Daily Thoughts & Issues

IN THIS ISSUE:

MAY 31

Days left until the next millennium 01.01.3001

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May 31 - World No Tobacco Day. www.aawhworldhealth.org * National Senior Health and Fitness Day. www.fitnessday.com * Starting tomorrow and through June, be thinking about these active offerings:  Organize a party to plant trees in your yard or neighborhood. Write to your federal elected officials in support of stronger national and international standards preventing air pollution and depletion of the ozone layer. Write to your federal elected officials in support of strong national and international standards protecting forests from being logged above the maximum sustainable yield or in ways that destroy bio-diversity. Ask your local elected officials to set aside land for a community garden to enable the poor and others to grow their own fruits and vegetables. Volunteer at a local homeless shelter or soup kitchen. The Mystic's Wheel of the Year * On this date in Castleton, Derbyshire, a flowered "garland king" was drawn through the streets in a wooden cage to commemorate a custom in which Taranis, the Celtic god of thunder, was once appeased by human sacrifice. Forgotten English * Johnstown Flood (1889) when heavy rains caused the Connemaugh River Dam in the Allegheny Mountains to burst, the resulting flood killed more than 2,300 persons and destroyed the homes of thousands more. * Copyright Law passed (1790) giving protection for 14 years to books written by US citizens. * Vigil for lost spouses/partners; night of mourning and healing. * Birthdays:  Tom Berenger, Norman Vincent Peale, Pope Pius XI, Clint Eastwood, Kenny Lofton, Joseph William (Joe) Namath, Johnny (Don Lytle) Paycheck, Don Ameche, Terry Waite, Peter Yarrow, Tom Berenger, Walt Whitman, Gregory Harrison, Kyle Secor.

DAILY THOUGHTS

We must define ourselves by the best that is in us, not the worst that has been done to us - Edward Lewis, publisher, Essence Magazine.  And, People may doubt what you say, but they will always believe what you do. Nannie Helen Burroughs, educator and civil rights activist. African American History

Developmental milestone:  The natural sequence in which a child develops physically and mentally. It is the month or year, for example, in which a child is expected to speak, stand, crawl or walk. These milestones are statistical benchmarks and they vary widely from child to child. Dr. Buff's 365 Day Parenting Calendar

Poisoning Prevention. To protect your child from being accidentally poisoned by medicine, the American Association of Poison Control Centers offers the following advice:  Keep drugs and vitamins locked up. Make sure any drug or vitamin you buy has a child-resistant cap. Don't take medicine or vitamins in front of a child who may try to imitate you. Tell visitors - particularly older adults - to keep a purse or bag that contains drugs out of reach. Keep one bottle of syrup of ipecac on hand. Have the medicine bottle with you when you call poison control. Family Feelings Ed. - Write this number down for poison control:   800.764.7661

Reverend Troy Perry, founder of the Metropolitan Community Church, was a Pentecostal minister until 1967, when he was excommunicated after refusing to denounce his homosexuality. Gay & Lesbian Calendar

The more you listen to your child, the more you will realize that in amongst the pauses, the stutterings, the seemingly innocent chatter, your child does indeed have valuable things to say. The dictum that great wisdom comes from "the mouths of babes" is recognized as an absolute fact by anyone who truly listens to children. The Road Less Traveled

The greatest remedy for anger is delay. - Seneca. Achieve Your Dreams

Things to Be Happy About. Space-saving ideas. Raspberry ice between your teeth. Crayon-striped sheets.  14,000 Things to Be Happy About

You don't get to decide your part in the school play, but you do get to decide whether or not you play it well.  Really Important Stuff My Kids Have Taught Me

Martin complained about the smog, the traffic, and the cost of living in Los Angeles, where he lived for three years. He was convinced life would be far rosier when he moved to another city. Upon moving to Boulder, he began to complain about the cold weather, the slow pace, and the difficulty with finding a house up to his standards. Martin learned the lesson of gratitude by appreciating the splendor of his new city, rather than focusing on another "there."  If Life is a Game, These are the Rules

Integrity means avoiding any communication that is deceptive, full of guile, or beneath the dignity of people. "A lie is any communication with intent to deceive."  Whether we communicate with words or behavior, if we have integrity, our intent cannot be to deceive.  Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

Turn off the TV. Think about whether the lives portrayed on your favorite sitcom contribute anything positive to your life, or whether repeated exposure to crime and violence contributes to your peeve of mind. Think about whether the "thirty second sound bite" format of most television news gives you any real information. Think about whether the addictive habit of watching television contributes to your aliveness, spontaneity and sense of freedom.  Simplify Your Life

"Everything has its beauty, but not everyone see it." - Confucius. Learn to notice and appreciate the ordinary pleasures around you"  An ice-cream cone on a hot day. A blazing fire on a cold night. The sound of children laughing. The peace and quiet of early morning or late night. All the sights, sounds, smells, tastes, and textures of life.  Stress Busters

If you kids have Beanie Babies, did you know each one comes with its own birth date. They can invite their friends and their stuffed animals, serve cupcakes or animal crackers.  To Do Today

 The miracle, or the power, that elevates the few is to be found in their industry, application, and perseverance under the prompting of a brave, determined spirit. - Mark Twain. Win the Day!

