Daily Thoughts & Issues

IN THIS ISSUE:

JULY 20

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Achieve Your Dreams

July 20 - Independence Day in Colombia. * Vigil for peace, justice, and respect for the human rights of all in Colombia. * Marine Day in Japan. * The Day of Kuan-Yin's Enlightenment * Ugly Truck Contest. * Apollo II astronauts Neil Alden Armstrong and Edwin Aldrin, Jr are the first men to set foot on the moon (1969). * First Special Olympics held (1968) at Soldier Field, Chicago with over one thousand mentally retarded athletes from the US and Canada competing. Today more than 1 million athletes from 146 countries compete in local, national and international games. * Attempt on Hitler's Life (1944) Count Claus Schenk von Stauffenberg left a briefcase containing a bomb only six feet from Hitler during a staff briefing. Four people were killed but Hitler's life was saved probably because Colonel Heinz Brandt (who was among those killed) found the briefcase in his way and moved it further from the German dictator. * Baseball declared nonessential occupation (1918) by the Secretary of War who ruled that all players of draft age should seek "employment to aid successful prosecution of the war or shoulder guns and fight."  Nearly 250 ballplayers entered the armed services. "Read the riot act" now usually means telling children to be quiet or less boisterous, but in 18th-century England it was a more serious matter. On this date in 1715, the Riot act took effect. By law, if 12 or more persons were unlawfully assembled to the disturbance of the public peace an authority was required "with a loud voice" to command silence and read the riot act . Any person who failed to obey within one hour were to be seized, apprehended and carried before a justice of the peace. * Birthdays: Sir Edmund Percival Hillary, Charles Joseph (Chuck) Daly, John Daley, Nelson Doubleday, Peter Forsberg, Michael Ilitch, Carlos Santana.

DAILY THOUGHTS

There are many safe, natural steps a man can take to make himself potent again. Smoking is devastating to male potency, since it damages tiny blood vessels; high cholesterol levels can clog arteries. Alcohol abuse over ten to fifteen years actually kills nerves; taking medication for hypertension doubles the risk of impotence. By age sixty-five, at least 40 percent of men produce such low levels of testosterone that their health may be compromised. New Passages

You should know if you liked it without having to think about it - Eve, 36 Best of 1001 Sex Secrets Every Man & Woman Should Know

"Communication" has become a catchword in discussions about relationship. But what passes for communication can be to relationship what information is to education - a soulless exchange of facts. Soul Mates

Do not wait for extraordinary opportunities. Use ordinary situations to achieve great results. Achieve Your Dreams

Things to Be Happy About:  Compact cameras. Winning after all. Breaking your own rules. 14,000 Things to Be Happy About

Frogs do not look alike. Really Important Stuff My Kids Have Taught Me

Causality is the acknowledgment that you are the source of your manifestations. In other words, everything that you attract into your life is coming to you because of something you are projecting out into the world, and you are therefore responsible for drawing to you all of your circumstances. If Life is a Game, These are the Rules

If we do not develop our own self-awareness and become responsible for first creations, we empower other people and circumstances outdie our Circle of Influence to shape much of our lives by default. Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

Tactics for Helping Bed-Wetters. One study found that three-fourths of parents punished their children for bed-wetting. Never punish or scold your child for a wet bed since it is not going to help your child, suggest pediatricians. A zip-up plastic mattress cover should be standard equipment on any bed-wetter's bed; this will help both the mattress and your peace of mind. Encourage your child to help with cleanup, not as a punishment but an acknowledgment that this is their responsibility. And keep bedtimes calm, since roughhousing and exciting television can increase the risk of bed-wetting, according to experts. Parents Tips & Tricks

Keep birthday parties for your kids simple. Start by limiting the number of participants. The same number of guests as the age of the child is a good rule of thumb. Even though everyone else is doing it, don't feel obligated to invite your child's entire class of twenty-five to a birthday party. This is just too many kids. Not only does it get expensive very quickly, but the party can easily get out of control.  Simplify Your Life

Literature, art and music flourished in the Harlem area of New York City during the Harlem Renaissance of the 1920s and 1930s. A homosexual subculture emerged, which nurtured the cultural contributions of such greats as out-bisexual blues singers Gertrude "Ma" Rainey and Bessie Smith. Gay & Lesbian Calendar

"He who laughs, lasts." - Unknown. Laughter is like an internal massage:  It invigorates us from within and improves blood circulation.  Stress Busters

For your kids: Charm a friend with a friendship necklace. Add a charm to a plain chain. Send it to a faraway friend. When she receives it, she adds a charm and sends it back. When it's finished, start a new one for you. To Do Today

There is no failure except in no longer trying. There is no defeat except from within, no really insurmountable barrier save our own inherent weakness of purpose. - Ken Hubbard  Win the Day!

