Daily Thoughts & Issues

IN THIS ISSUE:

SEPTEMBER 28

Days left until the next millennium 01.01.3001

Photo of the Week
Patrick Morrow/Adventure Photos & Film
Achieve Your Dreams

September 28 - Cabrillo Day - Anniversary of the Discovery of California (1542) by Portuguese navigator Juan Rodriquez Cabrillo who reached San Diego Bay. The Cabrillo National Monument marks his landfall and Cabrillo Day is still observed in California. * First Night Football Game (1892) played between Mansfield State Normal School (now Mansfield University) and Wyoming Seminary. * The World Series is seen in color for the first time on NBC-TV as the NY Yankees beat the Brooklyn Dodgers, 6-5. (1955). * Birthday of Confucius (551 BCE), founder of Confucianism; He taught that societal harmony could be realized when individuals acted with loving care for family, concern for friends and neighbors, benevolence to strangers, and respect for all. The Mystic's Wheel of the Year * Birthdays: Ben E. King, Ed Sullivan, Al Capp, Marcello Mastroianni, Jerry Clower, Johnny Earl Dawkins, Jr., Jeffrey Jones, Steve M. Largent, Se Ri Pak, William Windom.

DAILY THOUGHTS

Being stuck in a dilemma is often a sign of superficial involvement in what has stirred in the soul. The temptation is to remain stuck, to spend hours of thought and conversation, even years, luxuriating in the dilemma. Soul Mates

Most men point their tongue when giving oral sex, but my lover uses a very flat tongue. It's surprisingly stimulating. - Shelly, 43 Best of 1001 Sex Secrets Every Man & Woman Should Know

Rural free mail delivery, the home telephone and the Grange are the three destroyers of farm isolation. They mean much - more than menfolk think - to the women. They make for happiness, wide-awakeness, and profit. If your community lacks them, interest your neighbors in having these wants supplied. - The Old Farmer's Almanac, 1906. Old Farmer's Almanac

Let children support their parents or be imprisoned. - Roman law. Dr. Buff's 365 Day Parenting Calendar

Were we to believe it possible for man to become God, this belief by its very nature would place upon us an obligation to attempt to attain the possible. But we do not want this obligation. We don't want to have to work that hard. We don't want God's responsibility. We don't want the responsibility of having to think all the time. The Road Less Traveled

A journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. - Chinese Proverb. Achieve Your Dreams

Things to Be Happy About: Using what you read. Moments of sheer exhilaration. Mushroom quesadillas.  14,000 Things to Be Happy About

Puppies are cute but have sharp teeth.  Really Important Stuff My Kids Have Taught Me

A sense of adventure is inherent in young children. Most children are naturally curious and experimental, ready to try anything. They are not held back by fears of societal disapproval or failure. As they grow up, however, the world imposes its fears and limitations upon them, and very often this sense of adventure is buried beneath years of admonishments like "Don't touch!" and "Behave!" The spark of adventure gets dimmed as they learn to become responsible, mature adults. If Life is a Game, These are the Rules

Public victory does not mean victory over other people. It means success in effective interaction that brings mutually beneficial results to everyone involved. Public victory means working together, communicating together; making things happen together that even the same people couldn't make happen by working independently. Public victory is an outgrowth of the Abundance Mentality paradigm.  Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

Hannah Rochel (1805-1892) was a transgendered Chassidic Jew who gained leadership status as the "Maid of Ludomir." Near the time of an arranged marriage, Rochel fell into an altered state, after which she claimed to have experienced gender transformation. The wedding was called off, and Rochel began wearing men's clothes and studying at the synagogue. Gay & Lesbian Calendar

Rock-A-Bye Baby. Nursing or rocking your newborn to sleep is perfectly fine. But you should be aware of some potential pitfalls. Some babies (and there's no way to know which ones) develop an association with whatever method is used to soothe them to sleep. When they wake up in the middle of the night, they cannot fall back asleep unless they are comforted in the same way. Once these babies are able to sleep for prolonged periods of time, they should be given opportunities to fall asleep on their own.  Parents Tips & Tricks

Rethink your buying habits. Designate one day a week for shopping; this includes groceries and anything else you think you might need. Simplify Your Life

Jot down sayings or quotes you read that remind you to slow down and relax, or make up your own stress-freeing thoughts and put them in places where you'll see them frequently.  Stress Busters

Tickle your family's funny bone by putting newspaper comics into unexpected places for them to see. Stick the comics in a briefcase, on a pillow, onto a bathroom door, or on the bottom of the toilet seat cover - that way you can brighten everyone's day.  To Do Today

I've always believed that if you put in the work, the results will come. I don't do things halfheartedly. Because I now if I do, then I can expect halfhearted results. - Michael Jordan.  Win the Day!

