Daily Thoughts & Issues IN THIS ISSUE: JUNE 3 Daily Thoughts Book of the Day Book of the Week Photo of the Week Today's Issue: Sex Roles, Social Theory Tomorrow's Issue: Culture, humor, the media, music, poetry, writings. See the list of the issues for International Men's Month. Menstuff columns by Author Awareness events this month Upcoming Men's Events Days left until the next millennium 01.01.3001 Photo of the Week Chris McLennan/Adventure Photo & Film Achieve Your Dreams June 3 - International Men's Month. * Fishing Week. * Jack Jouett made a heroic 45-mile, 6 1/2 hour ride on horseback during the night of June 3-4, 1781 to warn Virginia Governor Thomas Jefferson and the legislature that the British were coming. * Mighty Casey has Struck Out (1888). * Mount Chimborazo, Ecuador, near the equator, pokes farther out into space than any other mountain on earth, including Mount Everest. (The distance from sea level at the equator to the center of the earth is 13 miles greater than the radius to sea level at the north pole. This means that New Orleans is about six miles further from the center of the earth than is Lake Itasca at the headwaters of the Mississippi, so the Mississippi flows uphill.) * Almost 191,500 Cuban refugees have fled to the U.S. since mid-April. Castro is accused of emptying his jails and mental institutions in 1980. * Space Milestone: Edward White is the first American to space walk (1965). He maneuvered 20 minutes outside the capsule. * Birthdays: Curtis Mayfield, Allen Ginsberg, Charles Richard Drew, Chuck Barris, Bernard (Tony Curtis) Schwartz, William Home, Charles Hart, Hale S Irwin, Scott Valentine DAILY THOUGHTS The Mediterranean island of Malta helps its first gay pride celebration in June of 1996. The event featured a film festival, health forum and musical and comedy shows. Gay & Lesbian Calendar How much closer to divinity can we come than to bring new life into existence and to play a fundamental role in making that life meaningful, creative, individual and communal?   Soul Mates On this day in 1972, Angela Davis is acquitted by a jury of eleven whites and one Mexican American of murder, kidnapping and criminal conspiracy charges. African American History When your child has finished a time out, completed the number of days of being grounded, or any other punishment you imposed, praise them for completing the punishment - no lecture, no apologies, just praise. Clean the slate and start over. Dr. Buff's 365 Day Parenting Calendar Lick my hand between my fingers - Annie 21 Best of 1001 Sex Secrets Every Man & Woman Should Know Things to Be Happy About:  A camp photograph. Silent surroundings. Sitting in the bleachers. 14,000 Things to Be Happy About Sometimes the biggest apple has the biggest worm. Really Important Stuff My Kids Have Taught Me When you stop comparing what is right here and now with what you wish here, you can begin to enjoy what is. - Cheri Huber.  If Life is a Game, These are the Rules Do some "kid stuff" once in a while, just for the fun of it:  swing on a swing, play a game, fill the air with soap bubbles, have a water balloon or pillow fight, play make-believe. Stress Busters  Teach your kids this wet version of hide-and-seek. You'll need a spray bottle. One person is It. It courts to 30 while everyone else hides. When It finds someone, It gives them a short shower with the spray bottle. To Do Today  Your opponent is yourself, your negative internal voices, your level of determination. - Grace Lichtenstein. Win the Day! La babeza (kahBEHsah) Head. Tengo dolor de cabeza. I have a headache. Living Language TODAY'S ISSUE: SEX ROLES & SOCIAL THEORY Each culture has a different way of raising its children. And within those cultures, there are many variations. But some things remain fairly well accepted by most within the culture, thereby establishing the concept of "society" or agreements often that we don't agree with but think everyone else has so we don't challenge their validity. And some of those ways constrict the human spirit, individuality and freedom. It has been noted that for a culture that prides itself on individuality, we have more rules, laws and ordinances limiting individuality than those cultures that don't have the individual (separate) model of being. They see themselves as an integral part of community and, therefore, don't have to have laws restricting individual expression. Appropriate manners, appropriate conversation, appropriate dress, the "shoulds" and "suppose-tos" of our culture. Often felt to be like a noose growing tighter on the neck as the child grows into the adult, choking out the spirit like a bridle and saddle smother the wild stallion. Much of psychology has been bent on keeping the individual in a culture box versus freeing the butterfly to fly, in that unexplained way butterfly's fly. It has been reported that some grade school classes have nearly 80% of their students on ritalin. Another way to break the stallion, break the individual, keep them and their spirit and their creativity in a box. Do things the way they've always been done so we don't have to deal with change, or a new way. Forget if it's a better way. Computers may