Daily Thoughts & Issues

IN THIS ISSUE:

MAY 24

Days left until the next millennium 01.01.3001

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May 24 - Mawlid al-Nabi-Day commemorating the birth of Prophet Muhammad (570). He conceived Deity to be a compassionate, genderless unity. The Mystic's Wheel of the Year * Supersonic jet service to Europe begins. (1976) * The first baseball game under lights (1935). * The Brooklyn Bridge opened after 14 years of construction (1883). * Morse opens first US telegraph line (1844) between Baltimore and DC. * Victoria Boat Disaster (1881). It was conducting holiday excursion trips between London and Springbank Park. It was dangerously overcrowded. It finally keeled over and sank immediately and at least 182 people lost their lives. * Eritrea Independence Day.* Birthdays:  Gary Burghoff, Roger Caras, Joe Dumars, Frank Oz, Emanuel Leutze, Mick Edward Mannock, Samuel Newhouse, Gary Burghoff, Roger Caras, Tommy Chong, Joe Dumars III, Alfred Molina, Frank Oz, Robert (Bob Dylan) Zimmerman, Edward "Mick" Mannock, (1887) British flying ace credited with 73 hits during WW1 would most likely not have been considered eligible to fly due to an astigmatism in one eye. He died during a flight in 1918.

Prevent accidents - keep floors uncluttered!

DAILY THOUGHTS

Who was the first African American to be appointed to the House Armed Services Committee? (Answer below.) African American History

Anyone who listens to older men today should know that most of them are confused and floundering to find new definitions of masculinity and sources of emotional security. Just about everything they have been conditioned to believe about their masculinity has come under attack. New Passages

The best night was when we got crazy with a bowl of chocolate pudding. - Jack, 32 Best of 1001 Sex Secrets Every Man & Woman Should Know

Teach children and they may forget. Show them and they may remember. But involve them and they will understand. (paraphrased Chinese proverb) Dr. Buff's 365 Day Parenting Calendar

How to Keep Bugs at Bay? It's virtually impossible to prevent all ear infections, but you can minimize your child's risk of getting one by taking these two simple precautions:  Breast-feed your baby if possible. The antibodies in breast milk may make a baby less susceptible to ear infection. Also, don't expose your child to secondhand smoke. There is evidence that a youngster who lives with two smokers is nearly three times more likely to develop ear infections than a child who lives in a smoke-free environment. Family Feelings

Watch What You Say, Dear. When it comes to love, it's best to be careful. Flowers can help:  Carnation - woman's love, Chrysanthemum, slighted love (yellow), Cinquefoil - beloved daughter. Forget-me-not - True love. Heart's-ease (wild) Love in idleness. Honeysuckle - bond of love. Lemon blossom - fidelity in love. The Old Farmer's Almanac

A benefit of releasing our parents and other family members from responsibility for our fate is the possibility of establishing a satisfying relationship with them - no small achievement for the soul. The Road Less Traveled

We first make our habits, then our habits make us. - John Dryden. Achieve Your Dreams

Things to Be Happy About: Eating a shore dinner. Mineral formations. A raccoon's mask. 14,000 Things to Be Happy About

Stretch.  Really Important Stuff My Kids Have Taught Me

Extremely handsome, tan, and athletic, things came easily to Will. So when he was served with a lawsuit one day, he assumed that the cases would work out as easily as everything else in his life did and didn't worry about it. The lawsuit led to the breakup of his company, he couldn't get a job, and went bankrupt. Will couldn't understand how so much misfortune could happen to a "perfect person" like him. He had to learn that his talents were wonderful but were negated alongside an attitude of arrogance. Over time, Will learned the lesson of humility and turned his circumstances around.  If Life is a Game, These are the Rules

How different our lives are when we really know what is deeply important to us, and keeping that picture in mind, we manage ourselves each day to be and to do what really matters most.  Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

Get rid of all the extras. If you've got one pair of reading glasses you always know where they are. If you have more than one pair, you can never find them when you need them. In no time at all, having extra sets of things can complicate your life. Simplify Your Life

Practice helpful, calming "self-talk" during times of stress. For example:  This situation isn't turning out the way I wanted, but I'll just make the best of it. Sure, this is frustrating, but I can cope with it. This is irritating, but I don't need to make a federal case out of it.  Stress Busters

Set up a game for the kids. Everyone is blindfolded for this triathlon. Players must tie their shoes, make a peanut butter and jelly sandwich, and then wrap a box - blindfolded. The player with the best time and neatest jobs wins. To Do Today

If you once turn on your side after the hour at which you ought to rise, it is all over. Bolt up at once. - Sir Walter Scott.  Win the Day!

Conocer (kohnohSEHR) To know, to meet. Tengo que conocerla!  I have to meet her! Living Language

Answer:  Ronald V Dellums, the first African American to hold that position.