Ganarse la vida. (gahHAHRseh la BEEdah). To earn a living. Se gana la vida como puede. He earns a living as best as he can.  Living Language

TODAY'S ISSUE: COMMUNICATION

Communication leads to community - that is, to understanding, intimacy and mutual valuing - Rollo May. We have all thought, "If I tell the innermost things about myself, I will be rejected or put down."  Most real communication actually creates the opposite of what we fear. In this program, when we lowered our barriers and let our brothers and sisters know us better, they liked us more and our bonds became stronger. Are we concerned today about an intimate relationship?  The way to deepen intimacy is to let ourselves be known. When talking about feelings, we need to emphasize those that make us feel most vulnerable. The other side of communication is listening. In listening, our task is to hear without judgment and without trying to provide an answer or a cure for every pain. To express ourselves to others, to be fully understood and to know we are understood will lift our hope and self-esteem. Today, I can make contact with people in my life by revealing my feelings to them and listening to what they are saying. Touchstones

Loneliness is never more cruel than when it is felt in close propinquity with someone who has ceased to communicate - Germaine Greer. Although we're all connected on this beautiful blue sphere, at times we deliberately shut ourselves off from one another. Our intimates may feel this as anger or punishment, and it may cause them great anguish. It harms the one who shuts off communication as well, for it violates our organic unity with loved ones and with our greater human family. Perhaps the one who ceases to communicate has been hurt; perhaps isolation feels safe. That is a delusion. It's never safe to cut one's lifeline. Keeping an open channel of communication with our higher power will help us learn how to redress our injury, how to forgive, how to heal. Isolation can actually be lethal, unlike solitude, which is necessary for our spiritual renewal. Life itself directs us to stay in touch, to keep our feelings flowing, to experience anger, love, fear, or tenderness as they come to us and through us - to feel our feelings and then let them go. Solitude can help a wounded spirit to heal. Isolation hardens a scar. I will pray for the strength to keep my guard down. If my spirit is strong, I won't need defenses. Family Feelings

Hey Man: Did you make a difference yesterday? Let us know at Contact Us. Learn to tell people what's bothering you. What Every Man Needs to Know Want to make a difference but you don't know where to start?

BOOK OF THE WEEK

The 40-Year-Old Version: Humoirs of a divorced dad by Joel Schwartzberg. In a very funny and endearing collection of personal essays, award-winning and nationally-published writer shares stories of his ever-evolving, self-defining dadhood. This is a great book for any parent, particularly dads trying to sharpen their role and looking for insight through hysterical, heartbreaking, and heroic example. The essays are short and sharp, and many have been previously published in major newspapers and magazines. www.bookfordad.com, Wyatt-MacKenzie Publishing, www.WyMacPublishing.com 2009, ISBN 978-1-932279-98-6

