Daily Thoughts & Issues

IN THIS ISSUE:

JULY 7

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July 7 - Tanabata (Star Festival) as an offering to the stars, children set up bamboo branches to which colorful strips of paper bearing poems are tied. * Running of the Bulls, Pamplona, Spain. * Independence Day in the Solomon Islands. * Hawaii was annexed by the US (1898). * St. Thomas More's Day - he has the distinction of being honored as both a saint and an attorney. * Four persons were convicted of complicity with John Wilkes Booth in the assassination of President Abraham Lincoln and were hanged at Washington, D.C. (1865) One woman and three men. * Birthdays: Satchel Paige, Pierre Cardin, Gian Carlo Menotti, Wally Phillips, Doc Severinsen, Ringo Starr (Richard Starkey), Matthew Jerome (Matt) Suhey, Leroy Robert Paige, Bill Campbell, Joe Sakic, Ralph Lee Sampson.

DAILY THOUGHTS

Loving parents, for example, must first examine themselves and their values stringently before determining accurately that they know what is best for their child. Then, having made this determination, they also have to give great thought to the child's character and capacities before deciding whether the child would be more likely to respond favorably to confrontation than to praise or increased attention or storytelling or some other form of influence. The Road Less Traveled

As a way to regain a sense of friendship and friendliness in this world, we could deal with our pervasive paranoia by placing more value on intuition, serendipity and imaginal ways of reading experience. Soul Mates

Men should know that women aren't happy about their reading smutty magazines and going to topless bars - Crystal, 21. I think most women fight that little sexual voice inside their heads. The best lovers are the ones who listen to it instead - Robert, 29. Best of 1001 Sex Secrets Every Man & Woman Should Know

Male menopause can definitely be delayed. It can even be corrected. In the near future it may even be preventable. But first a man must understand it and be prepared to master it. New Passages

Going on vacation with the kids?  The best "kid times" of the day at amusement parks are early in the morning and late in the afternoon. Leave the park at about noon, go back to the hotel, take a nap, freshen up and then reenter the park about 4 PM. Keep a young child in the park from sunup to sundown and the day will end in kid's tears, family irritability and maybe a wish that you'd never seen the park. Dr. Buff's 365 Day Parenting Calendar

A gem cannot be polished without friction, nor people perfected without trials. - Chinese Proverb Achieve Your Dreams

Things to Be Happy About: Bee buzzes and buttercups. Dandelion-spotted grass. The flight of a kite tail. 14,000 Things to Be Happy About

Pick up your little sister when she falls down.  Really Important Stuff My Kids Have Taught Me

 The individual is capable of both great compassion and great indifference. He has it within his means to nourish the former and outgrow the latter. - Norman Cousins. If Life is a Game, These are the Rules

Whether they shift us in positive or negative directions, whether they are instantaneous or developmental, paradigm shifts move us from one way of seeing the world to another. And those shifts create powerful change. Our paradigms, correct or incorrect, are the sources of our attitudes and behaviors, and ultimately our relationships with others.  Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

A Special Keepsake. I bought my daughter a think, spiral notebook that she's turning into a scrapbook with her best friend. They each take the book home for a week at a time, pasting in pictures from magazines, favorite photographs, whatever they want. It's a great project for rainy days, and they're creating a treasure that they'll enjoy looking at as teenagers - or even parents. Parents Tips & Tricks

While American film director George Cukor, born on this day in 1899, kept his gay sexuality relatively private, his orientation did impact his career in some ways. For instance, he refused to direct the filming of Tennessee William's Cat on a Hot Tin Roof when censors insisted on deleting the gay subplot, and he was fired as the director of Gone with the Wind (1939) when actor Clark Gable objected to being "directed by a fairy." Gay & Lesbian Calendar

Cancel call waiting. Are the phone calls we're receiving today so vital that we can't be satisfied with having just one call in progress, but we have to have two?  Have our schedules gotten so out of control that we have to pay the phone company to keep us in line?  It's hard to believe that juggling two phone calls on the same line has ever made anyone's personal life simpler. If you agree, you can cancel this "service" and save approximately five dollars per month on your phone bill. Simplify Your Life

"Excessive chronic stress can accelerate the pace of brain aging, an cause permanent impairments in the function of brain cells, and even the loss of brain cells. This can occur in anyone of any age, but the effects are more severe in the elderly. However, there is now experimental evidence that vitamin E can attenuate some of the damage that occurs in brain cells over the course of aging." - Michael Meaney, Ph.D  Stress Busters

Name a state to star this game with your kids. Now ask a friend to name a state that starts with the last letter of the state you named. If you say New York, your friend can say Kansas, and you can say South Dakota. Keep going until someone's stumped. Try it with friends' names, too! To Do Today

It is reasonable to have perfection in our eye that we may always advance toward it, though we know it can never be reached. - Samuel Johnson  Win the Day!

