Daily Thoughts & Issues

IN THIS ISSUE:

MAY 18

Days left until the next millennium 01.01.3001

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Achieve Your Dreams

May 18 - Thru May 25: Old Greek & Roman festival of God Pan/Faunus - men celebrate brotherhood, father-son relationships, the sacredness of male fertility, the masculine in Nature, and being masculine (strong, compassionate, and wise - not macho). The Mystic's Wheel of the Year * The Panama Canal is opened to barge service on this day in 1914. * Mt. St. Helens in Washington erupts (1980). * Birthdays: Perry Como (Pierino Como), Reginald Martinez (Reggie) Jackson, Meredith Willson, Chow Yun-Fat, Robert Morse, Pernell Roberts, Brooks Robinson, James Stephens, Frank Capra, George Strait, Pope John Paul II (Karol Wojtyla).

DAILY THOUGHTS

Bitter feelings are part of family life. Members may need to create for one another the time and space to give these feelings a hearing, without judgment or expectation, so they can be sorted through and refined. Soul Mates

Proactive people can carry their own weather with them. Whether it rains or shines makes no difference to hem. They are value driven; and if their value is to produce good quality work, it isn't a function of whether the weather is conducive to it or not. Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

I wish men took safe sex more seriously. - Maureen, 24 Best of 1001 Sex Secrets Every Man & Woman Should Know

Bunking with Baby. The SIDS Alliance offers the following safety tips for parents who wish to sleep in the same bed with babies, especially those under 6 months of age. If you smoke, never sleep with your baby. Even smoke residue on the parents' pajamas or in the family bed increase the risk of sudden infant death syndrome. Make sure your baby sleeps on his back on a firm, flat mattress. The bed should be clear of pillows, comforters and other things, soft items that can pose a suffocation hazard. Don't share sleep with your baby on a water bed, sheepskin, or feather bed. Family Feelings

Sneeze for Luck:  It's lucky to sneeze at the beginning of an argument. It's lucky to sneeze when reading. It's lucky to sneeze when going to bed. AA sneeze is evidence of the brain's vigor. When a child sneezes, say, "Grow", to give him health. The Old Farmer's Almanac

Words that do not match deeds are not important. - Che Guevara. Achieve Your Dreams

Things to Be Happy About: Inspiration on cloudy days. Broadway show soundtracks. Old attic trunks. 14,000 Things to Be Happy About

Get up before the dew is gone.  Really Important Stuff My Kids Have Taught Me

To improve is to change; to be perfect is to change often. - Winston Churchill.  If Life is a Game, These are the Rules

Simplify your lawn maintenance: don't rake the grass clippings. Leaving them on the lawn not only saves you time and energy, it helps to retain the moisture and creates a natural fertilizer for the grass. Also, recycling the moved grass into your lawn reduces the amount of clippings that are added to your local landfill. Simplify Your Life

"A pessimist is someone who when given the choice between two unpleasant alternatives will choose both." - Unknown. Check your mindset. Do you cause a lot of your own stress by a habitually negative way of thinking?  Stress Busters

Teach your children: Manage a luxury hotel - or pretend to! Tape room numbers to the bedrooms. Set up a table with a phone in the hotel "lobby". Have people check in and out. You can even offer maid and room service! To Do Today

The harder you work, the luckier you get. - Gary Player. Win the Day!

El topo (TOHpoh) Mole. Veo menos que un topo. I'm as blind as a bat. (Lit. I see less than a mole.) Living Language

TODAY'S ISSUE: GAY SEXUALITY

My daughter is a lesbian. She is the light of my life...If society has some false notions about her, that is all the more reason she needs and deserves my support. - R. Bernstein

When children choose partners from an unexpected color, gender or class, parents may find their notion of family stretched. A same-sex lover can change our idea of who we are, of just who's meant when we say "we." We may give a kind of automatic assent to the notion that humanity is one family, but that's different from finding gays or lesbians at our family dinner table.

Same-sex partners can be more difficult to accept than other colors and classes, partly because of the question of grandchildren. Most parents of lesbians and gays either have or acquire enough information to get rid of any lingering shame or stigma around the question of sexuality. But the notion that they may not have grandchildren can be distressing. Today many lesbian and some gay couples are choosing to bear or adopt children. Like other assumptions about family, this barrier to parenthood (and grandparenthood) is turning out to be illusory as well.

