Daily Thoughts & Issues

IN THIS ISSUE:

OCTOBER 28

Days left until the next millennium 01.01.3001

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Achieve Your Dreams

October 28 - Day the world's nations committed to ecosystem conservation and biodiversity (1982) The Mystic's Wheel of the Year * The pioneering Donner Party, a group of 90 people consisting of immigrants, families and businessmen led by George and Jacob Donner and James F Reed, headed towards California in 1846 from Springfield, IL with hopes of a new life. They experienced the normal travails of caravan travel until their trip took several sensational twists. Indian attacks and winter weather which forced them to interrupt their journey led to famine and outright cannibalism which took their toll on members of the party whose numbers dwindled to 48 by journey's end (1847) * On this date in the final days of WWI (1918), crews of six German battleships protested a series of planned cruiser raids. A mutiny broke out in the fleet at Kiel. All but one of the ships remaining in port ran up the red flag of revolution. 600 sailors were arrested and imprisoned on shore. The uprising spread to Hamburg, Bremen, and Lubeck. On Nov 9 a general strike in Berlin brought the administration to a halt. The abdication of Kaiser Wilhelm began to be seen as the only way to avoid a full-scale revolution. * Independence Day in Czech Republic * St Jude's day, the saint of hopeless causes, was martyred along with St. Simon at Persia and their feast is celebrated jointly. St Jude was supposedly the brother of Jesus, and like his brother, a carpenter by trade. He is most popular with those who attempt the impossible and with students, who often ask for his help on exams. * US and USSR officials agreed upon space rescue cooperation (1970) * A celebration is held to honor the Statue of Liberty's 100th birthday (1986). * Birthdays: Dennis Franz, Desiderius Erasmus, Georges Auguste Escoffier, Howard Hanson, Jonas Salk, Charlie Daniels, Terrell Davis, Dennis Franz, Bill Gates, William Bruce Jenner, Bowie Kent Kuhn, Andy Richter.

DAILY THOUGHTS

What 1985 movie was nominated for eleven Oscars, including best picture, best actor; and best supporting actor, but did not win any award? The Color Purple. African American History

What annoys parents? Interruption of plans, task juggling, having to repeat themselves, violation of agreements (e.g., failure to take out the trash, feed the dog, or pick up clothes) and personal pet peeves (e.g., inappropriate language). Best of 1001 Sex Secrets Every Man & Woman Should Know

Expand the limits of your trust by letting your partner tie you up, blindfold you and put headphones over your ears before you do it. - Tim, 31 Dr. Buff's 365 Day Parenting Calendar

Data keep accumulating that show that in the face of chronic depression or stress, biological changes occur that have a negative effect on the immune system and render people more vulnerable to disease. People with positive outlooks, who connect themselves to the future, are more likely to extend their Second Adulthood's into healthy and satisfying later lives. New Passages

The development of consciousness is the development of awareness in our conscious mind of knowledge along with our unconscious mind, which already possesses that knowledge. The Road Less Traveled

Hermes, noble guide of souls, was also a thief, a liar, a cheat, and a lusty philanderer. The magical power of sex has a shadow side, which we overlook at our own peril. Soul Mates

Action is eloquence. - Shakespeare. Achieve Your Dreams

Things to Be Happy About: Holding the elevator for someone. A car mechanic you can trust. People returning your calls before the weekend. 14,000 Things to Be Happy About

If you try to catch two butterflies with one net, they'll both get away. Really Important Stuff My Kids Have Taught Me

 Release is simply the act of letting go. In every situation, you can either take responsibility and attempt to cause things to happen, or you can let go. Neither option is better or worse. Every situation is different, and only you will know what is the right thing to do in each case. If Life is a Game, These are the Rules

When Frederick II, heir to the German throne, tried to escape his father's harassment of his intense bond with army lieutenant Hans Hermann von Katte, he was imprisoned by his father, as was von Katte. Early one morning, while Frederick was forced to watch, von Katte was beheaded. Becoming king in 1740, Frederick introduced civil reforms that included ending press censorship and the use of torture and outlawing religious discrimination. Gay & Lesbian Calendar