TODAY'S ISSUE: NURTURING

Nurturance is felt as a spiritual experience, when for a few moments the feeling of separateness between ourselves and another dissolves, and we feel that we are both the caretaker and the one being cared for. - Anonymous

Many men think of nurturance only as a kind of care given by parents to children, especially to babies. A lot of us received scant nurturing after about our eighth birthday. These days, though, we're coming to see nurturance as a wondrously subtle form of communication, a fine art, and an essential part of our attitude toward all life.

There are so many different ways that we can experience nurturance. Gazing at the ocean, a deep peace fills our mind and body, and our breathing seems to echo the movement of the waves. Hiking deep into the woods we feel protected, sheltered by the towering evergreens. In close friendships we find nurturance through hugs and intimate sharings. In committed partnership, through sexual union - all relationships founded in love involve an element of nurturance, of tender care and support. To extend ourselves to another, we must set aside our own interests and concerns, placing ourselves in another's perspective, approaching understanding as an act of utmost respect.

To accept nurturance, I must be willing to be vulnerable. A Quiet Strength: Meditations on the Masculine Soul

Hey man!  Did you make a difference yesterday? Let us know at Contact Us. Keep track of the daily abundance's in your life. Focus on the positive; learn to appreciate what you have and tend to take for granted; avoid dwelling on problems, deficits and worries. What Every Man Needs to Know Want to make a difference but you don't know where to start?

BOOK OF THE WEEK

Reducing Infant Mortality and Improving the Health of Babies. A documentary film supporting maternal/infant health care. The societal economic cost for preterm births is over $26 billion a year: almost $17 billion in medical care services, $6 billion in lost household and labor productivity, another $2 billion in maternal delivery costs, a little over $1 billion in special education care for disabling conditions, and over $600 million in early intervention services. This film is at the forefront of the birth revolution in America! It is a must-see for everyone who cares about birth in America today and particularly expectant parents., DVD, 2009 www.reducinginfantmortality.com, debtaki@yahoo.com (free)

