Daily Thoughts & Issues

IN THIS ISSUE:

JULY 6

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Achieve Your Dreams

July 6 - Take Your Webmaster to Lunch Day * Independence Day in Comoros Island and Malawi. * First airship crossing of Atlantic (1919) was completed as a British dirigible landed at New York's Roosevelt Field. * First black US State's Attorney (1961), Cecil Francis Poole, sworn in as US attorney for the Northern District of California * First Major League Baseball All-Star Game (1933) was held at Comiskey Park, Chicago. Babe Ruth led the American League with a home run. * Republican Party formed (1854), * Soyuz 21 (USSR) launched to study Earth's surface and conduct zoological-botanical experiments (1976) * First successful anti rabies inoculation (1885) by Louis Pasteur to a boy who had been bitten by an infected dog. * Birthdays: Merv Griffin, Ned Beatty, George W. Bush, Sylvester Stallone, John Paul Jones, Donald Donnelly, Grant Goodeve, Burt Ward, Tenzin Gyatso, the 14th Dalai Lama.

DAILY THOUGHTS

Mutual loving confrontation is a significant part of all successful and meaningful human relationships. Without it the relationship is either unsuccessful or shallow. The Road Less Traveled

Paranoia is a way of avoiding being present to life with its full range of safety and danger, its potential for good and evil. Soul Mates

Tips: You can bet it's going to thunder if the dogs get agitated, the rabbits all sit looking in one direction with their ears twitching, or the toads are seen hurrying toward water. Some say the cow's milk curdles easily before a thunderstorm. The Old Farmer's Almanac

The more people have studied different methods of bringing up children, the more they have come to the conclusion that what good mothers and fathers instinctively feel like doing for their babies is the best after all - Benjamin Spock. Dr. Buff's 365 Day Parenting Calendar

You'll never get what you want unless you're willing to ask for it - Sean, 30 Best of 1001 Sex Secrets Every Man & Woman Should Know

A good scare is worth more than good advice. - Ed Howe Achieve Your Dreams

Things to Be Happy About:  Being off the beaten path. Stopping the hiccups. Rice paddies.  14,000 Things to Be Happy About

There's a lot of different ways to get to the top of the jungle gym. Really Important Stuff My Kids Have Taught Me

We need to listen closely to hear our messages, as they do not always sound or look the way we think they will. You need to be turned in to pick up their frequency, or else you might miss some important clues being generated from your spiritual center. If Life is a Game, These are the Rules

Imagine never again having to concern yourself with a lawn. Just get rid of it. Many beautiful, drought-tolerant, fast-growing, low-maintenance ground covers - pachysandra, dichondra, ivy and numerous low-growing evergreens, for example - are available as effective lawn replacements. Simplify Your Life

Ask the Experts: Daytime breaks won't help anyone who is overwhelmed by fatigue. The key: A good night's sleep. Some advice from the Better Sleep Council in Washington, D.C., for ways to help you sleep well:  Keep the temperature of the room in the mid-sixties. Avoid alcohol or anything with caffeine for several hours before bedtime. Make sure your mattress is still comfy (not more than 8 to 10 years old) and big enough. Parents Tips & Tricks

Moving along the upward spiral requires us to learn, commit, and do on increasingly higher planes. We deceive ourselves if we think that any one of these is sufficient. To keep progressing, we must learn, commit, and do; learn, commit and do; and learn, commit and do again. Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

If you get too stressed while playing your favorite sport, remind yourself that it's just a game. Change your motto from "I need to win" to "Have fun and don't get hurt." Stress Busters

Squirt spray-on fabric dye over sweatshirts or T-shirts. Have your kids help cover a wide area outdoors with newspapers. Spray the craft fabric dye (available at craft stores) onto the shirt. Let dry. Try one color or lots of colors. Start with the lightest colors first. To Do Today

Never, never, never, never give up. - Winston Churchill Win the Day!

