Daily Thoughts & Issues

IN THIS ISSUE:

MAY 9

Days left until the next millennium 01.01.3001

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Achieve Your Dreams

May 9 - Battle of the Coral Sea (1942) impeded Japanese expansion and introduced a new form of naval warfare. None of the surface vessels exchanged fire - the entire battle was waged by aircraft. V-E Day (1945) commemorates the unconditional surrender of Germany to Allied Forces. * Birthdays:  John Brown, Pancho Gonzales, James L Brooks, Albert Finney, Anthony Keith (Tony) Gwynn, Billy Joel, Mike Wallace, Steve Yzerman.

DAILY THOUGHTS

On this day in 1925, A. Phillip Randolph organizes the Brotherhood of Sleeping Car Porters after failing to achieve integration in the American Federation of Labor. African American History

Have a good time. Jump up and down on the bed once in awhile. - Nancy, 30 Best of 1001 Sex Secrets Every Man & Woman Should Know

How many ways are there to discipline children? (See below.) Dr. Buff's 365 Day Parenting Calendar

Don't Be a Pushover. Let your child know that being forgiving is not the same as being a doormat. If your child has a friend that regularly hurts her -0 physically or emotionally - then you need to explain that she never has to keep up such a painful relationship. To help your child decide if the friendship is worth continuing, ask her"  Does your friend understand what she does hurts you?  Is your friend fair about letting you have your way too?  DO you think your friend will change the way she behaves toward you in the future?  If your child answers no to these questions, help her see that the relationship isn't a healthy one for her. Family Feelings

By the time most women enter the Age of Mastery (forty-five to sixty-five), it is virtually impossible to uphold the cultural stereotype of the taut-skinned, pouty-lipped child-woman with her thin, leggy, high-breasted, tight-bottomed young body. Those who put all their efforts into trying to maintain their youthful physical plant do so at the expense of cultivating the mature psychological strengths that are the natural prerogatives of middle life. New Passages

Again and again we tell out couples that "a good marriage can exist only between two strong and independent people. The Road Less Traveled

Marriage is by nature miraculous and magical. To care for its soul, it is more important to honor its mystery than to try to outwit its intentions for what we, with our small minds, may think is a better outcome. Soul Mates

Man's mind, once stretched by a new idea, never regains its original dimension. - Oliver Wendell Homes. Achieve Your Dreams

Things to Be Happy About:  Extra touches. Curtains whispering. Humble abodes. 14,000 Things to Be Happy About

Make some chocolate chip cookies and eat them while they're still warm.  Really Important Stuff My Kids Have Taught Me

Many of us race through our lives, always on our way somewhere. If you ask ten drivers on their morning commute what they are doing, nine of them will most likely respond, "going to work."  The tenth one - the one who responds, "driving my car" - is the one who has learned the lesson of present-moment peace. Chances are he does not arrive at work any later than the other nine who spend their commute focused on where they were headed as opposed to where they were. He probably even enjoyed the ride.  If Life is a Game, These are the Rules

Seeking to understand requires consideration; seeking to be understood takes courage. Win/Win requires a high degree of both.  Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

Learn to enjoy silence. Take the time right now to cross off at least one day or part of one day each month for the rest of the year that you can spend on your own in glorious, peaceful silence. Make those days sacred and let nothing interfere with them.  Simplify Your Life

Hand Stretch:  Curl both hands into fists and hold tight for 7 seconds. Release fists and spread fingers wide apart. Hold for 5 seconds. Repeat 3 times. Try to do this at least once an hour when you're working on a keyboard. Stress Busters

Show your kids a Spark of Lightening. Blow up two rubber balloons and tie them closed. Rub one balloon with a wool mitten. Rub the other against a smooth wall. Turn off the lights. Slowly move them together and see what happens!  Then talk about it. To Do Today

Everything comes to him who hustles while he waits. - Thomas Edison Win the Day!

Olividar (ohlbeeDAHR) To forget. Te olvidaste, verdad?  You forgot, didn't you? Living Language

Answer:  How many different children are there?  Effective punishment is different for each child, and no one punishment strategy fits every child in every situation.

