Daily Thoughts & Issues

IN THIS ISSUE:

JULY 3

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July 3 - Independence Day in Belarus. *  Iran Air Flight 655 Disaster (1988) in the Persian Gulf, the US Navy warship Vincennes fired two surface-to-air missiles which destroyed the airbus killing all 290 passengers. * Raid on Entebbe: An Israeli commando unit staged a raid on the airport in Uganda and rescued 103 hostages on a hijacked Air France airliner. Three of the hostages, seven hijackers and 20 Ugandan soldiers were killed in the raid. The plane had been en route from Tel Aviv to Paris when taken over by the pro-Palestinian guerrillas. * Vicksburg Surrenders (1863) to General Grant and on July 8 Port Hudson also surrendered, giving the Union complete control of the Mississippi River. * The WWII  war effort ends as the first civilian car since February, 1942 rolls off the assembly line at Ford Motor Co. (1945). *Birthdays: Moses Alou, Dave Barry, Tom Cruise, Pete Fountain, Thomas Gibson, Kurtwood Smith, Tom Stoppard, Teemu Selanne, Montel Williams, George M. Cohan, Franz Kafka.

Watch for arrant fireworks.

DAILY THOUGHTS

Dog Days Begin. "Every dog has his day". Can you name these canines? 1. The Dog Star. 2. Wendy, Michael and John's Newfoundland, in Peter Pan. 3. Dogwood and Blonde's dog. 4. Little Orphan Annie's dog. 5. This dog died of joy to see Ulysses. 6. Name a codependent calls his dog. The Old Farmer's Almanac Answer

On this day in 1962, Jackie Robinson becomes the first African American to be inducted into the National Baseball Hall of Fame. African American History

Today, a ceremony will be held to place a monument into the Atlantic Ocean in honor of the millions of African men, women, and children who lost their lives via human enslavement. Six (6) replicas of the monument will be created for placement on land in Africa, the Caribbean, Central America, Europe, North America, and South America. The Honorable Koif Annan, Secretary-General of the United Nations has endorsed the project, describing it as an opportunity to help broaden the understanding of African cultures and the heritage of people of African descent. The Homeward Bound Foundation, the organizer of the event want all in the African Diaspora to be aware of this historic event. Thus all are encouraged to inform everyone they know of this event and organize local events to mark its place in the minds and hearts of all who seek social, economic, political, and cultural liberation for the African world community. Access the official website for details at www.middlepassage.org/index.html.

Planning a family trip this holiday with your children?  Don't forget your ABC's!  Allow Ample time. Travel can be a rushed and Busy time, so stick together. Carry snacks and games. Dr. Buff's 365 Day Parenting Calendar

Friendship lies on a long continuum of intensity, from the true soul mate to the friendly neighbor or delivery person. Soul Mates

I wish she knew how little I care about the size of her breasts - William, 33. Best of 1001 Sex Secrets Every Man & Woman Should Know

Women probably think they are the only ones who begin to feel invisible over fifty. It is surprising to find out how vulnerable men are to the evaporation of admiring looks. Men who have relied on being handsome and strong to pave the way for sexual conquest are especially stung by the sudden indifference of younger women. New Passages

It is not enough to get things done. They must be done right. - Arthur Twining Hadley. Achieve Your Dreams

Things to Be Happy About:  Seeing signs of humaneness. Cool brink underfoot Mild pranks pulled off. 14,000 Things to Be Happy About

 You don't get to see the Big Dipper if you're afraid of the dark. Really Important Stuff My Kids Have Taught Me

Consider approaching your life as if other people were mirroring back to you important information. If you accept this premise, then each encounter reflects back to you an opportunity to explore your relationship to yourself and to learn. Assume for a moment that the qualities you admire in others - their strengths, abilities, and positive attributes - are really characteristics you have already embraced within yourself. You can therefore allow them to illuminate more clearly your own feelings of self-worth.  If Life is a Game, These are the Rules

When you communicate synergistically, you are simply opening your mind, heart and expressions to new possibilities, new alternatives, new options. It may seem as if you are casting aside Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind, but, in fact, you're doing the opposite - you're fulfilling it. You're not sure when you engage in synergistic communication how things will work out or what the end will look like, but you do have an inward sense of excitement, security, and adventure, believing that it will be significantly better than it was before. And that is the end that you have in mind.  Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

Keep a list of all your children's friends' phone numbers by the phone for easy reference. Have your kids update it a couple of times a year.  Simplify Your Life

Take time to relieve the tension caused by pent-up emotions by choosing among a variety of options for healthy emotional expression. Talk about your feelings with a trusted friend, relative, god, counselor, pet. Write about your feelings in a journal, letter, poem, story. Express your feelings through art, music, drama, dance. Stress Busters

Set up a stage with lights and suggest that your kids invite friends over to dress in silly costumes. Make up a play. Then, if it's okay with them, videotape the play and later they can watch their movie. They are movie stars!  Don't forget the pop corn.  To Do Today

Remember, you can't steal second if you don't take your foot off first. - Mike Todd. Win the Day!