Parents of lesbians and gays learn some hard lessons in acceptance and courage, like everyone who faces the "false notions" of prejudice. Loving, accepting parents are a lifelong asset to their children - especially when they believe that the breadth of experience lesbians and gays bring to a family is a precious gift.

I welcome challenges to my world view; they help me to grow. Family Feelings (See: Can a Gay Couple Have a Baby?)

Hey Man: Did you make a difference yesterday? Let us know at Contact Us. Start a garden. What Every Man Needs to Know Want to make a difference but you don't know where to start?.

BOOK OF THE WEEK

 

Sex Advice From...DJs, sorority girls, cowboys, car dealers, bartenders, pool cleaners, hairstylists.by Nerve.com. This book features photos of real people with interesting jobs -0 and even more interesting sex lives. Before sending their brace correspondents into the trenches, the editors at Nerve.com - the acclaimed sex and dating web site - spent weeks locked inside the Nerve war room drawing up a comprehensive list of questions about all things sex - dirty talk, home vidieos, hygiene, blow jobs and techiques, and threesomes, to name just a few. The correspondents then traveled far and wide in search of novel advice. They spoke to tour guides in Washington; lifeguards in New Jersey; pool cleaners in Hollywood' sideshow performers at Coney Island; and expats living all over the globe. The result? This chunky paperback, chockful of everything you ever wanted to know about sex but were too afraid to ask the salesman at your local used car dealership. www.chroniclebooks.com, 2006 ISBN 1 0-8118-5002-1

