Daily Thoughts & Issues

IN THIS ISSUE:

NOVEMBER 6

Days left until the next millennium 01.01.3001

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Achieve Your Dreams

November 6 - Daylight Savings Time ends at 2:00am. Set clocks back 1 hour. Daylight Savings Time ends - set clock back one hour at 2 a.m. * The patent for the first electric shaver is issued to Col. Jacob Schick. * Halfway Point of Autumn, 45 days of autumn have elapsed and the equivalent remain before December 21 which is the winter solstice and the beginning of winter. * St. Leonard's Day. The name of this his sixth-century recluse is invoked for protection from robbers. Forgotten English * Birthdays: John Philip Sousa, Ray Conniff, Glenn Frey, Nigel Havers, Lance Kerwin, Mike Nichols (Michael Igor Peschkowsky). 

Test smoke and carbon monoxide detectors!

DAILY THOUGHTS

The best lover I ever had took my hand and showed me exactly how to use it to give her an orgasm. All men should be so lucky. - Lyle, 29 Best of 1001 Sex Secrets Every Man & Woman Should Know

Reward your children for saving part of their allowances. If family funds permit, perhaps you could match the money they put aside for a rainy day. Dr. Buff's 365 Day Parenting Calendar

A physical symptom doesn't necessarily represent the human orgasm's collapse in the face of stress or infection. Rather, it can be seen as the best possible defense the body can muster on the basis of its present resources. Any people today are much more likely to nip such a problem in the bud and stop if from getting out of control. New Passages

Preventing colds. Tis the season to step up cold-virus prevention. Parents can reduce colds by volunteering to disinfect desktops, play areas, toys and climbing equipment at daycares, preschools, and classrooms. Involve others, ensure that tissues are handy, and teach kids to "sneeze at your sleeve." The Old Farmer's Almanac

If as adults, walking around on two legs, capable of making independent choices that influence the world, we can identify our mature free will with that of God, then God will have assumed through our conscious ego a new and potent life form. We will have become God's agent, his arm, so to speak, and therefore part of Him. And insofar as we might then through our conscious decisions be able to influence the world according to His will our lives themselves will become the agents of God's grace. The Road Less Traveled

To get to the soul of sex, we have to take it as it is, to accept its power both to attract and to disturb, and temper the various means we employ to protect ourselves from failure. Soul Mates

To dare is to lose your footing momentarily. To not dare is to lose yourself. - Kierkegaard. Achieve Your Dreams

Things to Be Happy About:  A pancake breakfast at town hall. The sound of distant church bells. The migration of birds. 14,000 Things to Be Happy About

When you're being dragged, let go of the leash. Really Important Stuff My Kids Have Taught Me

One emotion that often lurks in people's minds is anger. They cling to their anger toward their parents for the way they were raised, or toward their spouse for disappointing them, or toward them for presenting them with injustices. This anger can fester in their unconscious minds, blocking the flow of their natural power to create their lives. They focus so intently on their negative feelings that hey are blind to the power of forgiveness and release.  If Life is a Game, These are the Rules

Margus Hirschfeld's Scientific-Humanitarian Committee is credited with publishing the world's first scientific periodical on homosexuality, The Yearbook for Sexual Intermediates, which began publication in 1899 and continued for twenty-three volumes. Gay & Lesbian Calendar

Taking a break from the news from time to time makes it easier to discriminate between the news you want or feel you need to know and the negative information that complicates your life without enhancing it.  Seven Habits of Highly Effective People (Editor:  Let go of pieces of news that you feel you need to know to see if you really do need them. The more you let go of, the more you will find no need for, which frees up a lot of time and energy for other things.)

How Much Turkey is Enough?  When buying a 12-lb. or smaller turkey, figure on about 1 lb. per person. For a larger turkey, allow 3/4 to 1 lb. per person, even though children will normally eat much less. You'll be able to serve your guests at dinner and yield enough leftovers for sandwiches, soup, or other after-turkey-day favorites.  Parents Tips & Tricks

Clarify your values and goals. What do you want to do with your life? What is truly important to you?  If you were lying on your deathbed, thinking back over your life, would you wish you had lived your life differently? If so, start attending to what's most meaningful to you now while you have the chance. Stress Busters

If you don't change your beliefs, your life will be like this forever. Is that good news? - Robert Anthony. Win the Day!

Gustar (goosTAHR) To like, to be pleasing. Pues, a ti te gusta? So, do you like her? Living Language

TODAY'S ISSUE: WORRIES

A hundred worries affect their minds, myriad affairs weary their bodies. Expending their vitality, exhausting their spirit, they take the false to be real. - Lio I-ming. Men worry a lot about things we can't control: lack of economic security, a child's illness, a partner who may someday decide to leave. The "what ifs" of life can consume us; hidden, our fear grows, until we're too frozen even to share our fear with someone else. The inability to speak about such fears saps our strength and vitality. There are always people around who will tell us that our worries are all for nothing, that our fears are just illusions. But that doesn't calm the scared boy inside. We were told ages ago that we were weak because we wanted someone to come into the dark room with us, to look under the bed to make sure the gobblins weren't real. And even now we're often told, "Just stop worrying."  "Don't be silly."  "Go back to sleep."  The trolls and goblins seemed real then and sometimes still do now. But these days we can turn with gratitude to those who can listen to our fears without shaming us, to people we can trust to look into the dark with us to help us face the monsters lurking there. A Quiet Strength: Meditations on the Masculine Soul

Hey Man: Did you make a difference yesterday? Let us know at Contact Us. Today, I'll find someone to tell about the worries that won't go away. If I share them, they won't have a chance to turn into trolls who gobble up my energy and serenity. A Quiet Strength: Meditations on the Masculine Soul Want to make a difference but you don't know where to start?

