Daily Thoughts & Issues

IN THIS ISSUE:

JULY 11

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July 11 - Independence Day in Mongolia * Day Srebrenica, Bosnia fell to attacking Serbs (1995), beginning a massacre of thousands of civilians because of their ethnicity and religion; vigil for true peace, justice, religious tolerance, and respect for thehuman rights of all in the Balkans (and not just the Balkans, everywhere in the world, especially the United States.) * Skylab, the 77-ton U.S. orbiting laboratory, reenters the Earth's atmosphere, breaks up and showers debris over the Indian Ocean and Australia. (1979) * St. Benedict's Day - the sixth-century founder of European monasticism. * Babe's Debut (1914) in his first major league baseball game in Fenway Park and was the winning pitcher. * Napalm Used (1945) in Japan by US forces. * UN World Population Day (1989) It was an outgrowth of this date in 1987 when the world population reached 5 billion. In less than 13 years, we added another billion people. Day to meditate on the social and environmental costs of overpopulation. * An eight-pound baby boy, Matej Gaspar, born at 1:35am EST (1987) at Zagreb, Yugoslavia, was proclaimed the five billionth inhabitant of Earth. Over 150 babies are born each minute in the world. * Birthdays: Yul Brynner, John Quincy Adams, Giorgio Armani, Tab Hunter (Arthur Gelien), Theodore Maiman, Richie Sambora, Leon Spinks, Rod Strickland, E.B. White, Harold Bloom, John Henson, Stephen Lang, Mark Lester, Al MacInnis, Theodore Maiman.

DAILY THOUGHTS

We need a return to the simple virtues of friendship and manners if we are to restore life to humane dimensions and values. Soul Mates

I wish he knew how good it feels when he uses his whole tongue on me during oral sex - Jane, 21 Best of 1001 Sex Secrets Every Man & Woman Should Know

The most upsetting symptoms of male menopause are the significant changes in virility that become noticeable as men move into their fifties. Unless a man is in a good relationship with a knowing partner, that psychological shock can bring on a full-fledged sexual shutdown. New Passages

Children are by nature intuitive beings. They may not be able to read your thoughts, but they can read your emotions with 99.9 percent accuracy. Dr. Buff's 365 Day Parenting Calendar

Hitch your wagon to a star. - Emerson Achieve Your Dreams

Things to Be Happy About: A long nap on the old sofa. Earning your rest. Summer stargazing. 14,000 Things to Be Happy About

It's only fun to play school when you get to be the teacher. Really Important Stuff My Kids Have Taught Me

 There is much truth in silence. If Life is a Game, These are the Rules

 Borrowing strength builds weakness. It builds weakness in the borrower because it reinforce dependence on external factors to get things done. It builds weakness in the person forced to acquiesce, stunting the development of independent reasoning, growth, and internal discipline. And finally, it builds weakness in the relationship. Fear replaces cooperation, and both people involved become more arbitrary and defensive. Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

It's much easier to keep your life free of clutter if you make it a habit not to hoard in the first place. You can stop things from accumulating by getting in the habit of throwing them out now, rather than later. Simplify Your Life

French novelist Marcel Proust, born today in 1871, wrote one of the twentieth century's greatest literary works, Remembrances of Things Past. Because of his conservatism, the novel, which weaves biographical experiences with fiction, uses heterosexual characters to portray Proust's homosexual experiences. Gay & Lesbian Calendar

"Let our advance worrying become advance thinking and planning."  - Winston Churchill. As long as you're expending mental energy, make it count for something! Stress Busters

Get a colorful notebook for your kids to fill with recipes!  They can paste or draw a picture of the food so you can remember what it looks like. Happy cooking with the kids! To Do Today

An adventure is only an inconvenience rightly considered. An inconvenience is only an adventure wrongly considered. - G. K. Chesterton. Win the Day!