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MENSTUFF COLUMNS BY AUTHOR

  • The Advice Diva - The Advice Diva - relationship and sexuality issues discussed - www.menstuff.org/columns/advicediva/archive.html
  • Peter Alsop - Song of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/alsop/archive.html
  • Reid Baer - A Man Overboard - Interview of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/overboard/archive.html
  • Reid Baer - Poetry - poetry read on YouTube - www.menstuff.org/columns/baer/archive.html
  • Molly Barrow - Shrink About This - www.menstuff.org/columns/barrow/archive.html
  • Peter Baylies - At Home Dads - on at-home-dad issues that impact fathers who stay at home to raise their kids - www.menstuff.org/columns/baylies/archive.html
  • Tom Blake - Middle-Age Relationships - from an expert on dating after 50. www.menstuff.org/columns/blake/archive.html
  • Mark Brandenburg - Great Fathers - on fathering issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/greatfathers/archive.html
  • Ted Braude - BoysWork - a columnist in the The Detroit Free Press "Body and Mind" section www.menstuff.org/columns/braude/archive.html
  • Armin Brott - A Father's Guide - hosts "Positive Parenting" on radio www.menstuff.org/columns/brott/archive.html
  • Dan Bulf - Get Real - weekly pod cast on men's issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/bulf/archive.html
  • Ken Byers - Transition - on men's life transitions - www.menstuff.org/columns/byers/archive.html
  • Sandra L. Caron - Sex Talk - college students get answers to their questions - www.menstuff.org/columns/sextalk/archive.html
  • Neil Chethik - Relationships - www.menstuff.org/columns/chethik/archive.html
  • Otto & Susie Collins - Susie and Otto - relationship issues discussed - www.menstuff.org/columns/susie&otto/archive.html
  • David Copeland - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Forrest Craver - Spirituality & Social Change - www.menstuff.org/columns/craver/archive.html
  • Layne & Paul Cutright - Powerful Partnerships - relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/cutright/archive.html
  • Ron DesMarais - Cavemen in the Kitchen - great recipes for men - www.menstuff.org/columns/desmarais/archive.html
  • Jed Diamond - Irritable Male Syndrome - www.menstuff.org/columns/diamond/archive.html
  • Doc Love - Women Don't Lie, Man Don't Listen - answers to relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/doclov/archive.html
  • Barry Durdant-Hollamby - Creating Change - creating change in your life - www.menstuff.org/columns/durdant/archive.html
  • Irv Engel - The Real Deal - www.menstuff.org/columns/engel/archive.html
  • Nancy Fagan - Expert Dating Advice - with Nancy Fagan - www.menstuf.org/columns/fagan/archive.html
  • Warren Farrell - Men's Issues: Facts and Perspectives www.menstuff.org/columns/farrell/archive.html
  • Leonard Felder - Wake Up or Break Up - www.menstuff.org/columns/felder/archive.html
  • Marty Friedman - Strong Men, Strong Marriage - www.menstuff.org/columns/friedman/archive.html
  • Kim Garretson - Mansgland - using humor to encourage prostate exams - www.menstuff.org/columns/mansgland/archive.html
  • Lion Goodman - How to get Women to Love You - www.menstuff.org/columns/goodman/archive.html
  • Liz Halliday - In a Man's World - www.menstuff.org/columns/halliday/archive.html
  • Rick Hanson - Just One Thing - www.menstuff.org/columns/hanson/archive.html
  • Tim Hartnett - Daddyman Speaks - being a father www.menstuff.org/columns/daddyman/archive.html
  • John Hershey - Blood, Phlegm & Bile: Parenting with Humor - He writes a syndicated biweekly humor column about parenting and family life. www.menstuff.org/columns/hershey/archive.html
  • Gary Hoeber - Psychotherapy as Soul Work, www.menstuff.org/columns/hoeber/archive.html
  • Patrick Houser - Fathers Make a World of Difference, www.menstuff.org/columns/houser/archive.html
  • Paul Joannides - The Guide to Getting It On - on sex - www.menstuff.org/columns/getiton/archive.html
  • Jack Kahn - NOMAS Boston - www.menstuff.org/columns/kahn/archive.html
  • Patrick Kennedy - Seniors - www.menstuff.org/columns/kennedy/archive.html
  • Joe Kort - Gaydar - to increase understanding between gay and het men - www.menstuff.org/columns/kort/archive.html
  • David Kundtz - David Kundtz - presents seminars, workshops, retreats, and conference presentations in the areas of men's emotional health, stress management, and spirituality. www.menstuff.org/columns/kundtz/archive.html
  • Bruce Linton - Dr. Dad - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/drdad/archive.html
  • Ron Louis - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Tom Matlack - Tom Matlack - Good Men Project - www.menstuff.org/columns/matlack/archive.html
  • Wendy McElroy - Wendy McElroy on Feminism, www.menstuff.org/columns/mcelroy/archive.html
  • Robert N. Minor - Minor Details - on GBT sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/minordetails/archive.html
  • Robert L. Moore - Man & Mythology - www.menstuff.org/columns/moore/archive.html
  • Dennis W. Neder - Being a Man - general questions about men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/neder/archive.html
  • Marty Nemko - Worklife - general questions about men and work - www.menstuff.org/columns/nemko/archive.html
  • Eli Newberger - Eli Newberger - general information on men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/newberger/archive.html
  • Linda Nielsen - Embracing the Father - working with the father/daughter relationship. www.menstuff.org/columns/nielsen/archive.html
  • Kathy Noll - Bullies and Youth Violence - working with schools, teachers and parents to end school violence - www.menstuff.org/columns/noll/archive.html
  • Mark Phillips - Stay-at-Home-Dads - helping men maintain that which makes us men, instead of becoming hairy Mom-substitutes - www.menstuff.org/columns/phillips/archive.html
  • Carey Roberts - Socialism & Feminism - is a social commentator on political correctness. www.menstuff.org/columns/roberts/archive.html
  • Perry Rose - Dating, Relationship, Sex
  • Glenn Sacks - His Side - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/sacks/archive.html
  • Trudy Schuett - Domestic Violence - serving the under-represented www.menstuff.org/columns/schuett/archive.html
  • Carl J. Schutt - Circumcision - social commentator on circumcision - www.menstuff.org/columns/schutt/archive.html
  • Hugo Schwyzer - A Pro-feminist's Response - www.menstuff.org/columns/schwyzer/archive.html
  • Michael Shaffran - Men's Issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/shaffran/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • George Simons - Bellicose Veins - is a US specialist in intercultural and gender communication who hangs out in Mandelieu - la Napoule, France, as well as in Santa Cruz, CA. www.menstuff.org/columns/simons/archive.html
  • Andy Smith - Hard Hat Brotherhood - www.menstuff.org/columns/hardhat/archive.html
  • David B. Smith - Fighting Father Dave - www.menstuff.org/columns/smith/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • Reena Sommer - Custody - is an internationally recognized relationship and divorce consultant. www.menstuff.org/columns/sommer/archive.html
  • R. Don Steele - Don Steele - relationship questions answered -
    www.menstuff.org/columns/steele/archive.html
  • David Steinberg - Comes Naturally - on sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/steinberg/archive.html
  • Mary Lou St Lucas - A Mother's Love - www.menstuf.org/columns/stlucas/archive.html
  • Surprise - Surprise Author - From a new columnist every month - www.menstuff.org/columns/surprise/archive.html
  • Steven Svoboda - Fatherhood, Activism and the Law www.menstuff.org/columns/svoboda/archive.html
  • Michael Taylor - A New Conversation with Men - www.menstuff.org/columns/taylor/archive.html
  • Bruce Van Horn - Yoga for Men - issues around the health benefits of yoga for men - www.menstuff.org/yoga/archive.html
  • Michael Webb - Secrets of Blissful Relationships - on relationship - www.menstuff.org/columns/bliss/archive.html
  • Stuart Wilde - Spirituality - www.menstuff.org/columns/wilde/archive.html
  • Dr.Williams - Sex Health - on sexual health - Dr. Williams, www.menstuff.org/columns/sexhealth/archive.html
  • KC Wilson - On Gender Politics is a social commentator and author. www.menstuff.org/columns/wilson/archive.html