El testigo (tehsTEEgoh). Witness. Fue testigo del accidente. He witnessed the accident.  Living Language

TODAY'S ISSUE: CHANGE

We cannot remain consistent with the world save by growing inconsistent with our part selves - Havelock Ellis. Most men will say that they welcome change, that it's "changing" that's the problem. As we sink more deeply into the rhythms and tempos of the real world, change becomes a part of our lives, rather than a virtue. We must not be so naive as to think that only responding to the natural world is sufficient. There is the world of artifice that demands change and willing inconsistency as well. It is the part of wisdom to see the difference and the part of wisdom in action to put aside those superficial or delusional forces that impede the flow of the truth. What are the effects of my consistency over time?   A Man's Book of the Spirit

Where there is no strife there is decay: the mixture which is not shaken decomposes. - Heraclitus. Transitions and changes are often painful, sometimes frightening. Often the most troubled lives are those most unyielding to change. When we become so committed to stability we cannot flow with the never-ending river of life, we wither and die spiritually. Every one of us has changes moving within our lives. Some changes are beneath the surface and we only vaguely sense them. Others are obvious and we are dealing with their effects. When we see change only as a problem or as pain, we have a harder time getting on with our lives. Looking back, we can see other changes we would never have chosen or planned for ourselves. We can see now that we grew with them. Change forced us into new realms and we found sides of ourselves we hadn't known before. Through whatever strife and difficulty of change we face today, we have a stable program to fall back on. And we have our relationships with our Higher Power which is with us through all times. I will have a lighter grip upon life today so that as the river of change flows, I can flow with it. Touchstones

If a snake can't grow, it will strangle. The tightness of a skin that doesn't fit is a signal that it's time to slough it off in order to grow - Eknath Easwaran. Change and growth are laws of life, yet sometimes we don't want to recognize that those we love and live with - our children, our partners, our parents - are changing. Or that we ourselves are. Young children grow rapidly; we can't deny their changes, for they occur before our eyes. Adolescents undergo deep changes in their bodies and spirits and we're at least intellectually prepared to accept them. Adults never stop growing and changing, though sometimes we deny this, out of our desire for stability. Part of loving is respecting each other's growth. I need to grow; you need to change; we may grow and change at different rates, out of phase with one another. But if we remain gentle and open to each other, we can survive these transitions together. I will let my family and friends see that I am open to change, and pray that in turn they will stay open to me. In our journeys, we all slough off many tight skins. I will acknowledge others' right to change, even when their growth seems to interfere with mine. This, too, will change. Family Feelings

We can become anything. That is why injustice is impossible here. There may be the accident of birth, there is no accident of death. Nothing forces us to remain what we were - John Berger. We humans have the possibility of change. That is what sets us apart from other species. We can reason, and through reason, we can make intelligent choices that lead us in new directions. If we have trouble expressing anger, then we can reason new ways to cope and learn to exhibit our anger appropriately. If we find it difficult to be intimate with our partners, we can work through that problem and solve it. We do have choices. But men who do too much believe the opposite. We think we are locking into situations. That we haven't any choices. That is a myth. I will not be happy with what makes me unhappy. I know I can always change, and I will take an inventory of what I want to change today. Meditations For Men Who Do Too Much