 Historico (eesTOHreekoh) Historic. El Zocalo. El Zocalo is a beautiful, historic district in downtown Mexico City. In this neighborhood, many streets are named after Latin American countries. Living Language

TODAY'S ISSUE: MEASURE OF A MAN

The day will happen whether or not you get up - John Ciardi. We're all so important. What will happen if I don't get to the office by nine?  What if I go to lunch and don't get back until two? Will everyone take advantage of me if I don't show up?  Will productivity drop off if I take a vacation?  We're all indispensable, or so we think. We don't believe anyone else can make a decision, write a letter, or choose the correct stationery. If we're not stalking, managing, ordering, processing, the world will fall apart. We've talked ourselves into this. The truth is, everyone and everything almost every day gets along just fine without us. I will not be so self-involved to think that I am indispensable. Meditations For Men Who Do Too Much

We are each so much more than what some reduce to measuring - Karen Kaiser Clark. Our society places great emphasis on how well each person is doing. It makes us judgmental and competitive. As children we may have thought that our real value was measured by the grades we got in school or the sources of our baseball games. As grown men we continue measuring our worth by things like the size of our wages, the model of the cars we drive, or even how many months or years we have in recovery. We can't stop measuring, but we are in a program that helps us step outside this system. We seek to know and do the will of our Higher Power which is beyond the limitations of such measurement. Our loyalties are to values like honesty, respect, peace and wholeness. Today, I will remember that my value as a man isn't measured on a man-made scale. Touchstones

What really matters is what happens in us, not to us - James W. Kennedy. Suffering seldom ennobles us. Yet there are people who survive dreadful experiences and transcend them. Something happens within them and they learn not to employ their tormentors' tools but to soften and use compassion and surrender. This transformation occurs more easily when there's at least one sympathetic guide, one loving person to redeem experience and sweeten its bitter taste. Can I do this for myself?  Can I transform the suffering that has shaped me?  My first step is to let go, to surrender any obsessive concerns that stand in the way of my spiritual growth: money, success, jealousy, infatuation, shyness, anger. Then I must learn to meditate, to reach the deep pool of stillness within that connects me to the source of all love and serenity. When I have mastered some spiritual practice - and the letting go and reaching within take time and patience - I'll be able to pray for what I want, and my prayers will be answered. For I'll want only what's meant for me, and in the slow unfolding of my spiritual wealth my needs will be supplied. No matter what my past has been, love and faith can help guide me to the future I deserve. Family Feelings

 

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  • Ted Braude - BoysWork - a columnist in the The Detroit Free Press "Body and Mind" section www.menstuff.org/columns/braude/archive.html
  • Armin Brott - A Father's Guide - hosts "Positive Parenting" on radio www.menstuff.org/columns/brott/archive.html
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  • Ken Byers - Transition - on men's life transitions - www.menstuff.org/columns/byers/archive.html
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  • Otto & Susie Collins - Susie and Otto - relationship issues discussed - www.menstuff.org/columns/susie&otto/archive.html
  • David Copeland - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Forrest Craver - Spirituality & Social Change - www.menstuff.org/columns/craver/archive.html
  • Layne & Paul Cutright - Powerful Partnerships - relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/cutright/archive.html
  • Ron DesMarais - Cavemen in the Kitchen - great recipes for men - www.menstuff.org/columns/desmarais/archive.html
  • Jed Diamond - Irritable Male Syndrome - www.menstuff.org/columns/diamond/archive.html
  • Doc Love - Women Don't Lie, Man Don't Listen - answers to relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/doclov/archive.html
  • Barry Durdant-Hollamby - Creating Change - creating change in your life - www.menstuff.org/columns/durdant/archive.html
  • Irv Engel - The Real Deal - www.menstuff.org/columns/engel/archive.html
  • Nancy Fagan - Expert Dating Advice - with Nancy Fagan - www.menstuf.org/columns/fagan/archive.html
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  • Kim Garretson - Mansgland - using humor to encourage prostate exams - www.menstuff.org/columns/mansgland/archive.html
  • Lion Goodman - How to get Women to Love You - www.menstuff.org/columns/goodman/archive.html
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  • Tim Hartnett - Daddyman Speaks - being a father www.menstuff.org/columns/daddyman/archive.html
  • John Hershey - Blood, Phlegm & Bile: Parenting with Humor - He writes a syndicated biweekly humor column about parenting and family life. www.menstuff.org/columns/hershey/archive.html
  • Gary Hoeber - Psychotherapy as Soul Work, www.menstuff.org/columns/hoeber/archive.html
  • Patrick Houser - Fathers Make a World of Difference, www.menstuff.org/columns/houser/archive.html
  • Paul Joannides - The Guide to Getting It On - on sex - www.menstuff.org/columns/getiton/archive.html
  • Jack Kahn - NOMAS Boston - www.menstuff.org/columns/kahn/archive.html
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  • David Kundtz - David Kundtz - presents seminars, workshops, retreats, and conference presentations in the areas of men's emotional health, stress management, and spirituality. www.menstuff.org/columns/kundtz/archive.html
  • Bruce Linton - Dr. Dad - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/drdad/archive.html
  • Ron Louis - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Tom Matlack - Tom Matlack - Good Men Project - www.menstuff.org/columns/matlack/archive.html
  • Wendy McElroy - Wendy McElroy on Feminism, www.menstuff.org/columns/mcelroy/archive.html
  • Robert N. Minor - Minor Details - on GBT sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/minordetails/archive.html
  • Robert L. Moore - Man & Mythology - www.menstuff.org/columns/moore/archive.html
  • Dennis W. Neder - Being a Man - general questions about men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/neder/archive.html
  • Marty Nemko - Worklife - general questions about men and work - www.menstuff.org/columns/nemko/archive.html
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  • Linda Nielsen - Embracing the Father - working with the father/daughter relationship. www.menstuff.org/columns/nielsen/archive.html
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  • Mark Phillips - Stay-at-Home-Dads - helping men maintain that which makes us men, instead of becoming hairy Mom-substitutes - www.menstuff.org/columns/phillips/archive.html
  • Carey Roberts - Socialism & Feminism - is a social commentator on political correctness. www.menstuff.org/columns/roberts/archive.html
  • Perry Rose - Dating, Relationship, Sex
  • Glenn Sacks - His Side - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/sacks/archive.html
  • Trudy Schuett - Domestic Violence - serving the under-represented www.menstuff.org/columns/schuett/archive.html
  • Carl J. Schutt - Circumcision - social commentator on circumcision - www.menstuff.org/columns/schutt/archive.html
  • Hugo Schwyzer - A Pro-feminist's Response - www.menstuff.org/columns/schwyzer/archive.html
  • Michael Shaffran - Men's Issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/shaffran/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • George Simons - Bellicose Veins - is a US specialist in intercultural and gender communication who hangs out in Mandelieu - la Napoule, France, as well as in Santa Cruz, CA. www.menstuff.org/columns/simons/archive.html
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  • David B. Smith - Fighting Father Dave - www.menstuff.org/columns/smith/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
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  • David Steinberg - Comes Naturally - on sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/steinberg/archive.html
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AWARENESS EVENTS THIS MONTH

