Daily Thoughts & Issues

IN THIS ISSUE:

SEPTEMBER 2

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It's Prostate Cancer Awareness Month. Remember to visit "Today" during the week of September 19-25. It's Prostate Cancer Awareness Week and we will feature a different issue each day concerning prostate cancer.

September 2 - Independence Day in Viet Nam. *  Japan signs a formal document of surrender aboard the U.S.S. Missouri in Tokyo Bay (1945). *The Great Fire of London (1666) began on Pudding Lane in a wooden house of a baker named Farryner near the Tower and destroyed 13,000 house and 85% of London's buildings, though it is believed that only six lives were lost in the fire. Until that time, church parishes had been responsible for putting out fires, but from then until the mid-nineteenth century, London insurance companies hired their own fire brigades. Consequently, their firefighters would douse a fire at a patron's building and, at times, leave a neighbor's structure ablaze. Metal badges, still seen on some London buildings, indicated the owner's insurance status. They were displayed for firemen, as street numbering did not exist until the 1940s. * Iranian Earthquake (1962), their biggest earthquake since 1775, destroyed 31 villages covering 8,000 square miles. More than 10,000 people died in the massive quake, 10,000 were injured and 25,000 people were left homeless. * V-J Day (Victory over Japan Day) 1945 official ratification of Japanese surrender to the Allies occurred abroad the U.S.S. Missouri at Tokyo Bay. * Calendar Adjustment Day - pursuant to the British Calendar Act of 1751, Britain (and the American colonies) made the "Gregorian Correction" in 1972. The Act proclaimed that the day following Wednesday, September 2, should become Thursday, September 14, 1972. There was rioting in the streets by those who felt cheated and who demanded the eleven days back. The Act also provided that New Year's Day (and the change of year number) should fall January 1 (instead of March 25) in 1752 and every year thereafter. * Birthdays:   Gandhi', James Forten, Nathaniel (Tiny) Archibald, Terry Paxton Bradshaw, Jimmy Connors, Eric Demetric Dickerson, Mark Harmon, Keanu Reeves, John Thompson, Peter Victor Ueberroth, Carlos Valderrama.

DAILY THOUGHTS

Think so?  "I think I think; therefore I think I am." Ambrose Bierce (1842-1914?) "To think is to differ." - Clarence Darrow (1857-1938) "Thinking is the most unhealthy thing in the world." Oscar Wilde (1854-1900) "He thinks too much; such men are dangerous."  William Shakespeare (1564-1616) The Old Farmer's Almanac

Rule of thinking:  Children and adults do not think alike. Always explain to a child on his or her level. Dr. Buff's 365 Day Parenting Calendar

It does no good to shun Aphrodite's temptations as illusory. The exquisite truth of her myth is the paradox that life thrives on the illusions it spins. Soul Mates

To develop a broader vision we must be willing to forsake, to kill, our narrower vision. In the short run it is more comfortable not to do this - to stay where we are, to keep using the same microcosmic map, to avoid suffering a=the death of cherished notions. The road of spiritual growth, however, lies in the opposite direction. We begin by distrusting what we already believe, by actively seeking the threatening and unfamiliar, by deliberately challenging the validity of what we have previously been taught and hold dear. The path of holiness lies through questioning everything. The Road Less Traveled Calendar

I tell my husband I've hidden a green M&M somewhere on my body. He has to find it in the dark with his tongue - Di, 32 In addition to our wedding anniversary, we celebrate the first time we made love with sexy gifts and a wild night of passionate sex. - Cory, 32 Best of 1001 Sex Secrets Every Man & Woman Should Know

What strengths have we accumulated to take with us into the Age of Integrity, the sixties, and beyond?  Resilience is probably the most important protection one can have. People who have met and mastered most of the passages and predictable crises of life up to now are, by definition, resilient. New Passages

Things to Be Happy About:  Cash back on a new car. Gearing up for fall. Soccer in the sun. 14,000 Things to Be Happy About

Looking at something up-side-down. Really Important Stuff My Kids Have Taught Me

There are times when you may be unable to locate the reservoir of courage stored inside you. That is when you will need to draw on the support of loved ones around you. You can borrow the courage you need from other people who believe in you strongly to get you through the phases of temporary amnesia when you forget your own abilities and tenacity.  If Life is a Game, These are the Rules

In September, 1997, the Tokyo High Court issued a decision in Japan's first gay-rights lawsuit. The court ruled in favor of a gay youth group that had filed suit claiming their members had been unconstitutionally denied access to a city-run youth hostel. Gay & Lesbian Calendar

It's not too early to begin thinking about simplifying the holidays. Simplify Your Life