be the biggest break for freedom that's come along since chastity belts. Allowing and encouraging the individual to come back in, get expressed, and find their own place in the world. This is particularly relevant to men who find the restrictions in so many corporations limiting their families lives and their quality time with their mate and children. We're calling back in the individual and asking you "Why are you on this earth?" To save redwoods, or whales, or insects, or dyeing species, or to devote more time to children, even if you don't have any, to show them there is a better way, to provide a picture of hope for their long and healthy lives, to break some of the chains we passed down and not pass down some others given to us by our parents. Pride Divide, is not only a well produced historical video venture into the division between the gay and lesbian communities but an interesting perspective on how much more compatible men are to men and women are to women without having to change or be something that they aren't to be accepted, as often happens in other sex relationships. Natural compatibility. Just guys being guys with guys (pleasure), and women being women with women (relationship). A very interesting concept, regardless of your sexual orientation. See Issues - Provider and some books for reference: Men's Lives, Mythology, Sexism, Sex Roles, Social Theory, Therapy, Warrior Hey Man: Did you make a difference yesterday? Let us know at Contact Us. Something to consider. Be aware of song lyrics floating in your mind. Pop songs are the people's poetry. The songs you hum are a key to tuning into your emotions. When you hear a lyric in your head, listen to it, and ask yourself what it tells you about how you are feeling right then. What Every Man Needs to Know Want to make a difference but you don't know where to start? BOOK OF THE DAY A New Conversation with Men, Michael Taylor BOOK OF THE WEEK Reducing Infant Mortality and Improving the Health of Babies. A documentary film supporting maternal/infant health care. The societal economic cost for preterm births is over $26 billion a year: almost $17 billion in medical care services, $6 billion in lost household and labor productivity, another $2 billion in maternal delivery costs, a little over $1 billion in special education care for disabling conditions, and over $600 million in early intervention services. This film is at the forefront of the birth revolution in America! It is a must-see for everyone who cares about birth in America today and particularly expectant parents., DVD, 2009 www.reducinginfantmortality.com, debtaki@yahoo.com (free)   MENSTUFF COLUMNS BY AUTHOR The Advice Diva - The Advice Diva - relationship and sexuality issues discussed - www.menstuff.org/columns/advicediva/archive.html Peter Alsop - Song of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/alsop/archive.html Reid Baer - A Man Overboard - Interview of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/overboard/archive.html Reid Baer - Poetry - poetry read on YouTube - www.menstuff.org/columns/baer/archive.html Molly Barrow - Shrink About This - www.menstuff.org/columns/barrow/archive.html Peter Baylies - At Home Dads - on at-home-dad issues that impact fathers who stay at home to raise their kids - www.menstuff.org/columns/baylies/archive.html Tom Blake - Middle-Age Relationships - from an expert on dating after 50. www.menstuff.org/columns/blake/archive.html Mark Brandenburg - Great Fathers - on fathering issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/greatfathers/archive.html Ted Braude - BoysWork - a columnist in the The Detroit Free Press "Body and Mind" section www.menstuff.org/columns/braude/archive.html Armin Brott - A Father's Guide - hosts "Positive Parenting" on radio www.menstuff.org/columns/brott/archive.html Dan Bulf - Get Real - weekly pod cast on men's issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/bulf/archive.html Ken Byers - Transition - on men's life transitions - www.menstuff.org/columns/byers/archive.html Sandra L. Caron - Sex Talk - college students get answers to their questions - www.menstuff.org/columns/sextalk/archive.html Neil Chethik - Relationships - www.menstuff.org/columns/chethik/archive.html Otto & Susie Collins - Susie and Otto - relationship issues discussed - www.menstuff.org/columns/susie&otto/archive.html David Copeland - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html Forrest Craver - Spirituality & Social Change - www.menstuff.org/columns/craver/archive.html Layne & Paul Cutright - Powerful Partnerships - relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/cutright/archive.html Ron DesMarais - Cavemen in the Kitchen - great recipes for men - www.menstuff.org/columns/desmarais/archive.html Jed Diamond - Irritable Male Syndrome - www.menstuff.org/columns/diamond/archive.html Doc Love - Women Don't Lie, Man Don't Listen - answers to relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/doclov/archive.html Barry Durdant-Hollamby - Creating Change - creating change in your life - www.menstuff.org/columns/durdant/archive.html Irv Engel - The Real Deal - www.menstuff.org/columns/engel/archive.html