TODAY'S ISSUE: INSECURITY

It takes more courage to reveal insecurities than to hide them, more strength to relate to people than to dominate them, more "manhood" to abide by thought-out principles rather than blind reflex. Thoughness is in the soul and spirit, not in muscles and an immature mind. - Alex Karras

In our culture, being a man often means being tough, having sexual prowess, and not showing feelings. We realize in this life of recovery that those are silly and immature myths, even though we see them repeatedly on TV, on billboards, and in newspapers.

When we are told these things repeatedly, it makes an impact on us. So we need to hear from each other that this is not the way we wish to live. We don't admire these attitudes, and we don't believe the stories. Truly courageous men know themselves. They have been around enough to have depth to their souls, to let themselves, love,m and to feel the pain of life.

Today, I am grateful to know and share my feelings and to have genuine relationships with those I love. Touchstones

Hey Man: Did you make a difference yesterday? Let us know at Contact Us. Write an ideal job description for yourself. Place it in your pocket notebook and look for and create opportunities to fill it. What Every Man Needs to Know Want to make a difference but you don't know where to start?

BOOK OF THE WEEK

Tragic Love by Tammy Rockett-Box and Mary Jane Rockett. A suspenseful and electribying story of a young man who engages in a forbidden love affair. From the beginning, the relationship is tumultuous and eventually the young man's life comes to a tragic ending. Evidence is overlooked and questions go unanswered as police investigators rule the death a suicide. However, the truth is right in front of their eyes, and it takes a tenacious mother and daughter to determine what really happened in the conclusion of the tragic love. Publish America, www.publishamerica.com ISBN 978-1-61582-293-5

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  • Robert N. Minor - Minor Details - on GBT sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/minordetails/archive.html
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  • Carey Roberts - Socialism & Feminism - is a social commentator on political correctness. www.menstuff.org/columns/roberts/archive.html
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  • Judith Sherven - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • George Simons - Bellicose Veins - is a US specialist in intercultural and gender communication who hangs out in Mandelieu - la Napoule, France, as well as in Santa Cruz, CA. www.menstuff.org/columns/simons/archive.html
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AWARENESS EVENTS THIS MONTH

May is: Skin Cancer Awareness, * Masturbation Month; Asian Pacific American Heritage;. Better Hearing and Speech; Better Sleep; Correct Posture; Creative Beginnings; Family Support; Foster Care; Get Caught Reading; Helping American Youth; National Allergy/Asthma Awareness; National Arthritis; National Barbecue; Good Car-Keeping; Hepatitis Awareness; Mental Health; Osteoporosis Prevention; Physical Fitness and Sports; Recommitment; Scholarship; Self-Discovery; Senior Citizens Month , Senior Travel; Sight-Saving; Stroke Awareness; Teaching and Joy, Teen Pregnancy Prevention, Tuberous; Sclerosis Awareness; *Older Americans; Personal History Awareness; Revise Your Work Schedule; and Strike Out Strokes Month. The most tornados happen in May.

May 14-Jun 18: National Family Month. Apr 29-May 5: *National Science & Technology Week. May 1-7: Cartoon Art Appreciation Week. May 5-11: National Nurses Day and Week. May 6-12: Be Kind to Animals; Flexible Work Arrangements; *Jewish Heritage; National Family; National Pet; PTA Teacher Appreciation; Suicide Awareness; Wildflower; and Teacher Appreciation Week. May 7-13 National Etiquette; and National Herb Week. May 13-219: National Medical Services; *Nat Police; *National Transportation; and *World Trade Week. May 19-25: *National Safe Boating Week. May 20-26: Good Stewardship; International Reggae Music; National New Friends-Old Friends; and, National Reflexology Awareness Week. May 21-28: Buckle Up America; and, National Backyard Games Week. May 1: May Day observed since ancient times and has become Labor Day in most countries except the U.S., Bermuda and Canada. Kindness Day, Teen Day, Freedom Riders Anniversary, Executive Coaching Day. *Law Day. *Loyalty Day. Peace of Mind Day. 40th Anniversary of the U-2 Incident with Francis Gary Powers. May 2: Holocaust Rememberance Day. May 6:: National Day of Hearing Testing. May 8: V-E Day 55th Anniversary, World Red Cross Day, May 9: National Receptionests Day, National Teachers Day. May 10: National Small Business Day. May 12: Chronic Fatigue Awareness Day May 14: *Mother's Day. May 15: *Peace Officer Memorial Day May 19: *National Defense Transportation Day. National Bike to Work Day. May 20: *Armed Forces Day. May 21: National Waitstaff Day, Neighbor Day Youth Against Violence. May 22: *National Maritime Day. May 25: National Missing Children's Day. May 26: Morning Radio Wise Guy Day. May 28:  Ancestor Honor Day. Memorial Day. (celebrated on Monday the *29th Memorial Day Prayer for Peace requests flying the flag at half-staff for the customary forenoon period.) May 31: National Senior Health and Fitness Day. World No-Tobacco Day.

* Means a Presidential Proclamation was made.

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