If my sense of security lies in my reputation or in the things I have, my life will be in a constant state of threat and jeopardy - a fear that these possessions may be lost., stolen or devalued. If I'm in the presence of someone of greater net work, fame or status, I feel inferior. If I'm in the presence of someone of lesser net worth, fame or status, I feel superior. My sense of self-worth constantly fluctuates. I don't have any sense of constancy, anchorage, or persistent selfhood. I am constantly trying to protect and insure my assets, properties, securities, position or reputation. Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

Get your finances under control It's difficult to concentrate on inner peace if you can't pay the rent.  Simplify Your Life

Get Rid of Excess Halloween Candy. Like all children, my kids love trick-or-treating - but I don't love the huge amounts of candy left over. That's why I created the Halloween witch. After they've gotten their goodies, each child selects ten pieces of candy to keep and puts the rest on the front porch. During the night the Halloween witch swaps a plastic pumpkin filled with small toys and a new Halloween book for the candy. (The pumpkin even contains a new toothbrush!) It's a less painful way for my kids to part with their extra loot.  Parents Tips & Tricks

Cat and Camel Exercise for Tight Back Muscles. Get down on your hands and knees and arch your back like a startled cat. Hold for 5 counts, then let your back sag, like the valley between two camel humps (you hips and shoulders) for another 5 count. Repeat 5 times. Stress Busters

For the Kids:  Brainstorm words and write them down. Pick any words, but include ones like a, an, and the. Cut the words apart, and mix them up. Players draw an equal number of words, then use them to make the best sentence or poem.  To Do Today

Men weary as much of not doing the things they want to do as of doing the things they do not want to do. - Eric Hoffer. Win the Day!

El raton (rahTOHN) Mouse. Tengo un raton...para mi computadora. I have a mouse...for my computer. Living Language

TODAY'S ISSUE: DREAMS

A family needs a family dream or family vision that can be articulated. - Robert and Susan Bramson. Food, shelter, and clothing are a dream for too many family in our world, an impossible dream. Too many parents must watch their children die of starvation or disease. In families that have solved the basic problems of survival, it's less each to articulate the vision, but the most successful families have given some time and thought to the question and have come up with a simple answer that dignifies the lives of all family members. Racial and economic justice is one such dream; peace is another; sanctity of individual conscience another. Most of us live from day to day without giving much conscious thought to our shared vision. We may articulate the dream on special occasions, family reunions, holiday dinners, weddings or funerals. Sheer survival has been a powerful goal for many, and the children and grandchildren of families that have survived wars and persecution may need to refocus their sense of the family dream. Let us give thanks for our good fortune but set our sights beyond comfort and success, to a vision that will nourish us spiritually, even as our bodies are fed. Family Feelings

Hey Man: Did you make a difference yesterday? Let us know at Contact Us. I'll do my best to ensure that my family dream is one worth living for. Family Feelings Want to make a difference but you don't know where to start?

BOOK OF THE WEEK

Sh*t My Dad Says, Justin Halpern. After being dumped by his longtime girlfriend, the author found himself living at home with his seventy-three-year-old dad who is like Socrates, but angrier, and with worse hair." He has never minced words and when the author moved back home, he began to record all of the ridiculous things his dad said to him. More than a million people how follow his philosophical musings on Twitter, and in this book, his son weaves a brilliantly funny, touching coming-of-age memoir around the beset of his quotes. An all-American story that unfolds on the Little League field, in Dennny's, during excruciating family road trips, and, most frequently, in the authors kitchen over bowls of Grape-Nuts. This book is a chaotic, hilarious, true portrait of a father-son relationship from a major new comic voice. www.ShitMyDadSays.com or www.Twitter.com.ShitMyDadSays. HarperCollins, 2010 ISBN 978-0-06-199270-4

