out in the world?

Before I go on I want you to know that I believe that (1) by far the majority of sexual harassment is done by men towards working women (50-67%). And I really want you to know that we, as men, must clean up our part of this whole thing. (2) 1 also believe that sexual harassment does happen to working men (15-30%) and that laws and guidelines are often written and languaged as if sexual harassment is only a male to female thing. The legal system and services just aren't available for victims who are male.

Three areas where male victims aren't treated equally are statutory rape, sexual harassment and spousal abuse. In some states there are laws that say sex between minors and men over 18 is statutory rape but between minors and women over 18, isn't. Regarding Sexual Harassment, the language makes it appear strictly a man to woman thing. A good example is the handout being advertised on ABC-TV that's available at every library in the U.S., called "Stop Sexual Harassment". The real danger in this document is the languaging. The only acknowledgment that it happens to men is in the second paragraph which states "Studies show that as many as one-half to two-thirds of all working women and some working men have experienced sexual harassment." However, from there on, ALL examples are "guy", "men", "his advances, "he knows she", etc. And further, under resources it clearly states, "This resource list is provided for women who are victims of sexual harassment" and it lives up to that statement, on both a local and national level. Not one example or resource for a man. (Of course, the NOW Legal Defense & Education Fund contributed in the development of the materials, so that may explain the sexist assumption.) Even spousal abuse carries the implication that men are not the recipient of spousal abuse, contrary to most research on the subject. However, even when state and local agencies work to be inclusive, the old thinking slips in as a man to woman thing. An example is form CP-536 Jan 90, published by the Concord California Police Department entitled "Resource Information for Victims of Domestic Violence". While attempting to not be sex specific, it only offers resources for women, i.e., "E. Pressing Charges/Victim Assistance - call Battered Women's Alternatives. F. Suing the Offender - call a lawyer or Battered Women's Alternatives. Shelter and Crisis Counseling: If you need a place to stay or advice." 10 women's shelters, four care centers, one nursery. "Counseling for Offenders:" 5 men's abuser services, nothing for women. "How Much Does It Cost? Battered Women's Alternatives offers clinics to women in filling out application for Temporary Restraining Order", nothing for men. And most telling, "What Do I Do If The Defendant Violates the Restraining Order? Point 3. If the defendant is still there when the police arrive, and he is aware of the restraining order, the police may arrest him/her..."(See "Alternatives to Violence" which includes some resources for women perpetrators and male victims as well as the standard fare.)

It's in the collective psyche that only men abuse. Our collective denial says that women aren't violent or when they are violent, there's an excuse but when men are violent, there's no excuse. Regardless of the sex, there's no excuse!

The reason, however, that subjects like sexual harassment, spousal abuse, incest and rape are coming out and being addressed is primarily because some courageous women are standing up to make it public and then fighting and organizing and providing services to help those affected. The Women's Shelter-movement happened because individual women got together and did something about it. Then , year's later, "some" aid was provided.

As long as men stay in the closet about being incested or molested or physically or psychologically abuse as a child, being battered in a relationship, or being sexually harassed on the job, it's going to continue to be seen as - only men abuse and only women can get help. And, when men do come out about it we need to make the support services available without expecting city, state or federal aid to do it. In essence, we need to prove that there is a need and take care of it on our own.

And we all must come to understand that our entire culture is becoming a very violent culture (witness the recent Life Time special, "Jennifer's in Jail" which spent an hour profiling teen-age girl violence - including knifings, shootings, etc.) Think twice about having your son circumcised. Think again about how appropriate that war toy is. Think again about buying that high powered water gun or the camouflage jeans for the little tike. Think about how you handle your child's pent-up anger. "What anger" you say? While the rebels definitely cause a lot of problems, know that the quiet ones are the ones that killed the 14 women in Montreal or shoot the kids in McDonalds. Anger stuffed destroys.

Our collective denial has left us with a world where schools and the penal system don't know how to deal with violent boys much less the incredible influx of violent girls. Denial can no longer be tolerated. The violence must stop! What can you do? Think about it! - Gordon Clay

What we Don't want to Look at re: Sexual Harassment

The "Reasonable Woman Standard" defining what is and what is not sexual harassment, while after-the-fact offering no "pre-harassment" guidelines is a curious thing. The "Reasonable Man Standard" is put up with anything, regardless of what is said or done. Then, Linda Krystal, a Sexual Harassment Consultant in Seattle had to go and throw a monkey wrench into all the stereotypes. She ran an ad in the newspaper offering free advise to anyone regarding being sexually harassed. To her amazement, 89% were men. 36% were men being harassed by women, 53% men being harassed by other men, and 11% women being harassed by men. I remember the Bobbit jokes going around - clearly sexual and clearly hostile. How would they fit in the "Reasonable Women Standard".

More on Sexual Harassment Issues and Books

Hey Man: Did you make a difference yesterday? Let us know at Contact Us. More of our personality is determined by genetics and biology than we generally acknowledge. What Every Man Needs to Know Want to make a difference but you don't know where to start?