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MENSTUFF COLUMNS BY AUTHOR

  • The Advice Diva - The Advice Diva - relationship and sexuality issues discussed - www.menstuff.org/columns/advicediva/archive.html
  • Peter Alsop - Song of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/alsop/archive.html
  • Reid Baer - A Man Overboard - Interview of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/overboard/archive.html
  • Reid Baer - Poetry - poetry read on YouTube - www.menstuff.org/columns/baer/archive.html
  • Molly Barrow - Shrink About This - www.menstuff.org/columns/barrow/archive.html
  • Peter Baylies - At Home Dads - on at-home-dad issues that impact fathers who stay at home to raise their kids - www.menstuff.org/columns/baylies/archive.html
  • Tom Blake - Middle-Age Relationships - from an expert on dating after 50. www.menstuff.org/columns/blake/archive.html
  • Mark Brandenburg - Great Fathers - on fathering issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/greatfathers/archive.html
  • Ted Braude - BoysWork - a columnist in the The Detroit Free Press "Body and Mind" section www.menstuff.org/columns/braude/archive.html
  • Armin Brott - A Father's Guide - hosts "Positive Parenting" on radio www.menstuff.org/columns/brott/archive.html
  • Dan Bulf - Get Real - weekly pod cast on men's issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/bulf/archive.html
  • Ken Byers - Transition - on men's life transitions - www.menstuff.org/columns/byers/archive.html
  • Sandra L. Caron - Sex Talk - college students get answers to their questions - www.menstuff.org/columns/sextalk/archive.html
  • Neil Chethik - Relationships - www.menstuff.org/columns/chethik/archive.html
  • Otto & Susie Collins - Susie and Otto - relationship issues discussed - www.menstuff.org/columns/susie&otto/archive.html
  • David Copeland - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Forrest Craver - Spirituality & Social Change - www.menstuff.org/columns/craver/archive.html
  • Layne & Paul Cutright - Powerful Partnerships - relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/cutright/archive.html
  • Ron DesMarais - Cavemen in the Kitchen - great recipes for men - www.menstuff.org/columns/desmarais/archive.html
  • Jed Diamond - Irritable Male Syndrome - www.menstuff.org/columns/diamond/archive.html
  • Doc Love - Women Don't Lie, Man Don't Listen - answers to relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/doclov/archive.html
  • Barry Durdant-Hollamby - Creating Change - creating change in your life - www.menstuff.org/columns/durdant/archive.html
  • Irv Engel - The Real Deal - www.menstuff.org/columns/engel/archive.html
  • Nancy Fagan - Expert Dating Advice - with Nancy Fagan - www.menstuf.org/columns/fagan/archive.html
  • Warren Farrell - Men's Issues: Facts and Perspectives www.menstuff.org/columns/farrell/archive.html
  • Leonard Felder - Wake Up or Break Up - www.menstuff.org/columns/felder/archive.html
  • Marty Friedman - Strong Men, Strong Marriage - www.menstuff.org/columns/friedman/archive.html
  • Kim Garretson - Mansgland - using humor to encourage prostate exams - www.menstuff.org/columns/mansgland/archive.html
  • Lion Goodman - How to get Women to Love You - www.menstuff.org/columns/goodman/archive.html
  • Liz Halliday - In a Man's World - www.menstuff.org/columns/halliday/archive.html
  • Rick Hanson - Your Wise Brain - www.menstuff.org/columns/hanson/archive.html
  • Tim Hartnett - Daddyman Speaks - being a father www.menstuff.org/columns/daddyman/archive.html
  • John Hershey - Blood, Phlegm & Bile: Parenting with Humor - He writes a syndicated biweekly humor column about parenting and family life. www.menstuff.org/columns/hershey/archive.html
  • Gary Hoeber - Psychotherapy as Soul Work, www.menstuff.org/columns/hoeber/archive.html
  • Patrick Houser - Fathers Make a World of Difference, www.menstuff.org/columns/houser/archive.html
  • Paul Joannides - The Guide to Getting It On - on sex - www.menstuff.org/columns/getiton/archive.html
  • Jack Kahn - NOMAS Boston - www.menstuff.org/columns/kahn/archive.html
  • Patrick Kennedy - Seniors - www.menstuff.org/columns/kennedy/archive.html
  • Joe Kort - Gaydar - to increase understanding between gay and het men - www.menstuff.org/columns/kort/archive.html
  • David Kundtz - David Kundtz - presents seminars, workshops, retreats, and conference presentations in the areas of men's emotional health, stress management, and spirituality. www.menstuff.org/columns/kundtz/archive.html
  • Bruce Linton - Dr. Dad - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/drdad/archive.html
  • Ron Louis - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Tom Matlack - Tom Matlack - Good Men Project - www.menstuff.org/columns/matlack/archive.html
  • Wendy McElroy - Wendy McElroy on Feminism, www.menstuff.org/columns/mcelroy/archive.html
  • Robert N. Minor - Minor Details - on GBT sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/minordetails/archive.html
  • Robert L. Moore - Man & Mythology - www.menstuff.org/columns/moore/archive.html
  • Dennis W. Neder - Being a Man - general questions about men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/neder/archive.html
  • Marty Nemko - Worklife - general questions about men and work - www.menstuff.org/columns/nemko/archive.html
  • Eli Newberger - Eli Newberger - general information on men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/newberger/archive.html
  • Linda Nielsen - Embracing the Father - working with the father/daughter relationship. www.menstuff.org/columns/nielsen/archive.html
  • Kathy Noll - Bullies and Youth Violence - working with schools, teachers and parents to end school violence - www.menstuff.org/columns/noll/archive.html
  • Mark Phillips - Stay-at-Home-Dads - helping men maintain that which makes us men, instead of becoming hairy Mom-substitutes - www.menstuff.org/columns/phillips/archive.html
  • Carey Roberts - Socialism & Feminism - is a social commentator on political correctness. www.menstuff.org/columns/roberts/archive.html
  • Perry Rose - Dating, Relationship, Sex
  • Glenn Sacks - His Side - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/sacks/archive.html
  • Trudy Schuett - Domestic Violence - serving the under-represented www.menstuff.org/columns/schuett/archive.html
  • Carl J. Schutt - Circumcision - social commentator on circumcision - www.menstuff.org/columns/schutt/archive.html
  • Hugo Schwyzer - A Pro-feminist's Response - www.menstuff.org/columns/schwyzer/archive.html
  • Michael Shaffran - Men's Issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/shaffran/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • George Simons - Bellicose Veins - is a US specialist in intercultural and gender communication who hangs out in Mandelieu - la Napoule, France, as well as in Santa Cruz, CA. www.menstuff.org/columns/simons/archive.html
  • Andy Smith - Hard Hat Brotherhood - www.menstuff.org/columns/hardhat/archive.html
  • David B. Smith - Fighting Father Dave - www.menstuff.org/columns/smith/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • Reena Sommer - Custody - is an internationally recognized relationship and divorce consultant. www.menstuff.org/columns/sommer/archive.html
  • R. Don Steele - Don Steele - relationship questions answered -
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  • David Steinberg - Comes Naturally - on sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/steinberg/archive.html
  • Mary Lou St Lucas - A Mother's Love - www.menstuf.org/columns/stlucas/archive.html
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  • Michael Taylor - A New Conversation with Men - www.menstuff.org/columns/taylor/archive.html
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  • Stuart Wilde - Spirituality - www.menstuff.org/columns/wilde/archive.html
  • Dr.Williams - Sex Health - on sexual health - Dr. Williams, www.menstuff.org/columns/sexhealth/archive.html
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  • Numbers - www.menstuff.org/columns/numbers/archive.html
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  • Words Can Heal - helping children grow up healthy - www.menstuff.org/columns/wordscanheal/archive.html
  • Wuzup?! - National or international events happening this month - www.menstuff.org/columns/whassup/archive.html