La piramide (peeRAHmeedeh) Pyramid. Teotihuacan. This city, whose name means "the place where men become gods" is one of the most important archeological sites in the Americas. Located 25 miles outside of Mexico City, it was the center of Aztec civilization. It began to develop circa 100 b.c., and, by 900 a.d., it boasted a population of 60,000. It is home to two spectacular pyramids: the pyramids of the Sun and of the Moon, both of which were used in ritual ceremonies.  Living Language

TODAY'S ISSUE: HINDRANCE/COMPLETION

God keep me from ever completing anything. Herman Melville. We are often told that there is a purpose behind life's tribulations. There are people who would have us believe that we grow from the challenges that confront us and that every obstacle we hurdle increases our character. These people are women. We Men Who Do Next to Nothing know that there is no use slugging it out with what is obviously preordained anyway. These things are prearranged by our Higher Power. Who are we to question what is obviously in the cards? Women don't understand this kind of reasoning. They think that if we don't get a promotion, swing the vacation time, or finance the mortgage, it's our fault. "You got yourself into this, now you can get yourself out" is a common catch phrase, as if we had something to do with what is going on around us. As if it is really within our power to confront the forces at work in our lives. It is best at times like these to tread a line of least resistance. True, life isn't fair, but neither are women, so nod you head, grunt occasionally, but if she insists on action, let her do it. Meditations for Men Who Do Next to Nothing: and would like to do even less

Hey Man: Did you make a difference yesterday? Let us know at Contact Us. An obstacle isn't an obstacle until you try to overcome it. Meditations for Men Who Do Next to Nothing: and would like to do even less Want to make a difference but you don't know where to start?

BOOK OF THE WEEK

eaarth: Making a life on a tough new planet by Bill McKibben. Twenty years ago, the author offered one of the earliest warnings about global warming. Those warnings went mostly unheeded; now, he insists, we need to acknowledge that we've waited too long, and that massive change is not only unavoidable but already under way. Our old familiar globe is suddenly melting, drying, acidifying, flooding and burning in ways that no human has even seen. We've created, in very short order, a new planet, still recognizable but fundamentally different. We may was well call it Eaarth. That new planet is filled with new binds and traps. A changing world costs large sums to defend - think of the money that went to repair New Orleans, or the trillions of dollars it will take to transform our energy systems. But the endless economic growth that could underwrite such largesse depends on the stable planet we've managed to damage and degrade. We can't rely on old habits any longer. Our hope depends, the author argues, on scaling back - on building the kind of societies and economies that can hunker down, concentrate on essentials, and create the type of community (in the neighborhood, but also on the Internet) that will allow us to weather trouble on an unprecedented scale. Change - fundamental change - is our best hope on a planet suddenly and violently out of balance. Times Books, www.henryholt.com, 2010 ISBN 978-0-8050-9056-7

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AWARENESS EVENTS THIS MONTH

September is Baby Safety Awareness, Children's Eye Health & Safety, Children's Good Manners, Christmas Seal, Cholesterol Education, Fall Hat, Gay Square Dance, Library Card Sign-up, Little League, Organic Harvest, Pediculosis Prevention, Piano, Pleasure Your Mate, Project Aware, Prosperity Creation, School Success, Sea Cadet, Self Awareness, Self-Improvement, Shameless Promotion, and Sickle Cell Month.

9/15-10/15: Hispanic Heritage Month. 8/29-9/4: National Sobriety Checkpoint Week, Mothers Against Drunk Driving, www.madd.org; 9/1-7: Childhood Injury Prevention; Self-University Week. 9/4-10: Full Employment Week, Mental Health Workers Week.. 9/5-9: Play Days. 9/9-16: National Five-A-Day Week. 9/10-16: National Suicide Prevention; Substitute Teacher Appreciation; National Brainstorming and Mind Mapping; Invisible Chronic Illness Awareness Week: 9/14-20 Dementia Awareness Week (Australia) 9/17-23: *Constitution; Balance Awareness; Love a Mensch; Farm Safety and Health; Historically Black Colleges and Universities; Rehabilitation Awareness; Single's Week. 9/19-25 - Prostate Cancer Awareness Week; 9/23-30: Banned Books, Religious Freedom Week. 9/23-29 - Deaf Awareness, National Dog Week; 9/23-24: Family Health & Fitness. 9/10: Swap Ideas Day. 9/17 *Citizenship Day. 9/19: International Day of Peace. 9/22: National Centenarians, Proposal Day. 9/23: Kiwanis Kids', *National Hunting & Fishing, Smash Out Suicide Day, 9/24: *Gold Star Mother's, National Good Neighbor, World Heart Day. 9/27: Ancestor Appreciation Day. 9/28: Cabrillo Day

* Means a Presidential Proclamation has been made.

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