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MENSTUFF COLUMNS BY AUTHOR

  • The Advice Diva - The Advice Diva - relationship and sexuality issues discussed - www.menstuff.org/columns/advicediva/archive.html
  • Peter Alsop - Song of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/alsop/archive.html
  • Reid Baer - A Man Overboard - Interview of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/overboard/archive.html
  • Reid Baer - Poetry - poetry read on YouTube - www.menstuff.org/columns/baer/archive.html
  • Molly Barrow - Shrink About This - www.menstuff.org/columns/barrow/archive.html
  • Peter Baylies - At Home Dads - on at-home-dad issues that impact fathers who stay at home to raise their kids - www.menstuff.org/columns/baylies/archive.html
  • Tom Blake - Middle-Age Relationships - from an expert on dating after 50. www.menstuff.org/columns/blake/archive.html
  • Mark Brandenburg - Great Fathers - on fathering issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/greatfathers/archive.html
  • Ted Braude - BoysWork - a columnist in the The Detroit Free Press "Body and Mind" section www.menstuff.org/columns/braude/archive.html
  • Armin Brott - A Father's Guide - hosts "Positive Parenting" on radio www.menstuff.org/columns/brott/archive.html
  • Dan Bulf - Get Real - weekly pod cast on men's issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/bulf/archive.html
  • Ken Byers - Transition - on men's life transitions - www.menstuff.org/columns/byers/archive.html
  • Sandra L. Caron - Sex Talk - college students get answers to their questions - www.menstuff.org/columns/sextalk/archive.html
  • Neil Chethik - Relationships - www.menstuff.org/columns/chethik/archive.html
  • Otto & Susie Collins - Susie and Otto - relationship issues discussed - www.menstuff.org/columns/susie&otto/archive.html
  • David Copeland - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Forrest Craver - Spirituality & Social Change - www.menstuff.org/columns/craver/archive.html
  • Layne & Paul Cutright - Powerful Partnerships - relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/cutright/archive.html
  • Ron DesMarais - Cavemen in the Kitchen - great recipes for men - www.menstuff.org/columns/desmarais/archive.html
  • Jed Diamond - Irritable Male Syndrome - www.menstuff.org/columns/diamond/archive.html
  • Doc Love - Women Don't Lie, Man Don't Listen - answers to relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/doclov/archive.html
  • Barry Durdant-Hollamby - Creating Change - creating change in your life - www.menstuff.org/columns/durdant/archive.html
  • Irv Engel - The Real Deal - www.menstuff.org/columns/engel/archive.html
  • Nancy Fagan - Expert Dating Advice - with Nancy Fagan - www.menstuf.org/columns/fagan/archive.html
  • Warren Farrell - Men's Issues: Facts and Perspectives www.menstuff.org/columns/farrell/archive.html
  • Leonard Felder - Wake Up or Break Up - www.menstuff.org/columns/felder/archive.html
  • Marty Friedman - Strong Men, Strong Marriage - www.menstuff.org/columns/friedman/archive.html
  • Kim Garretson - Mansgland - using humor to encourage prostate exams - www.menstuff.org/columns/mansgland/archive.html
  • Lion Goodman - How to get Women to Love You - www.menstuff.org/columns/goodman/archive.html
  • Liz Halliday - In a Man's World - www.menstuff.org/columns/halliday/archive.html
  • Rick Hanson - Just One Thing - www.menstuff.org/columns/hanson/archive.html
  • Tim Hartnett - Daddyman Speaks - being a father www.menstuff.org/columns/daddyman/archive.html
  • John Hershey - Blood, Phlegm & Bile: Parenting with Humor - He writes a syndicated biweekly humor column about parenting and family life. www.menstuff.org/columns/hershey/archive.html
  • Gary Hoeber - Psychotherapy as Soul Work, www.menstuff.org/columns/hoeber/archive.html
  • Patrick Houser - Fathers Make a World of Difference, www.menstuff.org/columns/houser/archive.html
  • Paul Joannides - The Guide to Getting It On - on sex - www.menstuff.org/columns/getiton/archive.html
  • Jack Kahn - NOMAS Boston - www.menstuff.org/columns/kahn/archive.html
  • Patrick Kennedy - Seniors - www.menstuff.org/columns/kennedy/archive.html
  • Joe Kort - Gaydar - to increase understanding between gay and het men - www.menstuff.org/columns/kort/archive.html
  • David Kundtz - David Kundtz - presents seminars, workshops, retreats, and conference presentations in the areas of men's emotional health, stress management, and spirituality. www.menstuff.org/columns/kundtz/archive.html
  • Bruce Linton - Dr. Dad - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/drdad/archive.html
  • Ron Louis - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Tom Matlack - Tom Matlack - Good Men Project - www.menstuff.org/columns/matlack/archive.html
  • Wendy McElroy - Wendy McElroy on Feminism, www.menstuff.org/columns/mcelroy/archive.html
  • Robert N. Minor - Minor Details - on GBT sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/minordetails/archive.html
  • Robert L. Moore - Man & Mythology - www.menstuff.org/columns/moore/archive.html
  • Dennis W. Neder - Being a Man - general questions about men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/neder/archive.html
  • Marty Nemko - Worklife - general questions about men and work - www.menstuff.org/columns/nemko/archive.html
  • Eli Newberger - Eli Newberger - general information on men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/newberger/archive.html
  • Linda Nielsen - Embracing the Father - working with the father/daughter relationship. www.menstuff.org/columns/nielsen/archive.html
  • Kathy Noll - Bullies and Youth Violence - working with schools, teachers and parents to end school violence - www.menstuff.org/columns/noll/archive.html
  • Mark Phillips - Stay-at-Home-Dads - helping men maintain that which makes us men, instead of becoming hairy Mom-substitutes - www.menstuff.org/columns/phillips/archive.html
  • Carey Roberts - Socialism & Feminism - is a social commentator on political correctness. www.menstuff.org/columns/roberts/archive.html
  • Perry Rose - Dating, Relationship, Sex
  • Glenn Sacks - His Side - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/sacks/archive.html
  • Trudy Schuett - Domestic Violence - serving the under-represented www.menstuff.org/columns/schuett/archive.html
  • Carl J. Schutt - Circumcision - social commentator on circumcision - www.menstuff.org/columns/schutt/archive.html
  • Hugo Schwyzer - A Pro-feminist's Response - www.menstuff.org/columns/schwyzer/archive.html
  • Michael Shaffran - Men's Issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/shaffran/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • George Simons - Bellicose Veins - is a US specialist in intercultural and gender communication who hangs out in Mandelieu - la Napoule, France, as well as in Santa Cruz, CA. www.menstuff.org/columns/simons/archive.html
  • Andy Smith - Hard Hat Brotherhood - www.menstuff.org/columns/hardhat/archive.html
  • David B. Smith - Fighting Father Dave - www.menstuff.org/columns/smith/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • Reena Sommer - Custody - is an internationally recognized relationship and divorce consultant. www.menstuff.org/columns/sommer/archive.html
  • R. Don Steele - Don Steele - relationship questions answered -
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  • David Steinberg - Comes Naturally - on sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/steinberg/archive.html
  • Mary Lou St Lucas - A Mother's Love - www.menstuf.org/columns/stlucas/archive.html
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  • Steven Svoboda - Fatherhood, Activism and the Law www.menstuff.org/columns/svoboda/archive.html
  • Michael Taylor - A New Conversation with Men - www.menstuff.org/columns/taylor/archive.html
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  • Stuart Wilde - Spirituality - www.menstuff.org/columns/wilde/archive.html
  • Dr.Williams - Sex Health - on sexual health - Dr. Williams, www.menstuff.org/columns/sexhealth/archive.html
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  • Numbers - www.menstuff.org/columns/numbers/archive.html
  • Questions - www.menstuff.org/columns/q&a/archive.html
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  • Words Can Heal - helping children grow up healthy - www.menstuff.org/columns/wordscanheal/archive.html
  • Wuzup?! - National or international events happening this month - www.menstuff.org/columns/whassup/archive.html