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MENSTUFF COLUMNS BY AUTHOR

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  • Peter Alsop - Song of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/alsop/archive.html
  • Reid Baer - A Man Overboard - Interview of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/overboard/archive.html
  • Reid Baer - Poetry - poetry read on YouTube - www.menstuff.org/columns/baer/archive.html
  • Molly Barrow - Shrink About This - www.menstuff.org/columns/barrow/archive.html
  • Peter Baylies - At Home Dads - on at-home-dad issues that impact fathers who stay at home to raise their kids - www.menstuff.org/columns/baylies/archive.html
  • Tom Blake - Middle-Age Relationships - from an expert on dating after 50. www.menstuff.org/columns/blake/archive.html
  • Mark Brandenburg - Great Fathers - on fathering issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/greatfathers/archive.html
  • Ted Braude - BoysWork - a columnist in the The Detroit Free Press "Body and Mind" section www.menstuff.org/columns/braude/archive.html
  • Armin Brott - A Father's Guide - hosts "Positive Parenting" on radio www.menstuff.org/columns/brott/archive.html
  • Dan Bulf - Get Real - weekly pod cast on men's issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/bulf/archive.html
  • Ken Byers - Transition - on men's life transitions - www.menstuff.org/columns/byers/archive.html
  • Sandra L. Caron - Sex Talk - college students get answers to their questions - www.menstuff.org/columns/sextalk/archive.html
  • Neil Chethik - Relationships - www.menstuff.org/columns/chethik/archive.html
  • Otto & Susie Collins - Susie and Otto - relationship issues discussed - www.menstuff.org/columns/susie&otto/archive.html
  • David Copeland - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Forrest Craver - Spirituality & Social Change - www.menstuff.org/columns/craver/archive.html
  • Layne & Paul Cutright - Powerful Partnerships - relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/cutright/archive.html
  • Ron DesMarais - Cavemen in the Kitchen - great recipes for men - www.menstuff.org/columns/desmarais/archive.html
  • Jed Diamond - Irritable Male Syndrome - www.menstuff.org/columns/diamond/archive.html
  • Doc Love - Women Don't Lie, Man Don't Listen - answers to relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/doclov/archive.html
  • Barry Durdant-Hollamby - Creating Change - creating change in your life - www.menstuff.org/columns/durdant/archive.html
  • Irv Engel - The Real Deal - www.menstuff.org/columns/engel/archive.html
  • Nancy Fagan - Expert Dating Advice - with Nancy Fagan - www.menstuf.org/columns/fagan/archive.html
  • Warren Farrell - Men's Issues: Facts and Perspectives www.menstuff.org/columns/farrell/archive.html
  • Leonard Felder - Wake Up or Break Up - www.menstuff.org/columns/felder/archive.html
  • Marty Friedman - Strong Men, Strong Marriage - www.menstuff.org/columns/friedman/archive.html
  • Kim Garretson - Mansgland - using humor to encourage prostate exams - www.menstuff.org/columns/mansgland/archive.html
  • Lion Goodman - How to get Women to Love You - www.menstuff.org/columns/goodman/archive.html
  • Liz Halliday - In a Man's World - www.menstuff.org/columns/halliday/archive.html
  • Rick Hanson - Your Wise Brain - www.menstuff.org/columns/hanson/archive.html
  • Tim Hartnett - Daddyman Speaks - being a father www.menstuff.org/columns/daddyman/archive.html
  • John Hershey - Blood, Phlegm & Bile: Parenting with Humor - He writes a syndicated biweekly humor column about parenting and family life. www.menstuff.org/columns/hershey/archive.html
  • Gary Hoeber - Psychotherapy as Soul Work, www.menstuff.org/columns/hoeber/archive.html
  • Patrick Houser - Fathers Make a World of Difference, www.menstuff.org/columns/houser/archive.html
  • Paul Joannides - The Guide to Getting It On - on sex - www.menstuff.org/columns/getiton/archive.html
  • Jack Kahn - NOMAS Boston - www.menstuff.org/columns/kahn/archive.html
  • Patrick Kennedy - Seniors - www.menstuff.org/columns/kennedy/archive.html
