Daily Thoughts & Issues

IN THIS ISSUE:

AUGUST 13

Days left until the next millennium 01.01.3001

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Achieve Your Dreams

Auggust 13 - Feast of Old Greek, Roman & Slavic Goddess Artemis-Diana-Diwitsa - as defender of rights and liberties, and punisher of rapists and oppressors. The Mystic's Wheel of the Year * Amid rising tensions, East Berlin is sealed off and construction of the Berlin Wall begins (1961). * Birthdays:  Dan Fogelberg, William Caxton, Alfred Hitchcock, Cheng Cheng Kung, Fidel Castro, Pat Harrington, Jr., Don Ho, Kevin Tighe, Ben Hogan.

Know your cholesterol numbers!

DAILY THOUGHTS

If men can get through to age sixty without dying of heart disease, they can expect to be stronger and less bothered by chronic ailments than women. While a minority of older people suffer from a lifetime of neglect and are in serious need to societal support, the vast majority of over-sixties are quite able, both physically and mentally, to function independently. New Passages

If we have loving, forgiving parents, we are likely to believe in a loving and forgiving God. And in our adult view the world is likely to seem as nurturing a place as our childhood was. If our parents were harsh and punitive, we are likely to mature with a concept of a harsh and punitive monster-god. The Road Less Traveled

Make sure there's balance between giving and receiving pleasure - Brittany, 23. Best of 1001 Sex Secrets Every Man & Woman Should Know

Reading the letters of another, we are listening in on the recollections of our friend. This is the nature of intimacy: In specific ways the boundaries between self and other soften. Soul Mates

Things to Be Happy About: The pleasure of discovery. Salvaging historic shipwrecks. A piece of good news. 14,000 Things to Be Happy About

If you don't like the birthday girl or boy, don't go to the party. Really Important Stuff My Kids Have Taught Me

You are not your habits. You can replace old patterns of self-defeating behavior with new patterns, new habits of effectiveness, happiness and trust-based relationships. I encourage you to open the gate of change and growth. If Life is a Game, These are the Rules

Minted Raspberry Iced Tea. This refreshing herbal tea has a beautiful color and sweet raspberry fragrance. Even kids will enjoy a glass. Place 4 cups of cold water and 1 cup chopped fresh mint into a medium saucepan and bring to a boil. Remove from heat and add 10 raspberry-flavored herbal tea bags. Steep tea 5 minutes. Strain into 20-cup capacity pitcher. Add 3/4 cup sugar and 1/4 cup grenadine and stir until sugar dissolves. Add 16 cups cold water to the pitcher and mix well. Refrigerate until serving time. Garnish glasses with mint sprigs. Parents Tips & Tricks

Mikhail Kuzmin wrote Russia's first gay novel, Wings, in 1906. Gay & Lesbian Calendar

"Progress, not perfection." - AA Literature. Trying to do everything perfectly is impossible, unnecessary, and also a guaranteed recipe for stress.  Stress Busters

Celebrate sisterhood with sisters. My sister and I created a holiday called Sisters' Day. We do stuff together on that day, like ride bikes and play checkers. She shows me good moves. Make your own Sisters' Day.  To Do Today

Most powerful is he who has himself in his own power. - Seneca. Win the Day!

La boda (BOHdah) Wedding. Hoy es nuestro aniversrio de bodas de plata. Today is our silver wedding anniversary. Living Language

TODAY'S ISSUE: DEATH

I was at a Family Reunion the first weekend in August. My Grandfather's Grandmother's side of the family. 65 of us from 10 different states gathered in a small community building in Marshall, Indiana. We talked and shared about new lives joining the lineage, some individuals passing in their late nineties, and some complete lines coming to an end. It wasn't until I returned that I learned of the death of one or my cousin's 17 year old daughter, who was attending a wedding in Mexico with a friend. The cause, a loss of balance resulting in a fall from a 2nd story balcony. A bright, shinning star becomes a meteor and disappears so quickly. We had no time to prepare.