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  • Peter Alsop - Song of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/alsop/archive.html
  • Reid Baer - A Man Overboard - Interview of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/overboard/archive.html
  • Reid Baer - Poetry - poetry read on YouTube - www.menstuff.org/columns/baer/archive.html
  • Molly Barrow - Shrink About This - www.menstuff.org/columns/barrow/archive.html
  • Peter Baylies - At Home Dads - on at-home-dad issues that impact fathers who stay at home to raise their kids - www.menstuff.org/columns/baylies/archive.html
  • Tom Blake - Middle-Age Relationships - from an expert on dating after 50. www.menstuff.org/columns/blake/archive.html
  • Mark Brandenburg - Great Fathers - on fathering issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/greatfathers/archive.html
  • Ted Braude - BoysWork - a columnist in the The Detroit Free Press "Body and Mind" section www.menstuff.org/columns/braude/archive.html
  • Armin Brott - A Father's Guide - hosts "Positive Parenting" on radio www.menstuff.org/columns/brott/archive.html
  • Dan Bulf - Get Real - weekly pod cast on men's issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/bulf/archive.html
  • Ken Byers - Transition - on men's life transitions - www.menstuff.org/columns/byers/archive.html
  • Sandra L. Caron - Sex Talk - college students get answers to their questions - www.menstuff.org/columns/sextalk/archive.html
  • Neil Chethik - Relationships - www.menstuff.org/columns/chethik/archive.html
  • Otto & Susie Collins - Susie and Otto - relationship issues discussed - www.menstuff.org/columns/susie&otto/archive.html
  • David Copeland - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Forrest Craver - Spirituality & Social Change - www.menstuff.org/columns/craver/archive.html
  • Layne & Paul Cutright - Powerful Partnerships - relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/cutright/archive.html
  • Ron DesMarais - Cavemen in the Kitchen - great recipes for men - www.menstuff.org/columns/desmarais/archive.html
  • Jed Diamond - Irritable Male Syndrome - www.menstuff.org/columns/diamond/archive.html
  • Doc Love - Women Don't Lie, Man Don't Listen - answers to relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/doclov/archive.html
  • Barry Durdant-Hollamby - Creating Change - creating change in your life - www.menstuff.org/columns/durdant/archive.html
  • Irv Engel - The Real Deal - www.menstuff.org/columns/engel/archive.html
  • Nancy Fagan - Expert Dating Advice - with Nancy Fagan - www.menstuf.org/columns/fagan/archive.html
  • Warren Farrell - Men's Issues: Facts and Perspectives www.menstuff.org/columns/farrell/archive.html
  • Leonard Felder - Wake Up or Break Up - www.menstuff.org/columns/felder/archive.html
  • Marty Friedman - Strong Men, Strong Marriage - www.menstuff.org/columns/friedman/archive.html
  • Kim Garretson - Mansgland - using humor to encourage prostate exams - www.menstuff.org/columns/mansgland/archive.html
  • Lion Goodman - How to get Women to Love You - www.menstuff.org/columns/goodman/archive.html
  • Liz Halliday - In a Man's World - www.menstuff.org/columns/halliday/archive.html
  • Rick Hanson - Your Wise Brain - www.menstuff.org/columns/hanson/archive.html
  • Tim Hartnett - Daddyman Speaks - being a father www.menstuff.org/columns/daddyman/archive.html
  • John Hershey - Blood, Phlegm & Bile: Parenting with Humor - He writes a syndicated biweekly humor column about parenting and family life. www.menstuff.org/columns/hershey/archive.html
  • Gary Hoeber - Psychotherapy as Soul Work, www.menstuff.org/columns/hoeber/archive.html
  • Patrick Houser - Fathers Make a World of Difference, www.menstuff.org/columns/houser/archive.html
  • Paul Joannides - The Guide to Getting It On - on sex - www.menstuff.org/columns/getiton/archive.html
  • Jack Kahn - NOMAS Boston - www.menstuff.org/columns/kahn/archive.html
  • Patrick Kennedy - Seniors - www.menstuff.org/columns/kennedy/archive.html
  • Joe Kort - Gaydar - to increase understanding between gay and het men - www.menstuff.org/columns/kort/archive.html
  • David Kundtz - David Kundtz - presents seminars, workshops, retreats, and conference presentations in the areas of men's emotional health, stress management, and spirituality. www.menstuff.org/columns/kundtz/archive.html
  • Bruce Linton - Dr. Dad - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/drdad/archive.html
  • Ron Louis - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Tom Matlack - Tom Matlack - Good Men Project - www.menstuff.org/columns/matlack/archive.html
  • Wendy McElroy - Wendy McElroy on Feminism, www.menstuff.org/columns/mcelroy/archive.html
  • Robert N. Minor - Minor Details - on GBT sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/minordetails/archive.html
  • Robert L. Moore - Man & Mythology - www.menstuff.org/columns/moore/archive.html
  • Dennis W. Neder - Being a Man - general questions about men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/neder/archive.html
  • Marty Nemko - Worklife - general questions about men and work - www.menstuff.org/columns/nemko/archive.html
  • Eli Newberger - Eli Newberger - general information on men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/newberger/archive.html
  • Linda Nielsen - Embracing the Father - working with the father/daughter relationship. www.menstuff.org/columns/nielsen/archive.html
  • Kathy Noll - Bullies and Youth Violence - working with schools, teachers and parents to end school violence - www.menstuff.org/columns/noll/archive.html
  • Mark Phillips - Stay-at-Home-Dads - helping men maintain that which makes us men, instead of becoming hairy Mom-substitutes - www.menstuff.org/columns/phillips/archive.html
  • Carey Roberts - Socialism & Feminism - is a social commentator on political correctness. www.menstuff.org/columns/roberts/archive.html
  • Perry Rose - Dating, Relationship, Sex
  • Glenn Sacks - His Side - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/sacks/archive.html
  • Trudy Schuett - Domestic Violence - serving the under-represented www.menstuff.org/columns/schuett/archive.html
  • Carl J. Schutt - Circumcision - social commentator on circumcision - www.menstuff.org/columns/schutt/archive.html
  • Hugo Schwyzer - A Pro-feminist's Response - www.menstuff.org/columns/schwyzer/archive.html
  • Michael Shaffran - Men's Issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/shaffran/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • George Simons - Bellicose Veins - is a US specialist in intercultural and gender communication who hangs out in Mandelieu - la Napoule, France, as well as in Santa Cruz, CA. www.menstuff.org/columns/simons/archive.html
  • Andy Smith - Hard Hat Brotherhood - www.menstuff.org/columns/hardhat/archive.html
  • David B. Smith - Fighting Father Dave - www.menstuff.org/columns/smith/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • Reena Sommer - Custody - is an internationally recognized relationship and divorce consultant. www.menstuff.org/columns/sommer/archive.html
  • R. Don Steele - Don Steele - relationship questions answered -
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  • David Steinberg - Comes Naturally - on sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/steinberg/archive.html
  • Mary Lou St Lucas - A Mother's Love - www.menstuf.org/columns/stlucas/archive.html
  • Surprise - Surprise Author - From a new columnist every month - www.menstuff.org/columns/surprise/archive.html
  • Steven Svoboda - Fatherhood, Activism and the Law www.menstuff.org/columns/svoboda/archive.html
  • Michael Taylor - A New Conversation with Men - www.menstuff.org/columns/taylor/archive.html
  • Bruce Van Horn - Yoga for Men - issues around the health benefits of yoga for men - www.menstuff.org/yoga/archive.html
  • Michael Webb - Secrets of Blissful Relationships - on relationship - www.menstuff.org/columns/bliss/archive.html
  • Stuart Wilde - Spirituality - www.menstuff.org/columns/wilde/archive.html
  • Dr.Williams - Sex Health - on sexual health - Dr. Williams, www.menstuff.org/columns/sexhealth/archive.html
  • KC Wilson - On Gender Politics is a social commentator and author. www.menstuff.org/columns/wilson/archive.html