El Sur (soor). South. Estuvimos en el carril en direccion sur cuando paso. We were in the southbound lane when it happened.  Living Language

TODAY'S ISSUE: A MINDFUL DAY

Mindfulness Day - Zen Buddhists' day for being mindful that alienation and hunger for possessions results from ignorance of interconnectedness.

This is a day of mindfulness. What is sought here is not a unique day, standing distinctly apart from all others, but a day when the practice of mindfulness moves into the foreground. Today is a day of enrichment and heightened awareness. Please bring this wonderful practice into every day. Mindfulness is not an esoteric practice. Being mindful simply means being awake. For men, being mindful can mean the beginning of the end of the social masculine trance and the dismembered life. In mindfulness we become aware of the fulness and flow of our lives, one moment at a time. Visit a library or bookstore for additional help in this ancient practice. This is a beautiful day. Please embrace it fully. A Man's Book of the Spirit

 It is difficult to live in the present, ridiculous to live in the future and impossible to live in the past. Nothing is as far away as one minute ago - Jim Bishop. Living in the present, being present for ourselves and those we love is difficult for the work addict. But if we recognize that life is nothing but a series of "moments", the past just a minute ago, the future just a second away, we will not mourn for lost days, months, and hours and we will worry less about controlling our future. If we make ourselves aware of what we are going, saying and feeling presently, if we make ourselves "present" for others, we will find more value in our moments, our days, our years - our lives. Today is a day of quiet reflection. I will reflect on how to be present, not mourn for the past or worry about the future. Meditations For Men Who Do Too Much

Hey Man: Did you make a difference yesterday? Let us know at Contact us. While you may strive to live for a long time, also focus on staying alive in each moment. What Every Man Needs to Know Want to make a difference but you don't know where to start?