El Cesped (SEHSpehd). Grass. Nos sentamos en el cesped?  Shall we sit on the grass? Living Language

Answer: 1. Sirius, 2. Nana, 3. Daisy, 4. Sandy, 5. Argus, 6. Go-away. So they can call the dog - "Come here, go-away." ed.

TODAY'S ISSUE: HATE

If you hate a person, you hate something in him that is part of yourself. What isn't part of ourselves doesn't disturb us. - Hermann Hesse

I imagine one of the reasons people cling to their hates so stubbornly is because they sense, once hate is gone, they will be forced to deal with the pain. Dealing with pain is never easy. Some people cling to their "hates" and prejudices as a means of avoidance. Some, and in particular the work-addicted, medicate their pain with full calendars, committee memberships, meetings and emergencies. Work is our daily anesthetic. It numbs the pain of conflict, of financial loss, of failed relationships. But is also numbs our ability to feel and express joy. Facing our own pain, evaluating our own losses and inconsistencies, makes us see monsters. Today I will be aware of the real monsters as opposed to the ones I fabricate. Meditations For Men Who Do Too Much

Hey Man: Did you make a difference yesterday? Let us know at Contact Us When you apologize, do it twice: once in person (or by phone) and once by letter. To show the apology is sincere, be as persistent with the apology as you are with getting what you want. What Every Man Needs to Know Want to make a difference but you don't know where to start?

BOOK OF THE WEEK

Mr. Mean: Saving your relationshipo from the irritable male syndrome, Jed Diamond. Studies show that 50% of first marriages, 67% of second marriages, and 74% of third marriages end in divorce. As a marriage and family counselor who specializes in helping men and the women who love them, I’ve found that the hidden destroyer of good relationships is a phenomenon called “The Irritable Male Syndrome (IMS).” This book was written for the millions of women and men who want to understand how they can rescue their relationship, help their spouse, and save themselves. Vox Novus, 2010. ISBN 978-0-9842600-1-0

 

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AWARENESS EVENTS THIS MONTH

July is Freedom Month. If you enjoy the benefits this country has to offer, you might check out what kind of men it took to found this country. The Fourth of July has more to it than beer, picnics, and baseball games. Read this! July is Anti-Boredom; National Mobility; Purposeful Parenting: Recreation and Parks; The month of the Muslim new year; Hemochromatosis Screening Awareness; National Foreign Language Month.

June 27 - July 4: Special Recreation Week. June 25-July 1: Deaf-Blindness Awareness Week. June 27 - July 4: Special Recreation Week. Jul 1-8 Music for Life; July 3-Aug 15: Air Conditioning Appreciation Days. Jul 4-10 - Freedom Week. July 8:-14: National Laundry Workers; National Therapeutic Recreation: Take Charge of Change Week. Jul 9-15 - Nude Recreation. July 15-21: *Captive Nations; Legal Revolution; National Plan to Promote Your Business Week. Jul 1 UN Day of Cooperation; International Joke; National Financial Freedom; National Recreation and Parks; National Purposeful Parenting, Jul 2 - I Forgot; Ducktona 500 Day; July 3: Compliment Your Mirror: Stay Out of the Sun Day. Jul 4 - Independence Day (U.S.); American Redneck; Fear from Fear of Speaking ; Independence-from-Meat Day; Sidewalk Egg Frying; Jul 5 - National Family Day, July 7: Father-Daughter Take a Walk Together; International UN Day of Cooperation. July 9: Don't Step on a Bee Day. July 10: Intern Appreciation Day. July 13: Skeptics' Day. July 14: Cow Apprecaition Day. July 15: National Ice Cream; Saint Swithin's Day. July 16: International Town Criers; Naitonal Get Out of the Doghouse Day. July 17: Wrong Way Corrigan Day. Jul 20 - Ugly Truck; Riot Act anniversary. July 21: Rat-Catchers Day. Jul 22 - Ice Cream Cone Day. July 23: Hot Enough For Ya Day. July 24: Cousins; Health and Happiness with Hypnosis Day. Jul 27 - *National Korean War Veterans Armistice; Take Your Houseplants for a Walk Day. July 29: *Parents' Day. Jul 30 - Father-In-Law Day, National Parent's Day.

* Means a Presidential Proclamation has been made.

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