Daily Thoughts & Issues

IN THIS ISSUE:

MAY 8

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May 8 - Mother's Day - USA, CAN. Day to give love and thanks to all mothers; day for all mothers to celebrate motherhood and contemplate their sacred duty to provide for the physical , intellectual, emotional and spiritual needs of their children. The Mystic's Wheel of the Year * The birth control pill is approved by the FDA on this day in 1960. European Union (1950). * Members of the European Union commemorate the announcement by French statesman of the Schuman Plan to establish a single authority for production of coal, iron and steel in France and Germany. This was the forerunner of the European Economic Community, founded in 1957, which later become he European Union. * Birthdays: Peter Benchley, Enrique Iglesias, Ronald Mandel (Ronnie) Lott, Sonny Liston, Keith Jarrett.

DAILY THOUGHTS

On this day in 1990, George Stallings is ordained as the first bishop of the African American Catholic Church. African American History

Smooth Moves. Every year in the United States, eight million children have their lives turned upside down by forces beyond their control:  A downsized dad has to go where work is, or Mom gets a big promotion to the home office. Whatever the reason, about one in five families relocates each year. And moving puts a special strain on children. Kids don't know what to expect and start to worry about the unknown. How can you ease the way?  Be positive. Your kids take their cue from you. Give advance notice so that your child doesn't feel shocked or betrayed after hearing about the impending move from a neighbor or friend. Involve kids in the planning and packing, making the move a shared experience. Even toddlers can decorate cartons with crayons and stickers. Family Feelings

Sex can be fun only if you use what you've got and stop worrying about what you don't. - Brian, 28 Best of 1001 Sex Secrets Every Man & Woman Should Know

Practice doesn't make perfect; it makes permanent! Dr. Buff's 365 Day Parenting Calendar

Genuine love is a self-replenishing activity. Indeed, it is even more; it enlarges rather than diminishes the self; it fills the self rather than depleting it. In a real sense love is as selfish as non love. The Road Less Traveled

A deep image of family, residing effectively in our hearts and imaginations, can help us work and live together in ways that no rational principle can. Soul Mates

Get up. Get moving. Get going. Achieve Your Dreams

Things to Be Happy About:  Pajamas at breakfast. Walking the sandbar. Not going extra innings. 14,000 Things to Be Happy About

If you want to zoom down the expert slope tomorrow, you have to fall down the bunny slope today. Really Important Stuff My Kids Have Taught Me

You may resist learning the lesson of forgiveness because sometimes it feels good to blame people for their mistakes. It makes you feel superior and righteous when you can look down your nose and hold a grudge toward someone who has wronged you. However, harboring resentment consumes a lot of energy. Why waste valuable energy on prolonged anger and guilt, when you could use that energy for far greater things? If Life is a Game, These are the Rules

Paradigms are inseparable from character. Being is seeing in the human dimension. And what we see is highly interrelated to who we are. We can't go very far to change our seeing without simultaneously changing our being, and vice versa. Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

Remember, when reducing the clutter in your life, the idea is not to deny yourself the things you wan, but to free yourself from the things you don't want. You may not be ready to get rid of everything in your closets on the first uncluttering round or two, but once you begin to experience the exhilaration and the sense of freedom such an exercise generates, uncluttering will become easier and easier. Simplify Your Life

Two rules for stress management:  Don't swat the small stuff. It's all small stuff. And if you can't fight and you can't flee, flow. - Robert Eliot. Stress Busters

Hold a cartwheel contest for you kids and their friends. See who can do the most in one minute. These contests are totally fun. To Do Today

The world has no room for cowards. We must all be ready somehow to toil, to suffer, to die. And yours is not the less noble because no drum beats before you when you go out into your daily battlefields, and no crowds shout about your coming when you return from your daily victory or defeat. - Robert Lewis Stevenson.   Win the Day!

El concierto (kohnSYEHRtoh) Concert. El concierto fue fantastico!  The concert was fantastic!  Living Language

Hey Man: Did you make a difference yesterday? Let us know at mencare@menstuff.org. Be specific in your praise. What Every Man Needs to Know Want to make a difference but you don't know where to start?.

TODAY'S ISSUE: DECISION MAKING

When a man hasn't a good reason for doing a thing, he has a good reason for letting it alone. Sir Walter Scott

How often as Men Who Do Next to Nothing do we feel ourselves pressured to hurry up and make a decision, like which brand of garden weasel to buy or what to do with our lives?

