Daily Thoughts & Issues IN THIS ISSUE: MAY 29 Daily Thoughts Book of the Week Photo of the Week Today's Issue: Disease Tomorrow's Issue: Health Menstuff columns by Author Awareness events this month Upcoming Men's Events Days left until the next millennium 01.01.3001 Photo of the Week Chris McLennan/Adventure Photo & Film Achieve Your Dreams May 29 - Constantinople Falls to the Turks (1453) who eventually renamed it Istanbul. This conquest marked the end of the Byzantine Empire. * Amnesty issued for southern rebels (1865) by President Andrew Johnson giving a general amnesty to all who participated in the rebellion against the US. Once an oath of allegiance was taken, all former property rights, except those in slaves, were returned to the former owners. * Moscow Joint Communiqué (1972) Nixon and Brezhnev signed a treaty on antiballistic missile systems as well as an interim agreement on limitation of strategic missiles and an agreement for a joint space flight in 1975. This was the first visit ever to Moscow by a US president. * A riot at Heysel stadium in Brussels killed 39 people. More than 2 years later, the British government announced that 26 British soccer fans (identified from television tapes) would be extradited to Belgium for trial. * Sir Edmund Hillary and Tensing Norkay, his Sherpa guide, are the first to reach the top of Mt. Everest in the Himalayas (1953). * Birthdays:  Leslie (Bob Hope) Townes, Paul Ehrlich, Alfred (Al) Unser, Sr, Francis Thomas (Fay) Vincent, Jr., Patrick Henry, John Fitzgerald Kennedy, Rupert Everett, Gilbert Keith Chesterton, Oswald Spengler, Kevin Conway, Eric Davis, Anthony Geary, Adrian Paul. *SPECIAL to Keith R. Jarvis DAILY THOUGHTS Your child will complete 2,600 quizzes over the course of his or her elementary and high school education. Dr. Buff's 365 Day Parenting Calendar Around the World:  The average number of births per day:  Angola - 11,161; Canada 1047; China 57,600; India 75984; Japan 3315; Russia 3631; Sweden 264; US 10,780. Family Feelings The end of physical dominance, of course, is not the end of life for men in middle age. Letting go of some outer strengths that defined their masculinity in First Adulthood is exactly what allows men to discover and nourish the inner strengths that will sustain them through Second Adulthood. Men who accept change find it releases them to move on and find a new life. New Passages The more children feel valuable, the more they will begin to say things of value. They will rise to your expectation of them. The Road Less Traveled The capacity of a family to strengthen, educate and enrich goes far beyond any measurable authority or influence. By its very nature, the family has an inherent power to foster human life. Soul Mates When shall we live, if not now? Achieve Your Dreams Things to Be Happy About:  The Memorial Day bash. Happy holidays. Dancin' in the moonlight. 14,000 Things to Be Happy About If you can't swim, wade. Really Important Stuff My Kids Have Taught Me By tuning into your messages, you learn what you truly need. When you choose to honor these answers, you can live a life based on your authentic inner knowing and feelings, thus getting away from feeling "the impostor syndrome."  Perhaps a doctor would be happier starting his life over and becoming a art dealer. Only he and his inner guide can be sure. If Life is a Game, These are the Rules  The Golden Rule says, "Do unto others as you would have others do unto you."  While on the surface that could mean to do for them what you would like to have done for you, I think the more essential meaning is to understand them deeply as individuals, the way you would want to be understood, and then to treat them in terms of that understanding. Seven Habits of Highly Effective People Make water your drink of choice. If you're eliminating coffee and caffeinated and carbonated drinks, remember they're highly addictive, so you'll need to brace yourself for the physical and psychological hazards accordingly. Start by cutting back by half for the first week, then by a quarter the second week. By the third week you should be able to quit altogether without adverse effects. Simplify Your Life An unnecessary source of stress is regret over what we never said or did when we had the chance. Show and tell your loved ones today how much they mean to you, before it's too late. Stress Busters Clean up with a litter patrol!  