Nancy Fagan - Expert Dating Advice - with Nancy Fagan - www.menstuf.org/columns/fagan/archive.html Warren Farrell - Men's Issues: Facts and Perspectives www.menstuff.org/columns/farrell/archive.html Leonard Felder - Wake Up or Break Up - www.menstuff.org/columns/felder/archive.html Marty Friedman - Strong Men, Strong Marriage - www.menstuff.org/columns/friedman/archive.html Kim Garretson - Mansgland - using humor to encourage prostate exams - www.menstuff.org/columns/mansgland/archive.html Lion Goodman - How to get Women to Love You - www.menstuff.org/columns/goodman/archive.html Liz Halliday - In a Man's World - www.menstuff.org/columns/halliday/archive.html Rick Hanson - Your Wise Brain - www.menstuff.org/columns/hanson/archive.html Tim Hartnett - Daddyman Speaks - being a father www.menstuff.org/columns/daddyman/archive.html John Hershey - Blood, Phlegm & Bile: Parenting with Humor - He writes a syndicated biweekly humor column about parenting and family life. www.menstuff.org/columns/hershey/archive.html Gary Hoeber - Psychotherapy as Soul Work, www.menstuff.org/columns/hoeber/archive.html Patrick Houser - Fathers Make a World of Difference, www.menstuff.org/columns/houser/archive.html Paul Joannides - The Guide to Getting It On - on sex - www.menstuff.org/columns/getiton/archive.html Jack Kahn - NOMAS Boston - www.menstuff.org/columns/kahn/archive.html Patrick Kennedy - Seniors - www.menstuff.org/columns/kennedy/archive.html Joe Kort - Gaydar - to increase understanding between gay and het men - www.menstuff.org/columns/kort/archive.html David Kundtz - David Kundtz - presents seminars, workshops, retreats, and conference presentations in the areas of men's emotional health, stress management, and spirituality. www.menstuff.org/columns/kundtz/archive.html Bruce Linton - Dr. Dad - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/drdad/archive.html Ron Louis - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html Tom Matlack - Tom Matlack - Good Men Project - www.menstuff.org/columns/matlack/archive.html Wendy McElroy - Wendy McElroy on Feminism, www.menstuff.org/columns/mcelroy/archive.html Robert N. Minor - Minor Details - on GBT sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/minordetails/archive.html Robert L. Moore - Man & Mythology - www.menstuff.org/columns/moore/archive.html Dennis W. Neder - Being a Man - general questions about men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/neder/archive.html Marty Nemko - Worklife - general questions about men and work - www.menstuff.org/columns/nemko/archive.html Eli Newberger - Eli Newberger - general information on men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/newberger/archive.html Linda Nielsen - Embracing the Father - working with the father/daughter relationship. www.menstuff.org/columns/nielsen/archive.html Kathy Noll - Bullies and Youth Violence - working with schools, teachers and parents to end school violence - www.menstuff.org/columns/noll/archive.html Mark Phillips - Stay-at-Home-Dads - helping men maintain that which makes us men, instead of becoming hairy Mom-substitutes - www.menstuff.org/columns/phillips/archive.html Carey Roberts - Socialism & Feminism - is a social commentator on political correctness. www.menstuff.org/columns/roberts/archive.html Perry Rose - Dating, Relationship, Sex Glenn Sacks - His Side - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/sacks/archive.html Trudy Schuett - Domestic Violence - serving the under-represented www.menstuff.org/columns/schuett/archive.html Carl J. Schutt - Circumcision - social commentator on circumcision - www.menstuff.org/columns/schutt/archive.html Hugo Schwyzer - A Pro-feminist's Response - www.menstuff.org/columns/schwyzer/archive.html Michael Shaffran - Men's Issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/shaffran/archive.html Judith Sherven - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html Judith Sherven - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html George Simons - Bellicose Veins - is a US specialist in intercultural and gender communication who hangs out in Mandelieu - la Napoule, France, as well as in Santa Cruz, CA. www.menstuff.org/columns/simons/archive.html Andy Smith - Hard Hat Brotherhood - www.menstuff.org/columns/hardhat/archive.html David B. Smith - Fighting Father Dave - www.menstuff.org/columns/smith/archive.html Jim Sniechowski - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html Jim Sniechowski - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html Reena Sommer - Custody - is an internationally recognized relationship and divorce consultant. www.menstuff.org/columns/sommer/archive.html R. Don Steele - Don Steele - relationship questions answered - www.menstuff.org/columns/steele/archive.html David Steinberg - Comes Naturally - on sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/steinberg/archive.html Mary Lou St Lucas - A Mother's Love - www.menstuf.org/columns/stlucas/archive.html Surprise - Surprise Author - From a new columnist every month - www.menstuff.org/columns/surprise/archive.html Steven Svoboda - Fatherhood, Activism and the Law www.menstuff.org/columns/svoboda/archive.html Michael