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MENSTUFF COLUMNS BY AUTHOR

  • The Advice Diva - The Advice Diva - relationship and sexuality issues discussed - www.menstuff.org/columns/advicediva/archive.html
  • Peter Alsop - Song of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/alsop/archive.html
  • Reid Baer - A Man Overboard - Interview of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/overboard/archive.html
  • Reid Baer - Poetry - poetry read on YouTube - www.menstuff.org/columns/baer/archive.html
  • Molly Barrow - Shrink About This - www.menstuff.org/columns/barrow/archive.html
  • Peter Baylies - At Home Dads - on at-home-dad issues that impact fathers who stay at home to raise their kids - www.menstuff.org/columns/baylies/archive.html
  • Tom Blake - Middle-Age Relationships - from an expert on dating after 50. www.menstuff.org/columns/blake/archive.html
  • Mark Brandenburg - Great Fathers - on fathering issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/greatfathers/archive.html
  • Ted Braude - BoysWork - a columnist in the The Detroit Free Press "Body and Mind" section www.menstuff.org/columns/braude/archive.html
  • Armin Brott - A Father's Guide - hosts "Positive Parenting" on radio www.menstuff.org/columns/brott/archive.html
  • Dan Bulf - Get Real - weekly pod cast on men's issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/bulf/archive.html
  • Ken Byers - Transition - on men's life transitions - www.menstuff.org/columns/byers/archive.html
  • Sandra L. Caron - Sex Talk - college students get answers to their questions - www.menstuff.org/columns/sextalk/archive.html
  • Neil Chethik - Relationships - www.menstuff.org/columns/chethik/archive.html
  • Otto & Susie Collins - Susie and Otto - relationship issues discussed - www.menstuff.org/columns/susie&otto/archive.html
  • David Copeland - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Forrest Craver - Spirituality & Social Change - www.menstuff.org/columns/craver/archive.html
  • Layne & Paul Cutright - Powerful Partnerships - relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/cutright/archive.html
  • Ron DesMarais - Cavemen in the Kitchen - great recipes for men - www.menstuff.org/columns/desmarais/archive.html
  • Jed Diamond - Irritable Male Syndrome - www.menstuff.org/columns/diamond/archive.html
  • Doc Love - Women Don't Lie, Man Don't Listen - answers to relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/doclov/archive.html
  • Barry Durdant-Hollamby - Creating Change - creating change in your life - www.menstuff.org/columns/durdant/archive.html
  • Irv Engel - The Real Deal - www.menstuff.org/columns/engel/archive.html
  • Nancy Fagan - Expert Dating Advice - with Nancy Fagan - www.menstuf.org/columns/fagan/archive.html
  • Warren Farrell - Men's Issues: Facts and Perspectives www.menstuff.org/columns/farrell/archive.html
  • Leonard Felder - Wake Up or Break Up - www.menstuff.org/columns/felder/archive.html
  • Marty Friedman - Strong Men, Strong Marriage - www.menstuff.org/columns/friedman/archive.html
  • Kim Garretson - Mansgland - using humor to encourage prostate exams - www.menstuff.org/columns/mansgland/archive.html
  • Lion Goodman - How to get Women to Love You - www.menstuff.org/columns/goodman/archive.html
  • Liz Halliday - In a Man's World - www.menstuff.org/columns/halliday/archive.html
  • Rick Hanson - Your Wise Brain - www.menstuff.org/columns/hanson/archive.html
  • Tim Hartnett - Daddyman Speaks - being a father www.menstuff.org/columns/daddyman/archive.html
  • John Hershey - Blood, Phlegm & Bile: Parenting with Humor - He writes a syndicated biweekly humor column about parenting and family life. www.menstuff.org/columns/hershey/archive.html
  • Gary Hoeber - Psychotherapy as Soul Work, www.menstuff.org/columns/hoeber/archive.html
  • Patrick Houser - Fathers Make a World of Difference, www.menstuff.org/columns/houser/archive.html
  • Paul Joannides - The Guide to Getting It On - on sex - www.menstuff.org/columns/getiton/archive.html
  • Jack Kahn - NOMAS Boston - www.menstuff.org/columns/kahn/archive.html
  • Patrick Kennedy - Seniors - www.menstuff.org/columns/kennedy/archive.html
  • Joe Kort - Gaydar - to increase understanding between gay and het men - www.menstuff.org/columns/kort/archive.html
  • David Kundtz - David Kundtz - presents seminars, workshops, retreats, and conference presentations in the areas of men's emotional health, stress management, and spirituality. www.menstuff.org/columns/kundtz/archive.html
  • Bruce Linton - Dr. Dad - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/drdad/archive.html
  • Ron Louis - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Tom Matlack - Tom Matlack - Good Men Project - www.menstuff.org/columns/matlack/archive.html
  • Wendy McElroy - Wendy McElroy on Feminism, www.menstuff.org/columns/mcelroy/archive.html
  • Robert N. Minor - Minor Details - on GBT sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/minordetails/archive.html
  • Robert L. Moore - Man & Mythology - www.menstuff.org/columns/moore/archive.html
  • Dennis W. Neder - Being a Man - general questions about men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/neder/archive.html
  • Marty Nemko - Worklife - general questions about men and work - www.menstuff.org/columns/nemko/archive.html
  • Eli Newberger - Eli Newberger - general information on men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/newberger/archive.html
  • Linda Nielsen - Embracing the Father - working with the father/daughter relationship. www.menstuff.org/columns/nielsen/archive.html
  • Kathy Noll - Bullies and Youth Violence - working with schools, teachers and parents to end school violence - www.menstuff.org/columns/noll/archive.html
  • Mark Phillips - Stay-at-Home-Dads - helping men maintain that which makes us men, instead of becoming hairy Mom-substitutes - www.menstuff.org/columns/phillips/archive.html
  • Carey Roberts - Socialism & Feminism - is a social commentator on political correctness. www.menstuff.org/columns/roberts/archive.html
  • Perry Rose - Dating, Relationship, Sex
  • Glenn Sacks - His Side - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/sacks/archive.html
  • Trudy Schuett - Domestic Violence - serving the under-represented www.menstuff.org/columns/schuett/archive.html
  • Carl J. Schutt - Circumcision - social commentator on circumcision - www.menstuff.org/columns/schutt/archive.html
  • Hugo Schwyzer - A Pro-feminist's Response - www.menstuff.org/columns/schwyzer/archive.html
  • Michael Shaffran - Men's Issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/shaffran/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • George Simons - Bellicose Veins - is a US specialist in intercultural and gender communication who hangs out in Mandelieu - la Napoule, France, as well as in Santa Cruz, CA. www.menstuff.org/columns/simons/archive.html
  • Andy Smith - Hard Hat Brotherhood - www.menstuff.org/columns/hardhat/archive.html
  • David B. Smith - Fighting Father Dave - www.menstuff.org/columns/smith/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • Reena Sommer - Custody - is an internationally recognized relationship and divorce consultant. www.menstuff.org/columns/sommer/archive.html
  • R. Don Steele - Don Steele - relationship questions answered -
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  • David Steinberg - Comes Naturally - on sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/steinberg/archive.html
  • Mary Lou St Lucas - A Mother's Love - www.menstuf.org/columns/stlucas/archive.html
  • Surprise - Surprise Author - From a new columnist every month - www.menstuff.org/columns/surprise/archive.html
  • Steven Svoboda - Fatherhood, Activism and the Law www.menstuff.org/columns/svoboda/archive.html
  • Michael Taylor - A New Conversation with Men - www.menstuff.org/columns/taylor/archive.html
  • Bruce Van Horn - Yoga for Men - issues around the health benefits of yoga for men - www.menstuff.org/yoga/archive.html
  • Michael Webb - Secrets of Blissful Relationships - on relationship - www.menstuff.org/columns/bliss/archive.html
  • Stuart Wilde - Spirituality - www.menstuff.org/columns/wilde/archive.html
  • Dr.Williams - Sex Health - on sexual health - Dr. Williams, www.menstuff.org/columns/sexhealth/archive.html
  • KC Wilson - On Gender Politics is a social commentator and author. www.menstuff.org/columns/wilson/archive.html

