Daily Thoughts & Issues

IN THIS ISSUE:

SEPTEMBER 8

Days left until the next millennium 01.01.3001

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Achieve Your Dreams

It's Prostate Cancer Awareness Month. Remember to visit "Today" during the week of September 19-25. It's Prostate Cancer Awareness Week and we will feature a different issue each day concerning prostate cancer.

September 8 - Grandparents Day - a day to give love and thanks to all grandparents; day for all grandparents to celebrate their age and contemplate their sacred duty to share their wisdom with the young. Also, encourage Grandfathers to get a prostate exam. There's no better time to setup an annual appointment. * Animal Day-Day to honor all the creatures of the land and to meditate on Deity manifesting as animals. * Independence Day of Andorra. * An international day observed by the organizations of the United Nations system declaring today the International Literacy Day. * Death day of Mother Ann Lee (1784), mystic and founder of the Shakers, who believed Deity is Father, Son, Mother and Daughter. The Mystic's Wheel of the Year * Italy surrenders unconditionally to Allied forces (1943). * Galveston Hurricane - the worst national disaster in US history in term of lives lost (1900). More than 6,000 people were killed when a hurricane struck Galveston with winds of more than 120 mph, followed by huge tidal waves. More than 2,500 buildings were destroyed. * Nixon given "full, free and absolute pardon for all offenses against the United States which he, Richard Nixon, has committed or may have committed or taken part in during the period from January 20, 1969 through August 9, 1974." (1974)  Guess it pays to have a buddy in high places. * Northern Pacific Railroad completed after 19 years of construction (1883). It was the second railroad to link to two coasts (Union Pacific and Central Pacific lines met at Utah in 1969.) * Birthdays: Richard (Peter Sellers) Henry, Sid Caesar, Alan Feinstein, Rogatien (Rogie) Vachon.. And a special birthday to Jim Bracewell

DAILY THOUGHTS

Perseverance is a great element of success. If you knock long enough and loud enough at the gate, you're sure to awaken someone. - Longfellow. Achieve Your Dreams

What the Spaniards tell us:  The best mirror is an old friend. The fear of women is the basis of good health. I dance to the tune that is played. Every cask smells of the wine it contained. Between two Saturdays happen many marvels. The Old Farmer's Almanac

Feeling the tension created by various claims of the soul, gradually we move to anew perspective in which the struggle of competing values turns into appreciation for unresolved complexity. Soul Mates

A childhood crush on an elementary school teacher is good news. It means your child has found a role model and will therefore study harder for that person. Dr. Buff's 365 Day Parenting Calendar

We tend to believe what the people around us believe, and we tend to accept as truth what these people tell us of the nature of the world as we listen to them during our formative years. The Road Less Traveled

If you're going to use your fingers to stimulate me, wash your hands first. - Deanna 33. Let the answering machine get it. - Dan, 21. Best of 1001 Sex Secrets Every Man & Woman Should Know

The Grant Study of Harvard men, done over a period of many years, confirms that time does heal. Even the most painful and traumatic events in childhood had virtually no effect on the well-being of these men by their mid-sixties, although severe depression earlier in life did predispose some to continuing problems. New Passages

Things to Be Happy About:  Sturdy picket fences. Muffins with surprising flavors. A hiding place in the attic. 14,000 Things to Be Happy About

Don't say you brushed your teeth if you really didn't. Really Important Stuff My Kids Have Taught Me

Delia was a young woman with a natural gift for writing. She came from a wealthy East Coast family whose mandate for her was to get married to an equally wealthy man and move to the suburbs. When she announced she planned to move to New York and pursue a freelance writing career, her family was mortified. Though she needed to deal with the disappointment of her family and the frightening reality of stepping out of her comfortable framework, Delia stayed aligned with her truth. When I last saw her, she had been commissioned to write a long piece for a major magazine and possessed that inner glow of grace.  If Life is a Game, These are the Rules

Harry Hay lead a life of activism, first in the Communist Party, then in the antiwar movement, and later, the gay rights movement. In 1950 he cofounded the Mattachine Society, the first long-lasting gay rights organization in the United States. Gay & Lesbian Calendar

It is much more ennobling to the human spirit to let people judge themselves than to judge them. And in a high-trust culture, it's much more accurate. In many cases people know in their hearts how things are going much better than the records show. Discernment is often far more accurate than either observation or measurement. Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

 Stay in your office or your home, surrounded by all the things you should be doing, and do nothing. If you've not done this before, it may take several tries at it to get past the guilt or the almost uncontrollable urge to start doing something. Once you've learned to do nothing, you'll be amazed at the clarity it will bring to your life, or to whatever project you're working on. It's unbelievably refreshing. Simplify Your Life

A Special Party Favor. To commemorate my son's first birthday, I took a plain white tablecloth and had family members and friends write a personal message to him in permanent market. It's easier to save than greeting cards, and fun to look at. Parents Tips & Tricks