Taking responsibility for your own feelings is empowering. Begin to consciously choose your own response to whatever happens, rather than viewing yourself as a victim of circumstance.  Stress Busters

1 Year - Declarations of Independence. During the second year of life your once-dependent in fact becomes a toddler eager to explore their world. At first they believe they are King or Queen, but soon start discovering the limits of their powers. More than anything, beginning to walk sets the stage for their development as a separate person with their own identity. Mastery of their body, the capacity to investigate the wider world, and the ability to run away from your give your toddler a great sense of power. Parents Tips & Tricks

The world is full of abundance and opportunity, but far too many people come to the fountain of life with sieve instead of a tank car...a teaspoon instead of a steam shovel. They expect little and as a result they get little. - Ben Sweetland. Win the Day!

 La deception (dehsehpSYOHN) Disappointment. Que decepcion!  What a disappointment! Living Language

TODAY'S ISSUE: THINK TOO MUCH

When nobody around you seems to measure up, it's time to check your yardstick. - Bill Lemley. Being over critical and irritable has been common to most of us. Some of us go around with controlled smiles while underneath we are grumbling. Others blast everyone around them. Some of us save our most critical reactions for those we love while staying sweet and friendly with the outside world. In any case, we are caught in the blinding trap. We may know we feel trapped but do not see that our problem is mainly with ourselves. We need to look at our relationships. Have we been falling into a pattern where no one seems to measure up?  Are we also being too critical or demanding of ourselves?  Perhaps we don't need to lower our standards so much as to hold them less tightly. If we can be friends to ourselves and give ourselves a little more leeway, we can be more easygoing with others. I cannot force myself to be less critical, but I can let go of my willfulness so my more easygoing side comes forward. I can be less judgmental of myself and others. Touchstones

These are the times that try men's souls. - Thomas Paine. When I try to control or manipulate others, I waste valuable energy, and I usually end up restless and aggravated. Yet when I am tolerant of others, I am free of the need to control and manipulate them. Tolerance is a key that opens the door to contentment. Contentment comes from knowing that I don't have to expend my energy controlling those around me. They have their own destiny to live, as I have mine. Letting others follow their path in life without interference, I have more strength to follow my own path. My masculine energy is forward-moving; it helps me accomplish my goals. I misuse this power when I exert it to change someone else's life. When I direct my energy inward to fuel my own inner light, I naturally let go of my need to control others. A Quiet Strength: Meditations on the Masculine Soul

Hey Man: Did you make a difference yesterday? Let us know at Contact Us. Today I am content to allow others to live their lives without interference from me. A Quiet Strength: Meditations on the Masculine Soul Want to make a difference but you don't know where to start? s

BOOK OF THE WEEK

 

 It Ain't Just the Size by M. G. Hardie. Princess, an office manager, has returned to her old stomping ground after a three year absence to heal her heart. She is independent and successful, but something is missing. What's missing is Lance, a hard working man, determined father who is preoccupied with school and obligation. A large one bedroom apartment is where these two passionate hearts collide. When the world is against you, sometimes all you have is hope. This book is a deeply filled play on morality, an ongoing social commentary for our times. When Lance's friends show up anything can and does happen. www.mghardie.com, Aventine Press, 2010 ISBN 978-1-59330-647-2