BOOK OF THE WEEK

The Next Ten Minutes: 51 Absurdly Simple Ways to Seize the Moment by Andrew Peterson. The desire to discover meaning in our lives is a powerful motivator for many people. Some turn to psychotherapy and counseling for help, some turn to spiritual teachings, and many turn to both. The book is the guide to help us discover the seeds of transformation and meaning in even the most ordinary routines. Itconsists of a collection of exercises originally created for use in the author's successful counseling practice. Rather than taking readers out of the everyday, he invites them to move more deeply into the familiar tasks of ordinary life, such as turning simple breathing, eating, physical love, or throwing out the trash into meditative exercises that can transform your day. Based on both Buddhist philosophy and proven psychology techniques, these succinct and accessible meditations also offer simple and effective methods for therapeutic counseling and personal growth. The power to seize the day is but a few simple steps away. Atria Books/Beyond Words, 2010, ISBN 1582702748

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MENSTUFF COLUMNS BY AUTHOR

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  • David Copeland - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Forrest Craver - Spirituality & Social Change - www.menstuff.org/columns/craver/archive.html
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  • Barry Durdant-Hollamby - Creating Change - creating change in your life - www.menstuff.org/columns/durdant/archive.html
  • Irv Engel - The Real Deal - www.menstuff.org/columns/engel/archive.html
  • Nancy Fagan - Expert Dating Advice - with Nancy Fagan - www.menstuf.org/columns/fagan/archive.html
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  • Kim Garretson - Mansgland - using humor to encourage prostate exams - www.menstuff.org/columns/mansgland/archive.html
  • Lion Goodman - How to get Women to Love You - www.menstuff.org/columns/goodman/archive.html
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  • Tim Hartnett - Daddyman Speaks - being a father www.menstuff.org/columns/daddyman/archive.html
  • John Hershey - Blood, Phlegm & Bile: Parenting with Humor - He writes a syndicated biweekly humor column about parenting and family life. www.menstuff.org/columns/hershey/archive.html
  • Gary Hoeber - Psychotherapy as Soul Work, www.menstuff.org/columns/hoeber/archive.html
  • Patrick Houser - Fathers Make a World of Difference, www.menstuff.org/columns/houser/archive.html
  • Paul Joannides - The Guide to Getting It On - on sex - www.menstuff.org/columns/getiton/archive.html
  • Jack Kahn - NOMAS Boston - www.menstuff.org/columns/kahn/archive.html
  • Patrick Kennedy - Seniors - www.menstuff.org/columns/kennedy/archive.html
  • Joe Kort - Gaydar - to increase understanding between gay and het men - www.menstuff.org/columns/kort/archive.html
  • David Kundtz - David Kundtz - presents seminars, workshops, retreats, and conference presentations in the areas of men's emotional health, stress management, and spirituality. www.menstuff.org/columns/kundtz/archive.html
  • Bruce Linton - Dr. Dad - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/drdad/archive.html
  • Ron Louis - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Tom Matlack - Tom Matlack - Good Men Project - www.menstuff.org/columns/matlack/archive.html
  • Wendy McElroy - Wendy McElroy on Feminism, www.menstuff.org/columns/mcelroy/archive.html
  • Robert N. Minor - Minor Details - on GBT sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/minordetails/archive.html
  • Robert L. Moore - Man & Mythology - www.menstuff.org/columns/moore/archive.html
  • Dennis W. Neder - Being a Man - general questions about men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/neder/archive.html
  • Marty Nemko - Worklife - general questions about men and work - www.menstuff.org/columns/nemko/archive.html
  • Eli Newberger - Eli Newberger - general information on men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/newberger/archive.html
  • Linda Nielsen - Embracing the Father - working with the father/daughter relationship. www.menstuff.org/columns/nielsen/archive.html
  • Kathy Noll - Bullies and Youth Violence - working with schools, teachers and parents to end school violence - www.menstuff.org/columns/noll/archive.html
  • Mark Phillips - Stay-at-Home-Dads - helping men maintain that which makes us men, instead of becoming hairy Mom-substitutes - www.menstuff.org/columns/phillips/archive.html
  • Carey Roberts - Socialism & Feminism - is a social commentator on political correctness. www.menstuff.org/columns/roberts/archive.html
  • Perry Rose - Dating, Relationship, Sex
  • Glenn Sacks - His Side - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/sacks/archive.html
  • Trudy Schuett - Domestic Violence - serving the under-represented www.menstuff.org/columns/schuett/archive.html
  • Carl J. Schutt - Circumcision - social commentator on circumcision - www.menstuff.org/columns/schutt/archive.html
  • Hugo Schwyzer - A Pro-feminist's Response - www.menstuff.org/columns/schwyzer/archive.html
  • Michael Shaffran - Men's Issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/shaffran/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • George Simons - Bellicose Veins - is a US specialist in intercultural and gender communication who hangs out in Mandelieu - la Napoule, France, as well as in Santa Cruz, CA. www.menstuff.org/columns/simons/archive.html
  • Andy Smith - Hard Hat Brotherhood - www.menstuff.org/columns/hardhat/archive.html
  • David B. Smith - Fighting Father Dave - www.menstuff.org/columns/smith/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • Reena Sommer - Custody - is an internationally recognized relationship and divorce consultant. www.menstuff.org/columns/sommer/archive.html
  • R. Don Steele - Don Steele - relationship questions answered -
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  • David Steinberg - Comes Naturally - on sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/steinberg/archive.html
  • Mary Lou St Lucas - A Mother's Love - www.menstuf.org/columns/stlucas/archive.html
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  • Stuart Wilde - Spirituality - www.menstuff.org/columns/wilde/archive.html
  • Dr.Williams - Sex Health - on sexual health - Dr. Williams, www.menstuff.org/columns/sexhealth/archive.html
  • KC Wilson - On Gender Politics is a social commentator and author. www.menstuff.org/columns/wilson/archive.html