Michael Meaney, Ph.D., a stress researcher, reports that social support helps buffer people against the negative effects of stress is some of the following ways:  Lowers levels of stress chemicals released in the blood. Decreases likelihood of developing depression in the presence of chronic stress. Decreases ability of stress to suppress the immune system. Increases survival in breast cancer patients who attend support groups. Reduces complications associated with pregnancy and delivery. Reduces recovery time following surgery.  Stress Busters

Act out your favorite TV show. Watch the program on video, and then pretend to be one of the characters. Do what the character says and does. Get friends to be the other characters, and act out the entire program! To Do Today (Editor: If you're an adult, go see Rocky Horror Picture Show as a participant.) 

Of course we all have our limits, but how can you possibly find your boundaries unless you explore as far and as wide as you possibly can?  I would rather fail in an attempt at something new and uncharted than safely succeed in a repeat of something I have done. - A. E. Hotchner. Win the Day!

El terror (tehRROHR) Terror. Es el terror de la escuela. He is the terror of the school. Living Language

*SPECIAL  BIRTHDAY: Jim Bracewell (9/8/40) TheMensCenter.com web site is a product of Jim's involvement in men's work and his personal mission/vision to make the world safe for men, women and children. E-Mail

TODAY'S ISSUE: LITERACY

No entertainment is so cheap as reading, nor any pleasure so lasting. - Lady Mary Wortley Montagu. More than entertainment, reading opens the world to us, making the past accessible and the foreign familiar. Parents are often surprised, especially if they come from backgrounds where reading was not valued, at how much their children love being read to. Almost everyone enjoys it, and any family or circle of friends can start a reading group at any time. Reading can also be a precious gift to others - to friends or strangers in the hospital, to blind listeners, to schoolchildren. When we visit old people in nursing homes, we can pass a pleasant visit reading to them. The shelves of any library hold such a wealth of pleasure, information and challenge that the dedicated reader need never fear boredom. This gift of a lifelong pleasure should be every child's birthright. If the habit of reading has lapsed, it can always be revived - although be warned: Reading has no calories and doesn't impair your ability to operate a motor vehicle, but it may be addictive and is definitely mood-altering. Reading can direct us outward, toward the world, and also inward, toward the enrichment of our spirits. Family Feelings

Hey Man: Did you make a difference yesterday? Let us know at Contact Us. Find courage and strength in admitting you don't have it all toghether. As Alice Walker says, "Nobody has it all together." What Every Man Needs to Know Want to make a difference but you don't know where to start?

BOOK OF THE WEEK

 

Let Go Now: Embracing detachment. Set boundaries and make your life your own by Karen Casey. Do you ever feel like you give other people too much power over what you think and feel? Does how your mate/child/employer treats you make or break your day? Do you find yourself feeling immobilized by other people's expectations and demands? Maybe the people in your life have been telling you to back off and let them be who they are, or you're just a little too invested in what your loved ones do and say, as if it somehow reflects on you. These are the classic indicators of codependence. And what the best-selling author shows us within the pages of this book is that the only solution to codependence is to embrace detachment. Through these meditations you will become keenly attuned to the difference between influence and control, a distinction that will help you determine which behaviors trap you and which ones set you free. This seeming paradox - embracing "bringing near us} detachment (separation) - holds the key to our inner peace and that of those around us as well. Conari Press, www.redwheelweiser.com, 2010 ISBN 978-1-57324-466-4

SPECIAL URLs

 