AWARENESS EVENTS THIS MONTH

May is: Skin Cancer Awareness, * Masturbation Month; Asian Pacific American Heritage;. Better Hearing and Speech; Better Sleep; Correct Posture; Creative Beginnings; Family Support; Foster Care; Get Caught Reading; Helping American Youth; National Allergy/Asthma Awareness; National Arthritis; National Barbecue; Good Car-Keeping; Hepatitis Awareness; Mental Health; Osteoporosis Prevention; Physical Fitness and Sports; Recommitment; Scholarship; Self-Discovery; Senior Citizens Month , Senior Travel; Sight-Saving; Stroke Awareness; Teaching and Joy, Teen Pregnancy Prevention, Tuberous; Sclerosis Awareness; *Older Americans; Personal History Awareness; Revise Your Work Schedule; and Strike Out Strokes Month. The most tornados happen in May.

May 14-Jun 18: National Family Month. Apr 29-May 5: *National Science & Technology Week. May 1-7: Cartoon Art Appreciation Week. May 5-11: National Nurses Day and Week. May 6-12: Be Kind to Animals; Flexible Work Arrangements; *Jewish Heritage; National Family; National Pet; PTA Teacher Appreciation; Suicide Awareness; Wildflower; and Teacher Appreciation Week. May 7-13 National Etiquette; and National Herb Week. May 13-219: National Medical Services; *Nat Police; *National Transportation; and *World Trade Week. May 19-25: *National Safe Boating Week. May 20-26: Good Stewardship; International Reggae Music; National New Friends-Old Friends; and, National Reflexology Awareness Week. May 21-28: Buckle Up America; and, National Backyard Games Week. May 1: May Day observed since ancient times and has become Labor Day in most countries except the U.S., Bermuda and Canada. Kindness Day, Teen Day, Freedom Riders Anniversary, Executive Coaching Day. *Law Day. *Loyalty Day. Peace of Mind Day. 40th Anniversary of the U-2 Incident with Francis Gary Powers. May 2: Holocaust Rememberance Day. May 6:: National Day of Hearing Testing. May 8: V-E Day 55th Anniversary, World Red Cross Day, May 9: National Receptionests Day, National Teachers Day. May 10: National Small Business Day. May 12: Chronic Fatigue Awareness Day May 14: *Mother's Day. May 15: *Peace Officer Memorial Day May 19: *National Defense Transportation Day. National Bike to Work Day. May 20: *Armed Forces Day. May 21: National Waitstaff Day, Neighbor Day Youth Against Violence. May 22: *National Maritime Day. May 25: National Missing Children's Day. May 26: Morning Radio Wise Guy Day. May 28:  Ancestor Honor Day. Memorial Day. (celebrated on Monday the *29th Memorial Day Prayer for Peace requests flying the flag at half-staff for the customary forenoon period.) May 31: National Senior Health and Fitness Day. World No-Tobacco Day.

* Means a Presidential Proclamation was made.

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