July is Freedom Month. If you enjoy the benefits this country has to offer, you might check out what kind of men it took to found this country. The Fourth of July has more to it than beer, picnics, and baseball games. Read this! July is Anti-Boredom; National Mobility; Purposeful Parenting: Recreation and Parks; The month of the Muslim new year; Hemochromatosis Screening Awareness; National Foreign Language Month.

June 27 - July 4: Special Recreation Week. June 25-July 1: Deaf-Blindness Awareness Week. June 27 - July 4: Special Recreation Week. Jul 1-8 Music for Life; July 3-Aug 15: Air Conditioning Appreciation Days. Jul 4-10 - Freedom Week. July 8:-14: National Laundry Workers; National Therapeutic Recreation: Take Charge of Change Week. Jul 9-15 - Nude Recreation. July 15-21: *Captive Nations; Legal Revolution; National Plan to Promote Your Business Week. Jul 1 UN Day of Cooperation; International Joke; National Financial Freedom; National Recreation and Parks; National Purposeful Parenting, Jul 2 - I Forgot; Ducktona 500 Day; July 3: Compliment Your Mirror: Stay Out of the Sun Day. Jul 4 - Independence Day (U.S.); American Redneck; Fear from Fear of Speaking ; Independence-from-Meat Day; Sidewalk Egg Frying; Jul 5 - National Family Day, July 7: Father-Daughter Take a Walk Together; International UN Day of Cooperation. July 9: Don't Step on a Bee Day. July 10: Intern Appreciation Day. July 13: Skeptics' Day. July 14: Cow Apprecaition Day. July 15: National Ice Cream; Saint Swithin's Day. July 16: International Town Criers; Naitonal Get Out of the Doghouse Day. July 17: Wrong Way Corrigan Day. Jul 20 - Ugly Truck; Riot Act anniversary. July 21: Rat-Catchers Day. Jul 22 - Ice Cream Cone Day. July 23: Hot Enough For Ya Day. July 24: Cousins; Health and Happiness with Hypnosis Day. Jul 27 - *National Korean War Veterans Armistice; Take Your Houseplants for a Walk Day. July 29: *Parents' Day. Jul 30 - Father-In-Law Day, National Parent's Day.

* Means a Presidential Proclamation has been made.

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