Salvador Roquet said, "The fear of death is the main thing that keeps people from loving."  Two of life's deepest realities - love and death - rather than being contrary, are profoundly related. Love connects us; death disconnects us. Yet death can connect us to life. Both are always present in every moment - the love that brought us into the world and the death that will take us out of the world. They are not enemies; they work together. Death affects us differently than the fear of death. Why love this person if they are going to die someday?  Or leave?  Death and a healthy spiritual relationship to it can enliven one with the knowledge that though we will surely die, today we are alive. The fear of death, however, can impede one from living more fully. That fear needs to be examined and worked with. Most great poetry and art is about love or death, often about both. Death does not mean only the final departure; it also means change, impermanence, separation, the little deaths that are so numerous. When people leave us, it can feel like death. It can also lead to re birth, new life and new love. Today, I will allow myself to reflect on the relationship of love to death and see what emerges for me. A Quiet Strength: Meditations on the Masculine Soul

Hey Man: Did you make a difference yesterday? Let us know at Contact Us. Today, I will allow myself to reflect on the relationship of love to death and see what emerges for me. A Quiet Strength: Meditations on the Masculine Soul Want to make a difference but you don't know where to start?

BOOK OF THE WEEK

The Courage to Be Free: Discover your original fearless self. by Guy Finley. When you realize that no one else on this earth can be like you - that no other soul can know the beauty, sorrow, light, and darkness you alone are given to see - then you will no longer want to be like anyone else on this earth. You will, at last, be the fearless individual your heart of hearts has called you to be. There is a world of wisdom in this small gem of a book and the author is a master at opening our eyes, ears, and hearts to the plain and simple truths of this life. gunfinley.com, 2010, Weiser Books, www.redwheelweiser.com, ISBN 978-1-57863-475-0

 