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  • Health Tips - on general health - www.menstuff.org/columns/healthtips/archive.html
  • Independent Means - resources for raising financially fit kids - www.menstuff.org/columns/independentmeans/archive.html
  • Numbers - www.menstuff.org/columns/numbers/archive.html
  • Questions - www.menstuff.org/columns/q&a/archive.html
  • Surprise - from a new columnist every month - www.menstuff.org/columns/surprise/archive.html
  • Words Can Heal - helping children grow up healthy - www.menstuff.org/columns/wordscanheal/archive.html
  • Wuzup?! - National or international events happening this month - www.menstuff.org/columns/whassup/archive.html

AWARENESS EVENTS THIS MONTH

May is: Skin Cancer Awareness, * Masturbation Month; Asian Pacific American Heritage;. Better Hearing and Speech; Better Sleep; Correct Posture; Creative Beginnings; Family Support; Foster Care; Get Caught Reading; Helping American Youth; National Allergy/Asthma Awareness; National Arthritis; National Barbecue; Good Car-Keeping; Hepatitis Awareness; Mental Health; Osteoporosis Prevention; Physical Fitness and Sports; Recommitment; Scholarship; Self-Discovery; Senior Citizens Month , Senior Travel; Sight-Saving; Stroke Awareness; Teaching and Joy, Teen Pregnancy Prevention, Tuberous; Sclerosis Awareness; *Older Americans; Personal History Awareness; Revise Your Work Schedule; and Strike Out Strokes Month. The most tornados happen in May.

May 14-Jun 18: National Family Month. Apr 29-May 5: *National Science & Technology Week. May 1-7: Cartoon Art Appreciation Week. May 5-11: National Nurses Day and Week. May 6-12: Be Kind to Animals; Flexible Work Arrangements; *Jewish Heritage; National Family; National Pet; PTA Teacher Appreciation; Suicide Awareness; Wildflower; and Teacher Appreciation Week. May 7-13 National Etiquette; and National Herb Week. May 13-219: National Medical Services; *Nat Police; *National Transportation; and *World Trade Week. May 19-25: *National Safe Boating Week. May 20-26: Good Stewardship; International Reggae Music; National New Friends-Old Friends; and, National Reflexology Awareness Week. May 21-28: Buckle Up America; and, National Backyard Games Week. May 1: May Day observed since ancient times and has become Labor Day in most countries except the U.S., Bermuda and Canada. Kindness Day, Teen Day, Freedom Riders Anniversary, Executive Coaching Day. *Law Day. *Loyalty Day. Peace of Mind Day. 40th Anniversary of the U-2 Incident with Francis Gary Powers. May 2: Holocaust Rememberance Day. May 6:: National Day of Hearing Testing. May 8: V-E Day 55th Anniversary, World Red Cross Day, May 9: National Receptionests Day, National Teachers Day. May 10: National Small Business Day. May 12: Chronic Fatigue Awareness Day May 14: *Mother's Day. May 15: *Peace Officer Memorial Day May 19: *National Defense Transportation Day. National Bike to Work Day. May 20: *Armed Forces Day. May 21: National Waitstaff Day, Neighbor Day Youth Against Violence. May 22: *National Maritime Day. May 25: National Missing Children's Day. May 26: Morning Radio Wise Guy Day. May 28:  Ancestor Honor Day. Memorial Day. (celebrated on Monday the *29th Memorial Day Prayer for Peace requests flying the flag at half-staff for the customary forenoon period.) May 31: National Senior Health and Fitness Day. World No-Tobacco Day.

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