Of course the problem is once we make those decisions, we come under pressure to act on them. Once we go ahead and buy our weasel of preference, we may actually have to weed. Once we decide what to do with our lives, the implication is that we go ahead and do it.

Isn't it much easier to avoid making any decision in the first place? Isn't it healthier to avoid asking leading questions of ourselves or, in fact, asking any questions at all, of anybody, at any time? If we avoid thinking about the issues in our lives, we stay clear of the activity danger zone.

If an issue falls in the forest and I'm not there to hear it, does it exist? Who cares? I hate hiking. Meditations for Men Who Do Next to Nothing: and would like to do even less

Hey Man: Did you make a difference yesterday? Let us know at Contact Us. Trust your feelings. You know more than you think you do. What Every Man Needs to Know Want to make a difference but you don't know where to start?.

BOOK OF THE WEEK

How to Achieve a Heaven on Earth: 101 insightful essays from the world's greatest thinkers, leaders and writers. by John E. Wade II, Editor. Contributions from 101 of the most prestigious thinkers, writers, public figures, and other luminaries on a wide range of topics fill the pages of this meditation on how to make the world a better place. Focusing on the large problems of the world as well as the little challenges people face, this book tackles the momentous question of what each of us can do to improve our community, our country, and our world, one step at a time. Pelican, www.pelicanpub.com, 2010 ISBN 9781589805972 See article here.

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  • Forrest Craver - Spirituality & Social Change - www.menstuff.org/columns/craver/archive.html
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  • Irv Engel - The Real Deal - www.menstuff.org/columns/engel/archive.html
  • Nancy Fagan - Expert Dating Advice - with Nancy Fagan - www.menstuf.org/columns/fagan/archive.html
  • Warren Farrell - Men's Issues: Facts and Perspectives www.menstuff.org/columns/farrell/archive.html
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  • Kim Garretson - Mansgland - using humor to encourage prostate exams - www.menstuff.org/columns/mansgland/archive.html
  • Lion Goodman - How to get Women to Love You - www.menstuff.org/columns/goodman/archive.html
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  • Tim Hartnett - Daddyman Speaks - being a father www.menstuff.org/columns/daddyman/archive.html
  • John Hershey - Blood, Phlegm & Bile: Parenting with Humor - He writes a syndicated biweekly humor column about parenting and family life. www.menstuff.org/columns/hershey/archive.html
  • Gary Hoeber - Psychotherapy as Soul Work, www.menstuff.org/columns/hoeber/archive.html
  • Patrick Houser - Fathers Make a World of Difference, www.menstuff.org/columns/houser/archive.html
  • Paul Joannides - The Guide to Getting It On - on sex - www.menstuff.org/columns/getiton/archive.html
  • Jack Kahn - NOMAS Boston - www.menstuff.org/columns/kahn/archive.html
  • Patrick Kennedy - Seniors - www.menstuff.org/columns/kennedy/archive.html
  • Joe Kort - Gaydar - to increase understanding between gay and het men - www.menstuff.org/columns/kort/archive.html
  • David Kundtz - David Kundtz - presents seminars, workshops, retreats, and conference presentations in the areas of men's emotional health, stress management, and spirituality. www.menstuff.org/columns/kundtz/archive.html
  • Bruce Linton - Dr. Dad - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/drdad/archive.html
  • Ron Louis - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Tom Matlack - Tom Matlack - Good Men Project - www.menstuff.org/columns/matlack/archive.html
  • Wendy McElroy - Wendy McElroy on Feminism, www.menstuff.org/columns/mcelroy/archive.html
  • Robert N. Minor - Minor Details - on GBT sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/minordetails/archive.html
  • Robert L. Moore - Man & Mythology - www.menstuff.org/columns/moore/archive.html
  • Dennis W. Neder - Being a Man - general questions about men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/neder/archive.html
  • Marty Nemko - Worklife - general questions about men and work - www.menstuff.org/columns/nemko/archive.html
  • Eli Newberger - Eli Newberger - general information on men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/newberger/archive.html
  • Linda Nielsen - Embracing the Father - working with the father/daughter relationship. www.menstuff.org/columns/nielsen/archive.html
  • Kathy Noll - Bullies and Youth Violence - working with schools, teachers and parents to end school violence - www.menstuff.org/columns/noll/archive.html
  • Mark Phillips - Stay-at-Home-Dads - helping men maintain that which makes us men, instead of becoming hairy Mom-substitutes - www.menstuff.org/columns/phillips/archive.html
  • Carey Roberts - Socialism & Feminism - is a social commentator on political correctness. www.menstuff.org/columns/roberts/archive.html
  • Perry Rose - Dating, Relationship, Sex
  • Glenn Sacks - His Side - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/sacks/archive.html
  • Trudy Schuett - Domestic Violence - serving the under-represented www.menstuff.org/columns/schuett/archive.html
  • Carl J. Schutt - Circumcision - social commentator on circumcision - www.menstuff.org/columns/schutt/archive.html
  • Hugo Schwyzer - A Pro-feminist's Response - www.menstuff.org/columns/schwyzer/archive.html
  • Michael Shaffran - Men's Issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/shaffran/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • George Simons - Bellicose Veins - is a US specialist in intercultural and gender communication who hangs out in Mandelieu - la Napoule, France, as well as in Santa Cruz, CA. www.menstuff.org/columns/simons/archive.html
  • Andy Smith - Hard Hat Brotherhood - www.menstuff.org/columns/hardhat/archive.html
  • David B. Smith - Fighting Father Dave - www.menstuff.org/columns/smith/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
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  • David Steinberg - Comes Naturally - on sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/steinberg/archive.html
  • Mary Lou St Lucas - A Mother's Love - www.menstuf.org/columns/stlucas/archive.html
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  • Stuart Wilde - Spirituality - www.menstuff.org/columns/wilde/archive.html
  • Dr.Williams - Sex Health - on sexual health - Dr. Williams, www.menstuff.org/columns/sexhealth/archive.html
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AWARENESS EVENTS THIS MONTH