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  • Peter Alsop - Song of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/alsop/archive.html
  • Reid Baer - A Man Overboard - Interview of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/overboard/archive.html
  • Reid Baer - Poetry - poetry read on YouTube - www.menstuff.org/columns/baer/archive.html
  • Molly Barrow - Shrink About This - www.menstuff.org/columns/barrow/archive.html
  • Peter Baylies - At Home Dads - on at-home-dad issues that impact fathers who stay at home to raise their kids - www.menstuff.org/columns/baylies/archive.html
  • Tom Blake - Middle-Age Relationships - from an expert on dating after 50. www.menstuff.org/columns/blake/archive.html
  • Mark Brandenburg - Great Fathers - on fathering issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/greatfathers/archive.html
  • Ted Braude - BoysWork - a columnist in the The Detroit Free Press "Body and Mind" section www.menstuff.org/columns/braude/archive.html
  • Armin Brott - A Father's Guide - hosts "Positive Parenting" on radio www.menstuff.org/columns/brott/archive.html
  • Dan Bulf - Get Real - weekly pod cast on men's issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/bulf/archive.html
  • Ken Byers - Transition - on men's life transitions - www.menstuff.org/columns/byers/archive.html
  • Sandra L. Caron - Sex Talk - college students get answers to their questions - www.menstuff.org/columns/sextalk/archive.html
  • Neil Chethik - Relationships - www.menstuff.org/columns/chethik/archive.html
  • Otto & Susie Collins - Susie and Otto - relationship issues discussed - www.menstuff.org/columns/susie&otto/archive.html
  • David Copeland - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Forrest Craver - Spirituality & Social Change - www.menstuff.org/columns/craver/archive.html
  • Layne & Paul Cutright - Powerful Partnerships - relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/cutright/archive.html
  • Ron DesMarais - Cavemen in the Kitchen - great recipes for men - www.menstuff.org/columns/desmarais/archive.html
  • Jed Diamond - Irritable Male Syndrome - www.menstuff.org/columns/diamond/archive.html
  • Doc Love - Women Don't Lie, Man Don't Listen - answers to relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/doclov/archive.html
  • Barry Durdant-Hollamby - Creating Change - creating change in your life - www.menstuff.org/columns/durdant/archive.html
  • Irv Engel - The Real Deal - www.menstuff.org/columns/engel/archive.html
  • Nancy Fagan - Expert Dating Advice - with Nancy Fagan - www.menstuf.org/columns/fagan/archive.html
  • Warren Farrell - Men's Issues: Facts and Perspectives www.menstuff.org/columns/farrell/archive.html
  • Leonard Felder - Wake Up or Break Up - www.menstuff.org/columns/felder/archive.html
  • Marty Friedman - Strong Men, Strong Marriage - www.menstuff.org/columns/friedman/archive.html
  • Kim Garretson - Mansgland - using humor to encourage prostate exams - www.menstuff.org/columns/mansgland/archive.html
  • Lion Goodman - How to get Women to Love You - www.menstuff.org/columns/goodman/archive.html
  • Liz Halliday - In a Man's World - www.menstuff.org/columns/halliday/archive.html
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  • Tim Hartnett - Daddyman Speaks - being a father www.menstuff.org/columns/daddyman/archive.html
  • John Hershey - Blood, Phlegm & Bile: Parenting with Humor - He writes a syndicated biweekly humor column about parenting and family life. www.menstuff.org/columns/hershey/archive.html
  • Gary Hoeber - Psychotherapy as Soul Work, www.menstuff.org/columns/hoeber/archive.html
  • Patrick Houser - Fathers Make a World of Difference, www.menstuff.org/columns/houser/archive.html
  • Paul Joannides - The Guide to Getting It On - on sex - www.menstuff.org/columns/getiton/archive.html
  • Jack Kahn - NOMAS Boston - www.menstuff.org/columns/kahn/archive.html
  • Patrick Kennedy - Seniors - www.menstuff.org/columns/kennedy/archive.html
  • Joe Kort - Gaydar - to increase understanding between gay and het men - www.menstuff.org/columns/kort/archive.html
  • David Kundtz - David Kundtz - presents seminars, workshops, retreats, and conference presentations in the areas of men's emotional health, stress management, and spirituality. www.menstuff.org/columns/kundtz/archive.html
  • Bruce Linton - Dr. Dad - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/drdad/archive.html
  • Ron Louis - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Tom Matlack - Tom Matlack - Good Men Project - www.menstuff.org/columns/matlack/archive.html
  • Wendy McElroy - Wendy McElroy on Feminism, www.menstuff.org/columns/mcelroy/archive.html
  • Robert N. Minor - Minor Details - on GBT sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/minordetails/archive.html
  • Robert L. Moore - Man & Mythology - www.menstuff.org/columns/moore/archive.html
  • Dennis W. Neder - Being a Man - general questions about men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/neder/archive.html
  • Marty Nemko - Worklife - general questions about men and work - www.menstuff.org/columns/nemko/archive.html
  • Eli Newberger - Eli Newberger - general information on men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/newberger/archive.html
  • Linda Nielsen - Embracing the Father - working with the father/daughter relationship. www.menstuff.org/columns/nielsen/archive.html
  • Kathy Noll - Bullies and Youth Violence - working with schools, teachers and parents to end school violence - www.menstuff.org/columns/noll/archive.html
  • Mark Phillips - Stay-at-Home-Dads - helping men maintain that which makes us men, instead of becoming hairy Mom-substitutes - www.menstuff.org/columns/phillips/archive.html
  • Carey Roberts - Socialism & Feminism - is a social commentator on political correctness. www.menstuff.org/columns/roberts/archive.html
  • Perry Rose - Dating, Relationship, Sex
  • Glenn Sacks - His Side - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/sacks/archive.html
  • Trudy Schuett - Domestic Violence - serving the under-represented www.menstuff.org/columns/schuett/archive.html
  • Carl J. Schutt - Circumcision - social commentator on circumcision - www.menstuff.org/columns/schutt/archive.html
  • Hugo Schwyzer - A Pro-feminist's Response - www.menstuff.org/columns/schwyzer/archive.html
  • Michael Shaffran - Men's Issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/shaffran/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • George Simons - Bellicose Veins - is a US specialist in intercultural and gender communication who hangs out in Mandelieu - la Napoule, France, as well as in Santa Cruz, CA. www.menstuff.org/columns/simons/archive.html
  • Andy Smith - Hard Hat Brotherhood - www.menstuff.org/columns/hardhat/archive.html
  • David B. Smith - Fighting Father Dave - www.menstuff.org/columns/smith/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
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  • David Steinberg - Comes Naturally - on sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/steinberg/archive.html
  • Mary Lou St Lucas - A Mother's Love - www.menstuf.org/columns/stlucas/archive.html
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  • Bruce Van Horn - Yoga for Men - issues around the health benefits of yoga for men - www.menstuff.org/yoga/archive.html
  • Michael Webb - Secrets of Blissful Relationships - on relationship - www.menstuff.org/columns/bliss/archive.html
  • Stuart Wilde - Spirituality - www.menstuff.org/columns/wilde/archive.html
  • Dr.Williams - Sex Health - on sexual health - Dr. Williams, www.menstuff.org/columns/sexhealth/archive.html
  • KC Wilson - On Gender Politics is a social commentator and author. www.menstuff.org/columns/wilson/archive.html