TODAY'S ISSUE: CHOICES

People have to work, but they don't have to work in the old way and for the old reasons. We can't look for a new way or for new reasons unless we believe that there are human reasons for not working. - Grace Lee Boggs and James Boggs

Some young people seek training and education so they won't have to work at unskilled jobs. But many educated people choose such jobs, in preference to skilled professional work they feel is spirit-destroying. Parents may find it hard to accept their children's decisions not to work as engineers, lawyers, or chemists, but there are human reasons for making such choices. Our social structure rewards a few people with wealth while forcing many to work irregularly and to struggle for goods, while a large minority remains workless and poor. This is the old way; young people are looking for a new way.

Most parents wish their children to have an open, questioning view of life, unprejudiced and fresh. All we can do is to help them prepare themselves for happiness; we can't control their decisions or the outcome of their efforts. It they've been given good tools, their construction will be sound, whatever shape it takes.

Respecting children's choices of what to do with their lives is a difficult, important part of loving them.  Family Feelings

Hey Man: Did you make a difference yesterday? Let us know at Contact Us. If you let external pressures drive you, they will control your life. What Every Man Needs to Know Want to make a difference but you don't know where to start?.

BOOK OF THE WEEK

How to Achieve a Heaven on Earth: 101 insightful essays from the world's greatest thinkers, leaders and writers. by John E. Wade II, Editor. Contributions from 101 of the most prestigious thinkers, writers, public figures, and other luminaries on a wide range of topics fill the pages of this meditation on how to make the world a better place. Focusing on the large problems of the world as well as the little challenges people face, this book tackles the momentous question of what each of us can do to improve our community, our country, and our world, one step at a time. Pelican, www.pelicanpub.com, 2010 ISBN 9781589805972 See article here.

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AWARENESS EVENTS THIS MONTH

May is: Skin Cancer Awareness, * Masturbation Month; Asian Pacific American Heritage;. Better Hearing and Speech; Better Sleep; Correct Posture; Creative Beginnings; Family Support; Foster Care; Get Caught Reading; Helping American Youth; National Allergy/Asthma Awareness; National Arthritis; National Barbecue; Good Car-Keeping; Hepatitis Awareness; Mental Health; Osteoporosis Prevention; Physical Fitness and Sports; Recommitment; Scholarship; Self-Discovery; Senior Citizens Month , Senior Travel; Sight-Saving; Stroke Awareness; Teaching and Joy, Teen Pregnancy Prevention, Tuberous; Sclerosis Awareness; *Older Americans; Personal History Awareness; Revise Your Work Schedule; and Strike Out Strokes Month. The most tornados happen in May.

May 14-Jun 18: National Family Month. Apr 29-May 5: *National Science & Technology Week. May 1-7: Cartoon Art Appreciation Week. May 5-11: National Nurses Day and Week. May 6-12: Be Kind to Animals; Flexible Work Arrangements; *Jewish Heritage; National Family; National Pet; PTA Teacher Appreciation; Suicide Awareness; Wildflower; and Teacher Appreciation Week. May 7-13 National Etiquette; and National Herb Week. May 13-219: National Medical Services; *Nat Police; *National Transportation; and *World Trade Week. May 19-25: *National Safe Boating Week. May 20-26: Good Stewardship; International Reggae Music; National New Friends-Old Friends; and, National Reflexology Awareness Week. May 21-28: Buckle Up America; and, National Backyard Games Week. May 1: May Day observed since ancient times and has become Labor Day in most countries except the U.S., Bermuda and Canada. Kindness Day, Teen Day, Freedom Riders Anniversary, Executive Coaching Day. *Law Day. *Loyalty Day. Peace of Mind Day. 40th Anniversary of the U-2 Incident with Francis Gary Powers. May 2: Holocaust Rememberance Day. May 6:: National Day of Hearing Testing. May 8: V-E Day 55th Anniversary, World Red Cross Day, May 9: National Receptionests Day, National Teachers Day. May 10: National Small Business Day. May 12: Chronic Fatigue Awareness Day May 14: *Mother's Day. May 15: *Peace Officer Memorial Day May 19: *National Defense Transportation Day. National Bike to Work Day. May 20: *Armed Forces Day. May 21: National Waitstaff Day, Neighbor Day Youth Against Violence. May 22: *National Maritime Day. May 25: National Missing Children's Day. May 26: Morning Radio Wise Guy Day. May 28:  Ancestor Honor Day. Memorial Day. (celebrated on Monday the *29th Memorial Day Prayer for Peace requests flying the flag at half-staff for the customary forenoon period.) May 31: National Senior Health and Fitness Day. World No-Tobacco Day.

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