Gather friends, kids and trash bags, get on skates or bikes, and pick up all the litter you can see in your neighborhood. You'll have fun, and your block will be spotless. To Do Today Don't tell me how hard you work. Tell me how much you get done. - James Ling Win the Day! La chispa (CHEESpah)  Spark. Cuando se conocieron, volaron chispas. When they met, sparks flew. Living Language *SPECIAL to Keith R. Jarvis (1966) Keith is the Information Systems Director for the ManKind Project. eMail TODAY'S ISSUE: DISEASE Even as small children we are trained not to listen to our bodies or trust our sensations. - Gay Gaer Luce Human beings are so flexible, so teachable, we can be trained to ignore or suppress most of the responses of intelligent animals. We don't sniff one another when we meet, or run away from cars or buses, and we actively seek out music that deafens us and food that doesn't nourish us. We do this in the interests of civilization, because long ago as a species we came to value abstract things like language, comfort, safety, and beauty over the hard natural lives of our hominid ancestors. Do we give up too much? We're so good at denying our gut responses that sometimes we come to be quite out of touch with our real feelings. We abuse substances, stay in exploitative relationships, work at destructive jobs, at least partly because we've numbed ourselves to the pain these things cause - and we raise our children to do as we do. We also develop diseases - asthma, heart disease, migraine, ulcers - that express our bodies' anguish at being ignored. Getting back in touch with our feelings may mean changing the way we live, the way we relate to one another. No one can do it for us; each one of us must strike our own balance between the truth of the body and the demands of civilization. If I've learned the wrong lessons, today is a good time to begin teaching myself some right ones. Family Feelings Hey Man: Did you make a difference yesterday? Let us know at Contact Us. Take action to resolve problems. What Every Man Needs to Know Want to make a difference but you don't know where to start? BOOK OF THE WEEK Tragic Love by Tammy Rockett-Box and Mary Jane Rockett. A suspenseful and electribying story of a young man who engages in a forbidden love affair. From the beginning, the relationship is tumultuous and eventually the young man's life comes to a tragic ending. Evidence is overlooked and questions go unanswered as police investigators rule the death a suicide. However, the truth is right in front of their eyes, and it takes a tenacious mother and daughter to determine what really happened in the conclusion of the tragic love. Publish America, www.publishamerica.com ISBN 978-1-61582-293-5 SPECIAL URLs For Everyone: www.menstuff.org For Fathers: www.fatherstuff.org For Parents of Kids & Teens:  www.menstuff.org/kidstuff/current.html A site for fathers with lots of links of interest, along with general and safety information. Special calendar of Retreats for Your Kids. For Men's Health: www.healthstuff.us For Men's Issues: www.mensissues.us For Relationship: www.relationstuff.org For Sexstuff: www.letstalkaboutsex.org For Teensstuff: www.teensstuff.org For Testicular Cancer: www.tcaw.org For Prostate Cancer: www.pcaw.org For Men At Risk: www.menatrisk.org For Non Profit Men's Organizations: www.mencare.org   MENSTUFF COLUMNS BY AUTHOR The Advice Diva - The Advice Diva - relationship and sexuality issues discussed - www.menstuff.org/columns/advicediva/archive.html Peter Alsop - Song of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/alsop/archive.html Reid Baer - A Man Overboard - Interview of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/overboard/archive.html Reid Baer - Poetry - poetry read on YouTube - www.menstuff.org/columns/baer/archive.html Molly Barrow - Shrink About This - www.menstuff.org/columns/barrow/archive.html Peter Baylies - At Home Dads - on at-home-dad issues that impact fathers who stay at home to raise their kids - www.menstuff.org/columns/baylies/archive.html Tom Blake - Middle-Age Relationships - from an expert on dating after 50. www.menstuff.org/columns/blake/archive.html Mark Brandenburg - Great Fathers - on fathering issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/greatfathers/archive.html Ted Braude - BoysWork - a columnist in the The Detroit Free Press "Body and Mind" section www.menstuff.org/columns/braude/archive.html Armin Brott - A Father's Guide - hosts "Positive Parenting" on radio www.menstuff.org/columns/brott/archive.html Dan Bulf - Get Real - weekly pod cast on men's issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/bulf/archive.html Ken Byers - Transition - on men's life transitions - www.menstuff.org/columns/byers/archive.html Sandra L. Caron - Sex Talk - college students get answers to their questions - www.menstuff.org/columns/sextalk/archive.html Neil Chethik - Relationships - www.menstuff.org/columns/chethik/archive.html Otto & Susie Collins - Susie and Otto - relationship issues discussed - www.menstuff.org/columns/susie&otto/archive.html David Copeland - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html Forrest Craver - Spirituality & Social Change - www.menstuff.org/columns/craver/archive.html Layne & Paul Cutright - Powerful Partnerships - relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/cutright/archive.html