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  • Wuzup?! - National or international events happening this month - www.menstuff.org/columns/whassup/archive.html

AWARENESS EVENTS THIS MONTH

November is International Impotency Awareness Month. We provide background information on this new drug and alternatives to Viagra. Impotency, Viagra and other solutions as well as Books on the subject. National Diabetes Awareness, Lung Cancer Awareness, Native American Heritage, Aviation History, Diabetic Eye Disease, Dummies for Tummies, Epilepsy Awareness, International Drum, *National Adoption, National Alzheimer's Disease, National American Indian Heritage, National Family Caregivers, National Child Safety and Protection, National Life Writing; National Marrow Awareness; National Sleep Comfort; Orphan Disease; Peanut Butter Lovers; Vegan Awareness Month

11/1-12/13:  Merlin's Snug Hugs for Kids, 11/27-12/26: Ramadan. 11/1/00-01/01/01: Tie One on the Safety; 11/4-12/4: Jewish Book Month. 11/26-12/25: Operation Blessing International's 30 Days of Holiday Hope. 11/27-12/26: Ramadan. 11/1-7: Vegan Awareness; World Communication. 11/5-11: Pursuit of Happiness, National Chemistry Week. 11/6-10: Kids' Goals Education Week 11/6-12: Random Acts of Kindness; Shallow Persons Awareness Week 11/8-14: Pursuit of Happiness Week. 11/9-13: Goodwill Annual Used Book Sale. 11/12-18: *American Education; National Geography Awareness, Operating Room Nurse Week. 11/13-19: National Children's Book Week. 11/17-19: National Donor Sabbath. 11/17-23: *National Farm-City Week. 18 -25 November 2000: International Herpes Awareness Week. 11/18 -25 International Herpes Awareness Week 11/19-25:  *National Family; National Family Caregivers; National Game and Puzzle Week. 11/19-26: Bible Week. 11/1-2: Day of the Dead. 11/1 is All Saints Day, National Authors; National Family Literacy. 11/2: US Elecetion Day - Vote Absentee Ballot. All Soul's Day; National Men Make Dinner; 11/3: Culture Day. 11/3-5: Great American Warm-Up; 11/4: Sadie Hawkins; Sweden All Saints. 11/5: Guy Fawkes Day. 11/6: Halfway Point of Autumn. 11/8: Punsters; Abet and Aid Punsters; Cook Something Bold and Pungent; National Young Reader's Day. 11/10: USMC Birthday, Veterans Day (Observed); Lung Cancer Awareness; 11/11: Veterans Day; Remembrance Day; Vox Populi Day. Cook Something Bold Day. 11/12: America Recycles Day. 11/13: World Kindness Day. 11/14: Children's Day (India); National American Teddy Bear; National Community Education Day. 11/15: Gypsy Condemnation Order Anniversary, Shichi-Go-San (Japan); National Educational Support Personnel Day. 11/16: *Great American Smokeout; World Harvest, International Day for Tolerance; 11/17: World Peace Day. 11/19: World's Men's, Have a Bad Day; 11/20: Universal Children's; UN African Industrialization Day. 11/21: UN World Television; World Hello Day. 11/22: National Stop the Violence Day. 11/23: *Thanksgiving Day (US) 11/24: Sinkie Day; Buy Nothing; "What Do You Love about America Day; 11/25: You're Welcomgiving Day. 11/29: UN International Day of Solidarity with the Palestinian People. 11/30: Computer Security; Stay Home Because You're Well Day.

* Means a Presidential Proclamation has been made.

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