Daily Thoughts & Issues

IN THIS ISSUE:

JULY 28

Days left until the next millennium 01.01.3001

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July 28 - Independence Day in Peru. * Day the Constitution's 14th Amendment went into effect, guaranteeing due process and equal protection of the law to all (1868) * Day the world's nations agreed to provide asylum to those persecuted in their homelands on account of their ethnicity, religion or political opinion (1951) The Mystic's Wheel of the Year * So, in 1932 some 15,000 unemployed American veterans of World War 1 marched on Washington, DC demanding payment of a war bonus. After two months' encampment in Washington's Anacostia Flats, eviction was ordered by President Herbert Hoover by the US Army. Under the leadership of General Douglas MacArthur, Major Dwight D. Eisenhower and Major George S. Patton, Jr. (among others) these unemployed war vets speaking their political opinion were attacked with cavalry, tanks and infantry, fixed bayonets, tear gas and the burning of the veterans' tents. * More than 42,000 civilians were killed in 1943 when 2,326 tons of bombs predominantly incendiaries, were dropped on Hamburg, Germany by the Allies. At the center of the firestorm the winds uprooted trees and flames burned either square miles in the eight hours the fire lasted. A firestorm occurs when the fires in a given area become so intense they devour all the oxygen nearby and suck more into themselves creating hurricane-force winds which feed the fires and move them at great speeds. * The start of World War I. Archduke Francis Ferdinand of Austria-Hungary and his wife were assassinated at Sarajevo, Bosnia by a Serbian nationalist touching off the conflict that became WWI. Austria-Hungary declared war on Serbia, Germany entered on the side of Austria-Hungary and Russia, France and Great Britain on the side of Serbia. Walla World War I. * And, President Johnson announces a doubling of the draft and the number of U.S. troops in South Vietnam (1965). * Finally, some good news. It's Terry Fox Day: With cancer requiring amputation of his right leg at age 18, he determined to devote his life to a fight against the disease. His "Marathon of Hope" a planned 5,200-mile run westward across Canada started at St. John's Newfoundland and continued 3,328 miles to Thunder Bay, Ontario when he was forced to stop by spread of the disease. During the run (on an artificial leg) he raised $24 million for cancer research and inspired millions with his courage. So, you don't think you can make a difference. Please, think again. * The first Singing Telegraph (1933) was said to have been delivered to singer Rudy Valle on his 32nd birthday. Early singing telegrams often were delivered in person by uniformed messengers on bicycle. Later they were usually sung over the telephone. Now it's a singing e-mail. * Ranger 7 (US) an unmanned moon probe, transmitted back to Earth 4,308 close-up photographs of the moon. * Skylab 3 started a 59-day mission (1973) in the space station to test man;s space flight endurance. * Birthdays: William Warren (Bill) Bradley, Jim Davis, Terry Fox, Thomas Heyward, Darryl Hickman, Jacques Piccard, Rudy Vallee, Rick Wright.

DAILY THOUGHTS

Conversation is the kind of talk in which one feels one is really living. Soul Mates

Hay, Hay, Hay. Once symbolic of a good harvest, hay also has superstitions attached to it. Wish on a wagon load of hay for luck, but if the hay is baled, you'll have to wait until the bales are opened for the wish to come true. To fail to wish on it would be bad luck. The Old Farmer's Almanac

On August 2, 1847 William A Leidesdorff launches the first steamboat in San Francisco Bay. African American History

The difficulty that humans so generally seem to have in fully appreciating the separateness of those they are close to interferes not only with their parenting but with all their intimate relationships, including marriage. The Road Less Traveled

In a moment of decision, the best thing to do is the right thing to do. The worst things to do is nothing. - Theodore Roosevelt. Achieve Your Dreams

Things to Be Happy About:  An empty seat when you need one. A cold night in July. Sentimental reasons. 14,000 Things to Be Happy About

It's more fun to ask questions than to answer them. Really Important Stuff My Kids Have Taught Me

 When you accept the lessons that life brings you, no matter how unpleasant or challenging they may be, you take the crucial first step toward finding your true self and your purpose. You begin to cultivate the essential attitude of openness. If Life is a Game, These are the Rules

Often when people are really given the chance to open up, they unravel their own problems, and solutions become clear to them in the process. Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

Sometimes when the pressures of the world get to be too much, leave it. Sit quietly wherever you are, close your eyes, breathe deeply for a couple of minutes, and get centered. Then imagine yourself moving up, higher and higher, until the earth is a tiny globe and you are above it all. Free., Enjoy this freedom for as long as you can, then gradually return to earth and to yourself.  Simplify Your Life

Set meetable, beatable deadlines when promising work for others. You'll feel less stress if you plan for more time to finish a project than you expect you'll need. This way you can feel good when you give your boss or client the finished work sooner than you promised. Plus, if something takes longer than expected, you've given yourself some leeway and are more likely to meet the deadline.  Stress Busters

Shrinking a submarine sandwich for your kids if they can't eat a big one. Just use a hot dog bun, but keep the same fixings on it. It'll taste like a real sub sandwich. To Do Today

When you come to a roadblock, take a detour. - Mary Kay Ash Win the Day!