May is: Skin Cancer Awareness, * Masturbation Month; Asian Pacific American Heritage;. Better Hearing and Speech; Better Sleep; Correct Posture; Creative Beginnings; Family Support; Foster Care; Get Caught Reading; Helping American Youth; National Allergy/Asthma Awareness; National Arthritis; National Barbecue; Good Car-Keeping; Hepatitis Awareness; Mental Health; Osteoporosis Prevention; Physical Fitness and Sports; Recommitment; Scholarship; Self-Discovery; Senior Citizens Month , Senior Travel; Sight-Saving; Stroke Awareness; Teaching and Joy, Teen Pregnancy Prevention, Tuberous; Sclerosis Awareness; *Older Americans; Personal History Awareness; Revise Your Work Schedule; and Strike Out Strokes Month. The most tornados happen in May.

May 14-Jun 18: National Family Month. Apr 29-May 5: *National Science & Technology Week. May 1-7: Cartoon Art Appreciation Week. May 5-11: National Nurses Day and Week. May 6-12: Be Kind to Animals; Flexible Work Arrangements; *Jewish Heritage; National Family; National Pet; PTA Teacher Appreciation; Suicide Awareness; Wildflower; and Teacher Appreciation Week. May 7-13 National Etiquette; and National Herb Week. May 13-219: National Medical Services; *Nat Police; *National Transportation; and *World Trade Week. May 19-25: *National Safe Boating Week. May 20-26: Good Stewardship; International Reggae Music; National New Friends-Old Friends; and, National Reflexology Awareness Week. May 21-28: Buckle Up America; and, National Backyard Games Week. May 1: May Day observed since ancient times and has become Labor Day in most countries except the U.S., Bermuda and Canada. Kindness Day, Teen Day, Freedom Riders Anniversary, Executive Coaching Day. *Law Day. *Loyalty Day. Peace of Mind Day. 40th Anniversary of the U-2 Incident with Francis Gary Powers. May 2: Holocaust Rememberance Day. May 6:: National Day of Hearing Testing. May 8: V-E Day 55th Anniversary, World Red Cross Day, May 9: National Receptionests Day, National Teachers Day. May 10: National Small Business Day. May 12: Chronic Fatigue Awareness Day May 14: *Mother's Day. May 15: *Peace Officer Memorial Day May 19: *National Defense Transportation Day. National Bike to Work Day. May 20: *Armed Forces Day. May 21: National Waitstaff Day, Neighbor Day Youth Against Violence. May 22: *National Maritime Day. May 25: National Missing Children's Day. May 26: Morning Radio Wise Guy Day. May 28:  Ancestor Honor Day. Memorial Day. (celebrated on Monday the *29th Memorial Day Prayer for Peace requests flying the flag at half-staff for the customary forenoon period.) May 31: National Senior Health and Fitness Day. World No-Tobacco Day.

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