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MENSTUFF COLUMNS BY AUTHOR

  • The Advice Diva - The Advice Diva - relationship and sexuality issues discussed - www.menstuff.org/columns/advicediva/archive.html
  • Peter Alsop - Song of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/alsop/archive.html
  • Reid Baer - A Man Overboard - Interview of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/overboard/archive.html
  • Reid Baer - Poetry - poetry read on YouTube - www.menstuff.org/columns/baer/archive.html
  • Molly Barrow - Shrink About This - www.menstuff.org/columns/barrow/archive.html
  • Peter Baylies - At Home Dads - on at-home-dad issues that impact fathers who stay at home to raise their kids - www.menstuff.org/columns/baylies/archive.html
  • Tom Blake - Middle-Age Relationships - from an expert on dating after 50. www.menstuff.org/columns/blake/archive.html
  • Mark Brandenburg - Great Fathers - on fathering issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/greatfathers/archive.html
  • Ted Braude - BoysWork - a columnist in the The Detroit Free Press "Body and Mind" section www.menstuff.org/columns/braude/archive.html
  • Armin Brott - A Father's Guide - hosts "Positive Parenting" on radio www.menstuff.org/columns/brott/archive.html
  • Dan Bulf - Get Real - weekly pod cast on men's issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/bulf/archive.html
  • Ken Byers - Transition - on men's life transitions - www.menstuff.org/columns/byers/archive.html
  • Sandra L. Caron - Sex Talk - college students get answers to their questions - www.menstuff.org/columns/sextalk/archive.html
  • Neil Chethik - Relationships - www.menstuff.org/columns/chethik/archive.html
  • Otto & Susie Collins - Susie and Otto - relationship issues discussed - www.menstuff.org/columns/susie&otto/archive.html
  • David Copeland - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Forrest Craver - Spirituality & Social Change - www.menstuff.org/columns/craver/archive.html
  • Layne & Paul Cutright - Powerful Partnerships - relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/cutright/archive.html
  • Ron DesMarais - Cavemen in the Kitchen - great recipes for men - www.menstuff.org/columns/desmarais/archive.html
  • Jed Diamond - Irritable Male Syndrome - www.menstuff.org/columns/diamond/archive.html
  • Doc Love - Women Don't Lie, Man Don't Listen - answers to relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/doclov/archive.html
  • Barry Durdant-Hollamby - Creating Change - creating change in your life - www.menstuff.org/columns/durdant/archive.html
  • Irv Engel - The Real Deal - www.menstuff.org/columns/engel/archive.html
  • Nancy Fagan - Expert Dating Advice - with Nancy Fagan - www.menstuf.org/columns/fagan/archive.html
  • Warren Farrell - Men's Issues: Facts and Perspectives www.menstuff.org/columns/farrell/archive.html
  • Leonard Felder - Wake Up or Break Up - www.menstuff.org/columns/felder/archive.html
  • Marty Friedman - Strong Men, Strong Marriage - www.menstuff.org/columns/friedman/archive.html
  • Kim Garretson - Mansgland - using humor to encourage prostate exams - www.menstuff.org/columns/mansgland/archive.html
  • Lion Goodman - How to get Women to Love You - www.menstuff.org/columns/goodman/archive.html
  • Liz Halliday - In a Man's World - www.menstuff.org/columns/halliday/archive.html
  • Rick Hanson - Your Wise Brain - www.menstuff.org/columns/hanson/archive.html
  • Tim Hartnett - Daddyman Speaks - being a father www.menstuff.org/columns/daddyman/archive.html
  • John Hershey - Blood, Phlegm & Bile: Parenting with Humor - He writes a syndicated biweekly humor column about parenting and family life. www.menstuff.org/columns/hershey/archive.html
  • Gary Hoeber - Psychotherapy as Soul Work, www.menstuff.org/columns/hoeber/archive.html
  • Patrick Houser - Fathers Make a World of Difference, www.menstuff.org/columns/houser/archive.html
  • Paul Joannides - The Guide to Getting It On - on sex - www.menstuff.org/columns/getiton/archive.html
  • Jack Kahn - NOMAS Boston - www.menstuff.org/columns/kahn/archive.html
  • Patrick Kennedy - Seniors - www.menstuff.org/columns/kennedy/archive.html
  • Joe Kort - Gaydar - to increase understanding between gay and het men - www.menstuff.org/columns/kort/archive.html
  • David Kundtz - David Kundtz - presents seminars, workshops, retreats, and conference presentations in the areas of men's emotional health, stress management, and spirituality. www.menstuff.org/columns/kundtz/archive.html
  • Bruce Linton - Dr. Dad - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/drdad/archive.html
  • Ron Louis - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Tom Matlack - Tom Matlack - Good Men Project - www.menstuff.org/columns/matlack/archive.html
  • Wendy McElroy - Wendy McElroy on Feminism, www.menstuff.org/columns/mcelroy/archive.html
  • Robert N. Minor - Minor Details - on GBT sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/minordetails/archive.html
  • Robert L. Moore - Man & Mythology - www.menstuff.org/columns/moore/archive.html
  • Dennis W. Neder - Being a Man - general questions about men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/neder/archive.html
  • Marty Nemko - Worklife - general questions about men and work - www.menstuff.org/columns/nemko/archive.html
  • Eli Newberger - Eli Newberger - general information on men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/newberger/archive.html
  • Linda Nielsen - Embracing the Father - working with the father/daughter relationship. www.menstuff.org/columns/nielsen/archive.html
  • Kathy Noll - Bullies and Youth Violence - working with schools, teachers and parents to end school violence - www.menstuff.org/columns/noll/archive.html
  • Mark Phillips - Stay-at-Home-Dads - helping men maintain that which makes us men, instead of becoming hairy Mom-substitutes - www.menstuff.org/columns/phillips/archive.html
  • Carey Roberts - Socialism & Feminism - is a social commentator on political correctness. www.menstuff.org/columns/roberts/archive.html
  • Perry Rose - Dating, Relationship, Sex
  • Glenn Sacks - His Side - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/sacks/archive.html
  • Trudy Schuett - Domestic Violence - serving the under-represented www.menstuff.org/columns/schuett/archive.html
  • Carl J. Schutt - Circumcision - social commentator on circumcision - www.menstuff.org/columns/schutt/archive.html
  • Hugo Schwyzer - A Pro-feminist's Response - www.menstuff.org/columns/schwyzer/archive.html
  • Michael Shaffran - Men's Issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/shaffran/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • George Simons - Bellicose Veins - is a US specialist in intercultural and gender communication who hangs out in Mandelieu - la Napoule, France, as well as in Santa Cruz, CA. www.menstuff.org/columns/simons/archive.html
  • Andy Smith - Hard Hat Brotherhood - www.menstuff.org/columns/hardhat/archive.html
  • David B. Smith - Fighting Father Dave - www.menstuff.org/columns/smith/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • Reena Sommer - Custody - is an internationally recognized relationship and divorce consultant. www.menstuff.org/columns/sommer/archive.html
  • R. Don Steele - Don Steele - relationship questions answered -
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  • David Steinberg - Comes Naturally - on sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/steinberg/archive.html
  • Mary Lou St Lucas - A Mother's Love - www.menstuf.org/columns/stlucas/archive.html
  • Surprise - Surprise Author - From a new columnist every month - www.menstuff.org/columns/surprise/archive.html
  • Steven Svoboda - Fatherhood, Activism and the Law www.menstuff.org/columns/svoboda/archive.html
  • Michael Taylor - A New Conversation with Men - www.menstuff.org/columns/taylor/archive.html
  • Bruce Van Horn - Yoga for Men - issues around the health benefits of yoga for men - www.menstuff.org/yoga/archive.html
  • Michael Webb - Secrets of Blissful Relationships - on relationship - www.menstuff.org/columns/bliss/archive.html
  • Stuart Wilde - Spirituality - www.menstuff.org/columns/wilde/archive.html
  • Dr.Williams - Sex Health - on sexual health - Dr. Williams, www.menstuff.org/columns/sexhealth/archive.html
  • KC Wilson - On Gender Politics is a social commentator and author. www.menstuff.org/columns/wilson/archive.html