Domestic Violence Prevention Month - See Issues. Also, see books on anger, violence-general, violence-domestic, violence-rape, violence-sexual, women's violence, sexual harassment plus Q&A Slide Guide on Gangs in Merchandise and Alternatives to Violence programs. - resources for male and female perpetrators and male and female victims. Got some information to add, send it to mailto: Contact Us.

 

BOOK OF THE WEEK

2010 State of the World: Transforming cultures from consumerism to sustainability, The Worldwatch Institute. Like a tsunami, consumerism has engulfed human cultures and Earth's ecosystems. Left unaddressed, we risk global disaster. But if we channel this wave, intentionally transforming our cultures to center on sustainability, we will not only prevent catastrophe but may user in an era of sustainability - one that allows all people to thrice while protecting, even restoring, Earth. In this year's report, 50+ renowned researchers and practitioners describe how we can harness the world's leading institutions - education, the media, business, governments, traditions and social movements - to reorient cultures toward sustainability. W. W. Norton, www.worldwatch.org, 2010, ISBN 978-0-393-33726-6

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AWARENESS EVENTS THIS MONTH

October is Adopt-a-Shelter Dog; Alternate History; Auto Battery Safety; Campaign for Healthier Babies; Celiac Sprue Awareness; Child Health; Computer Learning; Diversity Awareness; Dryer Vent Safety Awareness; Energy Management is a Family Affair-Improve Your Home; Family History; Family Sexuality Education, Fantasy; Gay and Lesbian History; Health Literacy; International Fired Up; Listen to Your Inner Critic; Lupus Awareness; National AIDS Awareness; National Animal Safety and Protection; *National Breast Cancer Awareness; National Car Care; National Crime Prevention; National Depression Education and Awareness; *National Disability Employment Awareness; *National Domestic Violence Awareness; National Family Health, National Family Sexuality Education; National "Gain the Inside Advantage"; National Home Inspection; National Orthodontic Health; National Pharmacy; National Physical Therapy; National Pizza; National Popcorn Poppin'; National Roller Skating; National Skin Care Awareness; National Spinal Health; National Toilet Tank Repair; Pediatric Cancer Awareness; Rett Syndrome Awareness; Sarcastics Awareness; Substance Abuse Prevention; Talk About Prescriptions; Unmasking Halloween Dangers; Vegetarian Awareness Month.

9/15-10/15: Hispanic Heritage Month. 10/1-7: Mental Illness Awareness; *Minority Enterprise Development; National Health Care Food Oct 8-14: *Fire Prevention; Home Based Business; National Adult Immunization Awareness; *National School Lunch, National Walk to School Week. 10/9-13: Pet Peeve, Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Week. 10/10-16: Wildlife Week. 10/14-20: Ally, Pharmacy Week. 10/15-21: Getting the World to Beat a Path to Your Door; *National Character Counts; Teen Read Week. 10/16-22: National Health Education Week. 10/22-28: National Massage Therapy Awareness, National Save Yur Back Week. 10/23-31: Red Ribbon 10/25-31: Peace, Friendship & Goodwill Week. 10/1: World Vegetarian Day. 10/2: World Habitat Day, 10/3: Techies Day. 10/4: Toot Your Flute Day. 10/8 Global Learn Day; National Children's Day. 10/9: Indigenous Persons Day; *Leif Erikson Day, Yom Kippur, Canadian Thanksgiving Day. 10/11: Coming Out; Teddy Bear to Work Day; 10/12: Oktoberfest. 10/13: Blame Someone Else; Scream, Train Your Brain Day, Friday the 13th. 10/14: Sukkot. Be Bald and Be Free Day. 10/15: National Grouch; *White Cane Safety Day. 10/16: Dictionary;  Boss' Day, Intl. Librarians World Food Day. 10/17: Black Poetry, International Eradication of Poverty Day. 10/18: Canadian Persons;  Boost your Brain Day. 10/19: Evaluate Your Life Day 10/21: Sweetest Day. 10/22: Mother-In-Law; National Scientific Literacy Day. 10/23: National Mole Day. 10/24: United Nations Day. Black Thursday. 10/25: Cartoonists Against Crime Day. 10/26: Horseless Carriage; Mule, Intersex Awareness Day 10/27: Frankenstein Friday, Navy Day, Ugly Pickup Contest. 10/28: Make a Difference; Wild Foods Day; Day of Meditation. 10/29: Daylight Savings Times Ends. 10/31: Halloween; National Magic; *National Unicef Day. 11/2 is Election Day. Vote Absentee Ballot.

* Means a Presidential Proclamation has been made.

Domestic Violence Prevention Month - See Issues. Also, see books on anger, violence-general, violence-domestic, violence-rape, violence-sexual, women's violence, sexual harassment plus Q&A Slide Guide on Gangs and Safe Dating in Merchandise and Alternatives to Violence programs. - resources for male and female perpetrators and male and female victims. Got some information to add, send it to mailto:violence@menstuff.org

* Means a Presidential Proclamation has been made.

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