Ron DesMarais - Cavemen in the Kitchen - great recipes for men - www.menstuff.org/columns/desmarais/archive.html Jed Diamond - Irritable Male Syndrome - www.menstuff.org/columns/diamond/archive.html Doc Love - Women Don't Lie, Man Don't Listen - answers to relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/doclov/archive.html Barry Durdant-Hollamby - Creating Change - creating change in your life - www.menstuff.org/columns/durdant/archive.html Irv Engel - The Real Deal - www.menstuff.org/columns/engel/archive.html Nancy Fagan - Expert Dating Advice - with Nancy Fagan - www.menstuf.org/columns/fagan/archive.html Warren Farrell - Men's Issues: Facts and Perspectives www.menstuff.org/columns/farrell/archive.html Leonard Felder - Wake Up or Break Up - www.menstuff.org/columns/felder/archive.html Marty Friedman - Strong Men, Strong Marriage - www.menstuff.org/columns/friedman/archive.html Kim Garretson - Mansgland - using humor to encourage prostate exams - www.menstuff.org/columns/mansgland/archive.html Lion Goodman - How to get Women to Love You - www.menstuff.org/columns/goodman/archive.html Liz Halliday - In a Man's World - www.menstuff.org/columns/halliday/archive.html Rick Hanson - Just One Thing - www.menstuff.org/columns/hanson/archive.html Tim Hartnett - Daddyman Speaks - being a father www.menstuff.org/columns/daddyman/archive.html John Hershey - Blood, Phlegm & Bile: Parenting with Humor - He writes a syndicated biweekly humor column about parenting and family life. www.menstuff.org/columns/hershey/archive.html Gary Hoeber - Psychotherapy as Soul Work, www.menstuff.org/columns/hoeber/archive.html Patrick Houser - Fathers Make a World of Difference, www.menstuff.org/columns/houser/archive.html Paul Joannides - The Guide to Getting It On - on sex - www.menstuff.org/columns/getiton/archive.html Jack Kahn - NOMAS Boston - www.menstuff.org/columns/kahn/archive.html Patrick Kennedy - Seniors - www.menstuff.org/columns/kennedy/archive.html Joe Kort - Gaydar - to increase understanding between gay and het men - www.menstuff.org/columns/kort/archive.html David Kundtz - David Kundtz - presents seminars, workshops, retreats, and conference presentations in the areas of men's emotional health, stress management, and spirituality. www.menstuff.org/columns/kundtz/archive.html Bruce Linton - Dr. Dad - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/drdad/archive.html Ron Louis - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html Tom Matlack - Tom Matlack - Good Men Project - www.menstuff.org/columns/matlack/archive.html Wendy McElroy - Wendy McElroy on Feminism, www.menstuff.org/columns/mcelroy/archive.html Robert N. Minor - Minor Details - on GBT sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/minordetails/archive.html Robert L. Moore - Man & Mythology - www.menstuff.org/columns/moore/archive.html Dennis W. Neder - Being a Man - general questions about men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/neder/archive.html Marty Nemko - Worklife - general questions about men and work - www.menstuff.org/columns/nemko/archive.html Eli Newberger - Eli Newberger - general information on men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/newberger/archive.html Linda Nielsen - Embracing the Father - working with the father/daughter relationship. www.menstuff.org/columns/nielsen/archive.html Kathy Noll - Bullies and Youth Violence - working with schools, teachers and parents to end school violence - www.menstuff.org/columns/noll/archive.html Mark Phillips - Stay-at-Home-Dads - helping men maintain that which makes us men, instead of becoming hairy Mom-substitutes - www.menstuff.org/columns/phillips/archive.html Carey Roberts - Socialism & Feminism - is a social commentator on political correctness. www.menstuff.org/columns/roberts/archive.html Perry Rose - Dating, Relationship, Sex Glenn Sacks - His Side - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/sacks/archive.html Trudy Schuett - Domestic Violence - serving the under-represented www.menstuff.org/columns/schuett/archive.html Carl J. Schutt - Circumcision - social commentator on circumcision - www.menstuff.org/columns/schutt/archive.html Hugo Schwyzer - A Pro-feminist's Response - www.menstuff.org/columns/schwyzer/archive.html Michael Shaffran - Men's Issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/shaffran/archive.html Judith Sherven - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html Judith Sherven - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html George Simons - Bellicose Veins - is a US specialist in intercultural and gender communication who hangs out in Mandelieu - la Napoule, France, as well as in Santa Cruz, CA. www.menstuff.org/columns/simons/archive.html Andy Smith - Hard Hat Brotherhood - www.menstuff.org/columns/hardhat/archive.html David B. Smith - Fighting