Make Chores More Fun for All:  When my daughter was about 8 years old, motivating her to do chores was a challenge. So I occasionally placed coins under or near various items in the room she was cleaning; that kept her eager to get the job done. As she got older, I'd sometimes plant dollar bills, too. She was allowed to keep the money if she'd done a good job; if not, she returned it and I'd hide it again. She became quite meticulous at her chores!  Parents Tips & Tricks

Hechizar (ehcheeSAHR) To case a spell on, to captivate. Le hechizo su belleza. He was captivated by her beauty. Living Language

TODAY'S ISSUE: STUBBORNESS

Indeed, this need of individuals to be right is so great that they are willing to sacrifice themselves, their relationships and even love for it - Reuel Howe. We may have an inner drive to be right - and even to prove we are right. We often have been expected to know about the world and how things work, as if our manhood were tied to knowing. So, when we don't know the right answer, or when a person disagrees with us, we may get upset because we feel our masculine honor is in question. We should always remember that our honor requires being honest, not being right. Our masculinity is being true to ourselves as men, not being invincible. Demanding that our opinions always be accepted as right is destructive to our relationships. It cuts us off from people we love, and becomes hostile and selfish. We are learning to allow room for differences; we can love and respect people we disagree with. And we all have a right to be wrong part of the time. I don't have to have all the right answers. Today, my ideas are just one man's honest thoughts. Touchstones

There is no greater weakness than stubbornness. If you cannot yield, if you cannot learn that there must be compromise in life - you lose. Maxwell Maltz. Glass is very hard, but fragile. By contrast, leather is tough and resilient. A blow to a glass disk will break it, but a blow to a shoe will just be absorbed. Our program leads us to avoid the folly of being hard like glass and we become more tough like leather. We must endure surprises, pressures, and blows from the world as a normal part of life. The more able we are to absorb the blows, the stronger and more whole we are as men. A friend who has a different opinion from ours can be listened to and his ideas considered. There is no need to compete with him or prove that we are right. When our plan for a project at work gets set aside, we will feel the frustration but we need not come apart over it. Perhaps our Higher Power is leading us to a better plan. Frustrations with spouses or friends can be turned over to our Higher Power. We do not have a rigid recipe for life, and we must be open to more learning. I will surrender my fragile stubbornness in exchange for the toughness I can learn in compromise. Touchstones

Hey Man: Did you make a difference yesterday? Let us know at Contact Us. Challenge yourself to become a better listener. What Every Man Needs to Know Want to make a difference but you don't know where to start?

BOOK OF THE WEEK

How to Be the One by Roy Sheppard. For men and women who take relationships seriously. Which of these qualities are the most important to you? Do you want someone who is kind, considerate, committed, honest, reliable, loving, compassionate, happy, interesting, optimistic, GSOH, intelligent and physically attractive? How many of these same qualities do you possess? Why would anyone choose to stop their own search once they've met you? Especially in today's online world where almost everyone is now only a click away from being the "ex" in "n-ex-t". In this book, you will learn how to improve your Emotional Fitness by strengthening your Emotional Core: the four qualities that provide you with the emotional stability, depth, and strength to make you as irresistible to a partner as they are to you. Adopt and absorb life-changing wisdom, insights and practical ideas to improve your current relationship or prepare yourself for The One you have yet to meet. www.RoySpeaks.com, 2010 Centre www.BeTheOneBook.com, ISBN 978-1901534139

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AWARENESS EVENTS THIS MONTH

July is Freedom Month. If you enjoy the benefits this country has to offer, you might check out what kind of men it took to found this country. The Fourth of July has more to it than beer, picnics, and baseball games. Read this! July is Anti-Boredom; National Mobility; Purposeful Parenting: Recreation and Parks; The month of the Muslim new year; Hemochromatosis Screening Awareness; National Foreign Language Month.

June 27 - July 4: Special Recreation Week. June 25-July 1: Deaf-Blindness Awareness Week. June 27 - July 4: Special Recreation Week. Jul 1-8 Music for Life; July 3-Aug 15: Air Conditioning Appreciation Days. Jul 4-10 - Freedom Week. July 8:-14: National Laundry Workers; National Therapeutic Recreation: Take Charge of Change Week. Jul 9-15 - Nude Recreation. July 15-21: *Captive Nations; Legal Revolution; National Plan to Promote Your Business Week. Jul 1 UN Day of Cooperation; International Joke; National Financial Freedom; National Recreation and Parks; National Purposeful Parenting, Jul 2 - I Forgot; Ducktona 500 Day; July 3: Compliment Your Mirror: Stay Out of the Sun Day. Jul 4 - Independence Day (U.S.); American Redneck; Fear from Fear of Speaking ; Independence-from-Meat Day; Sidewalk Egg Frying; Jul 5 - National Family Day, July 7: Father-Daughter Take a Walk Together; International UN Day of Cooperation. July 9: Don't Step on a Bee Day. July 10: Intern Appreciation Day. July 13: Skeptics' Day. July 14: Cow Apprecaition Day. July 15: National Ice Cream; Saint Swithin's Day. July 16: International Town Criers; Naitonal Get Out of the Doghouse Day. July 17: Wrong Way Corrigan Day. Jul 20 - Ugly Truck; Riot Act anniversary. July 21: Rat-Catchers Day. Jul 22 - Ice Cream Cone Day. July 23: Hot Enough For Ya Day. July 24: Cousins; Health and Happiness with Hypnosis Day. Jul 27 - *National Korean War Veterans Armistice; Take Your Houseplants for a Walk Day. July 29: *Parents' Day. Jul 30 - Father-In-Law Day, National Parent's Day.

* Means a Presidential Proclamation has been made.

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