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  • Wuzup?! - National or international events happening this month - www.menstuff.org/columns/whassup/archive.html

AWARENESS EVENTS THIS MONTH

August is Admit You're Happy, Black Business, Cataract Awareness, Children's Eye Health and Safety, National Immunization, Spinal Muscular Atrophy Awareness, Children's Vision and Learning, Family Fun, National Back-to-School, National Inventor's, National Win with Civility, Spinal Muscular Atrophy Awareness Month. Aug 1-7 Simplify Your Life, World Breastfeeding, International Clown Week, Simplify Your Life Week. Aug 1-11 - World Breastfeeding Week. Aug 2-6 - Psychic Week Aug 8-14 - National Resurrect Romance, Thanks for All the Gifts Week. Aug 12-19 - Truck Drivers' Week. Aug 15-21 - National Health Center, Reduced the Clutter, Weird Contest Week. Aug 16-22 - National Avidatoin Week. Aug 22-29 - National Save Your Smile, National Truck Driver Appreciation Week. Aug 1 - National Kids, Respect for Parents, National Night Out Day. Apr 3 - Nation Night Out, Coast Guard day. Apr 6 - National Fresh Breath, National Pamper Yourself day. Aug 7 - National Mustard Day. Aug 8 - Admit You're Happy Day. Apr 9 - UN International Day of the World's Indigenous People. Apr 11 - Presidential Joke Day. Apr 12 - UN International Youth, Vinyl Record Day. Apr 14 - International Nagging, National Garage Sale Day. Aug 15 - National Relaxation Day, World Day of Keiki. Aug 16 - Stay Home with Your Kids, National Airborne Day. Aug 17 - Sandcastle Day. Aug 18 - Bad Poetry Day. Aug 19 - National Avidation Day. Aug 21 - Children's, Poets, Sandcastle and Sculpture. Southern Hemisphere Hoodie-Hoo, Vinegar Day, National Homeless Animals Day and Candlelight Vigils. Aug 22 - Be an Angel, National Punctuation Day. Aug 24 - Vesuvius Day. Aug 25 - Kiss and Make Up Day. Aug 26 - Women's Equality Day. Aug 28 - Race Your Mouse Around the Icons Day. Aug 29 - According to Hoyle Day. Aug 31 - Love Litigating Lawyers Day.

* Means a Presidential Proclamation has been made.

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