MENSTUFF COLUMNS BY AUTHOR

  • The Advice Diva - The Advice Diva - relationship and sexuality issues discussed - www.menstuff.org/columns/advicediva/archive.html
  • Peter Alsop - Song of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/alsop/archive.html
  • Reid Baer - A Man Overboard - Interview of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/overboard/archive.html
  • Reid Baer - Poetry - poetry read on YouTube - www.menstuff.org/columns/baer/archive.html
  • Molly Barrow - Shrink About This - www.menstuff.org/columns/barrow/archive.html
  • Peter Baylies - At Home Dads - on at-home-dad issues that impact fathers who stay at home to raise their kids - www.menstuff.org/columns/baylies/archive.html
  • Tom Blake - Middle-Age Relationships - from an expert on dating after 50. www.menstuff.org/columns/blake/archive.html
  • Mark Brandenburg - Great Fathers - on fathering issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/greatfathers/archive.html
  • Ted Braude - BoysWork - a columnist in the The Detroit Free Press "Body and Mind" section www.menstuff.org/columns/braude/archive.html
  • Armin Brott - A Father's Guide - hosts "Positive Parenting" on radio www.menstuff.org/columns/brott/archive.html
  • Dan Bulf - Get Real - weekly pod cast on men's issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/bulf/archive.html
  • Ken Byers - Transition - on men's life transitions - www.menstuff.org/columns/byers/archive.html
  • Sandra L. Caron - Sex Talk - college students get answers to their questions - www.menstuff.org/columns/sextalk/archive.html
  • Neil Chethik - Relationships - www.menstuff.org/columns/chethik/archive.html
  • Otto & Susie Collins - Susie and Otto - relationship issues discussed - www.menstuff.org/columns/susie&otto/archive.html
  • David Copeland - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Forrest Craver - Spirituality & Social Change - www.menstuff.org/columns/craver/archive.html
  • Layne & Paul Cutright - Powerful Partnerships - relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/cutright/archive.html
  • Ron DesMarais - Cavemen in the Kitchen - great recipes for men - www.menstuff.org/columns/desmarais/archive.html
  • Jed Diamond - Irritable Male Syndrome - www.menstuff.org/columns/diamond/archive.html
  • Doc Love - Women Don't Lie, Man Don't Listen - answers to relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/doclov/archive.html
  • Barry Durdant-Hollamby - Creating Change - creating change in your life - www.menstuff.org/columns/durdant/archive.html
  • Irv Engel - The Real Deal - www.menstuff.org/columns/engel/archive.html
  • Nancy Fagan - Expert Dating Advice - with Nancy Fagan - www.menstuf.org/columns/fagan/archive.html
  • Warren Farrell - Men's Issues: Facts and Perspectives www.menstuff.org/columns/farrell/archive.html
  • Leonard Felder - Wake Up or Break Up - www.menstuff.org/columns/felder/archive.html
  • Marty Friedman - Strong Men, Strong Marriage - www.menstuff.org/columns/friedman/archive.html
  • Kim Garretson - Mansgland - using humor to encourage prostate exams - www.menstuff.org/columns/mansgland/archive.html
  • Lion Goodman - How to get Women to Love You - www.menstuff.org/columns/goodman/archive.html
  • Liz Halliday - In a Man's World - www.menstuff.org/columns/halliday/archive.html
  • Rick Hanson - Your Wise Brain - www.menstuff.org/columns/hanson/archive.html
  • Tim Hartnett - Daddyman Speaks - being a father www.menstuff.org/columns/daddyman/archive.html
  • John Hershey - Blood, Phlegm & Bile: Parenting with Humor - He writes a syndicated biweekly humor column about parenting and family life. www.menstuff.org/columns/hershey/archive.html
  • Gary Hoeber - Psychotherapy as Soul Work, www.menstuff.org/columns/hoeber/archive.html
  • Patrick Houser - Fathers Make a World of Difference, www.menstuff.org/columns/houser/archive.html
  • Paul Joannides - The Guide to Getting It On - on sex - www.menstuff.org/columns/getiton/archive.html
  • Jack Kahn - NOMAS Boston - www.menstuff.org/columns/kahn/archive.html
  • Patrick Kennedy - Seniors - www.menstuff.org/columns/kennedy/archive.html
  • Joe Kort - Gaydar - to increase understanding between gay and het men - www.menstuff.org/columns/kort/archive.html
  • David Kundtz - David Kundtz - presents seminars, workshops, retreats, and conference presentations in the areas of men's emotional health, stress management, and spirituality. www.menstuff.org/columns/kundtz/archive.html
  • Bruce Linton - Dr. Dad - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/drdad/archive.html
  • Ron Louis - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Tom Matlack - Tom Matlack - Good Men Project - www.menstuff.org/columns/matlack/archive.html
  • Wendy McElroy - Wendy McElroy on Feminism, www.menstuff.org/columns/mcelroy/archive.html
  • Robert N. Minor - Minor Details - on GBT sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/minordetails/archive.html
  • Robert L. Moore - Man & Mythology - www.menstuff.org/columns/moore/archive.html
  • Dennis W. Neder - Being a Man - general questions about men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/neder/archive.html
  • Marty Nemko - Worklife - general questions about men and work - www.menstuff.org/columns/nemko/archive.html
  • Eli Newberger - Eli Newberger - general information on men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/newberger/archive.html
  • Linda Nielsen - Embracing the Father - working with the father/daughter relationship. www.menstuff.org/columns/nielsen/archive.html
  • Kathy Noll - Bullies and Youth Violence - working with schools, teachers and parents to end school violence - www.menstuff.org/columns/noll/archive.html
  • Mark Phillips - Stay-at-Home-Dads - helping men maintain that which makes us men, instead of becoming hairy Mom-substitutes - www.menstuff.org/columns/phillips/archive.html
  • Carey Roberts - Socialism & Feminism - is a social commentator on political correctness. www.menstuff.org/columns/roberts/archive.html
  • Perry Rose - Dating, Relationship, Sex
  • Glenn Sacks - His Side - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/sacks/archive.html
  • Trudy Schuett - Domestic Violence - serving the under-represented www.menstuff.org/columns/schuett/archive.html
  • Carl J. Schutt - Circumcision - social commentator on circumcision - www.menstuff.org/columns/schutt/archive.html
  • Hugo Schwyzer - A Pro-feminist's Response - www.menstuff.org/columns/schwyzer/archive.html
  • Michael Shaffran - Men's Issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/shaffran/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • George Simons - Bellicose Veins - is a US specialist in intercultural and gender communication who hangs out in Mandelieu - la Napoule, France, as well as in Santa Cruz, CA. www.menstuff.org/columns/simons/archive.html
  • Andy Smith - Hard Hat Brotherhood - www.menstuff.org/columns/hardhat/archive.html
  • David B. Smith - Fighting Father Dave - www.menstuff.org/columns/smith/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • Reena Sommer - Custody - is an internationally recognized relationship and divorce consultant. www.menstuff.org/columns/sommer/archive.html
  • R. Don Steele - Don Steele - relationship questions answered -
    www.menstuff.org/columns/steele/archive.html
  • David Steinberg - Comes Naturally - on sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/steinberg/archive.html
  • Mary Lou St Lucas - A Mother's Love - www.menstuf.org/columns/stlucas/archive.html
  • Surprise - Surprise Author - From a new columnist every month - www.menstuff.org/columns/surprise/archive.html
  • Steven Svoboda - Fatherhood, Activism and the Law www.menstuff.org/columns/svoboda/archive.html
  • Michael Taylor - A New Conversation with Men - www.menstuff.org/columns/taylor/archive.html
  • Bruce Van Horn - Yoga for Men - issues around the health benefits of yoga for men - www.menstuff.org/yoga/archive.html
  • Michael Webb - Secrets of Blissful Relationships - on relationship - www.menstuff.org/columns/bliss/archive.html
  • Stuart Wilde - Spirituality - www.menstuff.org/columns/wilde/archive.html
  • Dr.Williams - Sex Health - on sexual health - Dr. Williams, www.menstuff.org/columns/sexhealth/archive.html
  • KC Wilson - On Gender Politics is a social commentator and author. www.menstuff.org/columns/wilson/archive.html