Taylor - A New Conversation with Men - www.menstuff.org/columns/taylor/archive.html Bruce Van Horn - Yoga for Men - issues around the health benefits of yoga for men - www.menstuff.org/yoga/archive.html Michael Webb - Secrets of Blissful Relationships - on relationship - www.menstuff.org/columns/bliss/archive.html Stuart Wilde - Spirituality - www.menstuff.org/columns/wilde/archive.html Dr.Williams - Sex Health - on sexual health - Dr. Williams, www.menstuff.org/columns/sexhealth/archive.html KC Wilson - On Gender Politics is a social commentator and author. www.menstuff.org/columns/wilson/archive.html Plus Health Tips - on general health - www.menstuff.org/columns/healthtips/archive.html Independent Means - resources for raising financially fit kids - www.menstuff.org/columns/independentmeans/archive.html Numbers - www.menstuff.org/columns/numbers/archive.html Questions - www.menstuff.org/columns/q&a/archive.html Surprise - from a new columnist every month - www.menstuff.org/columns/surprise/archive.html Words Can Heal - helping children grow up healthy - www.menstuff.org/columns/wordscanheal/archive.html Wuzup?! - National or international events happening this month - www.menstuff.org/columns/whassup/archive.html AWARENESS EVENTS THIS MONTH June is Adopt-A-Shelter Cat; Cancer from the Sun; Children's Awareness; Entrepreneurs "Do It Yourself" Marketing; Fireworks Safety; *Gay & Lesbian Pride Coming Out Month - Time to celebrate all forms of love and family; International Men's; International People Skills; National Bless-a-Child; National Burglary Prevention; National Rivers; National Safety; National Scleroderma Awareness; Rebuild Your Life; Student Safety; Vision Research and National Headache Awareness Month. Jun 1-30 is International Men's Month - See List of Men's Issues & Book of the Day. Each day at "Today" on our home page, we will be presenting information on a different men's issue. The issue changes each day at midnight, so check in to learn more about "Men's Issues" and men's lives. We will also have a Book of the Day concerning that issue. This might be the perfect time to sign up for our free newsletter which will bring all of this to you each morning. Spread the word and let everyone in your address book know. May 14-Jun 18: National Family Month. Week of June 1-7: International Volunteers; Stepparents Week. June 2-9: National Homeownership Week. June 2-10: National Fishing Week. June 3-9: Black Single Parents, National Hug Holiday, *Small Business Week. June 7-14: Nurses Assistants Day and Week. June 10-16: *National Flag Week. June 11-17:  Meet a Mate, *National Little League Baseball; National Men's Health Week in the U.S. and Canada. June 13-20: National Hermit Week. June 17-23: National Forgiveness; Universal Father's Week. June 17-24: Amateur Radio Week. June 18-22:  Take Your Pet to Work Week. June 24-30: Carpenter Any Awareness; Helen Keller Deaf-Blindness Awareness Week. June 27 - July 4: Special Recreation Week. June 1: National New Year's Resolution Recommitment; Stand for Children Day that encourages individuals to improve children's lives. www.stand.org. June 1-2 Donut; Partner's Day - Day to give thanks to your spouse/partner for precious love shared. June 2: Mindfulness; National Trails Day; June 3: Children's Awareness, June 4: United Nationals International Day of Innocent Children Victims of Aggression. June 5: Alternative Officing, National Family, United Nations World Environment Day - Day to mourn the harm done to the earth (past and present), make reparation and celebrate its beauty. June 9: Take a Kid Fishing Weekend. June 10: Abused Women and Children's Awareness Day; Alcoholics Anonymous founded. Children's Sunday. June 11:  Race Unity Day. June 14: *Flag Day,  Family History; Sustainable Development Day - Day the world's nations committed to sustainable development (1992). June 15: Magna Carta Day. June 16: *Father's Day, Family Awareness, United Nations World Day to Combat Desertification and Drought, Join Hands Day. June 19: National Splurge; Still Need to Do; World Sauntering Day. June 20:  World Juggling; Toad Hollow Day of Thank You. June 21:  Baby Boomers Recognition Day. June 23: Let It Go Day. June 24: Celebration of the Senses; America's Kids Day. June 26: UN International Day in Support of Victims of Torture; United Nations International Day Against Drug Abuse and Illicit Trafficking; National Columnist's Day. June 27: National HIV Testing; Special Recreation for Disabled, Decide to Be Married Day. June 28: Stonewall Riots - (1969), day to mourn victims of homophobia (past and present), make peace, and celebrate lesbian and gay empowerment. June 29: Peter & Paul Day. June 30: Descendants Day.  *    *    * Men are so competitive that we even "out-die" women in all 15 of the major causes of death in the U.S. Most of these deaths are preventable with a positive change in life-style, eating habits, and/or general health care. Let's not strive so hard to hold on to this record. See what you can change now to live a healthier life. Contact Us | Disclaimer | Privacy Statement Menstuff® Directory Menstuff® is a registered trademark of Gordon Clay ©1996-2023, Gordon Clay