AWARENESS EVENTS THIS MONTH

July is Freedom Month. If you enjoy the benefits this country has to offer, you might check out what kind of men it took to found this country. The Fourth of July has more to it than beer, picnics, and baseball games. Read this! July is Anti-Boredom; National Mobility; Purposeful Parenting: Recreation and Parks; The month of the Muslim new year; Hemochromatosis Screening Awareness; National Foreign Language Month.

June 27 - July 4: Special Recreation Week. June 25-July 1: Deaf-Blindness Awareness Week. June 27 - July 4: Special Recreation Week. Jul 1-8 Music for Life; July 3-Aug 15: Air Conditioning Appreciation Days. Jul 4-10 - Freedom Week. July 8:-14: National Laundry Workers; National Therapeutic Recreation: Take Charge of Change Week. Jul 9-15 - Nude Recreation. July 15-21: *Captive Nations; Legal Revolution; National Plan to Promote Your Business Week. Jul 1 UN Day of Cooperation; International Joke; National Financial Freedom; National Recreation and Parks; National Purposeful Parenting, Jul 2 - I Forgot; Ducktona 500 Day; July 3: Compliment Your Mirror: Stay Out of the Sun Day. Jul 4 - Independence Day (U.S.); American Redneck; Fear from Fear of Speaking ; Independence-from-Meat Day; Sidewalk Egg Frying; Jul 5 - National Family Day, July 7: Father-Daughter Take a Walk Together; International UN Day of Cooperation. July 9: Don't Step on a Bee Day. July 10: Intern Appreciation Day. July 13: Skeptics' Day. July 14: Cow Apprecaition Day. July 15: National Ice Cream; Saint Swithin's Day. July 16: International Town Criers; Naitonal Get Out of the Doghouse Day. July 17: Wrong Way Corrigan Day. Jul 20 - Ugly Truck; Riot Act anniversary. July 21: Rat-Catchers Day. Jul 22 - Ice Cream Cone Day. July 23: Hot Enough For Ya Day. July 24: Cousins; Health and Happiness with Hypnosis Day. Jul 27 - *National Korean War Veterans Armistice; Take Your Houseplants for a Walk Day. July 29: *Parents' Day. Jul 30 - Father-In-Law Day, National Parent's Day.

* Means a Presidential Proclamation has been made.

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