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  • Health Tips - on general health - www.menstuff.org/columns/healthtips/archive.html
  • Independent Means - resources for raising financially fit kids - www.menstuff.org/columns/independentmeans/archive.html
  • Numbers - www.menstuff.org/columns/numbers/archive.html
  • Questions - www.menstuff.org/columns/q&a/archive.html
  • Surprise - from a new columnist every month - www.menstuff.org/columns/surprise/archive.html
  • Words Can Heal - helping children grow up healthy - www.menstuff.org/columns/wordscanheal/archive.html
  • Wuzup?! - National or international events happening this month - www.menstuff.org/columns/whassup/archive.html

AWARENESS EVENTS THIS MONTH

September is Baby Safety Awareness, Children's Eye Health & Safety, Children's Good Manners, Christmas Seal, Cholesterol Education, Fall Hat, Gay Square Dance, Library Card Sign-up, Little League, Organic Harvest, Pediculosis Prevention, Piano, Pleasure Your Mate, Project Aware, Prosperity Creation, School Success, Sea Cadet, Self Awareness, Self-Improvement, Shameless Promotion, and Sickle Cell Month.

9/15-10/15: Hispanic Heritage Month. 8/29-9/4: National Sobriety Checkpoint Week, Mothers Against Drunk Driving, www.madd.org; 9/1-7: Childhood Injury Prevention; Self-University Week. 9/4-10: Full Employment Week, Mental Health Workers Week.. 9/5-9: Play Days. 9/9-16: National Five-A-Day Week. 9/10-16: National Suicide Prevention; Substitute Teacher Appreciation; National Brainstorming and Mind Mapping; Invisible Chronic Illness Awareness Week: 9/14-20 Dementia Awareness Week (Australia) 9/17-23: *Constitution; Balance Awareness; Love a Mensch; Farm Safety and Health; Historically Black Colleges and Universities; Rehabilitation Awareness; Single's Week. 9/19-25 - Prostate Cancer Awareness Week; 9/23-30: Banned Books, Religious Freedom Week. 9/23-29 - Deaf Awareness, National Dog Week; 9/23-24: Family Health & Fitness. 9/10: Swap Ideas Day. 9/17 *Citizenship Day. 9/19: International Day of Peace. 9/22: National Centenarians, Proposal Day. 9/23: Kiwanis Kids', *National Hunting & Fishing, Smash Out Suicide Day, 9/24: *Gold Star Mother's, National Good Neighbor, World Heart Day. 9/27: Ancestor Appreciation Day. 9/28: Cabrillo Day

* Means a Presidential Proclamation has been made.

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