Father Dave - www.menstuff.org/columns/smith/archive.html Jim Sniechowski - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html Jim Sniechowski - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html Reena Sommer - Custody - is an internationally recognized relationship and divorce consultant. www.menstuff.org/columns/sommer/archive.html R. Don Steele - Don Steele - relationship questions answered - www.menstuff.org/columns/steele/archive.html David Steinberg - Comes Naturally - on sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/steinberg/archive.html Mary Lou St Lucas - A Mother's Love - www.menstuf.org/columns/stlucas/archive.html Surprise - Surprise Author - From a new columnist every month - www.menstuff.org/columns/surprise/archive.html Steven Svoboda - Fatherhood, Activism and the Law www.menstuff.org/columns/svoboda/archive.html Michael Taylor - A New Conversation with Men - www.menstuff.org/columns/taylor/archive.html Bruce Van Horn - Yoga for Men - issues around the health benefits of yoga for men - www.menstuff.org/yoga/archive.html Michael Webb - Secrets of Blissful Relationships - on relationship - www.menstuff.org/columns/bliss/archive.html Stuart Wilde - Spirituality - www.menstuff.org/columns/wilde/archive.html Dr.Williams - Sex Health - on sexual health - Dr. Williams, www.menstuff.org/columns/sexhealth/archive.html KC Wilson - On Gender Politics is a social commentator and author. www.menstuff.org/columns/wilson/archive.html Plus Health Tips - on general health - www.menstuff.org/columns/healthtips/archive.html Independent Means - resources for raising financially fit kids - www.menstuff.org/columns/independentmeans/archive.html Numbers - www.menstuff.org/columns/numbers/archive.html Questions - www.menstuff.org/columns/q&a/archive.html Surprise - from a new columnist every month - www.menstuff.org/columns/surprise/archive.html Words Can Heal - helping children grow up healthy - www.menstuff.org/columns/wordscanheal/archive.html Wuzup?! - National or international events happening this month - www.menstuff.org/columns/whassup/archive.html AWARENESS EVENTS THIS MONTH May is: Skin Cancer Awareness, * Masturbation Month; Asian Pacific American Heritage;. Better Hearing and Speech; Better Sleep; Correct Posture; Creative Beginnings; Family Support; Foster Care; Get Caught Reading; Helping American Youth; National Allergy/Asthma Awareness; National Arthritis; National Barbecue; Good Car-Keeping; Hepatitis Awareness; Mental Health; Osteoporosis Prevention; Physical Fitness and Sports; Recommitment; Scholarship; Self-Discovery; Senior Citizens Month , Senior Travel; Sight-Saving; Stroke Awareness; Teaching and Joy, Teen Pregnancy Prevention, Tuberous; Sclerosis Awareness; *Older Americans; Personal History Awareness; Revise Your Work Schedule; and Strike Out Strokes Month. The most tornados happen in May. May 14-Jun 18: National Family Month. Apr 29-May 5: *National Science & Technology Week. May 1-7: Cartoon Art Appreciation Week. May 5-11: National Nurses Day and Week. May 6-12: Be Kind to Animals; Flexible Work Arrangements; *Jewish Heritage; National Family; National Pet; PTA Teacher Appreciation; Suicide Awareness; Wildflower; and Teacher Appreciation Week. May 7-13 National Etiquette; and National Herb Week. May 13-219: National Medical Services; *Nat Police; *National Transportation; and *World Trade Week. May 19-25: *National Safe Boating Week. May 20-26: Good Stewardship; International Reggae Music; National New Friends-Old Friends; and, National Reflexology Awareness Week. May 21-28: Buckle Up America; and, National Backyard Games Week. May 1: May Day observed since ancient times and has become Labor Day in most countries except the U.S., Bermuda and Canada. Kindness Day, Teen Day, Freedom Riders Anniversary, Executive Coaching Day. *Law Day. *Loyalty Day. Peace of Mind Day. 40th Anniversary of the U-2 Incident with Francis Gary Powers. May 2: Holocaust Rememberance Day. May 6:: National Day of Hearing Testing. May 8: V-E Day 55th Anniversary, World Red Cross Day, May 9: National Receptionests Day, National Teachers Day. May 10: National Small Business Day. May 12: Chronic Fatigue Awareness Day May 14: *Mother's Day. May 15: *Peace Officer Memorial Day May 19: *National Defense Transportation Day. National Bike to Work Day. May 20: *Armed Forces Day. May 21: National Waitstaff Day, Neighbor Day Youth Against Violence. May 22: *National Maritime Day. May 25: National Missing Children's Day. May 26: Morning Radio Wise Guy Day. May 28:  Ancestor Honor Day. Memorial Day. (celebrated on Monday the *29th Memorial Day Prayer for Peace requests flying the flag at half-staff for the customary forenoon period.) May 31: National Senior Health and Fitness Day. World No-Tobacco Day. * Means a Presidential Proclamation was made. 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