Plus

  • Health Tips - on general health - www.menstuff.org/columns/healthtips/archive.html
  • Independent Means - resources for raising financially fit kids - www.menstuff.org/columns/independentmeans/archive.html
  • Numbers - www.menstuff.org/columns/numbers/archive.html
  • Questions - www.menstuff.org/columns/q&a/archive.html
  • Surprise - from a new columnist every month - www.menstuff.org/columns/surprise/archive.html
  • Words Can Heal - helping children grow up healthy - www.menstuff.org/columns/wordscanheal/archive.html
  • Wuzup?! - National or international events happening this month - www.menstuff.org/columns/whassup/archive.html

AWARENESS EVENTS THIS MONTH

September is Baby Safety Awareness, Children's Eye Health & Safety, Children's Good Manners, Christmas Seal, Cholesterol Education, Fall Hat, Gay Square Dance, Library Card Sign-up, Little League, Organic Harvest, Pediculosis Prevention, Piano, Pleasure Your Mate, Project Aware, Prosperity Creation, School Success, Sea Cadet, Self Awareness, Self-Improvement, Shameless Promotion, and Sickle Cell Month.

9/15-10/15: Hispanic Heritage Month. 8/29-9/4: National Sobriety Checkpoint Week, Mothers Against Drunk Driving, www.madd.org; 9/1-7: Childhood Injury Prevention; Self-University Week. 9/4-10: Full Employment Week, Mental Health Workers Week.. 9/5-9: Play Days. 9/9-16: National Five-A-Day Week. 9/10-16: National Suicide Prevention; Substitute Teacher Appreciation; National Brainstorming and Mind Mapping; Invisible Chronic Illness Awareness Week: 9/14-20 Dementia Awareness Week (Australia) 9/17-23: *Constitution; Balance Awareness; Love a Mensch; Farm Safety and Health; Historically Black Colleges and Universities; Rehabilitation Awareness; Single's Week. 9/19-25 - Prostate Cancer Awareness Week; 9/23-30: Banned Books, Religious Freedom Week. 9/23-29 - Deaf Awareness, National Dog Week; 9/23-24: Family Health & Fitness. 9/10: Swap Ideas Day. 9/17 *Citizenship Day. 9/19: International Day of Peace. 9/22: National Centenarians, Proposal Day. 9/23: Kiwanis Kids', *National Hunting & Fishing, Smash Out Suicide Day, 9/24: *Gold Star Mother's, National Good Neighbor, World Heart Day. 9/27: Ancestor Appreciation Day. 9/28: Cabrillo Day

* Means a Presidential Proclamation has been made.

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