  • Joe Kort - Gaydar - to increase understanding between gay and het men - www.menstuff.org/columns/kort/archive.html
  • David Kundtz - David Kundtz - presents seminars, workshops, retreats, and conference presentations in the areas of men's emotional health, stress management, and spirituality. www.menstuff.org/columns/kundtz/archive.html
  • Bruce Linton - Dr. Dad - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/drdad/archive.html
  • Ron Louis - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Tom Matlack - Tom Matlack - Good Men Project - www.menstuff.org/columns/matlack/archive.html
  • Wendy McElroy - Wendy McElroy on Feminism, www.menstuff.org/columns/mcelroy/archive.html
  • Robert N. Minor - Minor Details - on GBT sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/minordetails/archive.html
  • Robert L. Moore - Man & Mythology - www.menstuff.org/columns/moore/archive.html
  • Dennis W. Neder - Being a Man - general questions about men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/neder/archive.html
  • Marty Nemko - Worklife - general questions about men and work - www.menstuff.org/columns/nemko/archive.html
  • Eli Newberger - Eli Newberger - general information on men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/newberger/archive.html
  • Linda Nielsen - Embracing the Father - working with the father/daughter relationship. www.menstuff.org/columns/nielsen/archive.html
  • Kathy Noll - Bullies and Youth Violence - working with schools, teachers and parents to end school violence - www.menstuff.org/columns/noll/archive.html
  • Mark Phillips - Stay-at-Home-Dads - helping men maintain that which makes us men, instead of becoming hairy Mom-substitutes - www.menstuff.org/columns/phillips/archive.html
  • Carey Roberts - Socialism & Feminism - is a social commentator on political correctness. www.menstuff.org/columns/roberts/archive.html
  • Perry Rose - Dating, Relationship, Sex
  • Glenn Sacks - His Side - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/sacks/archive.html
  • Trudy Schuett - Domestic Violence - serving the under-represented www.menstuff.org/columns/schuett/archive.html
  • Carl J. Schutt - Circumcision - social commentator on circumcision - www.menstuff.org/columns/schutt/archive.html
  • Hugo Schwyzer - A Pro-feminist's Response - www.menstuff.org/columns/schwyzer/archive.html
  • Michael Shaffran - Men's Issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/shaffran/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • George Simons - Bellicose Veins - is a US specialist in intercultural and gender communication who hangs out in Mandelieu - la Napoule, France, as well as in Santa Cruz, CA. www.menstuff.org/columns/simons/archive.html
  • Andy Smith - Hard Hat Brotherhood - www.menstuff.org/columns/hardhat/archive.html
  • David B. Smith - Fighting Father Dave - www.menstuff.org/columns/smith/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • Reena Sommer - Custody - is an internationally recognized relationship and divorce consultant. www.menstuff.org/columns/sommer/archive.html
  • R. Don Steele - Don Steele - relationship questions answered -
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  • David Steinberg - Comes Naturally - on sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/steinberg/archive.html
  • Mary Lou St Lucas - A Mother's Love - www.menstuf.org/columns/stlucas/archive.html
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  • Steven Svoboda - Fatherhood, Activism and the Law www.menstuff.org/columns/svoboda/archive.html
  • Michael Taylor - A New Conversation with Men - www.menstuff.org/columns/taylor/archive.html
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  • Michael Webb - Secrets of Blissful Relationships - on relationship - www.menstuff.org/columns/bliss/archive.html
  • Stuart Wilde - Spirituality - www.menstuff.org/columns/wilde/archive.html
  • Dr.Williams - Sex Health - on sexual health - Dr. Williams, www.menstuff.org/columns/sexhealth/archive.html
  • KC Wilson - On Gender Politics is a social commentator and author. www.menstuff.org/columns/wilson/archive.html