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  • Numbers - www.menstuff.org/columns/numbers/archive.html
  • Questions - www.menstuff.org/columns/q&a/archive.html
  • Surprise - from a new columnist every month - www.menstuff.org/columns/surprise/archive.html
  • Words Can Heal - helping children grow up healthy - www.menstuff.org/columns/wordscanheal/archive.html
  • Wuzup?! - National or international events happening this month - www.menstuff.org/columns/whassup/archive.html

AWARENESS EVENTS THIS MONTH

July is Freedom Month. If you enjoy the benefits this country has to offer, you might check out what kind of men it took to found this country. The Fourth of July has more to it than beer, picnics, and baseball games. Read this! July is Anti-Boredom; National Mobility; Purposeful Parenting: Recreation and Parks; The month of the Muslim new year; Hemochromatosis Screening Awareness; National Foreign Language Month.

June 27 - July 4: Special Recreation Week. June 25-July 1: Deaf-Blindness Awareness Week. June 27 - July 4: Special Recreation Week. Jul 1-8 Music for Life; July 3-Aug 15: Air Conditioning Appreciation Days. Jul 4-10 - Freedom Week. July 8:-14: National Laundry Workers; National Therapeutic Recreation: Take Charge of Change Week. Jul 9-15 - Nude Recreation. July 15-21: *Captive Nations; Legal Revolution; National Plan to Promote Your Business Week. Jul 1 UN Day of Cooperation; International Joke; National Financial Freedom; National Recreation and Parks; National Purposeful Parenting, Jul 2 - I Forgot; Ducktona 500 Day; July 3: Compliment Your Mirror: Stay Out of the Sun Day. Jul 4 - Independence Day (U.S.); American Redneck; Fear from Fear of Speaking ; Independence-from-Meat Day; Sidewalk Egg Frying; Jul 5 - National Family Day, July 7: Father-Daughter Take a Walk Together; International UN Day of Cooperation. July 9: Don't Step on a Bee Day. July 10: Intern Appreciation Day. July 13: Skeptics' Day. July 14: Cow Apprecaition Day. July 15: National Ice Cream; Saint Swithin's Day. July 16: International Town Criers; Naitonal Get Out of the Doghouse Day. July 17: Wrong Way Corrigan Day. Jul 20 - Ugly Truck; Riot Act anniversary. July 21: Rat-Catchers Day. Jul 22 - Ice Cream Cone Day. July 23: Hot Enough For Ya Day. July 24: Cousins; Health and Happiness with Hypnosis Day. Jul 27 - *National Korean War Veterans Armistice; Take Your Houseplants for a Walk Day. July 29: *Parents' Day. Jul 30 - Father-In-Law Day, National Parent's Day.

* Means a Presidential Proclamation has been made.

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