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  • Health Tips - on general health - www.menstuff.org/columns/healthtips/archive.html
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  • Numbers - www.menstuff.org/columns/numbers/archive.html
  • Questions - www.menstuff.org/columns/q&a/archive.html
  • Surprise - from a new columnist every month - www.menstuff.org/columns/surprise/archive.html
  • Words Can Heal - helping children grow up healthy - www.menstuff.org/columns/wordscanheal/archive.html
  • Wuzup?! - National or international events happening this month - www.menstuff.org/columns/whassup/archive.html

AWARENESS EVENTS THIS MONTH

July is Freedom Month. If you enjoy the benefits this country has to offer, you might check out what kind of men it took to found this country. The Fourth of July has more to it than beer, picnics, and baseball games. Read this! July is Anti-Boredom; National Mobility; Purposeful Parenting: Recreation and Parks; The month of the Muslim new year; Hemochromatosis Screening Awareness; National Foreign Language Month.

June 27 - July 4: Special Recreation Week. June 25-July 1: Deaf-Blindness Awareness Week. June 27 - July 4: Special Recreation Week. Jul 1-8 Music for Life; July 3-Aug 15: Air Conditioning Appreciation Days. Jul 4-10 - Freedom Week. July 8:-14: National Laundry Workers; National Therapeutic Recreation: Take Charge of Change Week. Jul 9-15 - Nude Recreation. July 15-21: *Captive Nations; Legal Revolution; National Plan to Promote Your Business Week. Jul 1 UN Day of Cooperation; International Joke; National Financial Freedom; National Recreation and Parks; National Purposeful Parenting, Jul 2 - I Forgot; Ducktona 500 Day; July 3: Compliment Your Mirror: Stay Out of the Sun Day. Jul 4 - Independence Day (U.S.); American Redneck; Fear from Fear of Speaking ; Independence-from-Meat Day; Sidewalk Egg Frying; Jul 5 - National Family Day, July 7: Father-Daughter Take a Walk Together; International UN Day of Cooperation. July 9: Don't Step on a Bee Day. July 10: Intern Appreciation Day. July 13: Skeptics' Day. July 14: Cow Apprecaition Day. July 15: National Ice Cream; Saint Swithin's Day. July 16: International Town Criers; Naitonal Get Out of the Doghouse Day. July 17: Wrong Way Corrigan Day. Jul 20 - Ugly Truck; Riot Act anniversary. July 21: Rat-Catchers Day. Jul 22 - Ice Cream Cone Day. July 23: Hot Enough For Ya Day. July 24: Cousins; Health and Happiness with Hypnosis Day. Jul 27 - *National Korean War Veterans Armistice; Take Your Houseplants for a Walk Day. July 29: *Parents' Day. Jul 30 - Father-In-Law Day, National Parent's Day.

* Means a Presidential Proclamation has been made.

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