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  • Numbers - www.menstuff.org/columns/numbers/archive.html
  • Questions - www.menstuff.org/columns/q&a/archive.html
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  • Wuzup?! - National or international events happening this month - www.menstuff.org/columns/whassup/archive.html 

AWARENESS EVENTS THIS MONTH

October is Adopt-a-Shelter Dog; Alternate History; Auto Battery Safety; Campaign for Healthier Babies; Celiac Sprue Awareness; Child Health; Computer Learning; Diversity Awareness; Dryer Vent Safety Awareness; Energy Management is a Family Affair-Improve Your Home; Family History; Family Sexuality Education, Fantasy; Gay and Lesbian History; Health Literacy; International Fired Up; Listen to Your Inner Critic; Lupus Awareness; National AIDS Awareness; National Animal Safety and Protection; *National Breast Cancer Awareness; National Car Care; National Crime Prevention; National Depression Education and Awareness; *National Disability Employment Awareness; *National Domestic Violence Awareness; National Family Health, National Family Sexuality Education; National "Gain the Inside Advantage"; National Home Inspection; National Orthodontic Health; National Pharmacy; National Physical Therapy; National Pizza; National Popcorn Poppin'; National Roller Skating; National Skin Care Awareness; National Spinal Health; National Toilet Tank Repair; Pediatric Cancer Awareness; Rett Syndrome Awareness; Sarcastics Awareness; Substance Abuse Prevention; Talk About Prescriptions; Unmasking Halloween Dangers; Vegetarian Awareness Month.

9/15-10/15: Hispanic Heritage Month. 10/1-7: Mental Illness Awareness; *Minority Enterprise Development; National Health Care Food Oct 8-14: *Fire Prevention; Home Based Business; National Adult Immunization Awareness; *National School Lunch, National Walk to School Week. 10/9-13: Pet Peeve, Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Week. 10/10-16: Wildlife Week. 10/14-20: Ally, Pharmacy Week. 10/15-21: Getting the World to Beat a Path to Your Door; *National Character Counts; Teen Read Week. 10/16-22: National Health Education Week. 10/22-28: National Massage Therapy Awareness, National Save Yur Back Week. 10/23-31: Red Ribbon 10/25-31: Peace, Friendship & Goodwill Week. 10/1: World Vegetarian Day. 10/2: World Habitat Day, 10/3: Techies Day. 10/4: Toot Your Flute Day. 10/8 Global Learn Day; National Children's Day. 10/9: Indigenous Persons Day; *Leif Erikson Day, Yom Kippur, Canadian Thanksgiving Day. 10/11: Coming Out; Teddy Bear to Work Day; 10/12: Oktoberfest. 10/13: Blame Someone Else; Scream, Train Your Brain Day, Friday the 13th. 10/14: Sukkot. Be Bald and Be Free Day. 10/15: National Grouch; *White Cane Safety Day. 10/16: Dictionary;  Boss' Day, Intl. Librarians World Food Day. 10/17: Black Poetry, International Eradication of Poverty Day. 10/18: Canadian Persons;  Boost your Brain Day. 10/19: Evaluate Your Life Day 10/21: Sweetest Day. 10/22: Mother-In-Law; National Scientific Literacy Day. 10/23: National Mole Day. 10/24: United Nations Day. Black Thursday. 10/25: Cartoonists Against Crime Day. 10/26: Horseless Carriage; Mule, Intersex Awareness Day 10/27: Frankenstein Friday, Navy Day, Ugly Pickup Contest. 10/28: Make a Difference; Wild Foods Day; Day of Meditation. 10/29: Daylight Savings Times Ends. 10/31: Halloween; National Magic; *National Unicef Day. 11/2 is Election Day. Vote Absentee Ballot.

* Means a Presidential Proclamation has been made.

Domestic Violence Prevention Month - See Issues. Also, see books on anger, violence-general, violence-domestic, violence-rape, violence-sexual, women's violence, sexual harassment plus Q&A Slide Guide on Gangs and Safe Dating in Merchandise and Alternatives to Violence programs. - resources for male and female perpetrators and male and female victims. Got some information to add, send it to mailto:violence@menstuff.org

* Means a Presidential Proclamation has been made.

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